These comments would be totally different if it was about a teenage girl 
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The gossip everyone knowing I didn’t come back home until I was 22 years old
Honestly, I don’t blame the son.
You need to respect that he probably feels his privacy has been violated.
The fact that you ”forced” him to come out as gay makes me concerned.
Does his sexuality have any business being yours? Doesn’t matter any age.
Do you think you could have completely over reacted with the naughty photos? The fact that he probably sharing them with a person that you have no business meeting is exactly what is probably happening.
You going to the police is a horrible idea.
Sounds like you need to let your son go, let him focus on school and stop trying to control everything or you might lose another child.
He will come home when he wants. Otherwise let him spread his wings.
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Yikes. 
All I’m going to say is, I’m 25 & haven’t talked to my mom in 6 years because she did things like this, which were always so extreme. I would leave him alone & let him come to you when he’s ready, because involving police was a horrible decision & he will probably be angry for a long time. He’s 16 & in college, it sounds like he’s doing good for his future & mature enough to handle that, leave him be.
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These comments are so rude. You are doing good momma. You are doing what is right for your son. He will understand later when he will grow up from his teenage. Your house your rules. If you have set rules , so children must follow them. He will contact you if he needs something. Just give him a time. I dont have teenage children but I do have 3 boys under 6 years but I am also going to set some rules which they must follow🌸
Why on Earth do you think this is okay? I get you setting boundaries in your home but to take the DS, that has his private pics on which could essentially get him in trouble you’ve completely lost yo mind. It seems as though you get spiteful when you don’t get your way when it comes to controlling your son
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I think there’s some elements missing in this story because I feel like you have a real reason to believe he is being groomed or you wouldn’t have involved the police…:if that is true then I understand.
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First- I will turn off the internet too. We have a 10:30 no calls/text rule and when broken I lock down the phone for a month. I don’t care if you guys don’t like it. Our kids spend way to much time on there phones! If I was concerned about grooming I would be having some conversation too. I go through my kids phone here and there- let me be clear!! Not to snoop but to ensure she’s being safe and she is aware of it! When I find something concerning, I will address it. It is my job to parent not be there friend! I am 100% sure I wouldn’t take her phone to the police over pictures, I would need more than that to flag that. It’s all about approach. Here’s the thing, non of us here know what you did or didn’t do before this post. How many times you’ve asked him to get off after a time, what the rules are and so on. At the end of the day, you set clear expectations, clear communication and then follow through.
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Y’all need therapy. There’s ways to handle it and you went a bit overboard. Apologize. Give him some time. He will be a different person by 18. Your grooming fear has sent you into overdrive.
He is 16, not 21. He doesn’t pay for the devices or the internet. So, 
. I have access to my childrens devices too. I bought them. I pay for the internet. If I felt the need to cut it off, I would.
Being groomed is a huge problem and these comments show me exactly how it happens. 
16 is not an adult. Period. Y’all really let your CHILD do whatever and let serious signs go… On wonder violence and all is skyrocketing. Ppl don’t parent. 
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If he took pictures of his on private and your other son at 13 seeing them now how did that terrified him I just don’t understand they both have the same thing their both boys . I wouldn’t have nothing to do with you either if you turned me in to the police it’s not like he committed a murderer or something and you need to turn him in that was his private stuff and if he ain’t out molesting nobody and it’s just showing his penis to his boyfriend . looks like you done this to yourself .
Well if he sent the picture he could also be arrested on porn distribution you should have communicated better with him
This is terrible you went about this so wrong that I don’t even have words.
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Nope. If he is sending his d**k pics to a grown ass man, that is a nope. You made the right call. 16 is still a child.
Your mother is totally wrong for keeping him from you and probably putting it in his head that you’re the evil one… sorry this is happening to you… I would get the cops and get him back, you’re his mother they can’t keep him from you… and get a restraining order on them from taking him back, sorry you have to play hard ball at this point because he is being hard headed… I honestly can’t believe he’s been there 8 months 
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Umm… he’s 16… you can go get him and there’s nothing he or the grandparents can do…HOWEVER you went about all of that the WRONG way… I will say that…
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Until youve had a teenager or 2 people as l have you dont understand. You were VERY within your rights to report it to police…And yes if he was staying up all night on the internet YES you had reason for concern and the RIGHT as his mum to get to the bottom of things.They are always up to no good if theyre doing this. You are probably right about someone grooming him…he’s only 15! …his grand parents have done the wrong thing…he’s YOUR child!..You will never win this argument with him.You need to get on with your life now and stop stressing over him.He is on his own path and you cant stop it happening. No matter what you do from here on it will never be a win /win situation.Once kids hate you for delving into his private life he will never forgive you. Please move on as l should have years ago trying to help and reach my daughter.
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I agree with you that your younger son got traumatized over having his picture on internet but I would have maybe made him do counseling and letting him know that it wasn’t right and embarrassing to his brother. But to get the police involved wasn’t to smart. It’s against the law for one thing to send naked pic over internet which could get your son in trouble. I really don’t know too many mothers to turn their sons into the police and expect your son to come back to you in open arms
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Am I the only one who read that as he has pictures of the 13 yr olds penis? Why else would the 13 yr old be traumatized? I’m sure he’s seen his brothers penis before. If that’s the case, she was absolutely right to go to the police! After reading all of the these comments I understand why there are so many disrespectful jerks in this world! Apparently being a concerned parent makes you a horrible person! I mean, how dare a parent be concerned about who her teenage child is on the phone with all night long? How dare a parent be concerned because their child broke down in tears? The one thing I think was wrong was to ask if he was gay… that had absolutely nothing to do with him being up all night, keeping others up all night, or being groomed.
YOU are the parent here, NOT your son! This is the problem with kids these days! These kids need some discipline the Bible talks about! Dont listen to these other people. You have EVERY right to look into this. I do believe going to the police is a bit harsh and controlling. Do yall have God in your lives? If not read your Bible, itll tell you EXACTLY what needs to be done, but do ut with love, not control!
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Wow you’re crazy controlling no wonder he left
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Lady, YOU are the problem in yours and your son’s relationship. You overstepped on your 16 year old sons privacy and then brought YOUR SONS penis pictures to the police. You know that’s actually pretty normal for a 16yr old boy right. Why were you letting your younger son use your older sons things while he was gone. I would disown you too.
Side note, my parents had the internet turn off at 10pm on school nights and 11pm on weekends… that’s not the problem. Your lack of boundaries on your teenage boy is the problem.
He’s 16, he needs to learn boundaries rules and respect. I’m not sure what the laws are but legally his grandparents CANNOT keep you from your child especially your minor child. They can get in to trouble or for that too. If I were you I’d make him come home whether he wants to or not. You are his mother. You make the rules. Not him. You’re not being unreasonable, you’re being a parent. He needs to respect that. He needs to learn he can’t always get what he wants and he needs to learn healthy habits. I don’t know one parent that would allow their child to stay up all night on the phone especially keeping others up.
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Does she know filing a police report could possibly ruin his entire life? They could charge him for sexual crimes…
From finding a picture on his device. Smh…
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He is 16 then u can make him come back
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As a mother I understand your concerns. Also as a mother of a gay teenager you don’t force them to answer that question. That is a total invasion of privacy. They will tell you when they are ready. He’s 16 and if his boyfriend is also 16 and they were sending each other nudes, no it shouldn’t be happening but what can you do? At some point your children are going to grow up into people who are interested in sex. He’s 16 not 12 and while he is still young and immature he’s also at an age of curiosity. Questioning him the way you did about being gay is understandably hurtful to him. Going to the police bc he took pictures of himself is wrong. So wrong. You could have done more digging on your own to see who he was sending them to. The only advice that I have to give is apologize and hope that one day he feels comfortable with you again. Also, maybe think about your own actions and the things that you are going to say before doing/saying them.
did we forget 16 year olds are underage and it’s a parents job to keep them safe from possibly being groomed?? I’m sorry, but sending dick pics at 16 is too much, y’all apparently don’t have any boundaries. I’m grown and don’t send naked photos and never have, it’s inappropriate.
Honestly you should of respected his privacy. It’s like violating his rights of privacy
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You did the right thing - he could have been at risk of a groomer. Keep letting him know you love him. He’ll come around.
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You did nothing wrong he might hate you now but one day he will forgive you because all in reality you’re doing nothing but trying to protect him whether he likes it or not good luck and hope things works out
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What. Is. Wrong. With. You!? After you hounded him over and over and over he told you he’s gay and has a boyfriend. Your the reason he already doesn’t want to be there, then you go and find him taking nudes and tell the police on him?! You’re sick. You do know pedos are smart and can hardly ever be traced so really all you did is likely get your son in trouble for sharing child p@rn, and if he’s telling the truth about being gay, and having a boyfriend then you’ve gotten that boy in trouble for receiving it as well and you still have no idea if you’re just insane or not. Respect this kids wishes and leave him be, you’ve traumatized him enough. It’s more likely than not he simply wasn’t ready to tell you for one reason or another (I’d look within yourself for that explanation). All of your actions tell me there is something very wrong with you, and your son, and his grandparents are right to stay away from you.
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Your kid can get charged with creating and distributing child pornography. And you turned him in. Potentially landing him on registries and costing him his entire future.
No, ma’am.
Someone I know was groomed by a grown Man and I think you have every right to make sure he’s talking to someone of his own age. What kinda mother wouldn’t protect their child From a potential predator .He is not a adult. So I’m not sure why everyone thinks their minor child should be entitled to all that privacy.
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You were in the wrong to force him out the closet, plain and simple. Just because some of y’all think “it’s not a big deal” doesn’t mean that it wasn’t a traumatic thing for him to be forced into talking about. Try to put yourself in the other persons shoes. Empathy people. Empathy.
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Going to the police over pictures was too far imo. If you caught him sending the photos I could maybe understand that but you’re jumping to conclusions and ruining the relationship with your son. Turning off the internet and looking through devices
Is what responsible parents do but I think your approach is wrong. Y’all need counseling. That’s the only way this relationship is going to be fixed at this point.
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involving police definitely escalated.
give your child space. start conjoint family therapy for all three.
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Hes 16 and rebelling… whatever he is going through, has nothing to do with you. You are just the easy target to blame. You could be right thinking he is being groomed, and you did the everything I would have done. I suggest you try talking to the grandmother and asking he to see sense and speak to him.
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You can’t force them all you can do is wait until they see the reality and love with the consequences of what they have made thete life in to. Other wise they will resent you and not appreciate who you are and what they have.
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Hugs Momma… we love our kids but there is still such things as respect, communication and boundaries. Taking the system to the police for investigation was way far! … You need to apologize and respectfully communicate with him… I’m sorry your going though, but this time you gotta check the mirror first… 
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Just leave him at grandparents before u get in trouble too
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You’re legit ruining his life
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It’s sad that’ the grand parent knew first an didn’t bring it to your attention im sure his grandpa knows he is just in denial an they both stay out of each other way his grandma has told him to stay in secret probably an has told him he can always live there an be happy blah blah but she should have told u first I’d be upset an wondering what she has filled his head with he is a minor an a runaway I’d call the police an have him escorted bacc home enroll in counseling an just try to establish communication u an him go to dinner or something it’s crucial that u talk to him
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Sounds to me she’s doing her job as a parent. We have 4 grown kids who all knew they were not gonna hide stuff from us. We paid the internet bill, cell bills and pd for the computers. They owned nothing and if I asked them to give me the phone or computer, it was handed over no questions asked. No my children do not hate us now that they are grown because of the way that we raised them. 3 are now married and are parents themselves, the other 1 is getting married next month. I think there’s too many parents trying to be their kids friend instead of being their parent. As parents we are obligated to question everyone and everything that comes in contact with our children. They are kids, they need to be steered in the right direction. This world has went down the toilet since I was a teen. There’s so much bad crap in this world that us parents need to fight to keep our kids safe. Hold up your head Mama, you did what you felt was right for YOUR child!
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You accept his sexuality which is great but if he wasn’t ready to come out to you yet and he feels that was forced out of him then I can see why he feels the way he does. That needed to be something he told you on his terms and his own time. Getting the police involved with his DS was extreme. I understand the brother was shocked but he could have gone to counseling for that. To get the police involved when your son isn’t 18 yet is a big violation of privacy and trust. Now if your son was 18 and sending them to minors, yes please be the responsible parent and send that info to the police. But it could have just honestly been he’s taking pictures of himself. I’m sure you did the same when you were a teen…people who say they never sent a dirty picture are full of crap.
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What even makes u think he’s sending to someone whose older ? I mean I would at least find out if it’s someone his own age or not I mean it def wasn’t something u should of gone to police about without knowing anything about the other person, geez I mean if u caught him masturbating would u have called the PoPo on him good lord, oh heavens or porn 
he’s 16 and testing the waters or whatever I dunno totally over dramatic
I feel for all parents who have been through this and are going through this. I have been through this myself with my eldest and now am going through this again. I have tried many different things and have still felt like a complete failure as a mother in all of them. Then I started to realise that even though they are not of legal age to move out by themselves, they are using the law to do what they are wanting to as the law is on their side. I then started to think that if they want to go down this road and be like this, I will let them as then they can figure out on their own, that life is not the way they think it is, and it will just get harder for them of they don’t start respecting rules and boundaries. The grass is never greener on the other side and you have to make your own grass green so as you can be a better person and have a better life. I hope things work out for you in the end everyone, as I am hoping the same will for my situation
It was all good until you took his DS to police. You’re just starting to ruin his life.
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He’s going to college and he’s sixteen, that says something right their. Let him live with his grandparents. He may not of been really to come out…which is a personal thing. Maybe a few years down the line he may want to see and talk to you.
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Nicole Bailey she can call the cops for 2 years but…she will be lucky he stays 2 years and ever speaks to her again or comes home during holidays. It may be on her death bed when he decides to even acknowledge her
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wow!
to the police. are you serious??? you can see who he sent it to on there yourself! holy shit
jesus christ id stay away from you as well if you did that shit
that’s unacceptable
even as his mom, asking questions was enough and now you got the police involved over kids being kids and now everyone probably knows what your doing to him and now his life is a mess bc his mom is outrageous
grow up and leave him alone for a while
I really hope the cops don’t find anything. But if they do find he was sending to some pervert, i hope they catch the adult who is harming kids.
Honestly, let him stay woth his grandparents. Let him come around in his own time, in his own way.
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Maybe an unpopular opinion but hes 16…which means if he wants to live w his grandparents, that only happens w ur consent. The cops will make him go home.
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Yikes on bikes lady 
no wonder id run too
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I don’t see why everyone is siding with the teenager when he obviously being disrespectful to his mother and throwing a tantrum
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The mom didn’t do him dirty. 1. He isn’t an adult. 2. Highly doubt he pays the bills. 3. Pretty sure Mom paid for the DS. 4. Pretty sure Mom pays for the internet. 5. She’s the mother he’s the child. She set rules, she told him no more phone calls after 10 and she took privileges away when those was broken. As for the DS if I pay for something for MY child then I as the PARENT have the right to look through it as I please. As far as sexuality, internet, phones, DS ect. as long as MY child is under MY roof EVERY thing is MY business there is no “privacy” when it comes to parenting. The mother is right and the child is wrong in this situation actually a little ungrateful and entitled… that’s what’s wrong with this days generation y’all want to call y’all selvs “parents” when in reality y’all acting more like their friend, too scared to have them mad at you. Naw I’m a mama first and friend Hella last… like my grandmother always said if they ain’t mad at you then you’re doing it wrong.
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Can people please stop bashing this mother
There are faults on both sides
She has no issue with him being gay and having a boyfriend
What she does have issues with is his attitude towards household/family rules , his attitude and disrespect
As for taking photos of his sibling “for a joke” and putting them on the internet for every one to see
I would run straight to the cops as well
Its great the grandmother is accepting that he is gay
But yet she won’t tell the grand father for only reasons they know
You go Moma Bear
You have to protect your other cub
Also the grandparents need to step back
This is between you and your son
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Society is grooming our children!! It’s time we take control over what our children are being exposed to. Taught in schools. Get them back in church
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Oh man…….I can’t say I wouldn’t have been furious with my mom if she did this to me at 16. That’s a heck of a lot of pressure coming from all ends. I would start by apologizing. Loosen the reigns and give the young man some privacy at 16. He is learning how to be an adult now. You also didn’t even confirm he was talking to older men before taking the pictures to the police this was based off an assumption - how humiliating for him and he wasn’t even ready to tell you he was gay…now the whole police station knows PLUS knows all the personal details please stop. Trust would probably get you a lot further with your son than the aggressive approach.
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Kids are hateful assholes at times I was. And you cant tell them anything. Parents being over protective can make some rebel more and hide things. Let him make mistakes and learn
You seem very controlling, not letting him live his life or make his decisions. Even if there is photos between him and his boyfriend that his choice! I was 16 with a 22 year old guess what I married him at 17!!! Because of a mother like you! I left and have never been back I no longer speak to my mother and I will never again! 21 years later she is out of my life!
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If I was your son I’d be outta there in a heartbeat too you sound like an absolute nightmare too live with
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Keshawn LaPlante feelings on this? Cuz I’m over here likeeeee
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Totally sounds like being groomed especially since he wa crying and can’t go with the internet. Sounds all to familiar to me.
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1.) you did force him to come out before he was ready. you shouldn’t have needed to know if he was gay because all you needed to know was that he was safe. if you would have taught him the signs of online abuse or gone over them w/ him, you wouldn’t have to worry.
2.) involving police was a touch above what was necessary. if you bought that DS, it’s legally your property which means that legally, you’re the one in possession of CP. as a person who had technology seized by police because of someone else sending unsolicited photos, it’s miserable and he 100% will resent you for it.
3.) you are absolutely making his life harder. he’s 16, he’s rebelling the same as any other 16 year old. he’s going to be a ticking time bomb until he gets it out of his system and turning to the police rather than parenting him sure isn’t helping, clearly.
4.) your youngest shouldn’t have been on a device that wasn’t his, allowing it was your fault. should he have taken the photos? no, but if you’re allowing his brother to go through his things, i don’t blame him for not getting on w/ him and feeling like you’ve disrespected his privacy for allowing it to happen in the first place.
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He’s 16 years old. Unless a legal document states otherwise, he doesn’t have the option to move out and your mother has no right to deny you access. Go get him. After you do, I would highly recommend diving into some family therapy with an open mind. I think your heart was in the right place. I think you were right to cut the internet. I don’t think you should have pushed the coming out conversation. While I personally know there IS a time and place to go to the police, I think you jumped the gun. My only child is still younger than your son, I’ve not been there yet. While those are my opinions, I don’t feel comfortable offering more advice. I hope a therapist can help your family iron these issues out further & that things improve. 
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Definitely sounds like he is being groomed! Honestly mumma, you are doing the right thing!
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You should’ve went about it a whole different way. You did force him to admit he was gay. Which was wrong. It’s okay to want to know if your child is gay but you should’ve waited until he was comfortable coming out. He should have been more respectful but you could’ve handled the situation differently.
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I don’t understand why you needed to ask him at all if he was gay, why did it matter if you didn’t care cause doing it that way you absolutely did force him. I think you crossed alot of lines. Yes I understand the being afraid if he’s being groomed and okay turn the internet off at night, as a parent that makes sense. But asking those questions and taking his DS to the police is extreme. He’s 16 & in college. He’s obviously an intelligent young man. Maybe you need to have more faith in your child. I think he’s better off at his grandparents honestly. Sorry
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Wow wow Momma I hate to say this but you are in the wrong in so many ways !!!
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Move on and tell him see ya 
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Look babe…me and my daughter went through HELL for years from 14-19 but I never stopped doing what was best for her as her mother. She hated it and me at the time…but when she grew up she realized everything I did was for her. We r closer now than ever cause I was the only one who didnt give up, didnt quit.
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Sounds like finding both individual counselling is important for you & your kids. Once you’ve all done some individual work in therapy, let your therapists discuss group sessions.
As a person who no longer speaks to my mother, I would encourage you to look both at his needs & your role in the struggles. This seems like you’ve put it in his lap for owning the struggles but it comes across as narcissistic, possibly the reason he is distancing. At that age he has to begin learning how to be his own person, less distrust & ‘Im calling the cops’ and more ‘we need to find a way for you to be a young adult while also respecting the others in the home’.
You’ll never GAIN respect by giving him no respect & privacy.
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You did force him, as someone who came out to their parents and family it is something that takes time and needs to be on the person coming outs time frame, or it can be traumatizing… and I cannot believe you went to the police or believe your other son is actually traumatized from seeing another penis. He sees it in porn if he’s watching pornography, which now a days they watch that stuff younger and younger. Idk I feel like you really did this wrong and pushed him away. At the same time, if you really have a gut feeling I understand just wanting to help your son, but he can’t legally move out at 16
I would say you completely lost his trust on all aspects. He obviously wasn’t ready to “come out” or you would have known, he is 16 probably needs the internet for homes, my 16 year old stays up late doing homework, taking it at 10pm for a 16 year old lol, and you are totally invading his privacy on more than one level, and to make it worse took his personal DS to the police station without knowing whats actually on it wow. Ya obviously your worried and concerned but damn you went way too far, no wonder he won’t come back and says you lost him. You hv a lot of work to do.
Involving the police was completely unnecessary in my opinion. I dont blame him for being mad.
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You should have never involved the police. That makes him even more resentful to you .
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Y’all need some therapy. Big time.
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You do realize that since you handed his DS to the police with nude pictures on it that they could charge HIM with distribution of child porn, right??
The pics prob arent normal but you should take him to a counselor not the police. He prob wont ever trust grown ups again. Teens need their parents to talk to without judgement. Ive always given my sons space/boundaries when i could. We are still very close. It really pays off in the long run to meet them halfway when you can, the communication/relationship is much better. You should look into counseling too. Parenting isnt easy for any of us we all screw up/need to learn from others/get put on the spot and make bad decisions.
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I’m just shocked you brought his stuff to the police. That is so embarrassing. I would be so pissed if I were him.
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U don’t fail haven a gay son u fail when u don’t support him he wants support and love give it to him
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I get a feeling you are maybe leaving stuff out.No child is gonna leave home because the internet goes off at 10 and why won’t his grandparents let you in their house?? It sounds like you are overstepping boundaries and being controlling amongst other things and running to the police on assumptions?It’s not hard to see why you have lost trust.
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Just take a break he’ll be back, just because he was taking pictures of it does not necessarily mean he sent it to anyone, he is embarrassed! Just take a break and let him come to you because eventually he will.
This is why i left my mom. So controlling. Invading privacy. Never trusting me or being open and honest. You crossed so many lines. Hes learning how to be an adult, hes learning who he is. And instead you took all sense of hey i can trust my mom away and made him run like hell. I did this too and im sorry but i agree with the ones who say you are wrong.
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You didn’t force him to do anything.
My child lashed out when I turned the internet off too…I know the termoil it can cause.
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It’s understandable to worry about your children and although when I first read that you went to police my first thought was that you may have embarrassed your child, his safety is understandably most concerning. It’s tough at his age, knowing he will soon be an adult and be able to do whatever he chooses. Since you have already had months apart,my suggestion would be to make sure he doesn’t feel judged, but loved unconditionally. At his age, and being college bound it’s important to give him somewhere he wants to come back to… TO COME HOME TO.
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Sweetie- you can’t force him to do anything right now. The more you pursue him the farther he’s going to go. As far as his DS - sorry about the lil’ one getting his eyes opened - but he’ll be okay. I know your heart hurts but hes gotta find his place in world. He’s dealing with emotion that he thinks you have no clue about. But Mommas do. Sometimes when we get “outed” before we are ready to - we shut down. Just trust n believe you raised him right and give him a lil’ space.
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Sadly there is nothing you but continue to love him. Continue to message or make contact the best you can. Continue to let him know you love him accept him and am only acting out of concern for him. My son had no contact with me for 7 years. It was torture for me. But I continued to write him through FB messenger. And now he lives with me again… and has for many years now.
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Make him come back home. I made the same mistake with my daughter. He belongs with you and needs to have rules
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You’re overstepping. I was an adult with a child of my own and my mom would call the cops if I went out on a walk alone. She’s gone now unfortunately but I did tell her how harmful her overprotective behavior was years ago. I used to walk to the library so I could email my now husband. At those times I didn’t have my son in my care so I had free time. We met on a forum online. She was never comfortable with that. But we’re nearing on 16 years of marriage so she had nothing to worry about. He’s been a better dad to my son than his bio father. As a teenager though it’s okay to be concerned but you really should voice “hey I’m okay with your sexual preference but I do worry that the people you are talking to are sexual predators.”
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Woooooow yeah I wouldn’t come home either
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No you are wrong and manipulative I don’t feel sorry for you and I hope he stays far from you . You are just disgusting embarrassing your child and getting the police involved what kind of mother wow
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Involvement with the police was probably his last straw!!! If you want your son back then try and have his back!!! He doesn’t need the police involved!!
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Wait awhile and get off his back.
Sounds like everyone needs some counseling, you said he’s 16 but already in College? Kids think that’s the worst thing they can tell a parent, a parents love is unconditional ( most parents anyway) and the fact that he’s gay doesn’t change anything, you need to sit him down and explain this to him and get some counseling as well, he’s not an adult so you can make him come home but that might make things worse I’m sure. His young mind is probably trying to process it all just like you are.
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Firstly, I can’t blame him for not wanting anything to do with you. He’s 16. He’s a teenager. He’s gonna be sneaky. But controlling him isn’t the answer.
Leave the kid alone and let him come back when he’s ready.
Curiosity kills the cat… I’m with Ur son on this … and understand boundaries… U have raised him from right n wrong… trust in Ur teachings… he will do right by you and when he’s ready he will let you in… Trust, boundaries, and some patients…
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Probably dating and older person who he perceives he is “in love with”. You send the DS too the cop shop and his so called boyfriend could disappear and never talk to him again. Plus online groomers make threats of leaving their underaged victims if anyone were to actually find out. So that could be why hes saying “you are not my mom anymore” being drastic to get you not to ask the police . Just a guess.
Omg why would you call the police on him??? He is probably already soo embarrassed!! Just let him calm down and back off a bit while he tries to find himself. 
he’s a young man now you can’t control him.
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I don’t blame him one single bit. You did in fact force him to come out and that it such a violation of HIM as a PERSON. He calmed up for a reason, you are not entitled to his deepest secrets. Then to top it off you called the police because he took a picture of his penis… who the actual fuck does that?! If he was talking to and or sending a penis pic with his DS it was clearly over as the DS is at your house. So instead of him learning that he can trust you you’ve given him every single reason not too. I would wash my hands of you for the rest of my life if you violated my privacy over and over again.
Also, if your other son was traumatized over seeing a penis you’re failing him too. 
Also also, to every moron on here telling her to go him, DONT the hell you’ve put him through is walking a fine line of psychotic. Let him heal is a safe environment. He deserves better. 
For crying out loud people. She’s a worried momma. I don’t blame her for turning off the wi fi. He 16. He can live without it while he’s sleeping. Its not like she’s beating him. she just wants some RESPECT. She’s worried about who he’s talking to on line.
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