Simply stated she is bored, don’t advise her in the end she will resent you for it.
If I were you I would absolutely distance myself from her. I would be conflicted whether or not to give her an ultimatum to tell her husband or I will. He deserves to know that she is stepping outside the marriage, whether its from her or a friend (ie. you).
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Stay out of it. The truth will come out in due time.
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If it was a woman getting cheated on everyone would be tell her. How is a man any different. Everyone’s like mind your business. If it were me. I can’t see myself associating with someone who could be so selfish. Ruining a marriage with kids. She either needs to leave the husband or stop with the other guy. If she feels like she’s not getting what she needs from her husband she needs to communicate. Tell her to grow the fuck up and start putting her family first rather than herself.
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Tell your friend to tell her husband how she feels, that shes bored with him not giving her the attention she wants and maybe he husband will hear her, but give her the chance to talk to her husband. If that doesn’t work then she needs to think hard about leaving the marriage. You need to stay out of their marriage. She needs to figure this out for herself if she wants to say or go. Her relationship with her husband will never be the same if she tells him shes been cheating. I know im in the same boat as she is. I don’t see the other guy anymore, but my marriage is still lacking, and my husband did find out and is very hurt. I have lost a lot of trust from him but didn’t gain anything I was missing either. This is very hard. So stay out of it and keep your friendship, cause down the road her husband will find out and she will need a friend. Her decision, not yours.
Why is it your business? Depart from her, find new friends. This is a no win situation. Hearts and made up stubborn minds are involved. Allow her to communicate her unhappiness to her husband. Prayerfully she’ll do the right thing
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Stay outta other peoples business.
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Honestly no one deserves to be cheated on and if you are really her friend then it’s time to talk to her. If you’re also her husbands friend then have her tell him why you won’t continue the friendship. It’s not right. I know if I was cheated on I’d like someone to tell me. It’s no different for a man. They don’t deserve it either
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The amount of people saying stay out of it… her best friend already involved her by telling her everything. That’s not her fault, now she’s stuck on what to do and wants advice that’s all.
I would tell her that I don’t agree with what she’s been up to lately and she needs to stop and talk to her husband properly and decide what she really wants. If it was my best friend I would tell her ill be there for her no matter what happens, but she has to do the right thing first
I’d dump her loose a$$ and tell the hubby. He deserves better.
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Having been the one cheated on I would have appreciated knowing.
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Wouldn’t be my friend any longer… i would tell her that… Doesn’t matter if she finds a moral ground. But you have one.
A way to look at it, would be if your friend was a guy cheating on a girl. I think the comments would be so different. Tell the husband. Leave the friendship behind if it comes to that. People who cheat, aren’t nice people deep down to people they hold close. No one deserves to be cheated on, and no one should sit back and risk the person to find out further down the line
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throw her under the bus, and tell her husband. no excuse for cheating.
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That’s their problem, not yours.
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I would tell the husband and take the consequence of losing my friend… her husband doesn’t deserve this at all. Talk to her beforehand, but if she still doesn’t listen, tell the husband. Get as much proof of it as possible to show him… He doesn’t deserve this, their kids doesn’t deserve this. I am a daughter of a mother who cheated on my father but always lied to us children about it, when I was 25, I got to know the truth of it, and rescents her even more now. My father didn’t deserve it…
Girl, you gonna have to decide if this is what you want to be associated with. I would take a step back, because you know what they say about birds of a feather. She could be using you as a cover story without your knowledge. I had a friend do that to me. Then your husband or boyfriend will feel like you’re okay with cheating. If she loved her husband, she wouldn’t of put herself on this situation. Stay out of it sweetheart, don’t let her drag you down with her.
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Stay away from her and let her carry her cross
I wouldn’t be friends with her anymore. And since we not friends no more, might as well let the husband know.
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Mind your own business
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Ehhhhh… I wouldn’t get into it. It’s not your place to say anything to him it should come from her. I would just keep telling her she needs to stop or don’t bring it up to you anymore you don’t wanna know about it. No one deserved to be cheated on buuuuttt you don’t need yo put yourself in that kinda situation.
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Stop meddling in other people lives!
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Mind your business if you dont want to know whats going on just tell her don’t tell you
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Stay out of it. This will not end well for you.
Just make it clear you will not lie for her.
The only decision you have to make is whether you want to remain friends with her.
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Not your monkey, not your zoo!!¡
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Mind your own business and keep your distance.
I’ve been in this situation, and when I mentioned it to them, they BOTH turned it around on ME and they stayed together anyways, even after MORE cheating.
It’s happened more than once
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
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If it’s not you, suggestions for family counseling, and be done, no one can fix adults.
How can she love her husband when she cheated on him
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It’s not your business. It’s best to stay out of it.
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Mind ya business. They will both take it out on you regardless.
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If this was me, I’d simply let her know that it doesn’t align with your morals and that it has made you uncomfortable. Id also be telling her that you will not under any circumstances lie/cover for her. Then I’d probably end my friendship with her, or at the very least distance myself as much as possible.
Yall are wild! If this was a man cheating on a woman you’d be screaming TELL HER! But since it’s not its MYOB. Nah… I’d be telling her to tell him or I would and I would be finding a new friend anyways. It’s not less trashy just because it’s a woman.
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Mind ur own business
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Stay in your own lane. Nothing you say will change anything.
Not your pig not your farm just continue to be friend them, if it came down to the husband asking you then be honest and up front, until then stay out of it
Leave ppl business alone
Would you want someone to tell you if your significant other was cheating on you? Or would you rather figure it out on your own?
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Keep away one day she will regret everything she did end by her self and nobody to care,tender and love her
Bruh if my friend would do something like this I would be honest. Either she tells him or I tell him. It is not because she is your ‘friend’ that he deserves less honesty or respect…
She’s a selfish POS. She wants her bread bittered both sides and the husband doesnt deserve it. If it was mr, I’d tell him because he also deserves a wife who stands by him 100% and not halfway. I wouldnt want a dishonest backstabbing friend like that anyway.
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You guys are some cold mother fuckers. If the man were the cheater you would want his ass strung up and his nuts fed to the crows. Double standard assholes.
Stay out its her life let it be her business not your js
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I’ve been here before. I gave an ultimatum, you tell him or I will. If your friend gives you every detail of her sex life she’s already putting you in the business.
What are you gonna do? Mess up her life? Isn’t she already doing that though? Does she need casualties as well? Is your friendship worth more than your character? I don’t think she’s being the best of friends dragging you into it because she can’t keep secrets. She should have known you can’t keep secrets either not like this 
and that’s why you’re friends.
This is HER life, and what she does with it is her decision. You were only brought into the scenario because of your credentials as best friend and it doesn’t sound like she asked for your help at all, nor does it sound like she needs to be ‘saved from herself’ or whatever it is you are trying to do.
As others have said, one of the only reasons that you would be online looking for someone to tell you it’s ok to completely betray your best friends trust, is if you wanted him for yourself, and if that is true, then you’d be a super shi🤬tty best friend! OR…I wonder? Do you just rat your best friend out to everyone she burns?? Likeee, for example…if she smashed into her neighbor’s truck but no one saw…would you run over afterwards and be like “hey yo, my best friend is the one who smashed into your truck!”?? Is that just something you do? Because REAL best friends would never risk doing something that would cause themselves to hurt or lose the other.
So I’ve got 3 tidbits of info for you.
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The fact that you even considered breaking your best friends trust is super shi🤬tty and you’re the WORST best friend ever!! I hope for her sake that this was all just an attempt to get some attention.
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A cheating scenario where you WOULD open your mouth would be if you had found out that her husband was cheating on her - THAT’S when you open your mouth! To protect her, NOT to burn her. NO ONE cheats on (or hurts) MY best friend! I’ve got her back forever and always! I would be right there helping her throw his clothes out on the street!
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You don’t deserve a best friend who trusts you enough that she’ll share her deepest darkest secrets with you, and then have you hop online with these stupid questions that you did. So, what I really think this was all about is…A. You indeed want the husband or B. You’re bored and just looking for attention. Either way…go and give your head a good shake and pull your sh🤬it together.
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Tell her she’s a shitty wife for cheating on a good man and hurting him for no good reason , and that you can’t remain friends with her . Why would you want such a shallow , selfish person as a friend ?? I’ll bet her husband suspects something - maybe he’s burying his head in the sand so as not to upset the status quo. She’s heading for a big fall and blame will spread far and wide .
Tell her to watch ID TV.
I know its bad what she is doing but are you the husbands best friend or the womans? Becouse i could never imagine telling on my best friend! You dont sound like a good friend…not your business
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They should join the swinger life!!
Personally, tell her how you feel about it. If it bothers you tell her to leave you out of it. You don’t want in the middle of her mess. A secret you keep for her, is a secret you are keeping that bothers you, could also hurt you.
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Stay out of it including telling her you do not want to hear about any of it and if she won’t stop talking about it to you don’t want to talk to her.
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What would you want if it was your spouse cheating?? Would you hope someone cared enough to tell you or would you rather be kept in the dark and be everyone’s fool? If you know you can bet others do too. He will dislike both of y’all when he finds out.
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I would tell him. 
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Mind your own business. Stay in your lane.
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U don’t do anything! U’ve given her ur opinion n the rest is up 2 her. If her life crashes n burns that’s on her not u.
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This isn’t your business. Tell your friend not to tell you these things because they make you feel guilty and uncomfortable because you don’t approve of her choice. Then let her work out her own relationship.
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I would do what i would want someone do for me. If it were that I was in the dark, I would appreciate someone telling me.
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I would tell him and drop her as a friend🤷♀️
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You gotta let this dude know, it’s not fair for him to be in a relationship he isn’t wanted in.
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I would give my friend my piece of advice and ask to be kept out of it. Tell your friend how you feel about this being a mistake and leave it at that. Don’t be the one to break up a marriage because they will both put some blame on you. Let her ruin her marriage because she needs to face the consequences of her actions and learn the detrimental effects of them.
I feel awful for you being in this position.
If he was cheating on her, people wouldn’t be telling you mind your business 
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I strongly believe in women for women!!! That to me means you dont tell on your friend. You are a really shitty friend in my opinion for posting this. Men do it all the time. Man dont tell on each other. I wishes women treated each other better. You are not a women for women. Stay in your lane!!!
Just stay out of it and if it bothers you then stop the friendship her
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Mind your business. It’s not your place in their marriage. If you disagree with her actions then don’t hang out with her. 
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I would actually prolly stop talking to her. She doesn’t make good choices.
Telling her husband will definitely lose best friends status. And possibly destroy this man.
I wouldn’t care to lose my best friend if that’s the choices she wants to make. That’s not the company I like to keep.
But I don’t think I could personally tell the husband. I would let it happen on its own. It definitely will come to light! And if God forbid he killed himself over it, oh boy. I couldn’t live with that.
Good luck!
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mind ur buisness lol
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Mind your own business
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So something similar happened to me, I was first friends with the guy, then he’s dating her and we became friends that way in college. I told him that she was cheating on him at work with a cook we both was servers at the same place, we ended up not being friends after the fact which hurt cause she was my friend but on the other hand when I was being cheated on and my next door neighbor didn’t tell me because she knew and we was friends. It hurt me. I felt betrayed. I feel like if some one knows someone should say something. Letting this drag out isn’t going to hurt any less. Anyone should know if possible that their boyfriend/girlfriend husband/ wife are being unfaithful especially unfaithful sexually.
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Mind your business. Your loyalty is with your friend, not her husband. Just be there to support her if shit hits the fan.
If you aren’t related to her husband than leave that alone. If you have to ignore her calls and stop being friends whatever but leave it alone. It isn’t your place unless you are related to the husband.
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Tell her she’s a wh@re
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I would pray for her and him, God will reveal the truth for him.
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For all you ppl saying “mind ur business” I’d hate to be your friends! Those are disgusting morals you have & I pray nobody ever cheats on you!
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How bout you cut her out of your life and mind ya buisness!
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Girl mind ya business… whatever is done in the dark comes to light… you told her your opinion… that is all you can do
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Stay out of it !!!
It will back fire on you, she will eventually get caught
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So. Something like this happened to me. I had a friend who thought she was being “helpful” - she wasn’t. She made everything worse. Sometimes, you just need to leave people’s lives and business alone. When the time is right, she will have the discussion with her husband. Don’t play God. Stay out of it.
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If you’re friends with the husband like you were with her then I’d say tell him but this doesn’t seem to be the case so I’d say leave it.
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Not your business or your place to tell a grown woman what to do. No matter what she’s doing, wrong or right. If you don’t like it then end the friendship. She’s gotta sink or swim on her own
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My ex husband and i had a mutual best friend. We both knew him since we were little kids.
That friend was constantly put in a position where he knew his friend was cheating on me.
One night he told me about all of it because he said he felt guilty not telling.
I told him i wouldnt tell than husband.
That night we were laying in bed and i just let it all out. Didnt tell him how i knew but he jumped out of bed and called our friend and cussed him out.
I am still best friends with him but my ex husband and him no longer talk. My friend says he doesnt regret telling me.
Sometimes i feel like i ruined their friendship but you cant sit there and watch someone ruin their marriage.
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Mind your own bussiness
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All the ppl justifying the cheating and accusing you of being a bad friend are telling on themselves so loudly 
Of course you feel conflicted
Of course you shouldn’t get involved
But don’t get it twisted….staying out of it is the smart thing to do because it’s messy and she sounds toxic
Not ! Bc you’re wrong for feeling disturbed by it …
She’s sounds like a piece of trash you wouldn’t want as a friend anyway
I always say “if they can do that to the person they kiss on the mouth every night and say I love you to……imagine what they could do to you”
A friend like that isn’t a friend worth having
I would tell her,you either tell your husband or,I will.Eventually she will get caught.
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Everyone saying mind your business etc. but if it was me in the husband’s shoes I would want to know… & I’m sure they would too.
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Honestly fixing to be a mother of two children in a couple months, I would want to know if my SO was cheating, idc ,if it was me I would run my mouth so fast it ain’t even funny. Do what you feel is right !
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Mind ur own. It will eventually surface. Or husband already knows and is ok with it.
Mind your own business. If you cant, then end the friendship.
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just tell her husband. if you dont and he finds out about it later from Whoever tells him or if he sees it, and finds out that you knew about it he’d be mad at you too for not telling sooner
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Her husband deserves to know, but if you confront either of them be prepared to lose your friend.
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Tell the husband and drop the friend.
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So true! Friends are there for friends… there must be a need for a true friend in her life right now.
Her husband deserves to know. I’m not saying you tell him but if you and your friend are that close then you need to let her know she needs to choose what she wants because either way this will end badly. When it happened to me I wish someone would have told me and the best friend to my ex told me. They no longer talk as well but I’m glad someone told me. It hurt to find out but his friend couldn’t stay quiet anymore and it had been years that it was going on. So let her know she needs to choose because she is hurting the man she married whether he knows or not. If she has no feelings towards the situation then she obviously does not love her husband. If she did she wouldn’t be cheating.
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Mind your business! Not your monkeys not your circus!
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You’ve already given her your opinion on the situation. Now you should mind your business and stay out of it. Just be there to help her pick up her feelings when both relationships come to an end. That’s what best friends are for.
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These are all good. Good to know for future references 
. To my homegirls, please don’t do this to me
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mind your business… She is ur friend and if she didn’t listen then there are consequences which she is well aware of
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Your friend is a whole tr@sh €an
This is a tough thing to navigate, especially with someone being your friend. However the thing I always return when I see these things, is this: Do you really want to be friends with someone that does this to someone they supposed and say they love and care about? If they are willing to do this, are you really their friend? What is stopping them from betraying you in some manner? How can you trust someone as friend that has openly told you they cannot be trusted? If I was in these shoes, I would confront the friend, and if they didn’t take care of things themself, I would tell the partner. I would hope someone would do this for me, because while losing a partner is a terrible thing, gaining a friend you can trust is a great thing.
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I’m sorry but if that is truly your best friend you just keep it to yourself. I know it’s not right but idk …I have 2 people I consider best friends and I will bring their secrets to my grave lol.
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Mind your own business
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You mind your business! Unless she is screwing ur husband, STAY OUT OF IT.
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