My 13-month-old is biting at daycare: Advice?

What everyone else said. Bite your kid back. He’ll stop.

White vinegar. I dipped my finger in it and put it in my oldest month and he never bite me again. Don’t bite ur kid back as that is actual child abuse I don’t care what anyone else says

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Straight after he bites, give him a firm bite, just hard enough that it hurts, on his arm…not that hard that you break his soft skin, or leave deep impression mark’s.Really just hard enough to give him a fright
The pain from a bite has a pain all of its own & biters need to experience it. Guarantee you may only have to do it once or twice, problem solved…this method has been used for generations. Some kids bite so hard they draw blood…

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I wouldn’t bite him back. That is child abuse. I know someone that bit a kid and got in trouble with the law. So wouldn’t recommend it.

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Swab lemon juice inside the cheek. If that doesn’t work, bite em back.

Bight him back? Or Spank the kid :roll_eyes:

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time out? every single time. put a real boring timeout for a couple minutes. play with stuff he likes and don’t share during that time.

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My oldest was a biter she bit her cousin who is 2m younger than her so bad she left bruised impressions of her teeth instantly I made him bite her back just as hard as she bit him point is she never bit anyone ever again.

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Yesss. Bite him back or bust his butt. 1 year olds are not too young to spank, they know what no means. Obviously don’t beat them but they are old enough for spankings.

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I’d try not to make such a fuss about it. The kid might get too much attention for it. Xx

Sorta in the biting stage but with breast feeding i was always told to overreact when they bite because its hurts their feeling and chances are they don’t do it again not sure if this helps but thats what ive been told and it worked for me and my baby💙

Biting is one of the hardest “habits” to stop…
My 4 yo wasnt a biter until she met her cousin… then suddenly they were fighting over toys and my daughter would bite cousin! It was pretty bad… she left marks. Time outs only go so far… hitting a child isnt the answer either.
We eventually got her to stop by closely watching both of them play and removing her (or cousin) from play when a bite happened and jumping in to stop a bite (when we started seeing the signs).
She never bit her brother or parents… just cousin.
I assume it had to do with both of them learning to share with one another.

You gotta bite back. Anyone that’s saying it is child abuse need their head checked🙄

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I bite mine back!! Never had another problem!

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Oh I just recently went threw this it’s a stage that lasts for a few months! I did everything swat his little butt (but come on it’s a love tap an he laughs) :woman_facepalming:t3::woman_facepalming:t3: giving a little bite back… but nothing worked so I got to the point you do something you know you’re not supposed to you’re going in for a 5 minute time out in that pack n play… after so many times he got the message real quick :joy:

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The only time my son ever bit was when getting molars. Now that he’s getting his second set he’s biting again (but this time he only bites himself). If this just started with the molars I’d guess it’s from the pain. We told him no and would put him down if he continued to bite and once the molars were in he stopped biting instantly.

Yeah… so when my 5 y.o was young… she bit. Andlaughed it off. Nothing worked. So I bit back…
It helped but now,she randomly comes up to me and offers her arm. Bite me mom. Hard. So she enjoys getting bit… -.-

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Sometimes it’s a self defense thing my son got bit 3 times at day care once it went unnoticed but the teeth marks were there with out an incident report before he finally bit back n then randomly became a thing until he could understand that it was not ok to do

As with any unfavorable behavior with children, find the cues, what happens immediately before this happens. Learn that and then redirect.

My boys 11m, I tell him “No biting” in a firm voice.

Every time my 2 year old bit me I would “cry” dramatically and she’s not done it since. Last time she done it I “cried” and she came up to me, put her arms around me and went “shhh shhh” while stroking my face :rofl: shes never done it again bless her she looked like she was going to cry herself aha x

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Bite him back. He has no clue that what he is doing hurts physically. Im not saying bite him hard and leave a bruise. Just a slight pinch with your front teeth. Sometimes old school parenting is the best way to go. Time out for an 18 month old?:joy::joy::joy:
Redirecting and expecting him to make the connection at 18 months old?:joy::joy::joy:
Just bite him back.

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When mine was little I would put their finger under mine and I would bite our fingers and I know the pressure I was putting on their fingers. After a little while they stop they knew it hurt

Give him something to chew on!! Sounds kinda funny but his teeth gotta be bothering him. :tipping_hand_woman:t3: maybe a sturdy teething toy. A small fukin dog toy even. Dead ass serious too. Lol sounds crazy but hey they make ones for baby dogs lol maybe u can find one small but big enough for him to bite on.?

I bit my girls back, just once, and they never bit anyone again. I’m not saying leave marks, just enuf to hurt so they realize it hurts you when they bite you.

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You answered why he’s biting when you said he’s teething, he doesn’t know not to bite to help him.

I bit my daughter back when she was about that age and she never bit mr again. Not hard just enough to show her it hurts

Bite back . With my oldest I try everything his biting people and things went on for months. Until I finally listened to my mom and bite him back. He stopped biting all together with 2 day. So when my other sons got to that stage I bite them back the 1st time they bite me and they never had an issue with biting

Hot suace!!! Best method I’ve used for biting and spitting.

Bite him back to show it hurts, even if he cries let him cry, (obviously dont take a chunk out of his arm,) but enough to show him, look see it hurts, it’s not nice! My daughters both bit first one she only done it the once , I bit her back and never again, the second one she bit another child made her cry twice in a day, I didnt bite her back at first, then once I did, again never bit anyone else after that,!

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Try teething necklaces. You can find them on Amazon. He can wear it and have it whenever he gets the urge to bite.

Have you tried giving him ibuprofen like a low dose 1 mls to see if this improves behavior pain can cause kids to bite when teething from frustration

Bite back … my sons both did it as well . Nothing worked, Until I bit them . They didnt like it lol

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I smacked on the mouth & said NO!

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Chili pepper or cayenne pepper just a bit

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Bite em back and dont tell anyone because they might call CPS lol…

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There is only one thing that helped with my sons biting and we did EVERYTHING our pediatrician’s nurse, who has always been there since my 4 year old was born has 4 boys and she suggested making him stand with his face in the corner for time out and as many minutes as his age. This was the only thing that worked and we only save it for BIG punishments like this.

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Bite him back! Once they kno it hurts they stop but they don’t understand until they feel it

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Is he teething? I’ve seen some children who reflex bit when their mouths hurt or itch from teething and it’s not always agressive. You can also rather than tapping his mouth and such give him something he can bite when aggitated. A teether etc. And explain biting is hurting but you can bite this as much as you want and it’s not going to hurt people. I’ve never been a mother who thought well if I just hit or bite back they will learn not to do it. I personally think hitting and biting back teaches them I can do what I want and hurt you and be aggressive but you can’t.

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I had an issue once before when my girls where smaller, we bit back, one time and they were done. No more biting. You don’t bite to hurt you bite so they know oh you have teeth too. :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Bite her ! My kids all had a biting phase and I bit them allll lmao did not draw blood ! But it worked …

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Bite your child back. I had a cousin that bit me daily until I bit him back. Don’t bite too hard

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Call the bad parenting cops on me but when all those methods dont work, we’ve resorted to biting back. Not as hard as they did. Just enough to get a reaction. Show them it doesn’t feel good. I’ve seen people use hot sauce too.

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Awww man my son got kicked out of 3 daycares for butting I tried everything to I did the got sauce he likes it and soap he likes it to lol the teachers helped me a lot when I found the perfect one took 2 days he was done bitting he was their till he was 12 never went to another day care

It’s a phase. Toddlers have absolutely zero impulse control. His mouth could also be hurting, hence his urge to frequently bite things. There’s no need to bite your child back or spank them for something they can’t even control. My 23 month old went through the biting phase for what felt like a lifetime but is finally growing out of it.

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I started biting my son back. He stopped biting after a few times of it.

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He thinks it’s a game. It doesnt hurt him. Redirecting...

What the hell happened?, Anyway new time it happens do the same to him, but not hard enough to leave a mark. Then ask how he likes that? Then tell him it hurts you to.

My mum reckons she bit me back and i never did it again lol

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This is completely normal (for your child to bite). There are books “No fighting, No biting”. Biting them back isn’t really teaching them anything. At 13 months they aren’t grasping the concept and remembering that because you bit them- the next time they are upset- that they shouldn’t bite another child.

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Bite them back. They will stop. It doesn’t have to be hard at all but they will realize

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Bite him back he will stop

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…these comments…

Why don’t you just tape his mouth shut after you put hot sauce on his lips and then bite him back and give him a spanking for good measure…

:roll_eyes:

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Mine is slowly stopping but I redirect as much as I can but when my husbands loud voice came in to the picture it has now started working. He will whimper. No hitting just his mad face and loud stern voice will get him to stop.

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I bit our daughter back. Just hard enough to startle her, not hurt. Only took a couple times and she never bit again. It didn’t teach her to bite, like some people say, it taught her how it feels to be bit. And that it doesnt feel nice.

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When I was little I had a bad habit of biting I bit my brother so hard he started bleeding bad. Just so happened when I had a son he must have gotten it from me bc he had a terrible problem with biting he would even bite himself so hard it would bruise on his arms and his legs he’d even get mad and bite blankets or pillows even attempted to bite the dog the dog snapped at him and growled it scared him half to health and the dog barely snapped him but it didn’t stop him from biting. Well one day I was laying down on the couch and he came up to me and I thought he was going to kiss me on my cheek and he bit me so hard I’m not gonna lie I cried and let him see he made me cry bc it hurt. And he latched on to where I jerked away bc how hard it was and it tore skin. Their little baby teeth are sharp. Someone told me to bite him back and he’d stop and my first thought was “ he’s alil over a year old I’m not biting my child” well when he got me this day how bad it hurt I bit him back on the face not hard enough to leave a bruise or anything but enough to scare him and he said “ow mommy u hurted me pace(face) u no bite that’s meem(mean)” that told me ok he knows it’s not nice he knows it hurt when he does it and he still does it, so next few times where ever he’d bite me or someone else I’d bite him in same spot, it just about 3 or 4 times of me doing that he finally just stopped biting people and would Only bite his blanket or a pillow if he got the urge to bite something.

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First time my daughter bit me I bit her back and she never bit me or anyone else again :woman_shrugging: just hard enough so the kid knows it hurts when you bite

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My son went through a slapping phase, and thought it was hilarious when we told him no.

The only thing that worked for him was to just sit him down on the floor and walk away from him. He’s very attention driven so when we abruptly set him down and walk away he gets so upset. that was enough for him to not want to keep hitting us because it wasn’t funny anymore.

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DO. NOT.BITE.YOUR.CHILD!! :roll_eyes: While I don’t have any better ideas…THAT is a stupid idea. It’s a good way to lose custody of your kid for one thing and for another, at that age they don’t necessarily understand cause and effect and might just think it’s a game and keep doing it. Maybe try fake crying and looking real upset if he bites you. Toddlers don’t like seeing their favorite people cry so it might help them see you don’t like it. Idk if that will work but for dang sure don’t bite them back… sheesh.

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My daughter also got teeth very early. Also had a problem biting at day care and leaving marks on me and her dad. I thought it was so much of a problem that I called the pediatrician and asked to be referred. I talked to a psychiatrist who reassured me that would she would grow out of it and this behavior work stop. By the time she was 1.5 it seemed
Like it happened over night :heart: hang in there! It’s just a phase!

A good spanking on the spot is guaranteed to work since he will Associate the unwanted pain with the bites. It’s worked for several

So many perfect moms! All you’re judginess It’s not necessary. some of you are such heifers you’re the reason moms are afraid to reach out for help when they need it. If you don’t have anything nice to say or can’t provide words of encouragement, just keep your mouth shut.

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I see a lot of other moms saying to bite them back, I’ve never done this to my kid because I don’t have this problem with him. But I remember my mom biting me back when I bit her and same with my younger siblings when they did it. It worked in stopping us back then. But You do what you think will work best for your kid, maybe it’s biting them back, maybe it’s not, all this advice is for YOU to choose what fits your parenting style.

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Bite them back, 5 kids and I had 3 that were vicious biters. It works

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My little girl is 18 months and started biting at 8 months when she started getting teeth. She was breastfed so you can imagine my pain. Well finally after telling her no I flicked her in the corner of her mouth and she cried but stopped biting. I didn’t care if it hurt because it hurt me. And of course I felt bad and hugged her but I sternly told her no biting. Now if she bites I pop her on the mouth and sternly say no. And if she does it again I pop her butt. But if that doesn’t stop her I bite the joint of her finger. Kids have to learn.

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I literally put my kids arm in my mouth and did not bite down just my teeth touching their skin freaked them out 🤷

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My youngest was a terrible biter. Finally one day his older sister bit him back n he stopped.

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Back in my day we bit them back. Never had a problem after that. Just enough bit to get their attention.

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This is a phase. It happens…I’m not sure what can be done to stop it. He’s still a baby so he doesn’t understand…

I was breastfeeding with mine when he had teeth :weary:.

I ignored and redirected, he grew out of it pretty quickly. He bit me hard a few times and it actually hurt, those times I immediately put him down and said that hurt mommy. And we moved on.

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Old shool…but bite him back. NOT HARD, but hard enough to let him know that it hurts. No this is not child abuse!!! Its teaching with an action. As long as you are not leaving marks. This came from a pediatrion when my kids were small. They are older the 18 now. But it worked for me.

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I used to bite my daughter back. Not painfully but enough to let her know that teeth hurt. She learned real quick though

My daughter and nephew are 7 months apart… They went through the biting phase together. It was awful. Honestly…the getting bit back helped. They learned, it hurts!! It lasted about 2 weeks. We had to deal with some pretty bad bites but they finally stopped. I think a parent “bite” is much better then a toddler bite. They are vicious.

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every time he bites squirt lemon juice in his mouth. if he likes lemon try tobasco

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I have three kids. It’s a short phase many toddlers go through. Just correct her how you feel is best. Every family has different disciplinary measures to suit individual children.

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Bite him back, not hard enough to break skin obviously, and give him something else to chew on to relieve his tooth pain

. But it’s definitely not due to lack of attention or supervision. Some kids bite , I was told it’s called mouth feeling and it’s a learning method as a form of learning touch . 13 months old is still little … I wouldn’t chalk it up to a huge problem or even a long term one . My babies all went through that when they were teething and exploring . It lasted maybe a week or two and they were over it . None of my 4 are biters now … just happy little chicks who giggle like crazy

This might sound harsh but when my kiddos would do this…I would bite them back softly not leaving marks or anything just so they would know how it feels when they do it to others they never did it again!