Has she been checked for physical problems ?
I mean if it REALLY comes down to it, Goodnites would save you from having to trash a bunch of panties
Was this happening school year during kindergarten?
Is she experiencing any constipation?
Make her start cleaning it up. She doesn’t want to stop, then she gets to clean up her own mess.
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Call make a doctors appointment to see if there’s a medical reason if not talk to her
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If she poops shes not allowed to play fir two hours . Timeout
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My almost 6 yr old does this but with pee. He has to go to the urologist. Id call the dr
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Go to the doctor - this is likely a medical condition.
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Mandatory potty breaks every 20 min
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Make her clean it up herself
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Natural consequences
…she can wash them out by hand…
Diapers and let her clean up her own mess WITHOUT any help of any kind.
I would find out the time of day she goes and make her sit on the toilet.
Could be behavioral. Speak to her dr.
Take her shopping and have her pick out new panties, the ones SHE likes and wants. Do not mention the problem. 
Good luck.
There’s a deeper issue. See her Dr first to rule out medical issue. If that comes back clear, seek out a counselor. Kids with control issues like this have deeper issues going on. They don’t always want to or know how to talk to a parent.
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Is she comfortable with the school work
Put her in diapers tell her if she wants to act ike a baby you will treat her like a baby.
My daughter has encropresis. Take her to a doctor
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Put her in a diaper. A bit a shame can work.
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Check with your doctor sometimes there is a medical reason.
Make her hand wash her own underwear, she’ll soon stop.
Make her hand wash the underwear. She will get tired of it
My 7yr old kept wetting herself too she was too scared ro flush the toilet, bearing in mind she got locked in the toilets in primary 1, at her school but if that was us parents we would have been in deep shhhht but nope they got away with it also she was roo busy playing or watching telly, turns out she was roo scared to go see a pee is quick maybe she tginks if she stays on the toilet something will jump up and get her we do not know what goes through kids heads a lot of kids dont know how to explain it either
Put her a diaper on and let her clean herself after she poops.
Have her start washing out her own underwear.
Tell her to go to the bathroom. Very 40 mins
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My son went through the same thing
Rule out any medical issues first. When my daughter had accidents it is because she had a blockage that made her have small accidents every day. We had to load her up on Miralax. Once she passed the piece stuck, she was able to not have accidents.
If this isn’t what is happening, I would suggest timed toilet trips and not letting her use electronics while on the loo.
My 4 year old pees in his closet
Straight from a doctor, dark Karo syrup, about a teaspoon and water, if it’s a problem with going.
My son had something similar happened and i felt the same way. Yet for him it was loose stool that leaked due to constipation. His dr put him on light stool softners. Something similar to mirlax. That helped him have frequent bowels. We also set aside time where he would spend 15 mins on the toilet. Because he need to create a cycle after not going regularly for so long. He is no longer on any medication but still has them from time to time. When he does we increase his fiber give him mirlax and clear him out.
Time for the doctors poor wee soul
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Wait, before discipline, google Encopresis. Please. Because I started punishing my child too just to find out it was Encopresis. It started because he was holding his poops because he was afraid of monsters coming up the toilet to “bite his butt”. The constant holding in started causing streaks of poop and I thought he was refusing to wipe. Then it became full bowel movements in his underwear that he was unaware of doing. Turns out Encopresis is really common in elementary children that held their poop for a number of reasons, and they lose the ability of feeling when they have to go. I punished and it really hurt his self esteem because I thought he had been doing it on purpose. Check into Encopresis before punishment. The holding of her poop bc she was playing may have caused it, it’s actually a very common thing for kids to not want to stop playing and develop it. Do not punish and humiliate her until you rule it out. You could do a lot of emotional damage to her.
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My daughter had the issue of holding it in recently because she didn’t want to stop playing. So I would find it in her undies on laundry day. I got tired of washing them before they even went into the washer so I made her start doing it. After a couple times she got tired of it and has been fine since.
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This is one of many possible causes…don’t assume it is a behavior issue. It generally is NOT
I am kind of surprised by the ‘punishment’ comments to this post. I would first think trauma, that’s kind of a textbook response to trauma, abuse etc. Can be uncomfortable to think about but make sure she hasn’t been molested by any ‘friends’ or family members. Research how to ask these questions too, don’t ask direct. And don’t be squeamish, statistically 2 out of 6 girls are traumatized sexually in their lifetime so this is actually quite common. Also, my oldest had wetting/accident issues until age 12. Took her to a chiropracter and he found a nerve to her bladder supressed, she couldn’t tell when she had to go pee. So I would think: trauma, spinal health, then dietary–sometimes kids simply have bowel issues and it kind of explodes at last minute. If none of those is the key, try postively reinforcing the behavior you wish to see. Offer rewards like you would a toddler, give her an incentive to redevelop her previous healthy habit…because no one likes being punished for mistakes and healthy changes are enacted in postive environments, not under duress.
Emotional incontinence is a thing.
One rule thou is never shame a child for it, You actually aggravate the problem…
She probably feeling insecure about the changes in her life… children don’t misbehave they Express feeling that way… Get to root cause she not emotionnal developped enough to.do it by herself…
And you’re only making it worst with pressuring her to correct a behavior she’s probably wont until you resolve her emotionnal discomfort.
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Forced potty breaks for everyone.
Also dawn dish soap can get poo out easily. I’ve also made my kid wash her own undies (with gloves on) to make her understand that this is what will happen should she keep it up. It helped a lot.
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Also have a 9 year old who we thought was doing it intentionally but turned out to have a medical condition. Currently on month eight of treatment. A doctors visit with xrays can help you know for sure. We spent a year grounding, yelling, and punishing her for something she couldn’t even actually control 
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I’m having the same problem with my 4 almost 5 year old. She had an “accident” last night actually. This has been rough on us too because there were 2 times we caught her playing in it. That’s stopped thankfully! Also she’s hiding it and lying about it because she’s knows she’ll be in trouble. I’m at a loss too. I’ll be following this for advice!
If you are sure it is not a medical reason, have her wash out her pants when she does that.
My sisters youngest daughter did that for the same reason. She would find panties behind the toilet. She started having her wash them out herself since she was old enough to know better and had been potty trained for years.
My 6 year old did the same thing. She had a check up, was put on a fiber supplement and I gave her some books to read and some coloring supplies along with a lap desk. I also bought her “nice” panties to wear when she did a better job. Took about a month then we were in the clear. It’s gonna be ok. She doesn’t enjoy it any more than you do. It’s just a learning curve.
Ok, she 7 correct? If she dont want to stop playing. She going to have to learn how to wash out her underwear. Yes that’s correct throwing them into the washer and you have to let her do it. Your not pooping in her underwear. There is no time like the present. No yelling no screaming and dont let it fall on deaf ears so to speak. It’s not mean. It’s part of life. It’s a chore she will not have to do if she stops having accidents. She’s too old. To be doing this. Be strong
She needs to meet the belt
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Start making her clean her own panties
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Take her to a neurologist
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Jon P Jones I just read some of these and they sound like toot… maybe these parents have some advice
Kamilka Kutniowska… I’ll be reading this thread for some tips. Let me know if you find anything especially interesting too
Put her back to diapers.
Having the exact same problems with my 6yr old daughter and honestly I’ve lost the will to live. Some ideas I have tried so far are:
Telling her off
Shouting at her
Ignoring the bad, praising the good
Talking it over each time
Star charts
Punishments
Making her clean the underwear herself
Making her spend her own pocket money to buy new underwear
Warning her she’ll be picked on in school if it keeps happening
Talking to her teacher
Setting regular bathroom breaks
Mild embarrassment - telling her dad and grandparents
Taking away toys, TV, pad, outdoor play, treats, etc
Talking to her doctor
Prescribed medicines
Changing her diet…
The kid gives precisely zero f*cks so I’m hoping she’ll eventually just outgrow it 
Okay first off, YOU ARE NOT HER FRIEND!!! Get the shit out your head right now. Second if she is having “accidents” set a timer like she was being potty trained all over again. She will figure it out. Make her clean up after herself every time too
It’s called encoprecis. Google it. It’s due to stress. If they hold it in too long, they begin to not be able to sense that they need to go causing them to go on themselves. My grandson is 7 and has the same issue. His pediatrician prescribed Miralax daily until his body resets.
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Has anything happened to cause anxiety? This world is so hard on our children… Maybe it’s because she’s upset about School. Just talk to her mom… Something’s going on and punishment won’t work. Prayers
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Sometimes when older children regress and in this case are unable to control their bodily functions it’s due to stress or anxiety. This could explain why she doesn’t have an actual explanation as to why it’s happening. It could be the change…
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I am having the same trouble with my five year old son. I have literally tried everything, withholding treats and toys and tv and tech, reverse psychology, cleaning himself, timeouts from play, and I am seriously at the end of my rope. I am so concerned that they will not allow him to go to kindergarten in the fall.
This worked for us every child is different but my son was the same way. He said he didn’t want to stop playing. We tried everything and i mean talking, yelling, comprising. So one day i told him that it was time to send him to “poop” camp for a few months and they will train him to properly go. It worked 
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I put my daughter in pull ups when she was having accidents… told her that if she can’t act like a big girl and go potty like she is suppose to then she can wear a diaper! She didn’t like wearing a “diaper” and with in a week no more accidents
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I feel like there is a reason for regression and with all the changes and emotions that I as an adult struggle with daily its hard to imagine how hard it is for children to deal with. My daughter who is 3 has had a few accidents in the past few weeks. I gave her a little more attention and support and bam all better. Please dont punish your child for having difficulty dealing with things that adults aren’t even effectively dealing with. Keep in mind she will match your energy as well and if you are exhibiting signs of stress she senses that and the person that was once her safe is not comfortable anymore. Prayers.
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Number 1 do not yell it seems as though it doesn’t phase her but could be the very reason shes doing it. Praise praise praise for positive action will get results. 7 you make mistakes I’d use pullups at home so she can make mistakes…put a potty out as an option. A stool for independence with a inside toilet seat give her options talk to her about options calmly and quietly…set incentives a few times to get her started something you know she likes…let make a deal if you can do number 2s on the toilet and not in your pant one time today you can get this ??? Make an agreement. Once she does the correct thing once PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE. It works
I have 5 my eldest daughter I yelled at it instilled fear and the fear continued until she was 14. Goodluck I soon learnt the quicker way to teach praise constant affirmation and love. Is much more effective and less time consuming and less stress…good luck.
my son who just turned 7 has an issue with stopping to go pee. he sometimes doesn’t want to stop playing to go pee. I have explained he is not a baby anymore but if he wants to continue to pee his pants like a baby I can put a diaper on you. He hated that idea. my son is the youngest and I did expect to have some set backs with this stay in place and distance learning, as it has been stressful for my kids and myself.
we just got to keep reassuring them that thio will get better and that we Will be ok 
. I have my two oldest in counseling and it has helped a lot I’ve even asked there counselor what I can do my youngest and she said just what I said keep reassuring him.
talk your kids just keep telling them it’ll be ok things Will be fine and get better.
My kiddo has had potty accidents like that too well into 2nd grade. I have torn my hair out in frustration. I pray he has no illness or condition and his ped says its common. What it boils down to for us (in addition to not wanting to stop playing and waiting too long) js that I’ve inadvertently turned my son into a germophobe and he seems to hate having to poop in a toilet that is yucky ot public; he feels comfortable pooping only at home. I told him repeatedly to not hold it, put tp down if it’s a public toilet and we will make sure to shower later. I also remind him to try to poop more at home so he has to go less in school. I bought a probiotic to help reguate his belly and that helped. It has gotten better as he has gotten older too. Good luck!
If she is telling you that she doesn’t want to stop playing to go to the restroom then she shouldn’t be able to play I could see if she was 4 and under but at 7 come on now if she was at school would u run to the school everytime she plays to make sure she goes or to change her. Now if it’s a medical issue I’d understand but she told u she doesn’t want to stop playing to go… 
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Scheduled poops, treats and ignore the situation dont make a big deal about it, she’s too old to praise about pooping on the potty so just act like it’s not a big deal if she goes reward her with a gummy or even minni marshmallows if not just ignore it act like it doesnt effect you and make her change and go on the more you play into it the more it becomes a behavioral issue
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For now just buy some pullups believe it my son he’s 7 last WK he finally said he had enough only wore 1 at night when he went to bed but now he’s done 
so glad things take time and don’t let nobody tell you 
different!
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My 4 year old did this. Turns out she was actually impacted. We had to do a colon cleanse and since then we’ve never had any issues.
Set specific times to Potty,get a routine and keep it for a couple weeks she will eventually remember herself that she has to Potty
Let her clean her own panties! She is old enough to understand that she has to do it in the toilet and not in her panty
Also next time limit her playtime
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Maybe she’s going through anxiety or something perhaps set up a visit with a specialist in gastric
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Make her go to the toilet every 30 minutes until she goes. Do not put her in pullups. That is ridiculous to use pull ups on a 7 year old.
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Make her hand wash them. She knows better than to poop her pants. She needs consequences for her actions.
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Make her wash them. Once she has to, she’ll never make that choice again
I’m sorry you’re having this issue but you sounds a little more concerned about messing up your “brand new washer” then anything. 
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Take away whatever it is that’s stopping her going to the toilet… even if that means she can’t play… I had to with my son he use to do the same thing age 6 I took away his Xbox and everything that was making him not want to get up and go and it stopped soon enough…
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Is this a regression thing or has she never been going poop in the toliet? If it’s regression than it’s probably a mental condition maybe to much stress, something new going on or something. It’s also a sign of be sexual abuse.
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Tell her you she has to wash her panties. It worked with my granddaughter.
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I am having the same with my 5 year old
Have her clean it up. She will hopefully stop.
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It’s not a accident if she flat out said she doesn’t want to stop playing to go to the bathroom. Time to start some discipline and take away the play time when she does it.
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reward the other childern with treats for poping in the toilet and she will get the hint to do the same
One of my grandsons did that. Took to drs ,on lactose. And has to be asked a lot throughout the day if he needs yo go to the toilet. Its working. But the funny but weird is that when he was in nappies he would take off and hide his poppy nappy. The ironcy of it xcx
My brother has a cyst in his brain it caused him to physically not know when he needed to use the bathroom and pee because his brain sends the wrong messages to his bladder so I’m not sure if it could do that with a colon but what I’m saying is sometimes they can’t help it until they get a medicine for it 
doubt thats the case with your daughter at least I hope it’s not
A good spanking might work.
But be careful you might hurt her feelings, hate you, call 800 abuse number, tell another parent, threaten to leave, hold her breath, stomp and scream, and laugh at you or worse give you that “I got you smile”. Then again it might work PARENT!
Make a regular bathroom break for everyone at the same time, it worked for my three kids