With having raised daughters and especially one who always hogged the bathroom for well over an hour at a time, maybe make a schedule, make him go last at night or he can simply ask if anyone needs in the bathroom for the next hour or however long he feels he needs. Also if u feel the need to charge him money, maybe put that money away and use it as a saving plan for him so that he actually has some money saved for when he moves out. We try and raise our children to be responsible and respectful adults so we also have to treat them as such. Goodluck with ur new baby 
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My 30 year old boyfriend takes just as long in the bathroom. 
My 16yr old has his shower last now coz otherwise there’s a line outside the door & people switching the light on & off to get him out, lol. Thank goodness they grow up & move away. Eventually they pay their own power & water & realise some things about life 
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Definitely stick to the No phone in the bathroom thing, maybe start offering it back to him once he’s shown he can infact use the bathroom in less than 45 mins lol, other than thattttt you’d be surprised the amount of stuff other male roommate’s put up with from friends & just guys in general, they live by a different set of rules and I’ve seen men i would never be able to live with exist in a house with at least 2 other men for over a year so, you’d be surprised
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My 13 yr old does this crap too. Its so selfish!
We are a family of 5 and I am 36 weeks pregnant. 1 bathroom. Here is what we have done to help this…
He is no longer allowed to bring his phone into the bathroom. If we find out he had it in there. We take it.
Everyone in this house asks everyone else if they need the bathroom before taking a shower.
If you intend to take a shower but have just taken a long time on the toilet … ask again before getting in the shower.
3 of 5 people in this house have IBS/colitis. 1 pregnant woman.
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Tell him he’ll have to be the last to use the bathroom
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He is choking the duck let him be.
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Take his phone away who is paying his phone he needs to have respect maybe you need to put a rent a john in the yard take him camping w/ out no phone let him bath in the creeks see how hw does kids don’t have no respect these days parents buys cars for them let them work for it
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No phone in the bathroom and see how fast he’s out😂
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No phone in bathroom , 10 minuets in the shower is enough … Think its a male thing my son use to have a bath then a shower . But i had seperate toilet … All the best …
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The joys of teenagers
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I have 3 teenagers (2 m 1f) all 3 do the same thing… the lock broke on the door and I have yet to replace it. Helped me solve that problem though
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Ummm…are you me:woman_shrugging:t4: me my son husband all of us had this EXACT same problem fast forward hes still at home and 20 years old has a job and a girlfriend so he doesn’t have time for that anymore 
My 17yr old son does the same so following
should put a time limit near the bathroom stating that there is only a 10 minute to use bathroom ! remember there is other people in the home also whom need to use it to ! try this and if that don’t work ------ while he’s living there make him get a job . when he is 18 years just tell him he is no longer living in home for free any more - unless he starts paying rent - which would amount to approx. $450.00 /mth. which would included his meals , but not in his room . cleaning of room / no friends over past 11p.m.- if he don’t like it he can move out! and only 10 minutes top for use of bathroom
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If you think anything besides choking his chicken 
than you need to come to reality, kids 17 he needs to get himself a GF pornhubs bad for your health.
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Make it a rule. No phones in the bathroom.
I wanna start off saying he’s probably handling his teenage urges. Which should be done in his room with a Do Not Disturb sign. But besides that, as long as there is privacy aka curtain, we just knock and go really quick. Family of 5 and 1 bathroom. And i agree with no phone in bathroom. My oldest is 9 but we have a no electronics rule while eating or in bathroom or outside.
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Rent a port-a-potty and put it in the back yard.
You’re 100% right no phone in bathroom! He’s being very immature and selfish have hi. Take a number go back to the back if the line e!
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Good luck with that one …… give him a bucket lol lol
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Turn off the wifi when he’s in lol
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I have 2 Sons at home 18 n oldest 26 just came back, both do the same thing 
lucky we have 3 toilets
People can’t control their kids nowadays. You never corrected them when they were young. So they haven’t been taught no manners or considerations for no one.
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Do the same thing to him when hes really gotta go!
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Hand him a roll of toilet paper/box of tissues and some lotion and tell him to keep that shit in the privacy of his own room lmao. Even if that’s not what he’s been doing he will be too embarrassed to take too long in the washroom since he knows that you’ll assume, he’s enjoying his own company haha
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I’d pound on the door and scream I need to use the bathroom! If anyone has an accident he gets to clean it up!
Open the door and tell him he better finish up soon or else.
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Well it’s 2022, time to build a second bathroom, poor kid. lol
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Not allowing him to take the phone in will change that immediately!!!
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My goodness if this wasn’t my teen hood… Idk if it’s a guy thing or what but my dad and brother would take about the same time if not longer on the toilet. My dad would read but my brother just didn’t have a good “excuse”. Me and my brother shared a bathroom and my dad and step mom shared the other. My dad would go in ours to do this. It was so frustrating for me. If I really had to go I would ask step mom to go in theirs.
Edit: And OMG the stink.
5 people and 1 bathroom yikes! I would put a porta potty in your yard. Or a self containing biodegradable toilet.
Take the door off and put a curtain up!
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Son and hubby are always like that lol. When my son was still so young, I always have issues on hubby being so long having a shower. When son became adult and had a shower, hubby complained about how long the boy was having a shower…I said it’s the pot calling the kettle black. 
Now that we are older and kids were out of home, I am so happy that I have my own shower (I don’t use bath) and toilet and hubby has his own. And the friggin Government want us to downsize?! WTF:face_with_symbols_over_mouth:
No phone in the bathroom is a good start. He will be in there for what he needs and will get out, so he can get his phone I’m sure lol. You could also make a shower schedule and find another alternative for restroom emergencies, since you have a 5:1 ratio. Like even a handicap toilet. I mean it would require extra cleaning, but you do what you have to do.
Lol mom wake up ket him alone for a minute
Put a toilet in to help this closet above tolite no one waited
Start going into his room for 45 mins + just to chill and unwind. Sit on a chair in there and play on your phone for ages.
If he asks wtf you’re doing - explain to him that it’s tit for tat. You monopolize the bathroom and your room is up for the same kind of treatment from everyone else. Tell your other kids to go play in there loudly too
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Turn off the router and WiFi.
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You sure that’s what’s going on in there? 
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He found out what his hands are used for. 
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Ban taking phones to the bathroom
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Since there’s only one bathroom yes put your foot down on that . I hope he has his own bedroom. Yeah no phone in bathroom.
Be firm on the no phone rule
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Been there done that with 5+ people and one bathroom it’s not easy.
Time to move into bigger house or put in a 2nd bathroom. That’s alot of people for only 1 bathroom if this is a continuing issue time to fix the problem. I realize rent/ housing is expensive. This is meant to be helpful. You have another baby on the way in an already full house. Time to prioritize accomodations for more bathrooms/ bedrooms if needed, so everyone has their space.
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Mine does that too, but hey when you gotta go that shower curtain better be closed cause im coming in lol
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Are you sure he doesn’t have a medical reason why it’s taking him so long. Had this issue with my oldest and found out he has IBS-C.
2 teenage boys here…tell him to do it in his room lol
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Not you invading another person’s privacy and busting into the bathroom. Learn some fucking boundaries. What’s selfish is what y’all did. He’s entitled to time in the bathroom and if it takes him that long to use the facilities, then it takes him that long. Y’all can hold it the same way you’d make him hold it if YOU were in there. As for you being pregnant, that piece of info is irrelevant. Nobody told you to spread your legs and get knocked up. You chose to, you deal with the consequences
Tell him his palms are gonna get hairy
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…it’s not just his phone he’s playing with
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You’ve got to be kidding!!! 
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Remove the lock and just walk in on him after a certin time lol
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This isn’t rocket science. Tell him he’s not allowed to take his phone in the bathroom. Problem solved. Then you know if it’s really a problem with him having to use the bathroom or he’s just using it as a desk
If he doesn’t know by now to be considerate of others he ain’t gonna learn it now. SMH
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In my house kids can’t be in the bathroom with devices anyway and neither can the boyfriend
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you know when you read something and you think man these people shouldn’t have children this is one of those times… 
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Tell him sitting on the toilet that long can cause hemroids. Youre pregnant. Im sure you can give him first hand accounts of how much they completely suck.
It ain’t just the phone. Get him a chastity device,he jerkin off at that age lol
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Well to be honest…my son is way is younger but nephew is a year older than your son at this time. My motto has been when they are too long I yell right at the door " drop ya cock grab ya socks and shit and get outta there!!" . Usually enough to embarrass especially if you pretend you are on the phone with someone …yeah that’s all I got. However paying rent is an idea or let him save and help him move along!
Jesus! Make sure he has his own bedroom and some extra $$$ for lube and you will have some more bathroom time. This has to be a fake post or you are an idiot. What the hell you think he needs that alone time for? LOL!
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Turn off the wifi when he goes in.
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Take his phone away. Take the lock off the door.
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He’s jacking off looking at porn. Duh! How about you express that to him and see if he goes somewhere else for minutes of privacy
Y’all are some assholes in the comment section.
if you have that many children, you should’ve BEEN thought about the 1 bathroom you have. It’s not his fault you didn’t prepare properly for you family. Time to find a new house with more bathrooms available if you have 5 kids and are pregnant, YOU are being the ridiculous one with expecting them all to use one toilet. Also, he’s a fkn teen. The kids obviously having his “personal” time in there, since it’s the only bathroom to do so in. You are the actual inconsiderate one here imo!
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Meanwhile I thought It was normal for any male to chill in the bathroom for 45 mins
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Timer… when the bell goes off, you open the door. He needs a specific time frame (15 minutes etc) and clear boundaries for him to suceed… saying he’s taking “too long” could mean 10 minutes or 10 hours to him. If he can get out on his own in the set time frame he can have his phone. If not, no phone. If still no, have a clear consequence and follow through. You also need to explain to him clearly that he is being disrespectful to others when he is taking so long and it will not be tolerated in your home.
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Easy… no phones in bathroom.
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Ummmm he’s handling business in there, not going to the bathroom or showering. I bet he doesn’t have a lock on his door. Give the boy privacy
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Lmao my two sons nephews spend any where from 45 to an hour on the toilet when they go to the bathroom. Their 28, 23, 29 & 31. Their men. It’s what men do when they go to the bathroom 
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Im a mama of 3 teen boys and i can tell you thats just what they do 
thank god i have 3 bathrooms one being in my bedroom so they only use it if other two arw occupied
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You have seriously got to be kidding me ! He’s a young man ! And because you can not provide him privacy, you want to charge him rent !
You need to look within yourself! Why keep having kids if you can’t even understand how to parent the ones you have !
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Let him shit in peace
At his age your child is damn inconsiderate. You have some really good suggestions listed. Follow them.
I can relate to this in so many ways
Awwww. I’m guessing this is your first son that’s actually in puberty? I raised 5 boys! 5!! Not only do they spend an extraordinary amount of time on the bathroom, but good luck with keeping shampoo, condition, soap, baby oil, vaseline, anything that could be of ahem “assistance” to them. It was around my oldest turning 14/15 that I taught him and my older boys to wash their own clothes and bed sheets……good luck!
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Maybe, just maybe hes trying to take a crap. How can he 
if people are constantly outside the door banging on it. I have 4 kids, 3 being boys and they take awhile in the bathroom even without the phone. Maybe start searching for another place to live with more than 1 bathroom. I personally find it rather disturbing that you all would invade his privacy while hes trying to shower as well.
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Give him a taste of his own medicine, and teach him a lesson…that’s if u can get to it, before him, and make sure he’s the last one in line, this time, and maybe, he will think of u all, for a change! Js
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Hemmriods here they come.
My son too! Kids these days 
Oh honey that’s normal
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Let him move out and when his roommate kicks him out he will know he has problems he needs to revise… also while he is still in ur household go right before he does and make him wait the more he says hurry up add 10mins… see how he likes it.
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Give him a bedroom door lock. Bathroom problem solved.
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He is masturbating 
%!!! My son at age 16 started taking 3 showers a day, luckily he has his own restroom. I said to my husband one day “ I’m happy (his name) is really caring about his personal hygiene”. My husband then told me what he is most likely doing……that made more sense.
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My parents would take my phone off me if I was doing that
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I have 8 boys…let’s trade!!
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I paid rent from 16 to my parents when I started with a Saturday job x
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Have him shower at night.
No electronics in the bathroom
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Take the door off??lol
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can you add on a bathroom?
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You should install an app on his phone to monitor his internet activity while he’s in there, so you can see what he’s… actually no, that’s a very bad idea. Don’t do that.
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Set a timer! Tell him he’s got 15-20. Everyone deserves a few uninterrupted minutes in the bathroom! It doesn’t have to be ugly. And reading material is a must and helps people relax, if you won’t allow him his phone maybe a book or magazine!
You got to set him straight that there are other people waiting to use the bathroom and don’t be ignorant playing on your phone, don’t even let him bring his phone in there for starters. Make it a rule no phones in the bathroom, do your biz in there and just leave, think of other people and not just yourself!!!
My dad would turn off the hot water and my brother would pop right on out:sweat_smile:
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Yeah he’s playing with the 
how do you not realise that? 
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That should have started long ago
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You don’t start with that lesson at 17, jussayin’!
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Totally your fucking fault as parents. Let me guess, you are raising time out children. Never, ever underestimate the power of a good ass whooping.
Id say, if you do end up charging rent, use the money he gives you and SAVE IT so you can help him afford getting into his first apartment with first last and a deposit. Next thing is no phone in the bathroom. Im sure he is also experimenting with his own body which is completely normal at that age. So maybe suggest him having his extended personal time alone in his own bedroom and not in the family bathroom. But first ask if his stomach is okay. Show some concern for him and maybe flip the script like you are considering his needs as well but putting out there that ur bladder is very small rn and you need a little extra availability to the bathroom and that is a huge factor in all of this. He needs to learn consideration. Good luck
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No more phone allowed in the bathroom
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