You have the right to do what feels right for you, if I had that sad choice to make I would not be scattering him in all different places. God be with you.
Your his mom she has no say what so ever about this. You do what you want. Iām sorry for your loss and God Blessā:pray:
My dearā¦to even ask this question shows you have a beautiful big heart!!! Let him rest as he should beā¦and wholeheartedly 
if those people loved him theyād want the same
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You should think about what your son would want.
My son passed away July 4, 2020 we got our children necklace. And then they gave me some in a bottle so we could do whatever we wanted with.
Well thatās just up to you. I personally would say bury him! I donāt agree with cremation but I mean whatever feels right. If you want him to be buried, isnāt it up to you? Not up to his dadās girlfriend or whoever she is? I think that burying somebody whole is a lot better than burning the body to Ash.
Condolences on your sons passing, given he wasnāt married/engaged why would his girlfriend have say in how his body is laid to rest (are the 3 under 3 to your son?) Would have thought parent has ultimate say being blood relative /parent especially if your son did not have a will / specify in event of his death his wishes of being buried/cremated.prayers for you all at this time.
You and your family have my condolences. Donāt split him up. Come together as a family in ceremony and release his ashes in unity. You as his Mom and him as his Dad can keep the ashes but not everyone else. He isnāt a bag of candy to share. God bless you all.
Lay your son to rest as you see fit. Not what anyone else wants. I wouldnāt agree to splitting my childās ashes. Thatās just not right in my book.
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Donāt split this Child of God and child of parents.
She should be ashamed for even suggesting such a thingā¦
God is looking at this gal and he aināt happy.
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He was your little boy, no matter his age. You decide what you would like to do and hash it out with his father. His girlfriend has zero say in this and if your ex husband is on the side of his girlfriends and it is not what you want then tell you ex to f offā¦this is one of the many reasons you are getting a divorce and you do what you think your son wanted. I applaud you for having such a huge heart girlā¦but f them two.
You are the mom you carried you him for nine months you care for him no one else I feel he should be with you I lost my son when he was 17 he by side everyday fuck what other people think they all can kiss your ass you say whatās gona happen go for it let no one walk on you I donāt care who pays for it you go girl let me no how it goes good luck
Your husband, her boyfriend needs to tell her she has no say in the decisions made for someone elseās child.
I can relate so well with you you tell you ex to fuck off I feel for you you have along road to go on Iām so sorry my one an only went with god 2005 keep your head up an put that foot down
His girlfriend isnāt the mother. She has NO say in how this is handled. NONE. YOU gave birth to that boy. She did not. You are the one who should ultimately decide what takes place.
My grandfather was creamated and then my nana made us all necklaces with some of the ashes in it. Unfortunately my piece of shit ex actually stole my necklace and refused to give it back. But it was very special to me. Maybe that could be an option?
My husband and I already made this discussion and made our wills so none could step in and change it on us, we both want to be cremated and split between our children, so Iād make sure itās not what he wanted first
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What is girlfriend? That word is invalid
I have no words of advice, but Iām sending my condolences. So sorry for your loss
Itās the motherās decision.
If you bury him, everyone can go visit. If you raised, itās your way or the highway 
It sounds like the gf has a lot of control in your husbandās life. This ultimately comes down to how much control she has of you and your sonās life and last wishes. In my opinion, she is insignificant. Her words fall useless at your husbands ears because she doesnāt control this situation. Stand up for your son and do what you feel is best. I donāt know your beliefs but take charge and put your foot down. These are your sons last remains and where he is laid to rest is where he will remain. Ultimately, he will be with God but should be placed to Rest In Peace where he will safely sleep. Think it through and I wish you the peace of mind you deserve. I canāt imagine your struggles as parents but I do think speaking up for your son will be important.
That is YOUR kid! This is between you & dad!
Girlfriend has no say what so ever, needs to learn her place and stay in her lane. YOU do whatās best for your baby and you.
YOU are his mother not that bitch therefore she has NO say in how YOUR son laid to rest. You need to put that bitch in her place.
Girlfriend has no say