Wipes? Maybe toilet paper is too tough? Get her ones she can carry ones that have sweet scenes on front all for her special make it a treat
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For everyone suggesting wipes and bidet…. How would that work in school??
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I have this same issue with my 5 almost 6 year old girl… she WILL NOT wipe her own bottom… I’ve asked her why and she said shes scared to get poo on her hands I said that’s okay if you do, even adults do sometimes, and that’s why we wash our hands when we are done! I’ve contemplated getting her some gloves but I feel she will still call out for me to wipe her as another concern for her is she wont get herself clean enough😫
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Maybe it hurts to wipe Baby wipes and have her trow them in the trash afterwards.
She may just need to learn the hard way 
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My oldest was like this around 5. I’ve made him sit on the toilet until he’s done it himself. (we used to do it for him ) . after a while he got tired of sitting on it that he would do it himself
is it 100% wiped. probably not from a few marks. BUT Hes learning.
good luck mama
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let her wash her own panties out by hand, maybe she may learn.
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My son does this drive me crazy
Offer wipes maybe? My son does the same thing due to pure laziness so when he gets back into the habit he is made to hand wash his underwear. I refuse to put poop in my washing machine with everyone else’s clothes. But try wipes toilet paper might just be to tough on her bum
My 9 year old girl… its been years.
When the typical doesn’t work, we use threats 
(not harmful threats ) . “We don’t want someone stinky around us , so until you clean yourself the way we have shown you, we’re gonna ditch you at your grandparents house everytime we go do something fun!”
Works like a charm with my neice. She can’t stand to be excluded , so she snaps into reality very quickly after that one
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I have a son on the spectrum who I had to re-potty train four times up until he was about 8/9. I have a seven year old as well who is cognitively delayed and in the process of being diagnosed as well. She refuses to wipe as well. I would definitely have her checked.
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I explained to my 6 year old a week before he’s seven he was a big boy and if he wanted big boy things Xbox tablet he has to wipe his own butt it worked 
My 6 year old daughter does this… sometimes it seems like she fill on poops herself other times it streaks. I’ve tried everything. She’s been potty trained for 3 years
My son is 5 and is disgusted by poop so never really wants to wipe. What helps me is I tell him the medical reasons why he needs to wipe his butt. Meaning he can get rashes or pinworms in his butt. The worm reason seems to scare him into doing it
I’m a bad mom. I got so frustrated with my 12 year old putting his underwear, filled with whole turds, into the laundry! It would mix with everything…
Tried talks, soaps, hygiene videos, loss of games, shows, etc., complimenting him when he did well. Nothing worked.
Had him wash them himself. Didn’t work! He just wouldn’t wash them.
So, one day, I walked into the laundry room & stepped in his poop. I picked up the underwear, cleaned off my foot, and went to his room.
He was sitting in his bed on his phone. I called his name, he looked up, I threw his poop underwear. Hit him in the face. Turds fell out like rain on his lap.
He screamed. It was magnificent.
We really haven’t had an issue since. Told him every poop underwear I find, is ammo for me to launch at him. Want to hide them and risk I find them? Let’s do this!!!
But no, he’s been good since that day.
Flushable wipes and some smell good sprays.
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Just got a CPS case over my kindergartner not wiping properly so be careful. He told the school I don’t let him shower (because he takes baths still)
I’m still in the process of having my case closed but they have had to interview everyone in my house and a close reference 
I also feel like the school has it out for my kiddo… or me… or both of us
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What are her reasons? Is she afraid she’ll get 
on her hands? She could wear gloves…
Does she wash hands and bathe without issues? Or does she refuse all hygiene things?
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My son went through that until I made him clean out his own underwear. And he had to keep cleaning until the poop couldn’t be seen anymore. And every time I saw the same thing happen, he had to do it again. Believe me, it didn’t take long.
Maybe she doesn’t like the feeling… or maybe she’s scared it’ll get on her hands. Get her some baby wipes. See if that’ll motivate her. Don’t be ugly about it… everyone is different. We all have things we struggle with.
Have you tried her using baby wipes instead of 
?
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When mine did this at this age, we made her take her underwear and clean them in the sink. After cleaning her underwear she then had to scrub my sink and counter. After a couple times, it stopped all together!
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Could this possibly be a sensory issue that she doesn’t like the feel of the toilet paper? Have you asked your daughter why she doesn’t want to wipe?
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I’m having a similar issue with my 3 year old she just simply doesn’t want to wipe but only when she pees. She always asks me for help when she poops…the toddler wipes from Walmart helped for a while but she’s recently started wanting to go pee and then just runs off. I think her being a toddler she’s just too “busy” to want to spare the time to wipe 
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When she use bathroom go in there with her u r her mom n tell her to wipe if not bend her over n do it in time she will
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My 7 year old is afraid to get it on her hands by accident, I brought baby wipes and so far it’s helping.
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R u really her mother???I agree with others make her wash them out and see what happens…
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Take her with the loo with you and show her it’s normal, or buy bio degradable wipes and say she’s helping the planet. Kids know you more than you so, she’s sensing stress, my son was a bit like that, but kids go through some odd things, my grand daughter would not take a shower for her mum, but I take her, and we have a laugh, but I stay in with her, she used to get lonely.
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I can’t with some of these coddling ways of thinking. Why you wanna let children tell you when it’s your job to teach and parent?
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Walmart has reasonable priced Bidet’s
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Try using baby wipes in the bathroom instead of
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Buy toilet moist wipes. My daughter uses these… never liked toilet roll x
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When I was about 5 I wiped but not good enough.So it would still get on my panties.When I stayed with my grandma one summer she started making me wash my own panties in the bathroom sink.For me I was afraid of getting it on my hands.I cried when Grandma made me clean my own panties it was gross so she gave me gloves but it broke the habit.She taught me how to fold the toilet paper so it wouldn’t get on my hands,then cleaning the sink !
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I BRIBED MY 4 AND 5 YEAR OLD!! LOL What I did is give them quarters for wiping their bums!! And at the end of certain period of time, bring them to the dollar tree and let them use the butt wiping coins to buy toys!! WORKED VERY WELL. And they refused to do it before.
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Sit in the bathroom with her until she done and make her sit there until she wipes
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Take her to the doctor for an evaluation. There are many sudden changes in a child’s behavior or mood when they are sexually or physically abused. Please talk to her about it and take her to the doctor.
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Take her to the Dr and let them explain it 
I am having the same issue with my almost 6 year old!!! She is almost ready for kindergarten and I’m dreading it!
By the way I am currently going to the bathroom with her every single time and making her do the steps wipe, flush, wash etc. Hoping she isn’t afraid of the potty at school!
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take her to a doctor
Buy her toilet wipes maybe she will use them
I told my adhd, super sensitive girl (she’s now 8 but was about 5 when we discovered that she wasn’t always wiping) that she MUST wipe very well because we don’t want her to get a rash or an infection. Poop is waste that our body needs to get rid of and it’s important to clean up fully. We don’t want to have to go to the dr for a rash or an infection from not wiping well. Next poop, she told me how she got herself super clean. We also needed to make sure that she would wipe a couple times and then flush.
Try getting her some flushable wipes that smell good. Maybe that’ll do it. Lil girls do like that stuff. Idk I had 3 boys and never had that problem. Maybe it’s the texture of the TP.
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Ask her why she doesn’t like to wipe. Is the tp not soft enough? Etc.
toilet wipes are great. They’re soft and keep her clean. I have them for my boys. But they’re wipers always have been.
I canT read all the comments ,but if it was said …good _take her to the doctor ,she might be wiping and not understand wtf is happening but your talks arent helpful,if she dont know what is going on . KWIM?
Baby wipes are thicker, try that instead of toilet paper. Some kids don’t like to wipe due to some toilet paper not thick enough and they don’t want poop on their hands.
My 7 year old step daughter is the same.
My niece is the same way. Her parents are baffled and at their wits end.
Does she not like having her hand back there? Some people are simply so sensitive to touching their private areas …
Maybe a nice, warm washcloth each time will encourage her to clean that area…
Wow I am reading all the comments…
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Psych eval. It could be a defiance or it could be a cleanliness disorder. But if not. Then you can try different methods. Counselor had our daughter back in pull ups. She couldn’t wear her pretty amazing underwear unless she was wiping good.
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Wet wipes!!! My butthole don’t even touch toilet paper
My daughter went through this phase just after she turned 7. She has combined add/adhd. She knew that it was wrong of her not to wipe but she said she didn’t want to ever miss anything (this happened at school & home) as in her taking the time in the bathroom was already too much time away from whatever activity she was doing prior. Well, she ended up getting a uti from it unfortunately and was in the hospital and had to endure an IV. That was enough to change around her habit. I always remind her that a healthy vagina is a happy vagina and it’s important to always take care of yourself. Hang in there momma, it gets better. I know it’s hard but from the outside looking in, you’re not alone!
I can’t believe her butt isn’t on fire and burn from the poop
My kids beg for cream when it hurts and they wipe…,.
I would do things to really encourage her to wipe with rewards and possibly consequences if she doesn’t. But please also discuss it with her Dr. It could be a “texture thing” and possibly on the autistic spectrum or something else. Please realize a child of ANY age and intellectual level can still have disorders and late diagnosis!
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Get some hygiene supplies, I know she doesn’t want to smell
My 5 year old wouldn’t wipe when she peed but wipes when she poops. I would talk to her pediatrician and see if they can talk to her or give you suggestions of steps to take or do an evaluation etc. Best of luck mama!
Tell her she has to wash her own underwear if she has a mess.
I have this issue with my almost 6 year old and she will be starting kindergarten in the fall. I’m afraid she will have a hard time at school… don’t think they have wipes there…
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Get her some disposable gloves and wet wipes for her to wipe with. Her hands can stay clean and it’s easier to wipe. At home have her dispose of the wipes in the bathroom trash so as not to clog your toilet. Make up a pack for school as well. If all this doesn’t work ask her doctor.
My daughter had a similar issue when first learning, it turned out she was wiping but couldn’t reach well enough to wipe properly. We started using flushable wipes & no problems since & she’s able to pack them for school use due to it being a hygiene issue
My only advice is (in case someone else hasn’t said it) my plumber said never flush wipes no matter what the label says. He has pulled so many clogs due to these wipes not breaking down and flushing away. Both myself and my BFF have had to hire plumbers for this problem. FYI
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This can be a sign of sensory. I suggest getting the wipes that break down and a psyche eval this is common in autism.
You can also try a travel bidet.
This can be a sign of sensory. I suggest getting the wipes that break down and a psyche eval this is common in autism.
You can also try a travel bidet.
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I would sit her down and tell her why it’s important to wipe and keep it clean.My girls wipe until there is no more.I started by showing them how to wipe and even started rewarding them after I checked them.
$20 bidet attachment from Amazon my kid loves it
Read something like this on another page about a son who wasn’t properly bathing: You may have to tell her to call you when she’s done pooping so you can check her wiping skills & poss revisit technique. Until she learns to or can be trusted to clean effectively, you’ll standby to assist.
I would agree with wet wipes. Does she look at the paper to make sure it’s “clean” before she gets up from toilet?
Let her know your job is to keep her safe and ensure she doesn’t get sick. Improper wiping can lead to vaginal or urinate tract infections bc fecal matter.
Good luck shug
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My 9 year old niece does this too. Shirley will hide her underwear everywhere though as to not be found out. There had been no stopping her either. Following post for suggestions. Thanks