Let’s put it this way ,the more you gonna give the more she will expect that from you,she needs to work so she can learn responsibility. God forbid something happen to you or your husband ,she will be lost.
Good luck
Advice? Simple, Say no 
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I feel ya on this!!! If she doesnt feel like she has to work for her own food, rent,bills then tell her your job your money.
I would tell her to grow up she the one who chose to quit her job
That’s your own fault for not teaching her anything. Especially independence, common sense and boundaries.
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She will never be able to have money or save money for her future because she’s depending on her safety net , As long as she knows that she won’t really try
Get ready for estrangement. With entitled adult kids like this, if they don’t get what they want from you they punish you by dumping you.
She is an adult. Work if you want it. Also give her a time limit on getting a job or get out. You will be doing her a favor!!!
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Cut her off time to grow up. Your enabling her.
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I can tell you as a Mom to young adults. You are only enabling her and headed for a lot of heartache. We raise them to spread their wings and be on their own, not dependent on us.
A few of mine have gotten mad at me because I won’t support them anymore since I have become disabled.
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She’s old enough to take care of herself. $20 an hour these days isn’t much so you need to worry about your own bills and your 12 year old. She can go get a job.
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I have 20 year old daughter, she never ask for money.
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No. Is a full sentence
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She needs to learn how to take care of her own business. Tell her to get a job!
Set boundaries… Tell her no… She will get over it or die mad. Her getting mad is just a way to manipulate you to get what she wants…
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u can only be used as much as u allow urself to be, if u keep givin’, she’ll just keep takin’…ur not doin her any favors in the long run
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Don’t give her any make her work these young adults need to get of their asses and get a job lord knows there are plenty of them nothingbis free
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You need to say no now. You need to teach her to be an adult. I have a grandmother who is still giving money to her 50 year old son because he never went and got a job or made and pension for himself. She’s to nice to say no and makes her self go broke because of his selfishness.
You enable her by giving her money. If she is hungry but her groceries but put an end to the cash. You are not an ATM
Tell her no. Remind her she is an adult and needs to be responsible for herself. Food, bills, housing is expensive and she should understand it’s not all free!
Also…you don’t need tongove her a reason but I would just let her know that it’s going to be a 'No." from here on out.
If she were to have a job and were paying bills and fell a little short for the week and needed to borrow $20-30 that would be different. But she QUIT her job, without having another one lined up, which already makes me think she knew mom was gonna pay everything for her already. I’d tell her that as long as she is unemployed the Bank of Mom is closed!
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Stop enabling her and make her stand in her own two feet. She will continue to do this until YOU put a stop to it. At 26, she needs to get a J.O.B.
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Why encourage the bad habit and then stress about it. We as parent create our own monster. She needs some tuff love and then she understand mummy only wanted better for me.
She is an adult and needs to act accordingly, time for using mom is up. She needs to get a job and get her own life.
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Stop giving it to her or make her work for it. See how long it takes for her to get a job once her phones off and no internet…
Nope. She’s 26 yrs old and needs to get a job. We raise them to take care of themselves. That’s how it works
Don’t enable her. No is a complete sentence.
Tell her to stand on her own 2 damn feet
Cut off the money train. I had to do the same with my son. Bad thing about that is now he’s going to my mom for the finances. She doesn’t see that he’s using her for the money. She’s just happy he’s keeping her in his life.
I was a single mother of 2 at that age and worked 2 jobs… she has no excuse not to work, except for the one you’re giving her… cut her off all unnecessary financial support and tell her to grow the fuck up.
I would say nope, time to be an adult and get a job. Now if it was certain situation (like going through a divorce or something) then I may help with 1 bill or something.
Does she live with you? Tell her to support herself. She can be mad. She doesn’t care how you feel why are you worried about her?
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Tell her to get another job she’s not your responsibility. She’s 26 years old tell her to grow up.
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Grow up get another job
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Tell her to get a job she not a baby anymore time for her to grow up
Does she know you only make $20 an hour? Maybe she thinks your paid a lot more.
My parents only help me if I have a job. Don’t help unless there is proof of effort.
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Can tell her to learn how to work a pole. I used to dance in club and made 700-1000 a night down in the south (: there is nothing wrong with that life and it keeps you healthy as long as you don’t fall into druggie traps!!
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Stop!!! She will never grow up if you don’t. I would start with I love you. But I won’t be giving you money anymore. Stick to it. She’s almost 30 she needs to figure it out or she never will. Even if that means falling on her ass first. Does she have any drug issues?
Giving her money now will only hurt her in the future. She’ll never be financially responsible. I don’t care how much you make or not, that’s not the point. Even if you made more than enough, she’s 26. 100% should be paying her own way
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Tell her nope. Get a job. Do not condone her when ethic
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Let her be mad, she’ll get over it.
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“No.” Is a full sentence.
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Stop giving her money. Who cares if she gets mad? One of you needs to grow up. Let herbe mad. Don’t blame you financial woes on heror a minor child
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Kick her a** on! She done lost her mind and you done messed up somewhere!!!
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How does she know you have money? Apparently she still lives at home? If so why she should be on her own by now al least for a few yrs.
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I’m 38 my mother still gives me money but I don’t demand she gives it to me and I pay her back. Sounds like your daughter has some issues with entitlement. If she doesn’t live under your roof I’d tell her no get a job then if you still need money occasionally I’ll help you once in awhile but that’s if I am capable at that time.
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My daughter is also 26. She has asked me for money four times since she graduated college. A total of four times. Two of which were to be back up money in case she had a problem with how she was going to pay for a big purchase. She didn’t need my back up. One, they were stranded coming home when their bus was canceled. She had a plan and knew costs when she called. It was less than $500. Fourth and very recently. Their car was parked and an idiot was driving either drunk or asleep, police report says both. Their car was totaled. She wants to bring her boyfriend of three years home for great grandma’s birthday and approval. She is turning 95. I paid their plane fare home while they deal with the car mess.
That is an example of a responsible 26 year old. Three of those instance she agreed to pay me back too. She also doesn’t get mad for no money. She works harder
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Your daughter needs to get a job and grow up. Stop enabling her
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Tell her to get a fucking job. Flat out stop giving her money. If you care to support with housing and food sure I could see for a little while, but I’d be putting a stop to that real quick.
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I think that a true sign of maturity in your children is when they start to see you as a person and not a caregiver/parent. She feels entitled to the money because you’re her parent. But you’re a person trying to get by and raise a 12 yr old child. Nothing wrong with helping your grown children, but to be expected to or manipulated in giving them money is wrong. Deep down, I think, you know this. You’re afraid she won’t love you anymore? Well if she did she would see you are a person that struggles too. Best of luck to you.
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Doesn’t matter what YOU make. Tell her to go get a job. Period. Completely cut her off or she’ll never change.
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You work hard for your money, and so should she.
I’m a parent, and a grandparent, and I have worked my whole life, along side my husband, to provide for our kids & grandkids. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do to help them … as long as I know they are doing the best they can to try to do for themselves. When they need help, if I have the money to give, I give it. If they need food or a roof over their heads, I will feed them and they are always welcome to stay with me. I can’t support two households, but my family will not go without, as long as I’m alive & have a home, they have a home.
Your daughter is old enough to understand that if she wants something, she’s going to have to work for it. She’s old enough to understand that when she asks for your help, she is compromising your ability to provide for yourself & your 12 year old.
You won’t always be able to work. There will come a day when you’ll need to retire, and you will need to rely on your savings to support you.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help your grown kids … I’m saying that she needs to understand that you’ve worked hard to earn your money, and it should be up to you how you spend it. I’m saying she needs to support herself, just as your 12 yr old will need to do once adulthood is reached. If they put forth the effort to support themselves, you will be in a better position to help them here & there when they really need it, without compromising your retirement.
Explain to her that you can no longer support her. It’s time for her to sink or swim. Let her know you will help her along the way, as long as she is making progress in helping herself.
Tell her to get a job.
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Tell her to get a job and grow up concentrate on your 12 year old
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Say no. Stop enabling her.
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Nope, you still have a young child to care for as well as yourself. She needs to grow up and be helping YOU not the other way around.
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Just don’t… tell her you are on a budget and to go get another job if she needs money. She can get mad if she wants but eventually she will have to do something about it
Um, no. My 17 year old works a full time job and has already graduated and moved out of my house and she doesn’t ask me for shit. She will barely take things when I offer. Unless she’s disabled or something, she needs to grow up.
Here’s a thought: Say no. Don’t enable her.
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Simple.dont give her a cent .26yrs old . bloody girl’s these days are useless, don’t get me wrong.nit all girls.but I’ve witnessed alot.bloody ones i witnessed are shocking.like to stay in bed all weekend when the boyfriend is home.cant clean the house.cant cook for bf etc,these are the type of girls i can’t stand .Trash with two legs.
I do occasionally ask my mum for money im 36 but only if i need it desperately like last month i unexpectedly had my daughter for her 6th birthday and didnt have any presents as got her 1 big one which would of arrived before i seen her, so ibasked my mum to help out but i payed her back ( i dont all the time 
) but i do work and pay my own way just people need help sometimes but i would never expect her to help nor let her pay for everythin like i was at school still lol my daughters earn their money from myself or family members and they are 6,8 and 9 xx
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Don’t do it
She can earn it
Shes an adult. U do not need to help her
Just cook enough for the 3 of you & as far as the rest goes she’ll have to get a job for all her personal extras or get her a very nice man who can take care of her, she’ll also be forever grateful you did help her with a meal or basic soaps shampoos and such (cheap) she’ll get back on her feet your doing a great job
I would tell her no. Absolutely not. Sometimes all people need to grow up and be reasonable is some tough love and a push into the path they make independently.
No way! You work for your money so she needs to work for hers. Do not enable her. Too long without a job and she won’t be able to get one.
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“No” is a complete sentence
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And what happens when you can’t? At some point you won’t be able to or be around to support her. She needs to get a life of her own and quit sucking the life out of yours. Are you letting her live with you? Then she needs to be paying rent and doing chores around the house.
Tell her no she should not have quit her job and she needs to get a job now that is the only way she is going to learn
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Sounds VERY spoiled!!! 
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Tell her to get a job and take care of herself or starve.
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Sounds like she needs a tough love course. She needs to learn responsibility and respect. Today young adults feel they are entitled to everything! Stand your ground mom.
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Cut her off! Your responsibility is your 12 Year old and yourself.
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No I would tell her get a job. Does she have a car
Just tell her that you earned this money not her. Stop being lazy and get a job. No more money!!!
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NO. NO. NO the more you give her the more she wants She is an ADULT and responsible for herself
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Tell her to get a JOB ! If you give her money you are enableing her ( sorry if i spelled wrong ) and she will expect you to keep giving her money.
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She’s 26! How entitled! Tell her to grow up!
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She is an adult…. Stop giving her money. You are making your own problem 
What part of no she doesn’t understand n o
we love them and want them to prosper and we are trying to get them on there feet but some do not learn and take advantage of us it feels like but we still do it just try to explain to her you want to live also
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Ur not related to j d Rockefeller. Are you I dont think so
No way dear. She’s a grown woman capable of working and earning her own money your job ended with that when she should and could earn her own.
If you keep giving her money, she will keep asking, time for her to grow up
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Stop giving her any money and enabling her or she will never change. She is a grown adult and it’s time she starts taking care of herself.
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Tough love warranted for this adult grifter. Do not take this emotional and financial abuse one minute longer.
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Time for a good learning lesson in life! Stop handing over “your”hard earned money ( that does not help her!)
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You cannot continually fork out money. It will never be appreciated nor repaid. IF she quit her job she can go onto Centrelink benefits hopefully without them assessing your income at that age. Put her to work around the house and yard constantly getting her to clean, garden, and child mind her 126o sibling when you need to work outside of school hours. She can be “paid” no more than $10 per hour or other arrangement or do these things in exchange for board (if still living at home). I gave countless $$$ to my adult daughter and her late hubby for a while and they never used it to get ahead. Possibly spent a small portion on their kids but I never had it returned ever.
Maybe make her earn a specific amount for chores, errands, babysitting, cooking, etc., that might help you out while helping her. Only earned money from your wallet to her.
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Time for her to grow up and get a job and pay her own way. She’s an adult
Ew. Tell her to grow up & f off. Who cares if she gets mad. Who cares if she doesn’t speak to you for some time. If that’s what she chooses to do based on HER actions, then daughter or not, you don’t need that toxicity around you or your youngest.
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She’s 26…it’s past time for her to figure it out on her own…you as mom are there to help in troubled times if possible, not to give hand outs to a grown up who CHOOSE to quit her job. She knew what she was doing when she quit…now she can deal with the consequences of HER actions. Tell her no!
There are plenty of jobs out there. She is old enough to pay her way
Stop enabling her , she’s your daughter not her friend , hard no ,
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My question is why are you even asking this ?? Has she not heard of the words NO before ! Sorry but if you don’t stop now you’ll only be teaching her that her behaviour is acceptable.
Tell her to go find anotha job. Idk why people think its ok to smooch off their parents.
I had to cut my brown son off. It’s hard but necessary for them to grow up.
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She expects it because you do it. Tell her NO! She is an adult… time for her to act like one.
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It’s one thing if she needed help or a few bucks here and there, but an entirely different thing to be living off of you and mooching. She’s a grown adult who can work and finance herself, so she should be doing so 