you use his child support money for gas to drive him somewhere??? wtf? please tell me I read that wrong 
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So you treat the one kid differently than your own? Thatās NOT OK
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I have 7 children - 1 is an adult but was living with us up until recently and another lives with his father - so 5 at home underage, one is an infant, ranging from 11 down to 4 - and they ALL do chores. I tell them when they ask why they need to do this stuff that Iām not raising adult babies, that one day theyāll move out and need to know how to do all of this. I will pay them to do extra - like maybe start or switch dads laundry (they do their own for free) or help clean up not in their spaces. Chores getting done correctly and without back talk or me repeating myself constantly will get rewards - like movie of choice or video game timeā¦
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Tell him to get a job lol
When you started with my 15 year old does not biologically belong to me it showed the stance you took. Itās not the same for your kids and him. I think you should sit him down and explain to him how you are sorry for not giving him an allowance like you did your children when you and your husband were working. You made it clear that you only gave 15 dollars a week to your kids. Then explain how right now thereās no money to give anyone and as soon as you are able you will treat them all the same with an allowance and it probably wonāt be 15 bucks because thatās a lot.
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For other commenters-Heās old enough for a job depending on where you liveā¦.I donāt know many places in my area that would hire a 15yr old 
Now to OP-I think itās weird that you added stuff about child support and that heās the only one not biologically yours, it makes no difference for his behavior. Itās not child labor to make a child help keep the home they also live in clean, itās teaching them responsibility. I think itās time for a sit down talk with what is expected of him, and the other children, in the home. You all live there, everyone plays a part in keeping it tidy. The child support you receive is to help support him, so paying for things for him is exactly what that money is for and is doing and giving it to him to spend at will is not the purpose of that money no matter how anyone here might try to guilt trip you about it. Heās pushing boundaries and acting out which is normal for his age. Just sit down and talk to him like an adult and lay everything out for him.
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He is 15 help him get a real job.
Have him do his own laundry.
Sounds like you need to let him know on paper everything you spend even if it is just a receipt.
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Why is everyone saying make him get a job make him do this do that heās 15 for gods sake heās a child and by singling him out as not biologically yours is disgusting you took him on he is yours I hope he leaves use
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People really need to read and maybe reread what she wrote before yall start going in on her. She said ALL THE KIDS used to get $15 weekly for allowance but now that her and her husband are out of work NONE OF THE KIDS are getting their allowance.
I donāt believe kids are entitled to an allowance even if they do chores but if they are respectful, do the chores and you can afford the allowance then give it to them. They need a roof over their head, water, electric and food in their bellies more than they need money in their pockets.
Sounds like youāre doing the best you can and thatās all you can do.
I also think the reason she put in there about him not being their biological son was not to separate him but to explain that his biological father pays a measly $80 a month child support.
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Did he come from a mansion before you got him? Jesus Christ kids need chores and they need to see that working for something is always better than throwing a tantrum as if youāre 5 not fucking 15, and this is a prime example why. If I can pay bills at 16 and not see a single dollar of it in order to take care of a family that still made me do chores and werenāt the greatest role models, then Prince over here is gonna be just fine
he is logically going to be a bit upset. Heās getting his money taken away. The allowance should stop, for an extended period of time. Living in a house you have responsibilities, thatās life. You donāt get paid to do the dishes you eat off of, take the trash out that you help accumulate, make your own bed do your own laundry. These are life lessons and essentials. Talk to him about finances, be stern in the fact that he was lucky enough to get that every week and thatās you being nice. Youāre not obligated to pay your son to do chores. He is obligated as a part of the family to help clean upā¦
Explain that being part of a family is making sacrafices when things get tough. You are both out of work however he still gets to eat etcā¦families pull together and do without together.
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Tell him to get a clue. Ignore the fit. Having to help out where he lives is an expectation for everyone and doing chores doesnāt EVER go away and itās not child abuse. I donāt know about your state but if heās able to keep grades up and get himself to a job could he apply for a job part time? I mean he should be able to do the math as well. Most people have to work or go without and if thereās no money coming in the. No money can go out. You guys are all in this together so hopefully you can come up with ideas together too.
This is gross. I feel so bad for that poor boy. My boy is 15. That is my child. You had yours since he was a tiny baby. For you to even separate him from the others is disgusting. Whatās good for them is good for the 15 yo too! Thatās your baby!.. in all senses and forms. I hope youāre taking the subscription from all the kids allowances then equally. This is bs. Tf! If one goes without youāre a pos! All yhe kids should have the same. Of one gets 5 dollars and the other 10ā¦ yeah disgusting. Thereād literally no other word for this type of bs. Your were probably expecting us all to sayā¦ put that kid to work and work off his playstion sub and itās not āchild laborā as the 15 yo says but what it is, is complete bs. Youāre supposed to buy his hygiene youāre his mom! Allowance is for the things the kid chooses to do with his money youāre making that poor boy grow uo in the wrong way and too fast. I would never do this to my 15 y.o boy. Treat all children the same with respect and the utmost care lady.
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Allowance is a privilege!! Child support is not just for the fun things itās to actual support the roof over his head, food, electric, water, clothes, shoes, etc. Kids seem to push this child slavery over chores when they really have no clue the depths of child slavery. I remember complaining as a teenager about having to do chores and I never received an allowance. Sounds to me like you should take him to serve alittle community service so he can see how well he has it. Children will always feel entitled if they are handed everything and never have to work for it. Learning from chores helps teach responsibilities.
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Damn āmy 15 year oldā ā¦.
been with u since he was a baby and not once do I read my son. Thatās a gosh damn shame!!! I would definitely be rebellious if I were your child!!! Just get ready for that because I can bet that child feels a sense of rejection! Shit I read rejection by your post so I canāt imagine how YOUR SON feels like because of the way you treat āYOUR KIDSā as opposed to him. I donāt give a damn if itās a $1 treat then all equally!
WOW!!! He feels ENTITLED to get paid for doing his share of chores!!! If thatās really the case, ask him when heās gonna pay YOU for cooking his meals cleaning the house gor him to have a clean house and washing his clothes.
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Did everyone wake up on the wrong side of reading comprehension today? Yāall, she IS claiming him as one of her children. Three times she says āmy 15 year oldā she only explains he isnāt biologically theirs because she had to explain that she gets $80 in child support for him but not the other children. Itās literally a crucial part of the scenario, it had to be mentioned. Otherwise he is talked about as āmy 15 year oldā and āmy kidsā. He is throwing a fit of allowance because he WAS previously getting an allowance and ALL the children are no longer getting allowance because they are out of work. The 15 year old thinks he is entitled to still get his allowance because his dad pays $80 a month in child support. Obviously prior to the no allowance for ALL the children, he was doing chores and getting an allowance. They ALL now have to do chores and not get an allowance. He is NOW complaining and throwing a fit because he wants to continue getting an allowance but now out of the child support because he thinks itās āhisā. He is now claiming him doing chores is illegal and child slavery because he is no longer getting an allowance, no allowance just like ALL the other kids . He would have thrown a fit awhile ago if the others were getting an allowance for doing chores and he wasnāt. He wouldnāt have thrown a fit once it was all fair and everyone got nothing. That literally makes no sense 
The only thing weird here is her saying what she specifically pays on with the child support, which honestly, $80 is practically supporting nothing so in the grand scheme of where $80 goes for a month for a child is nothing compared to how much they spend monthly on caring, sheltering, and feeding him in general. The gas thing is weird though but maybe itās because they set that $80 aside for those things specifically as a way to budget their money, idk, but otherwise he is treated the same as all the other kids.
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Iām sure it takes more than 80.00$$ a month to feed and clothe him
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Perhaps ALL the children should get a part time job. Heaven knows there are many restaurants that need employees. All children can fore for their allowance when parents are unemployed. They can also help pay for the running of the household during tuff times. Remember a family needs to support one another during difficult times.
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Child slavery 
How about you have a roof over your head and food to eat kiddo. Lol
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Idk I was āallowedā to live at home, so I donāt really have any advice for that. Lol
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Cancel the x box and give him that money
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Iām sorry I canāt get past the āhe doesnāt belong to us but weāve had him since he was 18 months oldā
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he is 15 and should be finding a after school job to earn his own money. if your feeding him and doing his laundry thats great but he should also relize that it costs lots to support him and maybe ask his father to pay a bit more so he can have allowance or cancel his game stuff . spoiled boy.
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Treat him the same as your other kids and stop singling him out.
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Set him up NOW to use and understand a 50/30/20 principal (take that 80- and show him 50% to NEEDS - housing clothing hygene etc - 30% to WANTS - playstation sub party money etc and 20% to SAVINGS (and prioroty should actually bee needs savings THEN wants). Allowance is NOT payment for chores - its an allowed share (which is why its called āalllowanceā) of YOUR income! Sounds like the kid is expecting to be paid just for converting oxygen to CO2. Chores are a household members contribution to the work load required to live. Only a deadbeat expects gets paid for what is pulling his own weight - this is what you are ingraining into his adult thinking - which is setting him up for failure in the workforce as well as personal relationshipsā¦
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Biological or not you took him in and raised him his whole life ā¦ Who makes their child pay for his own hygiene products and gas to go places? Do you charge your " biological " kids for gas and pay for their own hygiene products?? Wow I wonder how that kid feels living with you ā¦
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Why would the others get 15.00 and him get nothing??
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His child support pays for his portion of the bills also, allowance should be earned. Nothing in life is just given. If my kids donāt do chores they donāt get anything extra they want and donāt need. I also broke down what their portion of our bills would be and told them if they wanna start chipping in for their bills they can otherwise it comes out of their child support if I ever get it.
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Wtf is wrong with you? You take in a child then treat him like this? If you canāt treat the children equally then none of them should get allowance.
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Did any of you read the whole post??? She has other kids they all received $15 for chores, they lost their jobs, so the bio kids are on board with the no allowance. But the other child 15 years old not bio is having a fit. Heās old enough to get a job. Not sure about the other kids ages but sheās not singling him out. Family is going through a difficult time and heās having a fit. Not understanding the value to stretch a dollar.
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Detail list on how much his Electric, Water, Gas, food and rent cost. Then how much his allowence each chore is
Bills: Chores:
Electric $2 a day. Dishes = $2
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Tell him to get a job and then bill him for rent, clothes, cleaning services and have him buy his own playstation subscription. Put all the bill money (donāt use it) he pays into an envelope and when he starts starts to realize how hard it is to earn money, give it to him. If he doesnāt learn a lesson then give it to him when he goes to college or move out.
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Yeahā¦my kidsā chores are because they live in our home and I buy & cook the food, buy & wash the clothes, take them everywhereā¦and endless other things. They all contribute. Mine donāt get an allowance but get whatever they need and a lot of whatever they want when they need it. We all work. I donāt get paid for what I do for them so they donāt get paid for taking care of things either. We just work together.
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My step son mows yards for extra cash and is 14, been mowing since he was like 11-12. Is there a reason he canāt do a side job like that? I also had a full time job at 16 and now places hire at 15. He sounds entitled. When my daughter got that mindset I quickly reminded her how much is spent on her a month and what all could be taken away. She plays two sports and gets Aās but does no chores hardly so she lost her phone. To me the phone is extra and a privilege, she can earn it.
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Maybe if you and the husband would go back to work than things can go back to normalā¦ Places are hiring everywhereā¦ That simple.
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Wow. I feel
Sorry for the 15 year old. What horrible people make a child pay for hygiene productsā¦
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All of you need to read more carefully. Nobody is getting their allowance. The kid isnāt being singled out! His problem is he is 15 and acting it!
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I think she broke down not biological so people knew where the support came from.
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Biological or notā¦ you treat him the same as all your kids period!!! Pay all of them $10 ā¦ itās better than nothing
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He got roof over his head food in is stomach and somebody to take care of him he is so immature
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Tell him to give up Playstation scription
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Well i guess mentallity is just different in both our countries,here in Armenia kids never do chores for money,n parents pay they everything till they are married or get jobs / mainly guys go army ,come back n start working etc/ n doing chores is just out of love/ and honoring for parentsā¦.i cant imagine taking money from my child for anything really,if you live that bad,well i advice start thinking of working again both of u,u can explain to your all children that u need help but what u doing is wrong,thats just my opinion n ik difference in countries is huge,ik kids in your place work from 13-15 years and even move out 
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1.biologicaly or not HES yours, you obviously at one point made that choice.
2. unless all the hygiene products are his and his alone and yāall donāt share the same tube of toothpaste, bottle of shampoo or body wash you better stop taking it solely out of that poor young mans child support. Idk about you and your but in my house we have ONE tube of toothpaste in each bathroom. TWO things of body wash (male/female) TWO shampoo/conditioner (Male/Female) totaling up what my boys use (ALL THREE of them 14-18yrs old) thatās $56.27 for the basics! and WTF you charge gas money? I wish I would of thought of that YEARS ago! I would of made bank from baseball games alone! huh whatās the average to charge your unemployed teen that relies on his caregivers for gas moneyā¦I may be able to stop working 
as far as chores I donāt give my kids money weekly but they all help around the house, because they live in it. I do pay monthly phone bills for them, and if they want something, if i have it, depending on what it is and how they acted all week and how much they actually did around the house they may or may not get whatever they wanted. (yeah even the employed 18yr old I still pay his phone and buy whatever for or hand cash) Heās still mine, and still a student living at homeā¦heās still my responsibility. OHHH and big tasks like cutting grass shoveling snow not the easy stuff but the actual labor stuff they do or help withā¦THAT they get paid forā¦sometimes they fight over who will do it because they want the money lol
as far as him tossing the free work and child labor law stuff or whatever it wasā¦no joke your wording gives me Cinderalla vibes. and I wouldnt be surprised if he does a majority himself while your biological ones get paid to do nothing.
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Tell him child support is to raise him an pay bills. If he wants to get a job. That part is up to him. But that is to support him not for play. Sorry if this sounds harsh. But thatās the way it is.
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Look up John Rosemond on Facebook. He just had a recent post about this
If you pay one you pay them all
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Ask him if he wants to eat and have a roof over his head. These hard times will pass. Heāll be better soon.
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Chores without pay is slavery is killing me 
kids are great. Use his own theory against him, say fine, u get your $15 a week back BUT I now require this this that for groceries/utilities/ rentā¦.because free housing and free food arenāt Murica lol oh waiiiiit, now u donāt like that? U think kids should get to live for free and eat for free bc that is the expectation/role of parents? Kinda like saaaay, the expectations/role of a child doing chores bc they live in said house for free? Weird how that works 
Also tell him youāre on his side itās not like you donāt WANT to give it to him, tell him if it were up to your desires not your circumstances youād rather be giving him $50 not $15 - but ask - how is it any easier for myself and dad to pull money we donāt have out of thin air than it would be for you? It doesnāt appear just because I nor you want it to and perhaps Further demonstrating youāre on his side by asking if heād like help finding a little side gig or summer job until you two get back on your feet. Remind him he stands to gain a lot more than $15 if he were to do so, and if your feeling generous add that youād drive him to said gigs for no additional āgas chargeā like stated u do for social chauffeuring, that may be powerful or solidify your authenticity bc he may see that by offering such, you are taking a āhitā to your wallet to support his efforts in being self-sufficient.
ā¦.and because I donāt know your situation only you do, perhaps thereās frustration bc he isnāt seeing effort to rectify the unemployment issue? Perhaps being more forthcoming or inclusive when it comes to what youve applied to or are trying for and getting rejected from would help him see the situation with empathetic eyes vs. angry ones? Again - thatās not a call out in any way I have NO idea what ur situation is, Iām literally throwing out different theories to cover more angles, cuz as strangers we never know which advice is most relevant.
Good luck regardless - especially with getting jobs soon 
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You donāt want to know what I would say to the little shit
Say i pay for your room and board so if you need or want something else get a job like helping others mowing yard, picking up trashM my daughter wanted a phone at 10 so I told her to pick up cans around our block.
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Everyone should be treated equally. If no one gets an allowance then no 1 gets an allowance. If someone gets an allowance then everyone gets in allowance. But what are they doing for this allowance? Are they being paid just to be kids? Or are they receiving an allowance for being productive and doing things around the house?
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Have him get a job. Go back to court had have 5he amount of support raised because itās not nearly enough for the expenses of raising a child. Irregardless or their age.
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As long as you are making it fair for all the kids, he needs to get over it. Now if you were singling him out then that would be much different
Do your biological kids pay for their stuff as well from their allowance hygiene gas to hang out with friends you canāt do it to one child and not do the same for all 3 I believe child support should be for the child I donāt know ur story but I have 3 kids they get allowance but I pay for everything else did u get charged gas money to hang out with ur friends I think thatās a bit much but we all have our opinions
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His child support is for him! Not your other kids.
child support is post be for paying for hygiene stuff and other things for a child. I have seen moms complain about ppl not using child support money on the kids for things they need and then now I seen ppl complain that a parent uses the child support money for the kid and what they need I have seen it all now.
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Iām mind blown by how many people cannot read and understand lmao
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Id tell him that he needs to learn a little respect. That times are hard and he needs to be understanding. Boo hoo you dont get to live with luxuries rn now. At least youre taken care of. Could be worse 
being grateful goes a long way. Lordy what is he gonna do when adulthood slaps him in the face? Bare minimum until you get back on your feet
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I would set him down and explain to him what is going on and why he can not have it. (I know parents dont owe explanation) but hes getting older and just saying no is more challenging when they āthinkā they know it all. I would explain the struggle and priorities. If he cant see past it after that then hes old enough for him a little job if he wants it so bad and has no care for the situation. I would get him his working permit (if hes of age to have one where you live) and tell him he can earn money by working. Let him see that an hour of hard work isnt even $15 for some people. Thats just what I would do. Or stand firm on no and tell him to drop it or the next time itās brought up ill take the game away. I understand as a teen they want to have money to do things but sometimes you cant have what you want. That is life. I feel explaining to them and letting them learn things and how to budget is important. Thats just my opinion.
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Why would you become his legal guardians if you donāt want to treat him like your own child?..ā¦
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Ok so Iām gonna get hate for thisā¦butā¦if he receives $80 a month from his bio dadā¦then give him the whole $80 to spend how he wishes. He is not an adult and you as the parent are responsible for hygiene products. Also being a parent means taking your child places. The Playstation could be his responsibility if he wants it. I would negotiate him receiving the entire $80 and free rides for him doing chores to help out around the house. That child support money is for the childā¦so let him have it and teach him how to make responsible financial decisions. You should also encourage getting a summer job.
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Wow lady!!!
If heās 15 let him get a jobā¦lots of places hire at 15. And u sound ignorant
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Since both of you are jobless. Explain to all children. Ask them for help by mowing lawns, doing off jobs for others. BTW. Allowances for all or none at all. He is a part of the family. Please donāt treat him as an outcast
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You should be paying for his hygiene n stuff
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Tell him the child support is to pay for his expenses to live there. Rent, electricity, water, gas, groceries and anything else he uses. And that amount you get doesnāt come close to covering any of that. So if he wants to pitch in more for his expenses he is welcome to start.
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Iād stop pointing out he isnāt yalls bio child if you have raised him from 18 months. He knows yāall recurve $80 a month for him, I figure he already emotionally stugles with not being raised by his bio parents and had a lot of held in hurt and probably wonders why he wasnāt good enough, or what he did or why he wasnāt enough for the situation to change. Abandonment issues to say the lease. I noticed you pointed out that he, the non bio child receives as much as the bio children, or in this case none of the children are able to receive anything. Iād tell my child bio or not, I would tell my children that it bothers me to be in a situation where we canāt continue to pay you allowance for your chores and it stinks all the way around, for everyone involved, but that the point of allowence for chores was for learning purposes, teaching them how to earn money and also allow them to know it goes quickly, and hard earned. That wether or not yāall can continue to pay them currently at the MOMENT doesnāt mean that they donāt still have chores and responsibilities, that never at any point does anyone live for free, that allowance has always been more of a lesson and a gift/reward, bc you want them to be able to have extra and be proud of it, but the lesson here is, sometimes everyone struggles and you still have to maintain a home and everyone lives in that home contributes to messing up clean laundry, clean floors, clean dishes, clean bathroom, clean yard, that living makes clean things dirty, so everyone should be included in maintaining that, also breakdown all of the household bills and devide them to āper personā cost and let them know what it actually cost per week just to live, and let them know that the $15 allowance was 
a benefit they were recieving because, ultimately you canāt help that is on pause at the moment, but once income increases, it will return and that you not only expect understanding, but demand respect during a difficult time. Just how I personally would handle it. If any child could do so then they would be grounded.
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how entitled. My allowance growing up was having a roof over my head and food on the table.
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I mean my allowance was always my room and food that I didnāt have to pay for. $80 a month in cs is not enough to do much of anything with. Youāre not in the wrong. He is being a little entitled and spoiled.
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Have his father terminate parental rights and you will receive much more money monthly from the state as well as that child having a free ride to any state college. Get it done if you care about him at all.
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This is just terrible altogether
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If youāre gonna take guardianship of a kid atheist try to treat them like your own
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If he was new to the home I could see his side better but 18months old to 15 years old he should be an equal to the rest of the kids. Everyone or no one gets allowance, same expectations, etc. However with that being said, his child support shouldnāt cover clothes, hygiene, etc, that you would buy your own bio kiddos. Now if the playstation is just his and everything, yes the child support should go to that. Just extra stuff. But fair.
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Some of yāall canāt read. Tell that boy to get a damn job if he needs more.
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I would tell him welcome to the real world ,food, power, water, insurance, meds, is the real world tell him to call his real father and ask him how he is supposed to live on 80 dollars a month ?
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I had a job at 15 in 1981?! I babysat and had a paper route. I am not sure what age for working at a fast food place is now?
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This is why rewards donāt work. Unfortunately itās a little too late to instill that chores should be done as contribution and teamwork for a smooth running household, so I guess since you set the expectations that he should be paid for them, chores go on hold until allowance is reinstated.
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$80 a month is nothing. It is not illegal for kids to do chores. My nephew is 15 and does chores and does not get paid. He and the rest of the kids will have to wait until the money situation is better until they can get allowance again
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Allowance money is a nice perk but everyone has to help out. Itās a part of being in a family. Nothing more is owed even if itās nice.
Tell him heās more than welcome to be a child slave in foster care if heād rather
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I have 5 kids, 20 (moved out and on his own now), 17, 16, 15, and 6. I have never paid allowance to any of them. Each child has their own room and bathroom. They are each responsible for cleaning their rooms and bathrooms as well as 1 household chore each. I take them wherever they want or need to go, I buy them whatever they want or need as long as their chores are done and grades are good. They very occasionally ask me for $ for little stuff here or there and I will give it to them but they do not get a weekly or monthly allowance. My 16 yr old has a job and is honor roll so she buys extra stuff she wants her self. When my 20 yr old turned 18, and after he had been working for a while and purchased his own car, I started charging him $300 a month for rent and asked him to buy his own hygiene. I think unless they are of age and have jobs you shouldnāt be charging them anything for hygiene or transportation, thatās your responsibility.
What I donāt understand I whyr we paying our kids to do chores around the house .we all live in it we all pick up no one pays me to cook or clean the house .and I did not pay my children to clean if u did extra yes maybe. And child support is just that it is to support the child not buy him play station games and shit . Food .clothes help with the bills .thatās the problem now days ppl think itās for toys and bikes and shit now itās to help SUPPORT the child .by no means is a parent supposed to do it all and give the child the money .come on ppl letās teach them respect and responsibilities.
Iāve gotta say that pointing out that he isnāt one of your bio children is not a good thing, especially after having been with you for that long and expecting to stay into the future.
Both as a child whose family was owed child support and as a mother in the same situation, those payments are supposed to help raise the children (including rent), not necessarily pay them an allowance. Imo, making him pay for his hygiene products is a bit too far. On the other hand, it seems right that his money be spent on his playstation subscription. Even tho $80 a month is not much at all, and times are hard, itās still not right for you to take away the measley amount you are giving him now.
As a child in that same situation, it would have been a really good thing to have gotten the whole amount at that age. It would go a long way to teaching money management among other things. I feel like you yanking his allowance because you are having trouble paying the bills is unfair. I think you should give him all the money, but ask him to pay for his own entertainment (not hygiene stuff, for goodness sake)
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Why do adults keep telling children their business!!! You get the money to raise him, grant it, it is not much, but why tell him, get the money and take care of him with that. He doesnt need to know what is coming into the home. And stop saying he is NOT you and hubbys bio kid, coming from someone who is adopted, believe me, we definetely know we are NOT your bio kid, we dont need reminded of it constantlyā¦I feel like there is some animosity hereā¦what do you not want to be responsible for him anymore? Is he doing the chores alone and do all the kids have an equal amount of chores as well? Not just him, you know since he is NOT your bio child 
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Tell him when you were his age you were lucky to live in your parents home.
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If you and ur husband are NOT working why are the kids still doing all the house work? Set an example and do it urself!
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Give him more chores for being disrespectful
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Child support info should not be shared with child.
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Tell him, Welcome to adulthood! Itās all uphill from here if you arenāt ALREADY independently wealthy, Young Man!
Start by billing him him for his room, board & utilities split!
3 meals a day including groceries & prep, laundry machine use, a room to sleep and play his games inā¦ All this costs way more than the chump change his sperm donor is contributing!
Tax free hustle is the teenage American way! Mow lawns! Babysit! Sling papers! What are his grades like? What extracurricular activities is he involved in that burn off energy and teach him life skills! Heās feeling himself, because heās growing hair in grownup placesā¦ He can damned well start learning the grownup responsibilities his sperm donor Is NOT teaching him! 
Get a job after school! My store hires 15 year olds!
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He could get a job to pay for his extras.
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Tell him to take a seat. And leave it. Do not even entertain that conversation with him. IF he even wants to make threats tell him be my guest.
Yea my kids learned a long time ago not even come at me with comments like that. Otherwise they ended up with a whole lot less than what they started with.
Iād advise him to do a little better research before puking up all his misinformation and that he is ver misinformed
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If you can find the grass greener somewhere else, then go there!.Iām not holding anyone against their willā¦
Itās the hardest lessons they will learn the most fromā¦my 15 year old son lived in his friends back shed ā¦until the weather changedā¦the grass wasnāt so green then.
Kids that age donāt see anything other than whatās GIVEN without the comforts of home.
Or pay him for his allowance, and charge him his share of the bills, bets he will owe youā¦lol
Get creative, it will be fun, I mean us adults have to find entertainment it tight times such as these.
We didnāt see a dime for an allowance growing up on an 18 acre farmā¦we earned food, heat, and a bed, anything else was a perkā¦so work chores tasks never hurt anyone
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Not be chicken and do some actual proper punishment, like grounding, a spanking, take his stuff away for a month, stop giving him what he wants.
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As an adopted child this makes me so mad to read. I was never treated any different from the bio kids. Ever. I was their child. Period. You keep claiming him as MY kid MY 15 year old then treat him as such. I NEVER make my kids by their personal stuff out of child support. That goes to REAL bills. Rent. Lights. Food. SMH.
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Give home more chores 
, no its not he has a roof over his head and food. But if he really wants money, a part time job is better to teach him real world values and responsibility.
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He sounds like a teenager. 
good luck.
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What do his genetics have to do with this situation? Why did you feel the need to point out that heās not biologically yours? Thatās more concerning than the temper tantrum he threw over allowance.
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