At 15 I would tell him he is more than welcome to get a job. I grew up without receiving an allowance as my parents couldn’t . So at 11 I started babysitting and at 14 I started working in the cafeteria at the christian college.
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He could get a job. Sounds like an entitled brat. Sorry, not sorry.
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Make a bill for the utilities he uses and rent and food plus clothing and show him how much that $80 really covers
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Well he could get a job and contribute to the house. Wait til he’s on his own…he’s gonna get a major wake up call
Now is the time to use the$80 as y’all need it to take care of your house hold,he lives there and y’all care for him
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Is pretty bad you cant buy his hygiene stuff ans you make him pay for gas thats a parent does for there kids
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Too bad for him. His spoiled attitude proves you shouldn’t worry about getting it to him.
He needs to do chores pay or no pay he helps make the mess he can help clean it that is what family do pitch in and stick together through good times and the not so good times
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Right there. PlayStation subscription. That’s his allowance
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The issue here isn’t the child… it’s the parents! You charge him/make him pay for his own gas and hygiene products and you’re mad bc he wants his $15!!! Give him his $15! You’re not treating him like your bio children making him pay for things you should be handling as a parent!! He’s 15 not 21!!! You started this mess now he’s supposed to understand you wanting to keep the part of the money he’s been getting. Treat him like your bio child and maybe you won’t have these issues!!
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So you don’t really treat him like your son. Shame on you for making that money about his daily needs like hygiene. And really do you charge your biological children give you gas money etc? Shame on you!
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You just made my case against allowances!!
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She needs to sit him down with the bills and the bank statement and show him and explain to him how money works.
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Take everything u bought him and tell him to earn it back then. Kids are so ungrateful these days. Sometimes they need a reminder that they are privileged to have certain items. I’ve taken each and every one of my kids items at one point or another in their lives.
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Alot of people misunderstood this post
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Tell him if he don’t like what’s going on there to pack his s…t d get out.
Just sounds like a teenager being a teenager. Welcome to the hormone years.
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Give him a choice, he can have his PlayStation subscription or $15 allowance. There isn’t enough money for both right now. Also explain to him that chores are not child slavery, they are the cost of living in the house. Everyone including you have chores. I also agree that making him pay for his own gas and hygiene products is wrong. That money would be better used toward clothes, school supplies, registration for sports, an outing with friends. You do treat him differently from your biological children.
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Treat him the same as your bio children!
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This truly must be a joke.
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Question your other children get allowance but the 15-year-old does not ?
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Remove his PlayStation account and let him make that choice with his money but you he would have wished he never brought it up. When did he get to feel so initialed? A roof over your head,food to eat,clean clothes and a family is not enough?
Point out him doing his chores is more about showing responsibility and got to clean up after himself when he moves out he would be self sufficient. He wouldn’t get paid to do the dishes or laundry when he lives on his own or have a family of his own . Him having an allowance was to show how to be responsible with money and now times are tuff and there’s no money to spare. At 15 if he really wishes to have his own money he should work. There plenty of places that hire at 15 & 14. Me personally I don’t believe in allowances because then kids believe they automatically have a right to it instead of every one doing there part to make things easier and help each other.
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I don’t pay my kids allowances … I drive them to friends and outings for free … I buy them chips and treats for free and I pay for their subscriptions … they are 14 and 16 and my 16 year old works … he buys clothing and shoes that he wants and if he goes for lunch with his friends he pays for himself …
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Do you make your other children buy their own deodorant and pay gas if they need to go somewhere? This fifteen year old shouldn’t have to either.
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Household chores are a part of living in a family home with everyone doing their part. No household member should ever charge for that
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Pay him his allowance and then let home go hungry for a few meals explaining to himself about budgeting and priorities where money is spent.
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pay him at a reduced rate. Increase game time (for now) and lessen chores (for now) needs to be a compromise.
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Make him WORK FOR IT!!! For now, take away the PlayStation and tell him it’s that or no allowance for now, AND in the future, he has to WORK FOR HIS ALLOWANCE!!! I got a dime a week for each grade I was in in the '70s, in 12th grade, I got a whole $1.20 per week, and I worked my ass off for it!!! I also had numerous outside jobs
It is the child support of $100 that he thinks is his entirely to spend as he wishes. He does not realize that $100 does not even cover his laundry bill a month.
I just want to say that I hope you take all of these comments with a grain of salt. I am really sorry that you’re struggling and hope that you can see a way out of the financial struggles soon because children don’t always understand those struggles and this can be a teachable moment for them… 15yo is definitely old enough to understand that things are tough right now and there is hope things can return to normal soon… Please don’t take any of the comment regarding your child support seriously when it comes to just giving it to him, that is ridiculous given your situation. I hope things start looking up for your family soon!
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Stop paying your children, make him get a job he’s old enough for most food places, he’s going to grow up to be an “entitled” douche if he has that mindset for the rest of his life living in your basement, I don’t know him but I don’t want that for him and I’m sure you don’t, set him straight, everybody has their part, and his now are chores, and will be his part for now until he gets a job, you can’t ask him to get a job, force him, and let him figure it out himself but have him apply to multiple, builds person and determination, let him know it’s ok to deny the first job the responds IF he gets other responses from the others. Also don’t make him buy his own hygiene, I understand what your doing, but until he’s out of the house or 18 he shouldn’t, but do make him buy his own stuff that he wants, that will set up for more responsibility with money and make him understand that he has to work for his wants
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I’d tell him to call c.p.s.and whine to them
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I’d ignore his tantrum until he was calm and then explain child support is for the things he NEEDS and an allowance is a privilege, not a right. He can get over it because there’s nothing to be done about it.
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Chores for dependent children are a required part of a healthy daily family dynamic. I don’t know if “doing chores” deserves an allowance. i would say not.
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It is summer. At 15 my son was cutting lawns for extras. Then he worked at Burger King. Oh, I forgot, he put aside some each month for college. Perhaps all your children should be contributing for their extras duing this rough time.
that cs money is his for him. no matter what the situation it’s not his fault you don’t have jobs . get jobs and give that kid his money. tf
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It’s called JOB!!! have him find one … no parents should NOT I repeat should Not have to pay their entitled Brats to do chores that is what’s wrong with society today… is responsiblies his child support should also be used as such to get him things he needs not wants their big difference he will get over it … let him throw fit mom and dad Just worry about Bill’s house etc… one dau he will realize just how much your guys ready do and provide for him and $80 month is pennies compared to what it really takes now a days to support a child
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No one pays me to vacume, cook dinner, wash clothes, drive to sports and activities, be a parent … Why would a child need paid to be a functioning part of a family. You are teaching them to be functioning adults who know how to survive without you one day, who will pay them to do those chores in their own home? … No one! You are not there to pay them to help in the house.They get fed, a warm bed, clothes, a home. I only paid my kids pocket money when they went above and beyond the norm … Mowed lawns, washed the car etc. Otherwise … Forget it. I’d be cutting the subscriptions and privelidges till he realised how good he had it.
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He can give up his playstation sub and hygiene products. $15 a week is over $60 dollars a month. His Dad should pay extra for his allowance.
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The most ridiculous 
I’ve ever heard 
Someone sounds like they should be handed everything in life. When he gets older he won’t get ‘paid’ to do those chores anymore!!! BASIC HUMAN RESPONSIBILITIES!
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Sit him down and go over all tje bills with him, dividing them by five to demonstrate what his share of the actual expenses would be, this includes rent, utilities, groceries, etc. Guarantee it is way more than the $80 a month you are getting for child support or the $15.00 he would get for doing his chores. He is more than old enough to learn about budgeting, prioritizing expenses, and how much things cost.
Just say no. Most kids have to work for an allowance. Nothing is free in this world
Why are both you and your husband NOT working? That just doesn’t make much sense to me and technically that $$ is his 
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If you call him your son why do u treat him different. Does ur 3 get presents at Christmas and he does not.
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We were never able to pay any of our 4 biological children but did provide them love, shelter, food and a chance to get out and work as soon as they were old enough and never even had to have any hairy discussions, they just KNEW that is how our family functioned! I am now almost 90 years old, my husband has been gone for a year but we still work TOGETHER as a family! We call it Teamwork!
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I teach parenting classes to parents within the CPS system to get their kids back.
Chores are part of a Nurturing Parent routine to teach children responsibility and independence. It should be integrated into their routines so they can grow up to be functional adults. Allowance is a privilege. It does not have to be a requirement.
If kids don’t do the chores, which could be a family rule, then they don’t get privileges. Break rules, suffer conquences.
So ignore the tantrum. When calm, discuss it with them on why it is this way. They continue to tantrum, don’t give the privilege back.
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Take his real father to court n get an amount if $$$$ that makes any sense at all!!! Y aren’t u fighting fir him like u would if he were your child???
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My allowance was a warm bed a roof over my head cloths for school etc don’t get me wrong if I wanted something I usually got it with in reason. I mowed grass for people and did little side jobs. Problem today kids won’t everything handed to them like the world owes them something well the world don’t. Just my thoughts
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Tell him to get a job. You need to stop enabling all of them with money allowance if you want to parent them. Your job is love, protect, guide them with morals, ethics, instill values. Ask yourself if you’ve done the last part. By the sound of it, you haven’t so start before its too late. Life is not about what you can’t afford to give them or not give them. It goes beyond superficial material crap not necessary. Have you taught them getting a job is how you make it before you learn how to spend it. Do they know how to save? Do they know how to control impulses? Since he is throwing such a pissy fit, you have to consider your parenting style. He is the way is he because of you guys.
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Yikes 
y’all as guardians need therapy into your own damn issues. Calling out a kid “who isn’t biologically yours” yet you bash him over not being yours and treat him entirely different then your biological kids…… sad… sad… shit! Get help!! Poor kid!!
Go put on big girl pants and suck it up …life
He’s 15 tell him to get a job
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Well then most of us who had to do chores was in slavery son so welcome to the club
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I’ve never given my kids an allowance. I’m not paying you for things you should be doing anyway. My oldest started working at 14 so she could pay for her own things that she wanted. I did as well.
I think I’m the only one who finds it weird that him not belonging to either of you biologically is the first thing you said
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15 is old enough for a job. And don’t agree to an allowance if you can’t hold up your end of the bargain….
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Tell them to go cut some grass or rake leaves etc That is what we used to do and younger then that
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When I was 13, I had a newspaper job that would only pay me $12.50 per route!
I was very lucky my parents used to help me fold the newspapers and would drive beside me as I deliver them into each letterbox.
I also did my own washing, cooking, walked everywhere I needed to go, and bought what I needed with the money I earnt from the job I had.
When I was 15 I picked up a full-time job in a Cafe. I would walk to work each day if my parents were busy, that never bothered me.
I was also contributing money towards rent, food, electricity and fuel at that age too.
I would clean the house and help out doing others washing as well. I never expected an allowance for doing the basic jobs that we have to do everyday in life.
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I’m on the fence about this. First I don’t believe any child should get an allowance for doing their daily chores. Those are things they should be doing regardless and nobody will pay them for doing them when they are older. Second, I don’t really like the attitude that he has over not getting an allowance while the family is struggling. Either he has a selfish mentality or he was raised with getting everything he wanted and so now has a fit when he doesn’t get it. As far as child support and why I’m on the fence. I believe that child support is for the child and should not be used for paying the bills, but at the same time it’s kind of unfair to the other children if he gets his allowance and they don’t. I also don’t agree with you making it a point to say he is not your child. You raised him from a baby… He is your child
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He seems ungrateful. Move him back with his cheap ass father and he’ll change his attitude.
Tell him to get a job. That money is to support him not pay for extra things
How about just eating your keep?!
Welcome to the new generation of teens
You shouldnt be paying them to do the chores. They need to learn how to clean their home for their own sake. When they grow up they know how to take care of their own family.
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My kids can get an “allowance” for extra stuff. But everyday chores are not paid. They are part of this family. They use everything in the house the same as I do. They make a mess the same (more) than I do. It is just part of being part of the family. Everyone in the home has responsibility to help this family run. Extra money is a privilege. I don’t get paid for doing chores. They certainly aren’t getting paid to clean their own room containing all of the things that I purchased.
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stick to your guns. Child support is just that to support the child. It is not to give them spending money.
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Gas and hygiene products? Do your other kids pay for their own too? I wouldn’t charge him for anything over and beyond what you have your other kids “pay for”. He’s been yours for 14 years, HE’S YOURS.
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I mean if that money is sent for him, he should be getting his money. Don’t use it for your other kids
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Toss him back into the system let him learn the hard way
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He should be treated equally.bc technically he is your kid if he’s been with u since he was 18 mths old.
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You’re joking right he lives there free of charge and he’s doing chores to pay his household stuff allowances aren’t guaranteed sorry
Get him a part time job.
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Man if I woulda acted like this when my dad was alive not only would I got my ass whooped, I wouldn’t have a PlayStation subscription or hand out with friends and he would have taken my allowance anyways and I would’ve never gotten it back. Tell him to call someone and report it if he feels that entitled to an allowance and see what they have to say. Kids get away with so much these days. I would have never gotten away with this
Myranda Merhaut she’s getting only $80 per month in child support, to care for and raise a child who isn’t hers. That involves food, clothes, cost of living, utilities , rent etc. It doesn’t say she’s using it for her other kids and not him…
child support is for the costs of raising the child, not to hand it all over to the child to spend how they please lmao. 80$ a month wouldn’t even cover the food expenses of a 15 year old boy , let alone anything else. It’s pennies
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Double the chores:rofl:
Doesn’t the state pay you if you have custody of someone else’s child?
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Let him get a job and earn his own spending money. I really hope you’re not treating him differently than your other kids. You’re the only parents he’s ever known. The chid support shouldn’t even be an issue. That’s meant to help keep a roof over his head and food in his belly.
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You not using him as an equal like the rest of your kids oafter 14 yrs is a huge red flag for me. Wow
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I’m sure you have neighbors who want their lawns mowed right? He can find work to do- time for a reality check! I had a job at 14.5 when it was legal in my state. My parents stopped paying for anything extra I wanted… and I turned out just fine. Like others have said- you shouldn’t be paid to pitch in around the house. We as parents don’t make ALL the mess… sounds like someone needs more responsibility!
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Sounds like that child is spoiled and entitled…yikes…
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I can see the PS subscription UT hygiene and gas is pretty controlling IMO
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Take him to all the shelters and volunteer him to food banks and see how it feels to “need an allowance” when people struggle everyday to earn their keep. He got it in his head that he is boss. If he thinks it’s illegal then have an officer have a talk with him about what the correct rules of the law are concerning children. If he can obtain an ID then he can go get a job if he thinks money is free.
Wow… some of y’all need to re-read what she said! She said NONE of them are getting an allowance right now. The 15 yr old thinks he still should get his because of the child support. She isn’t favoring her biological kids 
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Stop paying the playstation subscription and p
If he has a phone bill take that and give him the allowance instead of paying those
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HEY WAKE-UP FOLKS! NONE of the kids are getting an allowance. She’s NOT singling out the son that isn’t her biological child. There is NO “red flag.”She stated that none were getting allowances because they couldn’t afford it. The minuscule child support they receive is spent on the young man but he’s not satisfied. Read a post completely before you mount your high horse and go on the attack. The child she took in at 18 months is the only one throwing a fit!
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This kid is awesome. ‘Child slavery!’ seriously bypass the allowance and sign him up for a drama class he’s got a flare for it IJS talent recognizes talent. He might be the next James Franco or something make you all 
rich.
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It is not illegal or child slavery, he’d hate my house. My 6 yo has chores
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In my opinion, child support is between the parents and not the child at all.
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I’d give it to him for a month and not pay for anything it normally covers. Go to him every time you would normally use the money. See how he likes paying bills!
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Why does it even matter if he is biological or not. You clearly treat him different. You are the problem and wrong in This situation
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I mean, if he wants to get paid for working, let him get a part time job after school. It would benefit both parties.
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Plenty of jobs out there. Everywhere is hiring! Full and part time
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Get a job that’s what you should do
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To those of you saying she’s treating him differently, READ THE POST! NONE of the children are getting an allowance. My son tried that child slavery BS so I gave him a breakdown of what he owed me if I charged him for living there and then showed how little of it he could pay for with his chores. 
we all have chores, it’s part of being a family and helping out.
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Child slavery my God wait until he has to clean his whole house bloodly adult slavery
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Kids can feel when they get treated differently. Do you charge your kids gas? 
that’s fucked up. Js…
Y’all are straight trash for making differences between those kids and have had him since he was a baby. Way to go making a child feel less than. Divide that allowance between 4 kids and they should ALL be doing chores.
Sounds entitled and spoiled to me. Where I live a 15 year old can get a job with the parents permission. Send him out into the workforce and then let him see how hard it will be.
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I’d make him aware that getting allowance was a choice of yours not his right. He lives there, so he has a responsibility to contribute to the household…. He makes dishes, he makes laundry, he uses electricity etc.
You do “pay him” by making sure he has food, clothing, shelter and also by the things he doesn’t need…. Taking him to friends houses, buying him a PlayStation and that uses electricity too and anything else you do for him…. Child slavery 