it’s not like she’s doing drugs for crying out loud. stop being so strict. just like many other people have commented, the more strict you are, the sneakier the child will be. 
Yeah if there’s a will there’s a way with kids I told my kids no tattoos till 18 one went out and got one when he was 16. The other one Pierced His lip and had a Band-Aid over it. Glad they’re over 18 now
She’s 13 and has had 2 bf’s ? It may be that she had a little to much freedom . 13 is still a baby and can’t make grown up decisions for themselves which could lead to pregnancy or stds . No business allowing her to have a boyfriend . Yeah take everything away and don’t allow her to have boyfriends
At 13 I pierced my own lip because I was bored
Do you remember how it was to be 13?? I do it was horrible. That’s a time with alot of change! It’s so hard and from the sounds its really hit her. The tattoos and piercings thats pretty normal ,wanting to stand out ,wanting some change,wanting to be seen differently. Instead of flipping out like you did( which honestly sounds like a toxic control not a help my child grow control) you should have talked to her along with sending youtube videos on the dangers of doing those things herself. You said you stayed at home did you have any hobbies or things for yourself or marriage because focusing on your daughter you might of helicopter parented so this might be her freedom. I think counseling for your daughter could be a positive so she can tell someone else other than you or her dad what’s going on at school ,she might be Seriously scared she will be judged and treated differently by you if she tells you guys what’s going on. I also think you need a counseling. Maybe find a hobby that you and your daughter could start. Maybe yoga, art class, cooking class, geo cashing something that could help bring you both close in a healthy way not forced with negative feelings and energy. With the bfs thing she might feel she needs Serious male attention her dad isnt giving her maybe dad and her can have a thing they do together once a week and maybe dad should talk to her about boys I mean since he was one. I think the harsh rush to discipline is a reaction from being scared and not having an answer on how to help her.
You’re only going to cause her to rebel. Never take a child’s door off…they deserve to get dressed and other things in private. Get sone family counseling and fix this mess you and your husband have made
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Sounds like normal behavior for someone that is figuring themselves out. It’s not right for her to go behind your back but you should be thankful she’s not pregnant or dead. If you don’t want her to keep things from you… I wouldn’t punish her, just talk to her about being open and honest with you so in the future she’ll be more comfortable going to you about these things.
I pierced my nose and lip at 14. Other girls at school had it, I was going through a phase and didn’t care. I got grounded, everything taken away from me and I still did these things, usually when they were asleep. I had to remove the lip piercing and ended up piercing my septum and wore a ring I could flip up so they never even saw it. Kids go through phases, and unfortunately no matter the consequences, she’ll do it if she wants to. She’ll find a way. Maybe try talking her into getting that tattooed covered up when she gets a little older if she can try to refrain from doing more damage? My grandparents were completely against any kind of piercings or tattoos, which just pushed me harder to want them.
I attempted that shit.
My parents made me take out every piercing I gave myself. And so should you.
All this bullshit about oh they’re growing up.
No.
If you cannot accept that the LAW requires you to be a certain age for a tattoo or piercing, then you are NOT mature enough to have one.
Point period blank.
It’s a little bit overreacting she’s 13 my parents are extremely strict I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t have freaked out about me doing that at 13
She had to of passed out when she did her nose… hopefully knocked some sense in her…
By the time i was 13, i had multiple piercings and tattoos, did my own nose and nipples.
Just make sure she isn’t using drugs.
But it’s self expression to pierce and tattoo
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This was me at 13. I’m a perfectly functioning adult now. Punishing her won’t change anything at this point.
It’s probably already been said but I think counselling is a good idea. Kids go through stuff (even if we think it’s trivial) and don’t know how to deal with their emotions and make poor decisions. They then grow up to be adults who don’t know how to deal with their emotions and make poor decisions. Counselling can be a safe place for them to talk and express themselves and let go of some of the stuff that they hold on to inside. We as parents might feel confused and not understand where their behaviour is coming from and at times feel hurt by it, try not to take it personally but don’t ignore the behaviour. Every action has a consequence and its important they learn that now. I wish you the best, Motherhood is tough, just keep doing your best. X
Yall saying her body she can make her own choices but yet shes only 13, so yall think at 13 its ok to let them do what evr they want just because its her body its her choice ehhh no when shes old enough to supprt her self live on her own then thats when she should do it not at 13 and let them do what they want show her ur the mom ur the boss dont let little kids try to boss you and threaten u that if you dont let them do what they want they will leave your house:roll_eyes:
Praying for you seek Jesus first and His wisdom.
Id take everything and have a shit load for my kids to do
Yall in these comments trying to make a child seem crazy when in reality this lady is insane. Who the hell takes a damn door. The tattoo is not ok but, the piercing is not that bad. If anything nose piercing are a lot more excepted now in teens.