Put a password simple
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Excuse me? No one goes to my phone or my messages for any reason! That is an invasion of privacy and I damn well not gonna have my child going through my personal messages. Wtf.
Lock that shit down.
But children have not earned the right to Privacy yet when it comes to phones, electronics, internet.
She is a child. If she doesn’t stop, bust her ass.
She has no business going through your phone. That’s a huge no
You’re absolutely right. How is she unlocking your phone to read your texts??
Whoop her nosey little ass!
I wouldn’t even think of reading my mom’s text without her asking me to look for her. It’s not even that she enforced it, just she always respected our privacy so we respected hers. I have been nosey, but I’d definitely start punishing her and put a stronger lock on your phone and maybe put it some place she can’t find it. If she touches it, I’d ground her or something
There are such things as app locks. You can let her have free range of your phone but lock the apps you don’t want her using so only you have access to those. I do this on my daughter’s tablet and my phone so I know she can’t get into things she’s not supposed to or purchase things she shouldn’t be. I personally don’t see anything wrong with it though, if you truly don’t have anything to hide, I mean, you’re using your phone, how much privacy is there really? Someone somewhere knows what you’re talking about. I think she’s literally just bored. You can always buy her own phone if privacy from a 12 year old is that important to you lol
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Can’t you just set boundaries by putting a password on your phone and let the chips fly where they may?
Lock your phone. Give your husband the password if he is concerned. Don’t give it to your daughter or allow her to use it. You are the parent and she is the child. (This is not judgemental at all, you are in the right, Mama)
How old is she? Does have a phone or diary/journal. Let her catch you ( if she’s old enough g
For either of these) going thru things. … bet she wouldn’t like it…
Sounds good…enjoy
Put a lock on your phone.
Your hubby probably put her up to it. You are the Mother! Read her the riot act and mean it!
Lock you effing phone. WTF
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My mom hated me going
Through her phone put a code on it
So put a finger lock on it
Kids have no business being in grown peoples business.
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Change the password on your phone. A child should not be going through your text messages or phone.
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Your kids don’t need to be in your business.
Put a password on your phone
Change password you’re an adult you have adult things on your phone that she has no business seeing or being a part of
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She wouldn’t go through my phone.
Sounds like dad is asking her to do it
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Go through hers. She’ll stop
Change your password don’t give anyone the nee passcode if your hubby wants to look through it give it to him but if he tells your daughter the code change it again and dont tell anyone what it is.
And if your daughter has a phone go through hers and you could take her toys/games until she listens to you.
A child does not need to be seeing the contents of an adult’s phone. It has nothing to do with you hiding anything it has everything to do with protecting the innocence of the child. Not only are you protecting the surprises that you might be having for her but what happens if you happen to be one of those people that were sexting with your husband that would absolutely destroy her innocence. I am absolutely all for keeping your phone out of your daughter’s hands regardless of what you do if your husband has a problem with a he can go through your phone but your child does not need to have access. I would also like to say I wasn’t trying to necessarily imply that you are sexting with your husband I was just using that as a very dramatic example
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Maybe she needs to go thru his phone and he may see a different point of view
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My daughter does the same…shes just nosy.
Excuse me but f*ck the lock on your phone idea. Just keep your phone in your pocket. And sorry to say, but both your rude husband and your rude daughter need to learn about privacy. Try taking your daughter’s bedroom door off it’s hinges. Just stand it up against the wall in the hallway. Believe you me, she will never figure out how to put it back on again.
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No this isn’t about hiding things this is about boundaries. Kids that age understand better when you put it in a perspective they can easily process. Like going thru her journal. Or maybe explain to your husband, going thru his emails if he does that. My mom NEVER went thru our personal belongings. And I never went thru hers. My dad however read my journal and it broke my heart and I felt betrayed. Anyway- boundaries are HEALTHY and if she doesn’t learn this now, she will be an adult ruining trust and relationships with other halves and her own children.
I’d change the password and tell her to stop and explain boundaries. She’s the child not the spouse and needs to stay out of your stuff. If your husband wants to look he can because he’s YOUR SPOUSE.
I’d tell him if he is insecure HE CAN LOOK whenever he wants to.
You do not need your husband’s approval to set your personal boundaries. Change your password and determine a consequence if your daughter has your phone in her hands without your permission.
Same expectation for your walket, purse, tote, briefcase, and/or backpack.
Boundaries are vitally important.
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My phone is my personal space…my children know better…also I cant stand ANYONE to walk up to me and literally put their face in my phone… I think it’s one of the most rudest things to do.
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A child should stay in a child’s place especially when told NOT to do something. My kids know our phone are off limits because its none of there buisness whats in there let alone read our messages. Your definitely not wrong for getting upset i sure would as well
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She’s a child why should she be able to go through your phone . She needs to stay in her lane and your husband needs to understand that
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Ya it happened to me and they found out their Christmas presents 
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Go through her phone. I’m glad you put a lock on it. She is 12 and you are the parent.
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People are entitled to privacy. Question: is he okay with you or your daughter always going through his phone? Have you given him any reason not to trust you? I know times have changed and parenting has definitely changed but my children knew that if I said don’t touch something of mine, especially my phone meant you would be published.
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Your child has no business going through your phone I would put a password on it and the only 2 people to know how the password is you and your husband and you also should have his password
I remember land lines…they were everyones phone to answer.
Change your password and never give it to her or your hubby.
Consequence! She can’t go through her principal’s phone, then why would she be allowed to go through yours??
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I’m with you. Your phone is yours, not anyone else’s
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Password protection? Problem solved. wtf
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Put ur damn foot down! Period… you are the parent are u not? I have 7 children and they know better! Smdh
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My hubby has never gone through my phone, but one of our teen’s loves to. It does not bother men in the least. If it did, I would have a discussion and ensure my request is respected.
Or go through theirs
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Lock the phone maybe
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Have one child and I will be dammed
not only is it disrespectful of your child doing this and believing it is ok… it is disrespectful of your husband to allow this and justify it. He needs to stop his behavior before it gets out of hand and completely has your daughter invading all adults privacy. He needs to work on his issues and back you up as a mother and allow you to set boundaries in every aspect when it comes to your daughter being nosey. I have 5 children and 8 grandchildren and God knows I would snap if one of them did this to me!
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Have her go through his phone… maybe he’s the one hiding something
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Put a screen lock on it
My younger kids have access to my phone because they enjoy playing games. If I have any inappropriate messages (usually to their dad, lol) I just delete them. As far as my husband goes, we have each others passwords and access to each other’s phones at any time. It’s not like we don’t want the other to have privacy if they want it…but neither of us care. It’s just out of respect and to build trust. Not everyone has to do that. This just works well for us and it’s really no big deal to either of us. I could respect the boundaries if he requested that we change things, and vice versa, but we just don’t see the need. My point is really just that personally, I have no problem with any one in my family using my phone.
Are you serious?! This isn’t even debatable!! Your child is just that,…A CHILD! Until she makes the payments and etc, remind her who the parent is and put your foot down. I’m not even starting a topic about a “grown man”!! 
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Your daughter bis wrong in going through your phone reading your personal texts and your Facebook posts! Your husband should tell her that it’s wrong and that’s your personal business not hers! She definitely wouldn’t like it if you did it to her and I bet then your husband would be upset. I don’t blame you for putting a lock on your phone. Hopefully that will keep her out of your phone and you should change your Facebook password if she knows it and Don’t Tell your husband what the password is as he will probably tell your daughter. Does she go through her Dad’s phone and read his text messages and Facebook pot?
She’s the child. You’re the adult. It’s your phone. That should be enough right there. It upsets me that you don’t have the support of your husband. He should be your biggest supporter and back you 110%. A child is invading his wife’s privacy. By not reprimanding his daughter, he’s telling her that it’s okay to disrespect you. Honestly…you gotta put your foot down now and you’re gonna have to put it down hard. You’re definitely not in the wrong for feeling upset. They would have already gotten a piece of my mind. I’ve been through a lot of crap before with my ex husband…and never again will I allow myself to be disrespected and abused. You shouldn’t either. Stand up for yourself. You can do it. If you can’t do it for you, do it for your daughter. I did it for my son.
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Ok first why would your husband have a say in your kids going through your phone. Its your phone I’m sure you pay the bill for the phone. AND it’s none of your kids business and adults have things on their phone that kids don’t need to see. BUT this all falls on you for not putting a password on your phone. As far as your husband thinking you don’t need a password. I would tell him to f____ off. You never mentioned if your kids go through your husband’s phone. Now I would say as far as your husband wanting to see your phone well I let my husband use mine or look at mine and he feels same way about his phone cause we gave nothing to hide. So just solve this whole problem as put a password on your phone. You don’t need to explain to your kids why either
There is a clear lack of respect from both your husband and daughter towards you. I’m not sure why you need your husband’s permission to put your daughter in check. I also don’t understand why there wasn’t a lock on your phone initially, not just to keep your daughter out but just in case you lost your phone. There are also parenting issues going on here. It seems as though the daughter is the authority figure in the home. If you don’t put your daughter in her place now who knows what she’ll feel entitled to do later. Next it’ll be going through your mail or your purse. SMH.
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First and foremost she shouldn’t be allowed to periodt. She is a child and you’re an adult, so where are your boundaries. God forbid I pass away cause my phone will still be off limits
Your child does not have a right to your things. Period. If your husband wants to go through your stuff, fine, you shouldn’t be hiding things from him. But your daughter should be punished for her actions.
Punish her for going through your phone. If she has a phone of her own, take it for a specified amount time. If she doesn’t, I’m sure she has some other thing from which you can ground her. It should not be let slide. Your husband is enabling her bad behavior and it will come back to bite him someday, when she thinks she can get away with more than snooping through a cell phone.
She’s too young. I know that some of my conversations are not appropriate for my child (13) nor are they a child’s business. It has nothing to do with hiding anything.
I don’t lie to my kids. Denying access to my phone would feel like lying. If I text something I don’t want them to see I delete it after its sent.
My daughter use to do that. In fear of me trying to find a boyfriend after her dad passed away. I didn’t say much, therefore it didn’t last long. If I had said something she’d still be doing it. But, yea these ladies are right. Your husband has no say if it’s wrong to you. Then it’s wrong!
So password protect it. Say you have nothing to hide that would end a marriage,; but it is personal property that will be respected and you don’t care who else see’s an issue with it or doesn’t. Your phone your rules.
No you are not overrreacting. Your phone should not be read by a 12 year old. I would change my password.
That is your personal space and she should learn how to respect that. Your husband should be standing with you on this. His trust issues shouldn’t have anything to do with the situation with your daughter. Put up boundaries and discipline her when she breaks them.
If there is really nothing thats a big deal on your phone, she will probably get bored & stop without you saying anything.
She is a child she shouldn’t be going threw ur phone give her the idea of going threw his phone and he will start understanding
Let her go thru his texts. Its your business and boundaries are yours to draw line. No one else’s
Hmmm whos the boss of your phone?YOU ! If you dont want your child in your phone dont allow it. None of their business …including your husband.
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You need boundries clearly your husband feels its ok to cross them. Does he ALLOW her to go through and read HIS texts messages ?
U definitely have your own life and your phone is personal but what the hell do u let your daughter do that and tell her to read your husbands texts and see how he likes it. Lock that phone with your fingerprint so know one can go on it. Good luck!!
You are an adult I would assume. Children only do what you allow them to.
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I would’ve popped the crap outta her. Put a lock on your phone. Or don’t give her your phone anymore. She’s disrespectful for doing that.
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Soon you will be going thro hers what goes around comes around
You need to put a lock on it and don’t let her know it
Maybe doing it just to piss you off now too !!
Go thru his phone see how he likes it😜
Maybe she is spying for her dad
Your phone ur rules. Go through her phone ( if she has one) see if she likes it
Change your password