My question is, my 26 year old daughter expects me to give her money, all the time. She quit her job, and wants me to fill in financially, and gets mad if I have money and I dont want to give her any. I make 20$ an hour, am a widow, and have a 12 year old.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My adult daughter constantly wants money from me: Advice? - Mamas Uncut
Just say no & let her be mad & broke.
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Cut her off…she needs to stand on her own two feet.
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Tell her get a dang job. She can support herself.
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Tell her to go get a job
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Tell her to grow up. Tough love is what’s needed sometimes.
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yea. just stop doing it. I often wonder about my In-laws doin this. its weird
Tell her to get a job!
Cut her off. She feels that way because she’s gotten her way in the past. She’s a grown adult. Tell her to act like it.
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Tell her No? She’s an adult, her finances are no longer your responsibility. Set firm boundaries with her & stop giving into her
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Make her get a job, ish she still under your roof ?
Your her mother not a bank
She’s a adult not a child, she don’t work she don’t get. Stick to your guns xx
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She’s an adult now. She needs to grow up how she gonna live when you aren’t around? I know saying that hurts but she can’t depend on you forever! Gotta put your foot down let her get mad and stop talking to you. If not it will only get worse and her using you.
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I’m 27 and would not expect my mom to pay my stuff
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Cut her off you’re enabling her she’s a grown adult
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I wasn’t even responding to her she can get a job
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You are allowed to say no. You have an obligation to financially care for your youngest…. Not the older. She’s going to be mad, but she’ll get happy in the same pants.
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She needs some tough love. At 26 it is not your responsibility to take care of her finances. She needs to stand on her own two feet. She shouldn’t expect or feel right taking your hard earned money. Sounds like she has some growing up to do.
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As long as you keep doing it, she’s going to keep asking. Tell her no. And if that doesn’t work start ignoring her just about that topic when she asks.
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Tell her no. She is grown. She needs to get a job and pay her own way.
Lol I’d tell her lazy ass to get a job . Like I can’t with these grown adults children.
If she has a car tell her to do instacart or doordash .
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Don’t give her a dime she is Capable of working ! This is why we have lazy kids today parents support them
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Lol no. You’re enabling her when you help her out. Make her stand on her own two feet and give her some tough love.
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I’m all for helping out adult kids but they need to helping themselves too
Your daughter needs to grow up. You shouldnt have to fund her life when she is capable of doing it herself.
Help her to find another job and also split the house expenses with her
She definitely needs a job. Just say NO. I COULD EASILY
Sounds to me like the daughter needs to grow up, get a job, support herself & become a productive citizen. She is 26 you have raised her, now it’s time for her to figure out life !!!
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Sounds like you raised an entitled brat… I’m not sure why this is even a question, Tell her to get a job like normal people should.
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set up chores or charge her rent
I told mine the bank of mom is closed. It’s my turn now that I’m retired
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Needing to borrow money from time to time is one thing. Not her EXPECTING shit from you.
Tell her to go make her own money
My 18 year old daughter would NEVER assume I’m going to financially support her.
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I’m 20 mother of 2. I rarely ask my mom for help financially, and If I do I pay it back asap. I’m an adult, I need to figure out how to pay things on my own. Once and a while a little help is fine, but all the time is enabling laziness
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Quit giving her money,you are not her bank
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Start asking her for money
There needs to be a conversation about being an adult, and not depending on other people financially. She is way too old for that at 26.
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Tell her to grow up. Tough love. She’s an adult. Plenty of jobs out there. Tell her to get one. She shouldn’t have quit her job. Stick to your guns. She has to learn the hard way. Mama isn’t a Bank. She needs to learn now because one day you won’t be around anymore and what is she going to do then.
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“No” is a complete sentence.
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At 16 i was paying for my own things and didn’t ask for anything from my parents??? This sounds like you’ve let it happen over and over again so she feels she’s entitled
Both my parents died by the time I was 19 I’ve been working since I can remember. Don’t let her take advantage of you, obviously be there for her emotionally but let her know that she’s gotta figure it out on her own cause one day she’s gonna have too.
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Stop enabling her… if she wants money - ANY money, she needs to go earn it. Keep yours cor yourself.
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Teach responsibility and value of money early. Don’t give it to her and make her figure it out
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Tell her to get a job and she has to learn the hard way. Simple. If she goes without then she will learn she has to work if she wants something.
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This can’t be a serious problem??
Where is the tough love our parents showed us?
Now a days everyone tip toes around younger generation.
She’s an adult, her bills are now her responsibility………
Dang I am lucky 
once in a blue moon my parents offer to help me .
I bust my ass for everything I have and gotten
I can look back and say I got that my self and did it my self
Omg sounds like my son and I have custody of his son. He won’t work
I strongly believe that our roles and responsibilities as parents do not end when our children turn 18, however once they are adults, it’s no longer our responsibility to support them. It’s one thing to help your adult children out once in a while or when they’re in a tight spot, but you’re not her ATM. She should have been responsible and found a new job before quitting the old one.
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She expects it because you give it. You’re the parent, act like it and just cut her off. Fk her if she gets mad.
She a grown woman. Make her work. Or donate plasma
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I’ll never understand parents who think being a parent has an expiration date, but if you’ve always done something its unreasonable to expect her to expect any different 
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Fuck that why would she quit her job without a backup? Thats not a decision an adult would make. Entitled.
Stop giving to her, she needs to grow up and get herself another job now.
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You created a codependent and you both need to go to therapy to correct it. Bottom line stop giving into her and make her do for herself. My mom made me codependent and I never got better until she died. Don’t let that happen to you and your daughter. Both of you need therapy now, and you need to financially cut her off.
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Ot don’t matter how much u make don’t give it to her she’s grown and no reason why u should be supporting her now if u keep doing it she will use u the rest of your life. What she gonna do when u no longer there she needs to learn now u got to work
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Hell no. I make 11 I have 6 kids and people ask me for money all the time. Like yo just cause I have 20 don’t mean it’s for you. Tf
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Barring some type of disability or chronic condition, a talk about boundaries and a referral to a financial education program may be in order.
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My 16 year old worked all summer to buy his own truck, And pay for his own insurance… Parenting takes work, Maybe you could focus more on helping your twelve-year-old to work so that she/he doesn’t end up the same way…
Tell her to grow up and get a job…
Not your responsibility…
Being mad won’t kill her 
tell her no and offer to help find her a job. She’ll get over it. But don’t take money from what the 12 year old child might need because the 26 year old grown up WANTS free money.
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What’s the question? But I think the answer is no…
Time she put her big girl panties on you are grown !
Don’t give in…she can work…my daughter asks me for and I say ok if I have it because she has a job and went to school!!! Make her work!!!
If she lives with you, she needs to get a job and pay half of the rent/bills. I’m guessing she does if she’s unemployed. There’s no excuse for her being unemployed. She needs to get a job asap!
Do not give her anny money tell her get a job
tell her no… get a job or get tf out…
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Your still solo raising another child on an extremely “modest” salary? so whats so hard about this choice? continue letting your grown daughter cannibalize the 2 of you, or circle the wagons and protect you and your younger child
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Nope, cut her off. Shes taking advantage. She needs to learn to live without your money like that.
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Tell her No. End of story
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Nope you raised her and she’s an adult. You do not have to help her financially. If she’s struggling she should get another job! Say no! If she gets mad so be it! She’ll have to build a bridge and get over it!
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Just say no, don’t enable her. She needs to grow up
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Unless she is severely injured or legit disabled, she needs to work. Even if very sick, injured or disabled, she needs to apply for disability. Your wages are not hers to dive into to live on. Tell her that.
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What’s wrong with a child getting mad at you because they don’t get their way … I’m a mean mom
This stuff wouldn’t fly with me
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Tell her flat out that you aren’t her personal ATM and that if she expects you to feel comfortable helping out here and there that you need to see her attempting to hold down employment. Don’t let her guilt trip you. Set boundaries
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26?!?!? Yeah absolutely not. She needs to get up and get a job. Ridiculous
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Tough love is all I can say. As long as you give her money, you are not setting any boundaries. She will do what you allow.
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Tell her to get a job
Tell her no. It’s time she grew up and earned her own money
Hells to the no……she is an adult tell her to get a job
Say no. Let her get mad it makes no difference. She can work or claim benefits but you dont give her money.
Shana Evraire really?! There is a difference between parenting ending, And enabling a full grown adult… How pathetic to think the mother should give her adult daughter money… This is exactly why people are entitled… with poor work ethic… WORK FOR WHAT YOU WANT!!!
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Is she asking for money because she honestly needs it: like mom I need insulin. Or is it she wastes her own money, won’t work and wants to be lazy. Then no.
My Mama taught me that after 18 years of age you were grown and you went to work and made your own way she and my Dad were always there for us but only if we were doing our best to help ourself. And quitting a job with out have another to go too is not doing your best to help your self so just say no. And stick to it because if you do it for her why should she hold a job
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Send her a job application to McDonald’s.
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Just don’t do it. Simple. The world is tough already. You don’t need to take care of an adult. Even if it’s your child. She needs to grow up.
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Stop giving it to her, your enabling her!
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No is a complete sentence
First all she’s not an adult she’s a women child so she will throw a tantrum try to manipulate you guilt you etc so be aware but tell her no and put up healthy boundries
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Tell her no. She’s damn near 30 years old. Let her get mad 
it would be different if it were occasionally to help with a bill or something but all the time, yeah no.
Umm heck to the NO, she is a grown woman she can get off her duff and work. Tell her to get a job
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It’s as simple as “no” you are an adult
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No way. Tell her to go to work
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I’d just let her throw fits like an toddler. She’ll never going up if you keep this up.
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Help her with basic necessities like food and shelter but any thing that’s cash money or a want then say no. If there’s things she wants she needs to learn to work for them. What happens to her if something happens to you? And your 12 yr old? It’s doing her an injustice to coddle her financially.
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Stop enabling her!! She wants money go earn it!
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Just give her the reality and tell her she need to get off her ass and get her own money and put into some bills. Find a budgeting class online tell her to get on that
Nope…she has to do it on her own.
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I understand if she’s going through a tough time, I’ve been there and asked my mom for help when I wasn’t working, but I never asked for more than gas to get my kids places and to get back and forth to finish autobody school. I have paid her back now for my laptop payments she picked up and the money she spent on my toolbox. Don’t pay her if she doesn’t have any determination to get on her feet she’s just taking advantage of you at this point. Does she live with you? Have any other bills? She’s gotta put in work to afford things she likes. It astounds me how some of these people treat their parents. You have responsibilities of your younger child on top of it. Tell her no, go get a job.
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