My son is 11 and still
Weta the bed. I have taken him to every type of doctor you can think of in counseling and nothing has worked. Letting them sleep in underwear and waking up wet or wearing a pull-up none of it works. We even tried the thing that pad where when he peas at a wake him up it didn’t work and I bring it up to his pediatrician every year finally this year they put him on medication called desmopressin. It helps him not make as much urine at night. My son has done wonderful from night one and has not had an accident since he started taking it. Now he has had a couple of accidents when he didn’t take it at night but the only downfall I see is that I won’t know when he doesn’t P the bed anymore and won’t need the medication because he takes the medication every night. The pediatrician told me it’s just his brain in his bladder or at different rates and they just have to finally meet up and that’s when he will stop peeing the bed. Sorry so long and hopefully not too confusing but I hope it helps
Make him clean up the mess
Did they try prescribing him medicine? My son was on medicine for this for a couple years. The urologist prescribed it. It’s been a couple years and he’s better now without the medicine
How about encouraging him when he has a good night a reward
There are pads that have an alarm when they start having an accident. It’s supposed to wake the person so they can go to the bathroom
Bed wetting usually stems for a deeper mental health issue. Could be dealing with depression. Please be kind.
There is a medication called DDAVP that his provider can prescribe him that helps with the bed wetting.
Sometimes it’s emotional/psychological and not physical…maybe a therapist.
There are tablets you can take from the gp
That can be caused by allergies, take him to an allergy specialist. Milk might be a good place to start.
There is actually a disorder where some kids don’t get the sensation to urinate. It just comes. They don’t realize until it’s happened. The best thing you can do is put him on a schedule and also have no fluids two hours before bedtime. Have him pee and empty his bladder fully before he goes to sleep. This should help tremendously. Good luck mama
Stop all liquid intake 2 hrs before bed time. Helped my ex.
My bladder has fallen. I’m not saying this is the issue but I was wetting the bed often. Even wore adult diapers a few times. This is was an almost every night thing I wasn’t making it to the bathroom. It was a disaster. I stopped any sugar or carbonated drinks after like 7/8 I go to bed around 10/11. So basically water I guess lol. Just water the 2/3 hours before bed. I haven’t had this problem in weeks.
A urologist may not be the best person as they only check bladder function. Has he been checked for diabetes insipidous (this is not the same as the diabetes you will have heard of which is diabetes mellitus)? This is often genetic and if his dad has the issue too it may be wortj exploring.
Sounds like it’s a condition if his father still wets the bed. I’d bet there’s medication for whichever condition they share.
Check into artificial colors/sugars etc. and also maybe seeing a chiropractor
My daughter wet until 8dr said it was a brain development issue. She finally stopped right after turning 8. But there were meds to help that portion of the brain that makes you to wake when you need to pee
Could definitely be a mental health thing or actually a back related issue. Have his doctor check for scoliosis.
take him to a chiropractor!
Cut off drinking time at a set time make sure he is using the bathroom before bed. I went through this with my stepson it took awhile and be persistent. If that does not help I would see about getting another opinion to what is going on. Best of luck!!
Like someone mentioned before, there are alarms that will wake him. I used one on my son when he was about 8. He stopped wetting the bed within a week.
Take him to a nephrologist!
My brother’s issue was pop. Stopped drinking carbonated beverages and he stopped wetting the bed.
So my brother who is adopted had this issue and it was genetic and something to do with an internal organ that had to be removed—I think it was a kidney but can’t remember for sure.
And mom had him see all the specialists and urologists as a kid and they all couldn’t figure it out so resorted to “it’s behavioral”.
For my brother it was a serious medica condition that was left unchecked til his mid 20’s.
Also, the electric pad things that shock to wake someone up when they wet the bed is inhuman and doesn’t help. My brother slept right through.
Is he on any meds? My mans grandson has that issue due to his adhd meds.
My 16 year old daughter does it’s something that won’t go away n we live with it the less pressure she is under or if she is happy the less she wets , try not to put too much strain on him because of it
Are they really hard sleepers?
I’ll assume you’ve spoke with his Dr but there is actually something in the brain that isn’t triggering that “wake up and pee” I know a girl who got meds for it and helped
I did this until i was about 11 and it was due to me being a really heavy sleeper. My 6 year old is currently going through this. I would always have to wear a pull-up and for sleepovers my doctor gave me a prescription to help not wet the bed. I also had to have strict drink cut off times before bed. If he is showing the don’t care attitude i would make him clean up his mess but definitely look into the medication because it really did help. He could be at the point he is so frustrated with it that he turned to the don’t care attitude and it’s his way of coping because he doesn’t know what else to do. Try sitting him down and talking to him to see what’s really going on. It has to be very frustrating for him as well.
Sounds like ADH deficiency
One of my daughters had this issue, come to find out, the opening to her bladder was smaller than normal and she had two surgeries to correct this. She had issues with bed wetting and chronic UTIs
Have him checked for diabetes.
I did this till i was 18 so did my brother don’t have the answer, just quit one day . We had 4 kids girl did not.
Have you had his kidneys checked out?My Sis used to wet bed too found out it was a malfunction kidney
My son went thru that stage,till he was 5 we took him to Dr after Dr and nothing was found then our boss who was a dr.tokd us to get him up thru the night and take him to the bathroom because he was a hard sound sleeper,and after a few weeks of doing that he quit wetting to bed.
My son did this but his issue was psychological.
He may not care now but he will…
That said, don’t shame him but enforce rules to protect furniture. If he doesn’t do it, there’s consequences.
I’d also see a specialist regarding the rest of his urinary system.
Have his kidneys checked.
Needs see children’s gi doctor!!
Absolutely NO Drinks before bed or a few hours before bed 
Stick to it… Hope he’s okay.
He may have a weak bladder? I wet the bed till I was 11 or so the doctor suggested I drink a few glasses of cranberry juice per day to help my bladder it helped idk it has to be the pure cranberry juice though not the cocktail or cran raspberry.
My son had the same issues at 10 and after all of the same checks and everything you did we got prescribed a medication that worked- called Desmopressin. It only works in about 50% of people but worth trying. We would stop it about once a month to see if his body would cooperate on his own and after about a year he stopped. It’s been about 6 months since stopping and he only has had a handful of accidents that were when he drank alot that evening and didn’t use the restroom before bed.
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So… set an alarm every couple of hours and go wake him up yourself.
It seems as though you’re waking up anyway due to the bed wetting so, be proactive instead of reactive.
I would keep on it until you find the root cause….something is causing it to happen.
Have you checked for any underlying auto immune issues?? There are some that involve Involuntary lose of muscle control. Especially if its something his father also has a problem with. I would look into an auto immune disorder
So I’m 41 and I myself have a bedwetting problem. I take a pill called imipramine that works wonders! I have had this issue since birth, I was supposed to have a surgery to correct it but it got pushed back and forgot about. My daughter’s both wet the bed Into their teens as well. My son is 7 and has this issue. My husband gets mad that I buy him overnight diapers but idk what else to do, obviously he might have inherited my problem 
My daughter had accidents till she was 12. I got washable underwear with a sensor wire in them that beeped with the first hint of wet to wake her up. Took 2 weeks and no more accidents.
Take him to an urologist he might have an undeveloped bladder problem. Aldo kids can do it when they are stressed. My oldest did up to 14 or 15.
If his dad has the issue it could be genetic I’d do no drinks after 7 I know that’s a little harsh but there has to be a way to prevent this
I’ve had accidents recently and it was because I was overtired and sleeping hard. Could be as simple as changing schedules and making sure he goes before bed; truly emptying his bladder.
I wet the bed until I was 14. It took my step mom waking me up every night at midnight for a month or so and making me go to the bathroom. After some time I started waking myself up and to this day and quit having accidents
My son is 11. And a bedwetting alarm changed his life in weeks. It teaches them to wake up when they need to go.
It sounds genetic since his father still has this issue.
To help I would set my alarm mid sleep (approximately 4 hours after bed time) and wake your son and have him go pee and then back to bed til morning.
I would also limit his fluids 2 to 3 hours prior to bedtime. This will help him listen to his body more and hopefully make improvements
Over bearing parents will result in bed wetting!
I used to work over nights at a child crisis center & I had some kids who still wet the bed. I let them choose what times they’d like to be woken up which was usually midnight & 3:30am & sometimes they wanted me to wake them up at 7:30 before I left. It prevented any bed wetting & after a few weeks they were able to wake up on their own at those times.
I had this problem when I was little. Turns out my kidney valves were not opening and shutting like they were supposed to. Have his kidneys checked!
#1 if parent was a bedwetter it doubles the chance for child. #2 His bladder may not be fully developed. #3 see your pediatrician!!! There is medicine to help. I went through this 15 years ago with my oldest. “You can waist money on a pad with an alarm. You can wake up several times a night and wake him. Or you can put him on medication to help.” Was my pediatrician’s honest advice.
Have you tried desmapren
Have his airway evaluated & checked for any type of tongue tie at a dentist that treats for myotherapy! We have had many cases with children wetting the bed, behavioral issues etc. turns out they had a tongue tie or small airway which can cause many issues. We’ve had many great outcomes after treating our patients!
My son had the same issue until he was 12. He had a nephrectomy at 4yrs old due to cancer and after that he constantly wet the bed. We saw a urologist, nephrologist, and his oncologist over the years trying to help but had no luck until we purchased this bed alarm. Within 6wks he stopped bed wetting all together. 
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He needs to be checked for hydronephrosis
If his dad has the same problem that is a high likely thing
My oldest son had it and was caught on ultrasounds in gestation and he needed surgery to correct it and it is 100% genetic!!!
My dad struggle with bed wetting into his early teens and several children in my sons dads family had the same issue
Have you taken him to a therapist for counseling to be sure he wasn’t molested?
This has known to happen to kids who where, to discourage the molestation from happening again.
My son had this issue, I was always told by the pediatrician is just takes time and will work itself out. I was changing sheets daily. Finally switched pediatricians who told me I needed to potty train him at night. I purchased a potty pager (which triggers wetness), and would get him up when I heard the alarm go off. After one week, he was completely potty trained at night and hasn’t had an accident since.
Bed wetting is often an early sign of diabetes! Get him checked out.
My sister had this problem until she was like 12… My parents woke her up to go pee…limited how much she drank 2 -3 hrs before bed… Good luck…
I wish I had some good advice, maybe try setting an alarm every 2 hours so he wakes up and goes? Then maybe stretch it to waking him every 3 hours? Then eventually take the alarm away once he gets accustomed to waking to go? I don’t know if it would work but it’s an idea.
I had this issue my entire childhood- all the way through teens, & into adulthood. Strangely, the very last time it occurred, was like right after turning 21!
During my preteens, I was seen by numerous docs, & prescribed meds, as well as cutting off liquids hours before going to sleep… nothing EVER worked!!!
Best doc opinion we got, was that I was lacking the hormone that triggered the bladder to “slow down at night” (what causes us to urinate less frequently at night, versus during the day, when awake)
Doc explained that most people tend to out grow it, although some don’t.
My little bro had the same issue, but his was much more mild than mine; & had totally subsided by his teen years. Mine was severe, & the more I tried to control it, the less effective I was.
After struggling the majority of my entire life, I guess I just finally out-grew it; as doc said is most likely to happen.
10 years now since accident days, bladder never weakened on me throughout pregnancy, & I was worried my son would have the same issue… thankfully, he has had zero struggles despite a few avoidable accidents.
I did until I was 10 or so, turns out I had a form of epilepsy giving me very short, almost imperceptible seizures 100’s of times a day.
It was during those times that I would wet the bed.
If all other things get ruled out maybe look into something like that?
It wasn’t a simple EEG that caught them, I had something called a brain mapping that finally found the petit mal seizures I was having.
My daughter has the same issue currently shes 10. Did 3 different pills scans on her bladder. Miralax. Chiropractor. Pee alarm. Nothing helped. Personally think its bc when shes asleep shes gone. I can bang on her door shake her move her…she wont get up. Shes asleep at 8. If I wake her at 10 she already peed. If she changes her pullup she may pee a little more at 12. But after that she stays dry. We unfortunately cant cut off liquids bc she plays sports an has practice or games till 8 sometimes. So I also am curious…
Thyroid issue? Friends husband has that issue as an adult and thats his problem.
Following… dealing with same problem with my 13 year old
I’m sorry if I sound kinda rude in any way, not my intention. Alot of people on here are saying it could stem from something else and to be patient and kind, it very may well be something mental or physical triggering his body to do this at the same time, you said he’s 13 and it’s to the point where he DOESNT CARE to do what he should in respect to other people’s property at sleepovers or yours/ his own stuff for that matter, with constantly having to remind him to wear his specific sleeping underwear,and that his protective sheets end up ripped and torn. Body issue or not at 13 you should know how to have respect for other people’s things, your things, and his own, but he’s 13 he doesn’t care it doesn’t “bother” him because he knows at the end of the hell come home to clean sheets and that others will just have to “deal with it”. In terms of this being a real physical or mental issue, yes be patient and maybe try different Drs and new routines to remind him that others have recommended, in terms of teaching him to be responsible and respectful of his/yours/ and others property, keep him from going ANYWHERE where he has the possibility of having an accident, until he decides to prepare himself before hand. Make him wash his own laundry, and clean up his own messes (and if he does end up having an accident elsewhere, I’d encourage the people to make him clean and wash his mess there himself as well), if he wants to live in his own filth at this age because he doesn’t want to clean up after himself, let him, but you and others shouldn’t be subjected to it nor should you constantly have to financially suffer for constantly paying for protective and regular sheets etc because he won’t do his part. My youngest sister had this issue for years, our mom after she turned 7/8 started making her wash her bedding and clean up after herself it lasted a while but my mom never had to worry about complaints from others nor did she have to clean up after her. That in itself would be a load off your shoulders. But unfortunately some folks won’t do things until they want to.
Keep pushing for medical care. If dad is still having this issue it’s almost certainly a genetic body issue rather than a mental one, and you know what he shouldn’t feel shame. Do not make him feel like he should feel shame. Why feel shame over something you can’t control? Now the not taking responsibility thing that’s just a teenage thing he’ll hopefully grow out of soon. There’s something medically wrong though so keep fighting. See every doctor in the city if you can and that’s what it takes.
Dad has bed wetting issues as an adult and what? Thinks it’s normal? Doesn’t think he maybe should have the issue addressed by his doctor? Have you mentioned to your son’s doctor that dad also has this issue?
I understand. I ordered for my daughter an alarm made for this. A sensor went in her underpants and as soon as that sensor detected moisture, an alarm would sound loudly waking her up. It conditions the brain. It worked and quick.
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Believe it or not, my son do the same thing until I took him to allergy doctor. He was put on allergy shots. Didn’t wet the bed any more
Just give him the reminders he needs. Kids aren’t always as responsible as parents want them to be. And sometimes they try to be responsible but they’re forgetful. Just keep giving the prompts and reminders he needs.
Sometimes its a hormone problem. Usually in males and easily corrected with meds…sorry cant remember the name.
Theres also an alarm you can get that goes off at the slightest drip of moisture …works really well even for deep sleepers
I had the same issue but less and less into adulthood, finally stopped all together right around 19. Urologist said I had an underdevelopment in my brain stem and I would grow out of it
My son is 13 and is taking Desmopressin. Talk to pediatrician about it. Game changer for us!!
#1 it is inherited
#2 there is medicine for it
#3 Stop fluid after like 630-7 at night
Sounds a lil harsh but maybe limit any liquid intake past 6pm… It worked for my nephew, he wet the bed until he’s was 15, Dr suggested no liquids after 6pm at night
I had same issue tho with docs help I stopped I had hold my pee in long as possible and no drinking after ,7 pm
Get him checked for type 1 diabetes. My son is 12 and was completely potty trained at age 3. When he turned 7 he started bed wetting. Soaking several pairs of underwear a night. That’s when he was diagnosed as a type 1 diabetic. No issues with bed wetting since.
My grandson was the same. We had to stop his liquid at 7pm and wake him at night to use the bathroom eventually he out grew it.
I had my bladder stretched around age 10 am the wetting stopped
Have dad and son been tested for autism? People with autism can be unaware of their body’s cues that it’s time to go pee.
It’s most often genetic, so since his dad has this issue, he was most likely going to have the issue as well. Usually it is outgrown by age 12, but some do continue into adulthood as well. I’m sorry, that must be very hard on him. There are things, and meds that he can try to at least make it less often. I hope he outgrows it soon. .
I had the issue and have a bladder disease that can only be found by laparoscopic
My son is 11 and has this issue his doctor prescribed him a pill and it works really well
I didn’t read all advice we were also dealing with this but my son is 7 . So he is not old enough for the alarm yet but there is an alarm the doc recommended once he turns 9/10. They assured me it’s genetics and the alarm can interrupt it but nothing else can
Both of my daughters did too.
Their family doctor put them on a nose spray that worked very very good!
Any medication he takes? Vitamins, melatonin? That could cause it. Has he been tested for diabetes?
My son had same issues from potty trained age to 13. Turns out when he was circumcised the pee hole healed to close together. Went in had surgery to enlarge it, no more wet beds or Piss around toilet. They can tell by looking at the opening of the pee hole. Goodluck.
What I had to do for my daughter she had the same problem I had to set a timer for the middle of the night to help her to the bathroom
My son is soon to be 9 and has the same issues have you tried ERIC.org.uk my sons doctor recommended it and also my son is on Desmomelt its like dissolvable paper that you put under the tongue
Type one diabetes maybe?