I know its hard to say “no” but even if u give her money she sounds very ungrateful!
She will figure it out as long as you don’t .
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No!!! That’s a word you have to use more often and more forcefully so that she can learn to grow up and be responsible.
shut ff that tp . time to adult
Get a job I have been working at the same place for 30 years
Just say no. She’s grown. She can’t handle it don’t be around her.
Kick her up the backside
She needs to be cut off and grow up
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Stop doing it !!! She is an adult , her problem if she quit her job , you have not obligation with her
Just say no. She doesn’t care if you get mad or inconvenienced when she asks, you shouldn’t either. She’ll get the picture and stop asking.
Should have thought that through before she quit her job. She is an adult 
Tell her no, she is an adult she can make her own money. You’ve done your job and she needs some tough love
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She is on her own, go tell her to get a job.
Umm she is an adult you are not legally responsible for her anymore and you are definitely not obligated to financially support her at 26 years old. Tell her “I love you I will always love you but no”.
She’s an adult, tell her no & to get a job.
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If she needs financial assistance there are programs out their that will help until she gets a job and I would be Adamant about saying no and sticking to it for extra cash she could do a temp job until something fits and get off social assistance.
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It’s time to set a boundary. Tell her you have your own stuff to take care of plus her younger sibling. Then tell her some places or take her to some places to get her some help such as food banks, see if she qualifies for snap benefits, or assistance with bills. I unexpectedly laid off from work, and yes there are plenty of jobs out there but they all told me I was over qualified. I took almost 4 months to land something, and tons of interviews. I finally landed something and I’m still digging myself out of the financial hole I dug myself in when I was laid off. Anyways it can be done but she needs a place to start maybe? But I agree your not a bank. I understand helping here and there, my mom bought me pizza a few times cause I was sick of eating eggs…it’s cheap and feeds a bunch of people. I was always grateful for anyone’s help. Being broke makes you humble up real quick
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Just say no and tell her you’re not her financial support.
She should probably get off her a$$ n find a job if she’s always asking for money.
If she lives with you time to kick her out. Never give children money buy them what they want the money for as long as it’s not drugs or alcohol.
Stop giving it to her 
The fact that she made the decision to quit her job without another stream of income shows an incredible lack of judgement. She has to learn and she wont do it if you “fill in” as her personal bank.
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I would tell her to pick her lazy ass up and get a job. She should just be grateful you put a roof over her head and food I’m sure in her mouth. I have three children two of them are adults. My 21-year-old works two jobs and takes care of himself. There’s no excuse she needs to grow up tough love mama! 
You are doing her a disservice by helping her out all the time she needs to know if I don’t have money I can have it so she needs to work and work hard for what she wants so mother 
Time to say no
Tell her if she’s that desperate for money, to get a sugar daddy 
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Just say no…she can grow up and go work if she wants money
Tell her that it’s no longer your responsibility to give her money. She needs to get a job!!
Tell her she’s an adult she can handle it herself. You have your own needs to take care of.
Tell her no. I’m a mom of 3 and 26. I only made it because my mom didn’t do handouts. I had toooooo or else
She needs to earn on own way.
I’m going through this with my daughter. I am kicking her out
Tell her to suck it up and get a job … better yet, move out!
Tough love. Or do what I do. I draw up a contact, give my daughter money, she has to pay me back or, in the contact, I can take her to small claims court
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Why does she need to know if you have money? Don’t tell her. If she asks, tell her you don’t have it - really doesn’t sound like you have much to spare anyway. Plus maybe ask her if you could borrow some - I’m not saying she would have some to give, not even saying take some if she offered, but it may get her thinking. Unless there’s more going on then you’ve said, she needs to go to work and so many places are desperate to hire now.
Kck her Grown arse back to work!!
Ur not doing ur job by not telling her to jog on… helping out now and again in emergencies… fine… she is not a dependent… she is old enough to earn her own money… yet another grown entitled brt that thinks they are owed … do ur job and make her earn it
Tell her to move out and get a real life. Or get a job and pay her way
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Wow, looks like she’s looking for a free tide, well tell her the train stops here. She needs to get a job and pay her own way… she’s 26 years old, and a whole grown adult… don’t enable the behavior, and if she doesn’t like nit, she doesn’t have to live there… tough love m’dear. She needs to shape up or ship out.
Gee that’s easy. Kick her out. How could you call yourself a mother if you haven’t taught her how to earn a decent living. One day, when your gone, her future will be on the streets or prostitution. Is that what you want??? Seriously? Kick her out or tell her to pay rent. Simple as that. If she doesnt get out, you can legally evict and the police will drag her out for you.
She is an adult. She needs to get a job and work. She also needs to have her own place. Don’t enable her. If you feed an animal, it stays. So quit giving to her.
3 words. Get a job. Simple as that!
She won’t always have you to pull her load so do the tough love now and use the NO word she heard when she was little. Don’t let her put you on any guilt trip either .
Tough love she’s old enough
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Tell her to get a job you have to work hard enough to raise your 12 year old don’t let her make you feel bad cause you say NO
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Tell her to get F. She’s an adult so it’s not your responsibility to financially support her.
She is 26 yrs old. I was working and delivering news papers at age 12… Then a little older I got a job babysitting and working in.Linda Lynn’s downtown Baltimore on a work permit. I worked there until I was 21 then started a bar job… So basically you need to tell that young lady she quit one job so go find another job as you are not there to support a daughter that can get out and work. Stop enabling her by giving her what she wants… If she wants something bad enough then she will work to get it. Just do not be so easy on her. She can support herself and at that age should be on her own. Good luck in doing the right thing.
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Just tell her no! Get a job and grow up!!
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Find the problem Drugs,alcohol, fear of failure
Larger colleges have free career counseling to help see interests and strenrhs.
Don’t keep money in the house or lock it up
Show her your monthly budget and where the money goes. Extra is for emergencies.
If she lives with you show her what she should be paying. Rent, utilities, car insurance, food etc
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Uh…tell her to get a JOB. Mama ATM is officially closed indefinitely. Quit letting her guilt trip and manipulate you. She’s an adult and shes doing cuz it’s easy and it works. You work hard for your money. There’s no reason she can’t. She’s not entitled to anything you have just because she shares half your DNA.
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Tell her go get a job or government payments. Don’t let her be a free loader. Yes we are here to help our kids but u can only help so much before u have to stop and tell them to grow the hell up. Stay strong.
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Tell her to get a job!!!
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No is a complete sentence.
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she quit her job. not your problem.
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If she’s working and just needs a little help I would help if I could but no job = no help she must help herself first
Tell her to get a job yours is done
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She needs to grow up!
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Tell her to get off her lazy ass and get a job if she wants money! Quit enabling her!
She presees money as love…time for her to know the difference.
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Time for tough love!
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I enabled my son and daughter for years. Both of them did drugs. My son and his S/O got their 4 kids along with 2 she already had to the system. It took me 13 months to get and adopt the 2 youngest. They were 4 years and 18 months when I got them. I stopped enabling them and even though they don’t talk to me-I feel so much better.
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I’m sorry I would give it to my baby she’s my only daughter 
I know it’s wrong
Are these fact or spam?
Not your problem. She’s a grown ass woman. Go get another job - damn shame asking her mama for $ GTFOH!
Just say No. Legally she is not your responsibility anymore. The 12 year old is and the younger one needs you. At 26, if she still lives at home, she should be helping you.
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Tell her go get another job she’s 26
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The best advice I have ever gotten is “No.” is a complete sentence. But if you didn’t know that already, everyone here is reminding you.
As a mom I THINK the question you are actually asking is “How do I say no without pissing her off?” I could be wrong but I’m pretty sure that you already know that it’s absolutely your right to refuse.
My opinion- the issue is her feeling that she’s somehow entitled to your money. “…she gets mad if I HAVE money and I don’t WANT to give her any” (emphasis added).
When she asks you for money (or anything else), just remember that you don’t owe her anything more than a “yes” or “no”. Leave any explanations out of it because it’s NOT her business if you have money and/or how you choose to use it. Once you offer an explanation, you are inviting a debate.
You have a job and I am sure that you work hard for what you EARN. If you have any money left after you pay your bills, what you do with it is entirely up to you and she should not have a say in your priorities. So the next time she asks “Mom do you have $20 I could borrow?” … “no, I don’t” (if you are so inclined you could say “I’m sorry but I don’t”). If she comes back with “I know you have $20”, your response is “I don’t have $20 TO GIVE TO YOU”. If she approaches it differently with something like “Mom, I need $20” I would probably come back with “So do I!”.
As long as you keep feeding her bank account, she has no reason to find a job. Please do not feel guilty for not giving your unemployed daughter money!
Let her get mad. Maybe it will inspire her to get a job. As long as she can bully you she want go to work. You are not helping her by giving her money.
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Quit enabling her asap if you don’t teach her how to be an adult on her own she’ll always be your leach
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She needs to grow up and take responsibility for herself… you are not her endless money supply. If she wants money… sorry but you need to get a job like the rest of us
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Bahhha Sherae-Elaine McDonald.This came up but I never posted it lol.Love you kiddo.
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No. I’ve saw mothers do this and they will eventually be almost 40 still depending on you. Helping is different, she wants you to support her.
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She needs to grow up! She needs to go to work & support herself!
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Just because you have money…doesn’t mean she does. You have spent long enough in her life… if she pulls away from you when you show her your boundaries that just means she is selfish. If she truly loved you the right way she would still stay close to you even without the money on the table. Setting boundaries in relationships is a healthy, logical and normal thing. There is a way to create boundaries without being “rude”. Also? What would she be doing if you weren’t around… honey needs to grow up! If she has expensive taste I suggest “seeking arrangements” .com - remember that nothing is permanent.
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Tell her to start woman up and get a job and take care of her own business
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She should already be out on her own. No go get a job. Too many places hiring. She should have an apartment and roommate or something by now. My son bought a house at 23 by himself and he’s 35 now.
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No way… she needs to figure it out and stop relying on you!
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Not your job to support anymore…get a job…
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NO is a complete sentence.
So is “get a job”.
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Nope. Why are you enabling her?? Why are you holding her back ?? She’s going to need to grow up. You’re NOT helping her. Stop giving her money. Give her job tips.
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It’s time to say NO!
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Let her be mad! Tell her to grow up!
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You earn it. It’s your money. You don’t have to share it with her.
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Tell her to get a damn job!!!
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Tell her to get off her lazy butt and get a job or move out
Tell her to grow up and get a job. Dont give her money.
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Don’t give it to her she is old enough to make her own money. She shouldn’t have quit her job if she didn’t have another job found first. Tough love. You got this.
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Take your daughter out for coffee and give her a card with your sentiments written down.
Say positive things, talk about how you would like to see her succeed, etc.
Ask her to read it later.
Tell her out loud how much you love her and give her a big hug before you depart.
I’ve always found that things sink in when they are being read than being told.
Blessings.
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Hell to the eff no!!! My kids are 20 and 18 and they don’t even ask me. I’m the one that offers to them when I have a little extra to spoil them.
Cut her off! She’s a grown ass woman who quit her job without having a backup one. I know you feel you have to support her because she’s your daughter but she’s able to do it on her own. You gotta take care of yourself and your younger child. Don’t beat yourself up too much mama
I think she is old enough to take care of herself I understand if she needs a little ever now and then but not all the time just tell her to get a job
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Tell her to get a job
She needs to wake up
She grown now get another job and don’t quit it it’s not your responsibility to take care of her. When she’s able to do for her self
Other to feed her but no more money
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Tell her this … why are you telling us. Put your foot down and say no capital N capital O… And don’t do it I mean we can sit here and justify why you shouldn’t do it but you need to tell her
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Money should be earned by WORKING, not handouts. Please encourage her to grow up.
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Say No. problem solved
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Tell her to get a life and a job, that’s pathetic…
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she is an adult that is capible of workin u done raised her and shes proven she can werk
You teach people how to treat you. Looks like you might want to rethink what you are teaching your older daughter.
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Doesn’t matter if you’re struggling or comfortable financially - she’s a grown adult and needs to start making her own way. As long as you enable her she has no incentive to do that.
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I am confused as to what advice your looking for… how to say no? What words to use? You quit your job, sounds like that’s your issue