Stop paying for his Play station sub and give him his allowence?? But that would not be fair to your other children, would it?
Iâd tell him that we donât pay ransom to terrorists 
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Get him a lawn mower let him help himself
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Teaching your kids how to do things, be part of a family unit and being responsible is not child labor. Lol
Whoâs gonna pay him to do nothing when hes grown? Whoâs going to clean up his mess, cook his food, do his laundry etc if they arenât taught? No one. Youâre doing the right thing. He doesnât have to like it to learn from it. Most of the time the things we fight most are the things we most need. Stay strong mama. Maybe let him get a part time job if he really wants the money.
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Heâs old enough to get a part time job. Let him work! Make him work!
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Heâs 15 let him get z weekend job
Better change his way of thinking âŚ
Chores are a part of family dutiesâŚ
Have him go mow the neighbors lawn for 
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Tell him to get a job, heâs old enough
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If youâre paying âyourâ children for chores he should be as well. If they donât have subscriptions then tell him itâs allowance or that. If they do and you also give âyourâ children an allowance then he gets one. You are raising him it donât matter he ainât âyoursâ. You treat all of them equally.
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A roof over his head, clothes to wear and food to eat. That is all he is âentitledâ to. The rest are luxuries. Sounds like he needs some tough love on what things cost these days. Give him the allowance, then charge him double for the above âluxuriesâ
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PlayStation subscription?
At 15 I got $5 a week IF I mowed the lawn, raked leaves, mowed lawn etc.
When I was 8-9 after helping my stepfather rake leaves I said âI think I should be paid.â
He said âyou have a roof over your head and three squares.â
I did not ask again.
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I would tell him Iâd be able to afford allowance if I quit paying for the Playstation subscriptionđ¤ˇ
Ask him if heâs going to pay the electric bill this month!!!
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If you have told him that 80.00 is only to be used on him give him the optionâŚeither we pay your play station subscription or you can have the 15.00 for chores.
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Forget the fact he can try to get a part time job, mow neighbors lawn, etc. forget that for a secondâŚ
Youâre giving your biological children allowance but not him? Way to make him feel excludedđ
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90% of you are idiots and these comments almost gave me a stroke.
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I donât agree with you paying the others and not him. He needs to be treated exactly the same.
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Tell him hes working for his playstation subscription. However I believe kids should do chores without pay because they live here as well. Maybe because you donât have the money right now write a budget for them like $10 electricity $5 lights $2 water tell them electricity that is used beyond the basic need they will get charged for, internet that is being used for other reasons besides school work they will get charged for. Bathae or showers they donât need but just want to take one they get chargedfor food that is not necessity breakfast lunch dinner and water is a necessity healthy snacks. They want juice snacks that are not healthy charge them. Set the allowance for the amount where they would get zero back and cash. Or even oh money for bills teach them about real life right now
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Maybe the 15 year old could get a jobâŚ. My oldest is 15 and has had a job since he was 14 and their dad pays child support 945 a month but goes towards housing food car notes bills to help care for them
Tell em you want money for bs or food in your belly?
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You buy his food, pay the utilities & water he uses, buy his clothes, and supply the roof over his head, etc. if heâd like to give up something (a luxury) for the month, like his PlayStation and/or going places with his friends, then heâs welcome to get his allowance in my opinion! 
He uses the dishes he eats off of, the bathroom he washes up in, walks on/dirties up the floors & wears the clothing that uses electricity & gets washed in the water from the washer and dryer!
He is 15 & welcome to go get a job and pay rent & clean up after himself to the fullest!
Sorry not sorry to sound harsh, but Iâve dealt with my two adult children behaving entitled & have had to tell them the same thing! Now Iâm having to tell my 2 teens the exact things too!
Once they start acting entitled, allowance went out the window!
Their great-grandparents pay them to assist on their farm & to mow several acres. They know where they can make money!
But here at home, they take turns with dishes & the bathroom! They use the most dishes & dirty up the bathroom! They also fold and put their own clothes away and I wash their clothes. They clean up their rooms once a week, strip their beds & remake their beds. I do the rest! They would be doing more if they didnât have 25 hours of after school activities that is also horrendously expensive! They know that they are welcome to give up their activities and do extra chores to get an allowance, but they donât want to, so they settle for doing their part, Iâve asked of them, of the team work that it takes to keep up the housework! Nothing is free & it sounds like your 15 yr old needs to learn that concept and start learning about what other things cost! Not just what he wants to do⌠if he doesnât learn now that $80 doesnât go far, heâll have a huge shock to the system when he turns 18+ and decides to move out on his own! 
At no point should you be paying your three kids and not him . Pay him out of his child support and buy his soap and deodorant yourself since ur his guardian or step aside and let someone else care for him . How do you have four kids two adults and no job ??
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Itâs clear that only a handful of people actually understood what they read or paid attention 
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You choose to take him in as your child so he should be treated like one of yours , the fact you donât buy his toiletries etc is worry , thatâs not a luxury. I feel sorry for the lad sounds like heâs not treated as nice as âyourâ kids
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Stop feeding him. Ungrateful little ass .
My kids and my grandkids were working at age 15âand paying for their special stuff.
Seems like there is plenty if work for people. I could find a job in one day. What ate they waiting for?
Heâs 15. At this age, chores are a part of life. In my house, we donât pay our children to do their chores. Anything over and above their chores, yes. If he needs more money, id tell him to get a part time job! He can pay his own Playstation subscription, then. And save up for a vehicle for when he reaches driving age. Thereâs nothing g wrong with teaching him to work and set goals he can achieve himself.
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No allowance for anyone til financial situation is better⌠explain that to the 3 of the roof over head or pennies in your pocket, pick one.
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Youâre doing the right thing. Teenagers do not understand. So just explain all of the bills you pay for him without charging HIM for it. Heâll shut it up quickly.
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I would tell him that you simply canât afford it and that all the kids arenât getting an allowance because you both are out of work. If the fit continued Iâd start taking privileges and tell him if he wants more money then he can get a job or do odd jobs for people to earn it.
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At 15 he can get a job at a convince store or a farm
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Wow. What an entitled kid. Give him a choice of his subscription or allowance. Then he can make a decision
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Do the other kids get theirs ? Treat him as your own ⌠I wouldnât even write that he isnât mine. If youâve been raising him since 18 months old. I feel bad for him, probally not treated accordingly
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Yeah my kids dont get an allowance I have to clean my house and nobody pays me so the kids will do their part if they want a place to live. They want extra money they better go find work some where else because work around the house never pays
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What about having them do some small job like lawn mowing, baby sitting, dog walking ect?
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If you are his legal guardians do you not get a state payment for him? Maybe section some of those funds for allowance? I have guardianship of 3 nieces, and we were alloted an amount to care for then whether or not parents paid child support.
Ar sthe chores overly taxing? I can see basic chores and helping, but I was the oldest and remember getting stuck with supervising my siblings ALL the time, which wasnât my job. If the chores are reasonable keep them.
Offer to let him look for a job, he can make his own income at that age.
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You charge the poor boy gas
To go to his friends house !?
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If allowances arenât within your means right now then he needs to understand that. If the fit throwing continues start taking privileges away. Heâll soon realize how in a Blink of an eye things can disappear.
Maybe they can learn about how money requires work and responsibility? Just a thought. There are all kinds of things they might be able to do to earn a small income for themselves 
I donât mean to sound rude here⌠but why on earth would you take a child into your home if you are going to treat them differently than your bio-kids? That is where his âfitâ is coming from, being treated like an outsider in the only home he has ever known. It breaks my heart to hear that. I come from a big family that fosters and adopts and Iâll tell you you can not see a shred of difference in the way they are treated, not after day 1 let alone 14 year! You say he isnât biologically yours or your husbands but you have had him since he was 18 months? How are you even still making a separation like that? If youâre stopping all the kids allowance fine, times are hard but if and when you start it back up I hope you realize he is YOURS not someone elseâs and treat him the same as your bio kids. You are forming his expectations and emotional responses for his entire life, donât let it be on a deficit. I donât want to sound like Iâm talking bad to you, I think itâs wonderful you opened your home and chose to care for a child that WAS not yours. A lot of people would never. I applaud you for raising him and keeping him safe and caring for him. He is yours now though, who else could he belong to if not you, he thinks of you as his parents Iâm sure. Embrace it for the little time you have left, he is almost grown:)
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Does he do well in school? Mine is also 15, he def gets allowance for chores, does great in school and stays out of trouble. He works for the money. At 15 I buy his toiletries and if he wants PlayStation money he does extra chores to earn it. In my opinion I think itâs important for them to earn and have some pocket money
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Donât pay any of the kids allowance if you canât afford to pay for your other child! Have a sit down with them all.
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What the heck is an allowance (lol)?!?! I never got one! It was expected that I earn my keep. Iâd give him an option. The PlayStation subscription or allowance.
People really should read and comprehend what they read before commenting. People that knock her for buying hygiene products from the child support received are confused as to what child support is for. It is for the childâs needs (including hygiene products). She provides him with electricity, heat, food etc. that is NOT taken from child support but her own pocket. To say she isnât treating him as their own is ignorant.
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Break down the cost of. Food rent and clothing for him and say fine I owe u the 15 but u owe me ur % of all this then shut his ass up
It sounds as you treat him differnt. Do you charge all your children GAS money to drive them places???
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Figure out all youâve done for him and deliver a bill and at the end write NO CHARGE.
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Exactly why is he paying for gas? Do your other children do the same? Seems like you treat the 15 yr old different than your other biological children and that is wrong.
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So was he forced on yâall? Did yâall not want to adopt him? Because thatâs just part of you know being a parent sometimes
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At 15 he can get a job bagging groceries so off to work he goes!
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Please love him the way you love your biological kidsâŚ
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Just bc his father only pays eighty dollars towards child support you and your husband are definitely going to have to pay for other things. If one child gets allowance all of them should too regardless of child support. I feel like the poor kid isnât being treated equally and has every right to be upset. Would you want to be singled out just bc your real parents suck? Your his guardians now guard him and protect him and love him.
Give him the $80 with the understanding he must pay his prescription, & any other things he wants, see how well he can budget that money, if he doesnât pay for his items then things will be turned OFF⌠this experiment will probably last a month if that⌠kids have no understanding of money
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My kids donât get allowance u do chores because u live in the house also
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Heâs 15 years old, he can get a job. Period. End of discussion. If it were me, I would tell him exactly that and give him a time frame to get a job. McDonaldâs is hiring every day. He then might learn some respect about money and how it isnât so easy to come by some days.
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Why arenât you treating them all the same?Sounds like youâre undermining family unity.
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If you can only afford $30 a month for your other 2, then just explain to the little adults they are that youâre cutting costs and inflation has gone up. In other words, divide it by 3 and give the 3 a new pay wage.
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I never gave my sons allowance tell them youâre part of the family everybody in the family do choresďżź
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You shouldnât have taken him if you werenât going to treat him the same, do you charge your own for gas and gaming subscriptions?
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$80 is next to nothing. If possible see if the child support can be raised.
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PlayStation subscription is only paid once a year . And are u since not working using his 80 for something else . Why arenât yous working ? Do u charge all kids money if they wanna go somewhere and make them pay for there hygiene stuff as well ? Why is he treated differently than other kids ?
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Oh mama!!!
HmmmmâŚâŚ15, doing chores and he thinks itâs child slavery?? Ugh! Mama I feel you. Iâm hugging you right now and telling you all is going to be ok!
Now, let your 15 year old, the one who cleans free of charge know that you will be charging him:
- Rent for his room he sleeps in, that is in your house you pay for.
- PG&E that powers all of his electronics ESPECIALLY that PS5 of his.
- The water he uses to shower and brush his teeth, he can start paying for that too.
- The laundry soap used to wash his clothes
- Money to use that washer/dryer
- Food he eats daily, including those snacks he eats and drinks while gaming on his PS5
Mama. I would create an invoice and tape it to his door and commit to the seriousness of his ridiculousness.
Mama, in no way must you bow down to your 15year old. Please get this under control before itâs too late. Him thinking he is OWED an allowance to CLEAN where he lives is nuts.
Giving an allowance is wonderful, I use to do it tooâŚ. Then my daughter acted just like this and itâs completely stopped.
My 100% advice, charge him for living in your house and to use your services or he can do chores as payment.
Tell him since itâs illegal, youâre calling the cops! You will turn yourself in.
Iâm saying a prayer for you. May God give you peace and strength to deal with this situation.
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14/15 in Ohio can work a job, and if you receive assistance they donât count his income
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It clearly states â all my kids are getting 15 a week , we have 3 kids ââ with that being said the 15 year old doesnât get allowance. If he did it would be all 4 kids get allowance. For you to charge him for gas and such is totally wrong. You chose to keep him in your home. You are his guardian. You need to treat all kids alike not just yours.
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Have him volunteer at a homeless shelter for moms and their kids and heâll soon realize how good heâs got it!!!
If he doesnât for go the allowance all together and tell him to get a dang job!!!
Cancel the playstation subscription and lock him out of the wifi till he learns some respect
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Quick shout out to everyone on this post that:
A. Gave the OP benefit of the doubt that the details she provided was to provide context on why one child felt âentitledâ to an allowance, not to differentiate personal sentiments about her children.
B. Understood that she is not singling out the non-bio, that none of her kids currently receive allowance nor are any of her kids buying âtheir ownâ hygiene basics, she was merely providing a break down of her situation and budgetary allotments.
C. Provided productive actionable advice like a big boy or girl, bc you know that even if you are dead wrong and âthisâ IS every red flag and dark suspicion incarnate, being called an asshole by a stranger online will not inflict change, but giving a solid actual shred of advice to what could potentially be a sweet savior/hero of a lady with shitty writing/expression capabilities, MIGHT actually help her and her family out. So itâs the only thing worth posting.
D. All those who will never see this commendation bc they did NOT have productive advice to offer so they simply did not comment 
My âask if heâd rather cancel the Xbox and get the 15â, âhelp him find a summer gigâ, âhereâs how u could communicate this betterâ brethren - yâall the true heroes in my book
Seeing every day/interaction (every post, every comment) like itâs an attack, admission of guilt, or debate must be really dark and super exhausting 
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He has some nerve! I would take away that Playstation and everything else! Give him an itemized bill of how much 1 child costs monthly .food, clothes, gas ,electric,water,toiletries, ext⌠if he were mine, I would have punished him as soon as he said that!! Ungrateful little entitled snot!
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He is old enough to now learn financesâŚso you and your husband set down with all of the kids, have all income documents on the table for this month, also have all of the bills and a calculaterâŚeveryone together add up whats coming in and what is going out to be paid, then you and the husband and all of the kids take a vote on what bills to pay for the monthâŚfor instance" , ok kidsâŚwho wants water this month to drink and bath and for clean clothes to wear all month, nextâŚwho votes to have electricity to have lights and tv an to run your games and things this monthâŚcause these things dont run on airâŚit takes electricity, nextâŚwho votes that we have food to eat this month? Exc, excâŚyou get the ideaâŚlet the kids add this upâŚnow who wznts toothpaste, shampoo, hair spray, deoderant, toilet paper? Let them add that upâŚlet them figure out that there is no money for allowence right nowâŚput all of the living expences on the table and dont forget anythingâŚthey might all deside to pitch in and help the family get through this without a fightâŚwho votes for ketchup for our french fries this monthâŚwho wants pizza this month at least once? Vote on every aspect of life for the monthâŚthey will soon learn the struggleâŚi hope this helpsâŚgood luckâŚ
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he does not need a play station. Get rid of that and he has an allowance for more useful things. Charging him gas for taking him to his friends is not treating him the same as your biological kids. Itâs wrong. He does chores, he should be give some spending money just like your kids
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Ground his ass and take away his Xbox, make him do even more chores
Iâd get a job. So many places are hiring. Itâs on you to show him how an adult overcomes adversity. Start acting like an adult.
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Cancel the PlayStation membership and use that for allowance.
I adopted a child when she was born, I donât treat her any different than I do the other 2,you shouldnât either
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I never got an allowance growing up. To me this is spoiling kids. We wanted stuffâŚhad to wait for a holiday. Wanted a subscription to anything,or to go out and have fun every once in awhile,parents would pay up to so much. Any more than going out places 3 times a month or 1 subscription and we had to get a job bc it wasnât happening. Lol. We did our chores or we werent allowed to go out. On weekends,we would do chores for elderly for free, or for small amount of food or money, or gum. Whatever they could afford to give us bc we just enjoyed helping out fellow neighbors. Kids have to learn that no one is going to pay them to clean their house or do chores in the future. It is just required if want to live comfortably. When they get 16,if want a car,that is the time to start teaching about finances and say they have to work to pay for gas,tag,and insurance.
SecondâŚsounds like you treat him different than your biological children. He shouldnt have to pay for anything if you dont make your other kids pay to go out. If you pay for a subscription for your other kids,then pay for his Playstation subscription. From now on make those subscriptions your kids allowance for cleaning their room. No clean roomâŚno subscription. You act like the 15 year old isnt worth having around unless he is getting child support and paying you at the same time. Adjust your attitude,treat all the kids equal, and just try to raise all of them to be decent human beings.
Am I the only one who thinks itâs wrong to make a child pay for gas or hygiene products when u were the one who decided to become their parents. As for the allowance, none of my kids get one (3) and never will. They do their chores as their contribution to the family bc going to school is no different then u going to a job. That aside, I donât charge any of my kids for anything. My adoptive niece and nephew have never been charged for anything despite the money my sister and BIL got from the state (they were foster parents who adopted). The state also covers their health insurance. Instead they have nice clothes, play sports, do extra curricular activities, etc. Thatâs how it should be when u decide to adopt, no matter the circumstances. Just my opinion
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Itâs you who taught him that behavior so quit complaining when he just spins what you taught him on you. Maybe you should get a job and stop bitching. It sounds like he does the things you ask. Why would he be happy
That poor kid. You and your husband are awful.
Edit: since Jane Lori wants to jump on conclusions, I have a kid. I love my child, she is well taken care of. I could not imagine charging her for basic needs, rides or anything of that nature since I chose to have her. I would also find it bizarre to charge a child I have basically adopted for those things and make them feel less because they âarenât mineâ or my significant others child.
The woman in the post sounds vile and so does her husband because from the way she talks it sounds like she would never do this to her ârealâ children.
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You charge him for gas and hygiene products? Do you charge your other children for those things? Thatâs your responsibility as a parent, why do you treat him differently?! This is very concerning.
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I never gave my kids an allowance so never opened this can of worms. They get clothed, fed, and have a loving home. As part of that environment they are obliged to help around their home.
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My friend does this:
They are a family, they live in the house together. It is their home. Everyone shares in taking care of the home. Mom and Dad donât get paid to take care of the home so the children do not get paid to help take care of the home. They have assigned chores that they must complete each day. If they need to earn money there are Job cards that they can choose to do IN ADDITION to their regular household tasks. The Job Cards state the chore in detail and has a predetermined dollar amount assigned to it. If the child needs a certain amount of $ they need to plan accordingly. If they have an event they are going to they need to SAVE their money.
I thought it was a pretty amazing idea and it worked really well. Each child had an assigned card color and chore $ value was decided on by the entire family.
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forget all their allowances for now they can mow lawns, baby sit, their r jobs out thereand yes my girls and and my son baby sat, and the pay was nothing like today
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Reading this my heart broke⌠first off in our house my kids have never gotten allowance for helping with the house run smoothly⌠I question a few things you posted and feel sad⌠why arenât you or your husband working?? You have kids?!? I would bet your biological kids are treated much differently and he can see and feel that
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Um why would u take his allowance out of child support? His father isnât paying him an allowance, u areâŚ
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I would tell him that he can choose to give up his playstation subscription to have that money for allowance or choose to give up gas money to see his friends for that money but that I would not be giving rides to hang out with friends. He would need to figure that out for himself. It would teach him about sacrificing and prioritizing. Iâd also take a job. In this economy there is no way two people should be out of work at the same time with 3 kids to provide for. The job market is plentiful right now.
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So u have 4 kids and heâs the only one u charge for stuff Iâm confused about that
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Children should have chores too teach them responsibilities 
itâs not slavery. Itâs learning this is someday what will need done in his own home.
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You give one you give them all regardless whether heâs your or not.
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Kids in My house get no money for chores they live there so we all pitch in so we not living in a pig pen
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I think itâs important to show your 15 year old how you are spending the $80 you get in child support. (Those funds should be for his needs exclusively) So he can see the $15 a week allowance that currently youâre not paying all of the kids, has been coming from you and your husbandâs funds.
He is old enough to understand and be included and involved etc
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Itemized a list of his portion of rent, until I ties, cable and internet. You told the kid that that is his pay for his chores. That you pay for him. His 15.00 a week is a bonus and not a definite pay
Do you claim him on your taxes? How much money did you get? What did you do with that money?
My 11,12,&13 yr old come in from school and have chores daily. They keep rooms clean, fold and put away their laundry, take turns loading or unloading dishwasher, have trash days and have to take care of their animals. Feeding the dog, feeding chickens and gathering eggs. Allowance is out of the question. We all live here we all take care of it. They have a house, food, water, electric. It teaches responsibility. Now I work thru the summer babysitting and cleaning houses and they help me. They get paid for that. They get paid for doing a job and so much goes in bank account for them and then they get spending money out of it. They are expected to keep their grades up and to stay out of trouble. Kids need someone to teach them how to earn and save money but helping keep the house they live in clean is a must.
Having a roof over your head is an allowance
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I do not give my children an allowance, it started as just not being able to financially support an allowance, but now I pay for cell phones, buy their clothes, shoes, things they want, give them spending money when they hang out with friends. I would tell your child that it is your responsibility to put a roof over their head, food on the table, and clothes on their back. You donât get paid to do that. Chores are not child slavery (what chores is he responsible for?) I have had this same conversation with my 14 year old when he complains that I donât do the dishes. There is no law that says we have to pay our children an allowance. Sorry kid.
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Hand him his $15 . Then hand him a bill for every bite he eats and drinks . Plus water and electricity. This entitled child needs a wake up call.
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Do other kids have use there own money for hygenie productsâŚsounds like 15 year old doesnât get same as other childrenâŚin my opinion, there your kids, should all be treated sameâŚI never made my kids use there own money at that age for hygenie stuffâŚunless they want like big priced itemsâŚ
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So you give the other kids allowance but not this one??? No wonder heâs upset lol.
Also by 15 he could be working and making real money
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