Once again. 13. 13. 13. Not 21. Not 18. 13. Fucking idiotic parents and stupid fucking children. Lord.
I think your over reacting
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love the ignorant ass replies.
Send a to councelling
Put her door back wtf.
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Taking everything from her will simply push her further away . Do your best to remember when you were young and the emotions you had . Allowing her to express herself is crucial . A nose piercing is no big deal , it’ll close . Pull her close to you and ask her what the tat means to her . Show her unconditional love and understanding. Encourage positivity, while allowing her to disagree with you . Being a teenager is hard … she needs to know that her mom has her back !! It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks . Best of luck 
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Honestly momma don’t stress the small stuff! Trust me it will drive you insane. I did the same thing at that age, actually younger and at 13 my mom took me to get my bellybutton pierced and at 15 we got our nose together. Grounding and taking things away is the best way to discipline but at a certain age the best way is to teach and encore better behavior by simply displaying disappointment. Let her color her hair and get a false piercing maybe. Children need creative freedom. When it comes to your kids, you make the rules but if you are too controlling it will backfire and you will have a defiant teenager on your hands. Remember that your best is good enough and these years pass so quickly.
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MOM RELAX u are the best but no matter what you say or do it won’t work. All the take away from door to whatever you will look wrong.
What she did was painful but she is trying to fit with her friends pain or not.
Try a hug . Let her learn the hard way and then stay happy i was a grandma at 30 i gave them everything dad a jacquer car trip to Europe at 85 yrs i don’t hear from any of them. Enjoy every moment with your husband.
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Don’t just send her to counseling, go with her too. She practically grew up with you since you were a young mommy too. I see alot of children born to young mommies be very mature. Just take a deep breathe, maybe take the time to be with her one on one and just get to know her and allow her to confide in you. Dont judge her, instead offer sincere and hard truths of life that you lived yourself at her age. Good luck
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Breath momma! Its not okay but honestly I did the same thing at 13. Holes close and those poke tattoos literally fade out and go away and if it doesn’t she will definitely regret it when she gets older and has the option to cover it up. Enjoy your fishing trip! Ask her why she did it? Maybe she is just trying to express herself… ask her if she wants hilights or a fun color in her hair as an alternative. This Definitely does not make you a bad mom! But I can tell you all the girls I know growing up who got their doors taken off and parents constantly punished them are the ones who always snuck out and did real bad stuff. Definitely ground her or maybe do counseling if you feel she needs it. Your her momma so you know her best over anyone on social media. But I would try to build a bond of honesty and trust and explain to her you want that with her and explain why you are upset and how unsightly doing things like that to her body can look or how she can really hurt herself.
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I think she’s bored 
she’s 13 … during covid ! I agree with Cheyenne ! Ask her to next time come to you . This way it’s clean ! And maybe she has to earn it good grades … piercings can always close up ! I would ask her to hold off on the tattoo because they are a commitment. The harder you are on her the more sneaker she will become !!! You can teach your daughter it’s ok not to be liked … she’s 13 ! She will make fantastic friends in the long run , in college and high school ! Meanwhile build her social life outside of school, because these kids sound toxic .
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Me an my daughters father wrote a statement for her to get her first tattoo professionally done at 14 yrs old …she is 16 now with 4 tattoos which r tasteful … im a cool mom but she has to prove she is grown up enough to handle an has a job to pay for them … so i guess if u have a open mind an relationship there is nothing wrong …but then again she lied about it to u so i feel u on it as well
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The piercings and home tattoos at that age are not uncommon. I did it too. Thankfully, the tats disappeared. Give her nurturing attention and learn how she feels without judgement, otherwise she will pull away more. Then slowly give back her things when she opens up.
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The more you try to control her, the more she will rebell. Piercings, and hair dye are reversible. Tats can be covered. You losing your child over this can not be undone!!
I’m not saying its okay, just realized that this is not the end of the world. And its in no way saying she will be a teen parent. Unless you drive her further and further away. My guess is you and your hubby turned out okay despite everything. You have to trust that she will to as long as she knows you will love her no matter what 
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If shes not going to trust you to tell you the truth about that, think of all the other things she would keep from you. That in itself should be a motivator to make some changes in your family and household. If your children fear you they cant trust you. So maybe the discipline isnt exactly what she needs right now, maybe its something more embracing, maybe she needs to be able to relate to you. My suggestion would be to get the book “Just Between Us” and start there, it really improved my relationship with my daughter and it began a discussion that now takes place out loud, which is priceless. The book is like a journal that you write back and forth with your daughter, it has some fun topics, some not so fun topics, some blank pages and some “get your started” type topics, I think it is a great tool…
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It’s a phase teens and some girls do…i tried the “use a safety pin or tack (burned/cleaned), carve yourself deep so it leaves a scar” thing. Also I tried to pierce my own belly button with a safety pin, which in the end both did not work out…1, no one goes that deep, and 2, they get infected…i also have 2 teens right now. Who thankfully do not do this stuff…but I think you should partially comply with teenagers so it won’t be so bad in the end. …that being said I’m mostly having a irritating time with my soon to be 17 yr old…that attitude is rough…good luck
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That was me as a kid. I had 5 pick and poke tattoos and a bunch of piercings by 15. I drew over my tattoos with sharpies and used clear retainers so I didnt get caught. The grounding and taking things away may lead to sneaking out and getting into worse things. Try to support her and find a different way to approach it, some kids dont handle lock down well… but I’m speaking from my experience I don’t know your daughter but I know what worked for me.
It’s going to be tough but I’m thinking the harder you push, the worse shes going to push back
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Something is going on with her that you need to get to the bottom of my 15 yr old wants her nose done but i told her no right now she will be 16 on Sep 15th and i am thinking about taking her to get hers done and do mine with her i had her at 16 also so i think that is our bond we really grew up together she will put fake ones on her nose but want pierce it she knows mama isn’t going to play about that you just got to take a day for you and her go and do stuff together and talk to her in a calm loving way maybe she will open up to you about what she is feeling and thinking good luck mama it is hard raising teens let alone girls 
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Yes, counseling is a priority for your daughter and the family. There are alot of EXCELLENT resources, search to find the right fit for you, your daughter, and family.
Seems there are several issues going on that need to be addressed.
Moma, be kind to yourself…alot of parents work. Each child is an individual with their own developing selves.
Talk to her, Pray over her a.d with her. Reassure her how loved she is.
At 13, there is alot of peer/societal/bullying pressures we have to be attune to.
We, as parents, have to set the guidelines and parameters with expectations inside/outside the home beginning at a young age…some are non-negotiables.
Phone/internet limits are an absolute necessity and safety issue these days. Her safety is your priority.
You say she went and took her father’s ink…that is not ok. That is not hers to take or wherever it was kept, her area to enter into. Be sure to label that behavior for what it is.
Bf…well, that is something parents decide is appropriate or not, what age, and model the expected behavior and chaperone.
I do not believe all kids do it, being one of 5, I know this. We followed and broke certain ones but had respect, love, and communication.
These are hard years but can be good too.
Being the parent of a now independent 25yr old, troubled teen years, he will now say he knew the limits but always knew he was loved and I was his safe place.
**Go about planning your vacation. Engage her. Smile and say…“We are going to have a wonderful memory making time!” Hopefully the fresh air and time out and away will do everyone good.
If I’m going to be honest I think you both need counseling. I would suggest family counseling for sure. You seem like you don’t have a handle on her at all and you’re panicking a lot about this situation so you might need some help yourself. And it’s obvious that she’s not getting something out of her life that she really needs. You just need to build a trusting relationship with her and everything will be okay. It’s really hard being a mom and I really wish you luck.
I agree she needs to learn that all the lying she did is not ok but she already pierced her nose and put a tattoo on herself so maybe just grounding her and limiting her phone usage is better than taking her door off and taking all her stuff away but talk to her tell her that she will need to earn your trust back let her know that she is still loved but that the lying was not ok but dont take away everything from her limit it and tell her that your trust needs to be earned cause if u take away everything than she will rebel more
Please get your daughter some help. She is lashing out this way now but she could very easily go to other things. Absolutely be there for her but she also has to respect your wishes as she is a child and you are the parent.
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At 13 I pierced my nose, lip and eyebrow and gave myself a smiley face/heart tattoo. It’s most likely the rebellion stage but in my experience (and watching my mom with my sisters) the more you try to punish the more she’ll act up.
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My 11 yr old kept asking me about tats and piercings the past few months so she can Express herself so we decided to do her hair and get her gel pens so she can draw diff tats on her self with those and we also get the fake tats sometimes as well. Its really about them wanting to Express themselves
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Be careful you dont want to push her farther away I made that mistake and now my daughter barly speaks to me. At the end of the day shes gonna grow up on her terms not yours and the sooner you relize that you will stop taking it personal. Shes gonna rebel worse the more you try to control her. Just be her mom tell her your opinion and let her learn on her own. If she feels trapped she might start running away like my daughter did and once they reach 16 theres nothing the authorities can do to help you so think about that!
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I was that kid by14 Id done my nose 3x, ea time my mom made me close it up. Agreed at 15 nose was ok,.at 16 she allowed my step dad to take me for navel. Any tattoos I’d wanted had to wait until 18. She never had an issue with any type of hair expression as she called it… itll always grow back…her general rule was piercing before tattoos; they can be taken out for work, and taken out if you don’t like it. And when getting a tattoo, remember it’s forever, make sure it means something to you…mom is passed. Ive 2 daughters of my own now. We’ve very open communication
Ive given them the same piece of advice for when their in their self discovery phases
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My 13 year daughter went through a similar faze at that age too. She did it again at 15. It’s tough as a mom because they are going through things at a younger then we did and you really have to keep that in mind. Their generation is maturing so much faster. What worked for me so far has been exactly what your doing. But also make one on one time. Build on a personal relationship without judgment. Not only does she need to earn your trust but more importantly you need to earn hers. Be the mom but do it with an open door so when its needed she can lean on you. It does get better I promise you that.
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Now is your chance to find a balance and turn it around. Being strict doesn’t have to mean constant discipline once boundaries and standards are set and met. I would find a routine for her and stay consistent on making that stay met. If she doesn’t follow her part she would have a bed and books in her room earning her things back a week at a time with a bag each week. Maybe counseling could help or maybe just make it a point to have her join any extra activity at school in hopes of finding the circle she fits into. Not every kid gives themselves a tattoo but every kid has a period of growing that gets messy,your not a bad mom and she’s not a bad kid.
I mean yes it’s wrong but if you realize she’s going through some stuff you should get her a Psychiatrist this is sad 
I remember going through a lot as a child abuse wise you by school bullies and at home I have to say get her the help ASAP because I got pregnant young too but I did adoption because I knew a lady who couldn’t have kids and I felt horrible for sleeping with my than bf him ditching me and I being alone in a abusive household now you aren’t being abusive in any way but it’s easier for a teen to talk to someone who’s not in the family I had one still do it’s very hard being a teen now my parents were great parents it’s not them that abused me but I couldn’t
Talk to them because I didn’t feel comfortable but I felt comfortable with my Psychiatrist mind you I have switched up a lot and I’m now have three babies of my own oldest being 11 than 9 than 7 and 3 my husband of ten years is awesome and we both agree no tattoos or piercings but once their 18 they can choose for themselves I am 29 with no tats and just my ears pierced I got them pierced at 18 so I would say be kind to her she could be very depressed and may need some counseling
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Teens yrs are tough…n face it kids are cruel now days so she probably trying go figure things out…just be there n keep the communications door open…and DONT YELL(it doesn’t solve anything)…just let her know your thete for her so that when she ready she come to you…but yet she has to know there consequences in life…so grounded her n taking the phone cause she did not have your permission n being sneaky is not ok in your eyes!!!
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WOW. Chill out. You can believe that after the way you reacted to this she will never come to you with something serious! Maybe try accepting her for who she is and she won’t feel the need to hide things from you. A tattoo or piercing is not as serious as you are making it out to be and it is not worth destroying your relationship with your daughter.
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I’m going to sound like a bad mum but my daughter did this and I scrubbed it out with a scouring pad and told her to wait til she’s 18 and i will pay for a professional tattoo…she did and I made good on my promise last year for her 18th and we never had an issue after that
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Stick and poke tattoos last no longer than a month. Taking her door off is a bit far.
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The tattoo will fade quick, unless it’s some one who knows what they are doing pick and poke won’t last long because she didnt get the ink nowhere as deep as it’s supposed to be. If the nose ring is a real problem make her take it out and wait till shes 16 to get it redone🤷♀️
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Dont be to mad, at least she is alive. My son is gone since thursday, cant get mad at him anymore as I make final arrangements tomorrow.
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Not so sure about the tattoo. I mean seriously you are still a parent and she is still a child. There are no boundaries and it doesn’t seem like she even respects you at all.
Does your husband tattoo? I’m curious because you said she got into his ink. You have a right to be mad but please set her down and discuss the risks of home tattoos and piercings if you havent yet. She seems to have a lot going on and it seems like she did this to make herself “cooler” so people would want to hang out with her. Like everyone else I suggest counseling and also possibly get her a journal or some types of paints and canvas so she has an outlet when she’s feeling down or upset or just any feeling in general.
Ahhh hunny u gotta keep those teenagers busy or they will fall into the wrong hands…(friends) my son was trying to do the same in 5 th grade…girl i told him if he would stop , i would get him one (tat) when he got old enough. I would take him and pay for what ever he wanted…and he stopped sadly he held me to my promise. Like at 13 u could have met half way w it like letting her get her nose pierced maybe weigh on the tat? I mean if they want it they will find away. Thats just the way it is…my grd daughter had her nose pierced at 13, my son did it for her b-day. Dosent make her a bad person. Just getting her own style. But make she she knows doing tats that way will cause problems. Oh thank u jesus im done w teenages…best of luck mom!! And by the way my sons have never been in anykind of trouble got an education so i did sometging right?
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Make sure she understands she has her stuff like phone etc away cause you can’t trust her and not for making decisions on what she did to her body a week at most
If it makes you feel better, I would have never done any of that and I still turned out fully tattooed, face and all. Hahah! She’s probably bored and just trying new things. Try to keep communication open as best you can, but it sounds like your punishments were fair and justified! I’m terrified for the teen years with my son, my heart goes out to you!
taking away her things its just going to make her rebel against you even more. she’s bored man. the more you come down on her , the worse she’ll be later on. strict parents make sneaky kids , remember that.
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Try not to show how mad you are. It’s growing pains she’s having. She feels alone n with the anger she hears it might make her do other things. Talk calmly to her and tell her your mistakes but don’t say this is the road your going down. Maybe ask her what can u 2 do together to make her feel better. She might say see a therapist. Dont bring up seeing a therapist.
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That’s insane! This is either gonna go two ways she gonna get mad infection or the ink will fall out and the piercing will close up leaving scar tissue.
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She is not you don’t go on that let her be her not you be the same today tomorrow and yesterday say what you mean mean what you say
Everyone gets piercings. Tell her next time she needs to ask you so you can be there to get it done for her. Establish trust .
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I think I would of killed her by now not literally but you know what I mean and also I think counseling is a good idea also sit her down and try to get her to trust you enough to tell you what’s really going
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You need to get her to concealing and maybe a new school.
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I snuck to NY and got my eyebrow pierced at 15 - and pierced my nose with my friends at 17. Had no bearing on my parents ability to parent at all!
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Why do she need a bf at 13 and TWO at that?!!
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Talk to her. Don’t just punish her. Find out what’s going on in her head and if you can’t, take her to see a therapist.
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Counseling might help.
Children need their mums at home, and there father’s working and coming back from work to give children a sense of continuity and stability.
If you are a Christian, and believe in the OT and NT, then you will see that cutting or marking yourself is not Biblical. Society accepts it, but society accepts a lot of things that are not correct.
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Shes to young she should have discussed it with u first shes still a kid
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Getting piercings & tattoos doesn’t mean anything more than she wanted them. Don’t look too deep!
Hopefully the ink will come out but I agree with your partner. You need to relax not freak out like this or it will get worse. Do you give her
Much time? Do you prioritise her at all? Is she being bullied… you never know. She could be having horrible problems and then this on top ain’t a good thing. Tell her your sorry that you over reacted as it was a shock and then give her a hug and tell her to tell you what’s going on with no judgment. Hopefully that will help you understand or get to the bottom of it atleast.
I want to add, my children began to be bullied; I was a widow, but I found some kind of work-- 3 jobs-- to pay for private school, and at home private tuition for their high school years.
Relax! You’re too much of a drama queen…you’ll never see her again when she’s 18 if you don’t calm down
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She’s a victim of trauma & abuse (bullying). She’s self harming or trying to fit in. She needs counseling, not punishment.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Its not drugs or sex, let her Express herself.
Im sorry. I hope everything is getting better for you and your family.
Watch for infection and hope for the best!
I’d be pissed too momma but I’d try counseling maybe.
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All i can say is working interfere so much with parenting
She could of got knocked up the hole will close and tat will be fun reminder
Every parent can empathize with you. In one way or another our children test the boundaries at some level at sometime. As a woman who was a child who was starting to go down the wrong road my mother had a few rules. Rule number one was I am the parent and you are the child…rule 2 the inmates don’t run the asylum rule number 3 I am your parent not your friend and then she found tough love and it was over for me. We all know we were kids once and we do stupid things. We all know we have lied to our parents at one time. But as our parents worried or my parent worried and as I worry today about my children will they learn or will they continue down a bad road. Will the lies become bigger? Drugs, sex, drinking…it’s a hard life being a mother. Since this is your daughter you know what’s best. You know your child. But you are absolutely right in what you are doing. When kids lie to us how can we come to their defense if needed? Stick to your guns. As mothers who were once little girls who turned into teenagers and then became mothers we have all had that moment “I now know what my mother was talking about” I now know when my mother said you just wait till you have kids” Now being a middle aged woman I completely have an understanding and respect for my mother which actually came when I hit my early 20’s. We all grow up and we all start to understand. My mothers famous words…l’d rather you cry now then I cry later. And she was right. This is your child, do what ever you need to. And know you’re not alone. And there is no doubt you love your child!!!
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Who the heck tattooed her!!!
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Lmfao lucky that’s all shes doing , I was I to meth and heroin at 15. Just pray to god it doesn’t come to that.
I’m just here for the tat pic. N it’s not even here… 
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I don’t think you’d get in trouble for your daughter having a tattoo unless it’s illegal where you live. Where I live, I’m pretty sure teens can get tattoos with parental consent. I’d sit and have a long heart to heart with her. You’re the parent and she’s a child: YOU have to reach out to HER. You have to open your mind up to do that. Open mindset and prepare yourself to HEAR HER SIDE. Ask her why she gave herself the tattoo and piercing and explain to her you want her to be careful bc things like that can be dangerous without proper sanitation. Also explain to her that your “16” rule was to protect her from a decision she may regret, that it could turn around to be something she regrets and you want her to really consider those things until she turns 16. Also, ask her if there’s anything you can do to help her feel more comfortable. Honesty is the best thing you could give her. Honesty that parents have to figure things out as they go and even tho you’ve been a teen before, you don’t know how to parent one yet, but that you love her and want to be the best mom you can be. Ask her if she’d like a councilor and that it’s nothing to be ashamed of if she does. It helps lots of people, even if you’re overall healthy. And just tell her if she isn’t comfortable speaking to you about something, a councilor might could help her instead. A councilor can also help her bring up topics to you if she doesn’t know how so that’s a plus too. I’d ask her if she wants one tho. (I have one.)
These are just my thoughts and I’m 20, so I’m still young and close enough to my teen years to think about it how I’d want to be treated.
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Did her nose get infected??
Did her tattoos get infected??
Dont worry about it!!
Take everything away and ground her. Dont be one of these soft I’m tour best friend parents that rose little entitled twats these days. If my 15 year old did that shit she would be in deep shit. Kids arent adilukts. Theybdont need to dress like little hoes theybdont need any piercings other than ears theybdont need hair dye. They need to love themselves for who they are. As adults they can experiment with their looks on their time and money
I pierced my own nose about the same age and I lied to my parents about it too…because I was scared to get in trouble. Which is exactly what happened when you found out and in my opinion is going to make her be afraid to tell you stuff even more. Don’t be too hard on her or strict because that’s what makes kids sneaky. I was in her shoes and I was a Rebel child. My parents took my door, my phone, whooped my ass, got me put on home confinement, boarded my windows etc and I still did what I wanted to do. Using this as a lesson to build your relationship with her is what I recommend. If you just keep throwing down harsh punishments it may hurt your relationship with her and cause her to Rebel even more. I’m not saying don’t punish her but be fair, be understanding of her point of view and as you said she has been through a lot. Maybe she just needs some positive attention, go have a girls day with her and talk about things.
And they say ass whoppings don’t work. Let my kid try that. Your kid is out of control. Discipline is much needed.
Prayers. God bless you.
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Um. You need to fucking relax. Maybe if you didn’t fly off the handle she’d be able to come to you with things like this. I pierced my own lip, tongue, ears etc. The thing you should Express is that you’re worried about her safety. Not rip her whole life apart bc she lied to you. Ask yourself why she felt the need to lie? It’s because of you and the way you react.
She’s a kid! I pierced my own belly button at 13. Kids do dumb shit! I’m sure you posting this on a public site will embarrass her…i would take this shit down and go spend some fun w her!!
The piercing isnt that bad given her age. Teen agers are hell. But the tattoo is unacceptable.
As a kid who did all of those things, I really think that you should just ask her to let you know next time when she wants a Piercing or tattoo. Maybe plan one together for far in the future? my mom did the counseling thing for me and grounding, and I almost ruined my life because of it. I lashed out more, snuck out, got more tattoos and piercings and started smoking. And then as soon as I turned 18 I bolted, moved in with the shitty abusive boyfriend I had and eventually got pregnant. Just like my mom did at 20. I got on the straightened arrow now took me a good year and a half though. Try a gentle approach, she’s obviously hurting really bad over something. Just be there for her.
Well may be you should try the belt my mom had five of use no father but we was to scared to do shit like that my mom had the fear in use
Well I think you should have started stopping this behavior a LONG FUCKING TIME AGO, 13 and has had 2 boyfriends ??? She’s gonna be 15 and pregnant , take out the nose ring and ground her . Do not let her get away with anything anymore . Be a MOTHER
I pierced many friends belly buttons at 12, got mine half through when my mom walked in and stopped me and told me she’d take me to get it professionally done, and she stuck to her word, I never did another piercing myself after that just told her what I wanted
I have an eclectic 13 year old as well.
Maybe After she is punished, she could work to earn money and get a henna tattoo (only lasts about a week) also if you have the time and means take her away alone and spend as much time with her one on one as you can. I know that is so hard but it always helps with my daughter. I have 6 kids total. Good luck mama. I know how scary and frustrating this time is for you.
Treating her like a dog, isn’t helping and is gonna end up making her rebel to end up just like you and dad.
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My kids are still little, have no help just sending positive vibes you way and hope for peace in your house hold
My oldest sister pierced my eyebrow when I was barely 15, got my belly button done at 16, second and third holes at 16, I was living with my dad and step mom when I was 16, my step mom took me for my ears no problem. But she really didn’t want my hey button done, however she went with my and my dad to get it done. Got my tongue done at 18. I pretty much wanted them cause my friends had them. Popular singers on TV like Brittany spears had them. I’m 36 now and don’t have any piercings except one hole in my ears I rarely wear earrings. Point is, let her be a teenager, my daughter’s friend is 11 and pierced her own nose. Talk to her. Tell her no tattoos till 18, but maybe a piercing (like you said) when she is older. Or maybe you could compromise and say get her nose done her next birthday.
I really struggled as a teenager, I did all that stuff and if I’m going to be honest about what would have helped me then, therapy. Talk to a professional. Let her privately talk to a professional
I pierced my eyebrow at 13 lol … Not getting it done professionally is punishment enough lol
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You mentioned the problem in your post. You and your husband are not in one team. And yes counseling is the best way
Teenage girls are not that intelligent. I know because I raised 3 of them. The youngest was the only one who took it upon herself to pierce her nose. She died her hair when I let her spend the night at her aunt’s. She was 13 and now she’s 15 and she pierced her nose. You’re not a bad mother. These girls need to have their own life lessons and the only way for them to mature is for them to have their own life experiences. They might not be what we want from them but they will still do what they please. My oldest was more mature at that age although she wasn’t perfect she told me that. It makes sense because at that age I started rebelling too. It sucks but we can’t protect them from life. Be patient hun and always talk to her. Don’t make her your enemy. That is the best advice I can give you.
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Let her walk around with a shitty ass tattoo I promise you she’s gonna hate it… But your rules are your rules as long as you’re not abusing her we good.
She is 13 lol what your doing is only going to cause resentment. If she’s gonna do it then there is not much you can threaten her with. It will only make her pull away you need to be having a conversation with her to find out what gave her the idea. Her air pods certainly won’t change anything or her door.
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Ummm what’s done is done. Being stricter is only gonna make it worse also she gave herself the tattoo with your husband’s ink so that was done at home I’m betting. Now is the chance to talk and grow closer. Explain to her the reasons your upset about it vs making a huge or deal to where she won’t feel comfortable telling you things if she messes up in the future.
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Let that girl be a girl. She’ll figure it out if she has support behind her.
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Great way to close the barn door after the horse is out. She 13. Jesus. Yes taking away privacy is totally the answer 
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i did this when i was 13 and I am so sorry to my mom
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I went through alot with my oldest daughter. First let me tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. We did family-based therapy which was a God sent! There were sessions with just her and then her and myself and then we brought her sisters in. It help her to learn to talk toe about how she feels rather than expressing it in unhealthy ways. She is 18 now and has grown into the most incredible young lady! We talk about everything now! She graduated with Honors and expresses herself with art (that she has won awards for) and band. Please be careful taking everyone away from her if she is already struggling with friendships. Maybe allow small amounts of time and check up on her. I’m a single mom and I have always worked and girl it’s hard but find some balance and work on your relationship and I promise it will turn around! Good luck Momma!
I think talking with someone would help her, but you over reacting the way you did is going to push her away from you and cause hatred. She needs help and to feel loved, you’re not giving her either of those things right now. I know a 13 year old shouldn’t be piercing her nose and giving herself tattoos, yes that was wrong, but you need to talk to her, not cry and scream. She’s going to act out more as she gets older if you’re not more understanding with her
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I’d be more worried about the boyfriends then the tattoos and piercings.
If the stuff is where she can get it she will do it. 13 is the age I started to try anything and everything. Pierced my sisters ears and mine in the cart ledge and she pierced her lip in school. We were taking alcohol to school and all kinds of shit. I’m sorry you have to go through it but shes going to do it if she can get it. I’d start having a lot of serious conversations with her about a lot of stuff. And try to establish the trust to come to you instead of hiding it.
Uhm… giving yourself a stick and poke tattoo and piercing is hella normal in today’s day and age.
Maybe try educating her on the dangers and risks of not going to shop.
Overly strict parents create sneaky kids. And not letting it go creates resentful kids.
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