Okay but like if the tables were turned everybody would be like “tell her, she deserves the truth”
Put yourself in his shoes. Would you want someone to tell you?
It will probably cost you the friendship if you tell him, but if you don’t condone what she’s doing I can’t imagine why you would want to stay friends with her.
Birds of a feather is what people will think.
I agree with Stephanie. ALWAYS out a cheater. I would do it and cut them both off.
I went thru this with 2 friends. It ended badly for both of them and I gave what advice I could to the friend and when they refused to do better… I left. If they’re okay with cheating on their husbands or sleeping with friends husbands or boyfriends or anything like that THEY WILL DO IT TO ANYONE. Plus, What a nasty person to put someone thru that kind of hurt. I’ve been cheated on and I know that type of hurt. There’s better friends out their than that. If she was looking around then she should’ve left her husband before that search. Just find better friends and end that friendship🙅🏻♀️
Drop the friend and tell the husband. No one deserves that type of secret keep.
Man 
I know not to make anyone in this thread a friend my husband could be cheating with them and hell nobody would get told 
Mind your own business, not your place, and it is you that they will turn on.
And if you REALLY need to tell him… for 1 make sure you can fight because some times it gets ugly. 2 make sure you’re 100% ready to end that friendship. 3 understand it may not make a difference and they may still end up together. I still don’t suggest it but I’m just saying if you decide you want to tell him.
U mind ur business. Dats all u do. That shouldn’t even be a question
You mind your own business. What’s done in the dark will come to light.
he might be boring to her because she’s so into the side piece, she puts the husband down because the side piece. But that gets old two that won’t stay the same trust and believe the husband ain’t stupid and he want what’s best for his kids, I noticed in relationships when the man or woman is interested in someone else they start to put the other person down any excuse to justify them doing wrong. And just because you make more money and look down on your partner always remember God gavith and he’ll take it back, what goes around comes back around,. Never look down on someone, it’s a hurting feeling
Idk I would never tell on my best friend. It’s not your business
I’m just going to say out the friend and snatch the hubby:woman_shrugging: don’t let no good man go down like that 
If the genders were reversed we would be seeing entirely different comments. I say make a fake account and let him know. She could give him an std. Everyone should know regardless of gender. I wouldn’t want a friend like that anyways
Stay out of it! You will not be the good guy no matter what you tell yourself, if you go blabbing to him. He will find out in his own time, he may even alreadyknow. . Is it your best friend or are you in love with her husband?
Mind ya biscuits 
drop her as a friend
The complete in utter bullshit on this app…if the genders were reversed in this story the conversation would be tell her tell her…I was cheated on and left in the dark about it personally and it hurts more to find out that people didn’t do the right thing…I hope karma bites everyone who would stand by and mind there own business in the ass
At the end of the day it’s best to just mind your own business.
I would stay out of it and let your friend not your best friend anymore obviously, that you don’t want to know anymore and that your uncomfortable being put in sutuation to keep this secret for her etc. And cut ties.
Mind your own business,is it hurting you? or you’ll be the dirty rotten sob in the end with 1 less friend…or are you jealous?Or hoping to get with her ole man?Sure sounds like it??
Not your monkey, not your circus. Mind your business.
I would let your friend know that if her husband asks about something going on in anyway, that you aren’t going to lie and will spill the beans. That may make her feel like she has to tell him. I’d urge her to be honest and tell her husband but I definitely wouldn’t tell him for her. I guess ultimately it’s up to you if you think telling her business and secrets is worth losing the friendship.
Stay out of it tell her your opinion but from that point stay out of it! It’s not your marriage but that is your friend!
I’m sorry but y’all who are saying myob are dead ass wrong. Bet y’all be mad as hell if your man’s best friend knew he was cheating and didn’t say anything… 
also what about diseases. I’m sorry but please DON’T MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS IF
KEEPING THIS “SECRET” WILL OR COULD POTENTIALLY HURT THEM. Regardless they’re gonna either find out. Better sooner than later. If he wants to stay then he’ll stay. You did your part.
and if you lose a friend then they weren’t really your friend in the first place. I hope all of you have people who care about you enough to tell you.
I would want someone to tell me if I was being cheated on
If he was cheating on her you’d tell her right ? I don’t see the difference. Nobody deserves to be cheated on. If she’s bored she can just pack her shit & leave. Or talk to her husband like a grown adult.
Sadly. She is a grown ass woman and gunna figure it out on her own. You can ADVISE to her like a good friend does when they’re messing up but she’s YOUR friend, it’s HER relationship so therefore what she does and how she treats her man isn’t none of your business. You can give her all the red flags but I believe she’s grown and knows what she’s doing.
Maybe my bestfriends husband and Is relationship is different but what my friend does in HER marriage is HER business and not mine to overstep and her husband’s feelings is not MINE to protect.
WOW most of these responses are disgusting. Tell him and drop her as a friend
Keep your distance. Tell her you wanna be her friend but don’t wanna know about that part of her life. I’d convince her stop. But if you tell her husband be prepared to lose her as a friend. You do what your heart says. You’re the only one that knows them.
Doubt that this marriage will last but do not let this woman’s lack of conscience keep you from marriage. If you have morals and are a woman who can be trusted and choose a man who has the same ideals then you should not have to forgo the joy of a good marriage. Just make sure that whoever you choose has the same moral values.
Tell her to fess up with the hubby or you’re going to tell him
Why can’t woman stay faithful these days? They know what they’re marrying into!! This irks me as if it was a man cheating on his wife. Do you know how many woman would be like confront him!! If you’d like to be told your spouse is cheating on you I’d say something under an anonymous account but just make sure you have proof. Every human needs to be treated with respect. She needs to respect her marriage and clearly she isn’t doing so.
Everyone saying mind your business until it’s them being cheated on. I would want to know. She could bring anything into that marriage. Not really a friend if they can cheat on their spouse. I rather not have them as a friend. If you do decide to tell him no matter how make sure you have proof.
She is going to be screwed
Mind ya business. Karma will catch up to her or he will catch her. Stay TF out of it
Tell him or give me his info and I’ll tell him I don’t care what anyone on here thinks if any of these women were being cheated on they would wanna know!! So they could kick that person to the curb. Cmon now. Everyone commenting saying mind your own business wouldn’t be saying this if they were the ones who was getting cheated on. Any of these ladies commenting saying don’t tell him, how would you like to be the ones getting cheated on and wasting more energy time and emotional love let’s even get down to it the person your husband is cheating with might even have a std and you’re now sleeping with that person as well because they don’t use a condom cmon people be honest and truthful! Y’all would want to know, not just for emotional reasons but for your own health!!! Not to mention the person this lady is sleeping with says he wants no commitment imagine how many other people he sleeping with 
this poor man who’s being cheated on lord I pray he doesn’t have a std from all this bs his wife is putting him through and at this point WHO WANTS TO BE FRIENDS WITH A WHORE? I’m sorry but she’s legit cheating on her husband doesn’t feel guilty and who’s to say when you get a man she won’t sleep with him to? It’s friendships like this that I don’t mind being honest with them and kicking them to the curb it’s nasty and gross. She’s legit bored and cheating…. That is so wrong. You said it yourself she isn’t listening to anything but herself …. She’s selfish…… kick her to the curb as a friend and tell the truth. Amen
Ok so the ones saying tell him she’s not someone I’d have as a friend and blah blah blah… don’t act like your friends haven’t done questionable shit before that’s immoral or unethical because everyone makes a couple terrible mistakes from time to time. That being said yes he has a right to know but that is your best friend which means in girl code at least you have to somewhat stay outta it and mind your business. You have given her advice it fell on one ear out the other. She is grown and is gonna do what she’s gonna do whether good bad or right or wrong. My only advice with the guilt if it’s eating you up and you and the husband are friends as well is send a anonymous email or text or letter and let him know what time it is. Don’t go into too much detail that’s her cross to bare explaining the gravity of her actions but just simply saying something like your wife’s having an affair with so and so seen them kissing at such and such that way it’s not too much detail but gets the point across. Personally if I was in your shoes which I have been I minded my own business only because he treated her like crap and was abusive so I didn’t really feel to bad for dude. Had I been friends with him I may have written an anonymous letter or something but then again not my business especially because the person to blow the whistle always gets the most backlash and whatnot.
Just stay out of the truth will come on its own
He will more than likely find out. I wouldn’t tell him anything but if she is the type to just continue and continue even after this one, I would just talk with her and ask her what is the point in going through years of you both suffering if you love him but will never be satisfied with him?
Stay out of it and away from her if it bothers you
I just found out my husband has been seeing a married woman with 3 kids for a year … I was blindsided, we have 3 kids together as well…I wish I would have known before I moved to a new state with no family or friends… tell him…doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of you after that… no on deserve this
Back away from the friendship this is going to blow up and you don’t want your family in all the drama.
Not your business!!!
Being someone who went through being cheated on multiple times,
I really appreciated the ones who had the balls to tell me,
The person being cheated on is wasteing so much time with someone who don’t appreciate them, and can move one with someone who does
If the the cheater was switched and it was the man doing it, this wouldn’t even be a question it would already he done,
He deserves the respect of knowing the person he loves is not being faithful…
None of your business, she confided in you as a friend.
Lmao all these women saying to mind her business. Probably just as bad as the lady cheating.
Absolutely tell him. He deserves to know so he can get a better woman.
Girl just be your best friend’s diary like you’re supposed to. It’s not your place to do anything. You told her how you feel and that’s all there is to do
This is your best friend? Girl what? You don’t say nothing and mind your business. Let HIS best friend find out and tell him. My best friend cheat then I’m gone be Ray Charles 
the hell… Alicia Moore they out here making best friends like this now
Not your place, not your marriage… let things fall as they should,when its time the truth will come out
She’s an asshole. Part of the reason most relationships or marriages do not work out. Why couldn’t she spice it up with her husband or tell him she’s getting bored and they change things up. Why do people think cheating is the answer!!! Your asking all of us what to do … but You already know the answer to this especially if you wouldn’t do this . Tell your friend she is in the wrong and how you actually feel and go from there !!! Her life her dumb decisions in the end it will always Catch up !
I would stay 0ut of it…You dont know what he is up to…some times thing arnt as you see them…
Kinda sounds like their relationship is dead. Just watch it sink. Its worthless to save anyways, he sounds awful as a husband lol
as someone whose been cheated on please tell them…
Either get proof, tell the husband and then drop her as a friend. OR Mind your business. Either one.
You are not supposed to 
out your best friend. Everyone needs one person they can completely confide in without judgment.
Tell him. He deserves better.
Mind your business and support what is best for her. Do they have kids?
Either way, do not tell him.
Well you could just send him an anonymous letter. Lol. Idk. That way your name isn’t officially on the telling.
She’s a big girl. Let her ruin her own life. 
Trust me he will find out eventually I wouldn’t get in because he may not believe you these females will lie say that’s not true you know I love you I wouldn’t cheat on you will she is but Truth is she will get caught everything you hide will come out to the light let him and Jesus handle it
What a worthless friend. A true friend takes their best friends secrets to the grave. Regardless of what it is. You’re not suppose to even judge your best friend.
Where do people even find friends like you? A snake in their own yard. Running your mouth will solve nothing. You lose a best friend because you can’t keep your mouth closed and they might get divorced.
Shit she probably will end up giving her husband an STD. It Happens All the time. Like, I’d rather be told about my partner cheating than getting an STD thinking that I was Safe in the relationship.
My opinion, tell her husband.
People say MYOB…but in all honesty… No one deserves to be punished for their unfaithful partners selfish acts of infidelity.
Most all things come to light, but that’s your best friend. You feel pressure because you know, maybe it’s best to remove yourself a bit from this part of your best friend’s life & just be there to listen while she navigates this. If she’s a good friend, be that in return in the situation she’s confused about & needs time figuring out. All you can do is help guide her when she’s turning to you for advice. I try to remember not everybody has the same moral compass as me in moments like this.
You keep on doing you, and let that train crash. Suggest your friend start going to counseling, she clearly needs to figure out what she wants.
I would want to be told if shoe was on the other foot…
Wouldn’t you?
This is actually gross. I will never understand why anyone who knows someone else is being cheated on and just leaves them in the dark like that. She may be your best friend but that doesn’t excuse the situation. I couldn’t live with myself knowing that I knew someone was being cheated on and that person was left in the dark.
You have a few options OP:
You could tell her that she needs to do the right thing and tell her husband as several things could happen and back away from the situation once he knows. Make sure she tells him.
Tell the husband and stop being around your friend (you run the risk of that)
Write the husband an anonymous letter (type it out so handwriting won’t get you in trouble) and mail it to their house. Don’t put a return address on it. When writing the envelope out, have someone else do it with their penmanship or have their address printed on it. Make the letter sound like it is coming from an outside source. That way you can let the husband know without you being directly the one to tell him
Stay out of it for sure
Why is her marriage your business? The truth comes out eventually and I’d let it be. Personally I’d end my friendship as cheaters are suck a** losers.
I can’t believe so many people say stay out of it have y’all ever been cheated on? Have you had to look your spouses friends who knew of such a thing in your face after finding out and feel the disgust that you were not only betrayed by your spouse but by others who say they care for your family as a whole?
This isn’t just about the friend. It’s about her children, her husband, and not keeping friends who are immoral and deceitful.
I say tell the man, but only if you have proof.
Please stay out of their relationship.
Just let him know. No more, no less. After that, the ball is in his court.
Everyone, in any relationship, deserves the option to choose.
The people calling you nosey are probably the same people who cheat and lie in a relationship.
Let her run her course, is she wants to be dumb, so be it. But it sounds like maybe you may want her man. Mind your business, if she is the bread winner than maybe he is slacking… because if she truly loved him, she wouldnt be seeking else where. If it was that much of a cause for concern, yeah, make it known… but really let shit ride, because its not your business unless it’s going to cause him harm. Or unless you want her spot 
what a friend lol!
You stay out of it and mind your own business. Kinda sounds like you have feelings for the husband. Your loyalty lies with your friend.
I had someone call me from a pay phone and they said “your husband is cheating on you” and hung up. I already had my suspicions that he was.
No sense in saying anything she probably will learn the hard way
Then let her be. She is causing her own heartache.
I say mind your business.
What does any of that have to do with you? Nothing. Mind your business.
Sorry but he needs to know. I wish that someone would have had the balls to tell me when my husband was cheating on me. Instead it went on for like 4 years without me knowing. Many people knew and said nothing. That isn’t fair to anyone. He needs to know. Period.
He needs to know. Reverse the rolls and you’d want to know, I could never sit back and watch a good person get screwed over.
What’s up with all you supposed best friend’s being more loyal to your friend’s husband than you are to her? Mind your business. Plain and simple. It has nothing to do with you.
All these people saying stay out of it…would you not want to know if you were being cheated on? Why should the lady get to be a dirty b**** and the husband just gets to tick along like everything is fine and dandy:nauseated_face:…tell the husband and let him move on with his life
You are trying to run their lives due to YOUR fear. That’s something you need to deal with on a personal level. Not by preaching to your friend and judging her or running to her husband out of your fear of it happening to you. Out of the outrage you are feeling as if your living it. Give your friend advice and think long and hard about anything else you decide to do. As someone who has been cheated on, multiple times by two men, sometimes being delivered that message needs to be thought long and hard about because emotions run high. I really don’t know if I’m glad or not. I find out about one and all the others came out of the dark along with a lot of realizations. What sucks is the teller always has their own agenda. So they blab and deuce leaving you all alone. That’s bullshit. I have had only ONE person who helped me see on my own what was going on and it snowballed from there many other horrible things I didn’t know before then. Things even my friend didn’t know and they are brothers. Things that made him say holy shit and cry. Every step of the way he would check in with me…you OK? You need anything? So there you have it. Basically a mind your business because you are not coming at it from any place that won’t make things a thousand times worse. I’m the one who’s been cheated on and have never been the cheater. I don’t have the love for you that you deserve, it’s because there is something that can’t be fixed. I invest too much to hop from person to person. I need my space after a relationship ends. I screwed up once not doing so. Met the guy a month after my divorce and jumped into a relationship way too soon. Maybe consider the view point of the person who has experienced that specific heart ache.
If you say that’s your best friend you better talk some sense into her. If my best friend was cheating on her husband I would be telling her that she needs to fess up and figure her shit out. And she would do the same for me. If you call her your best friend, you don’t just stand by and let her act a mess and create turmoil for herself. You don’t need to say anything to her man. But you absolutely need to talk sense to her. And if she wants to stay messy and do dirty by the man she loved enough at one point to marry, you gotta cut her out of your life, because that’s proof that she’s not about to hold value and she has some serious growing to do in her own life.
You will always end up the bad guy in the end !! Stay in your own lane period
Cannot say it enough,
S T A Y O U T O F IT!
This has ZERO to do with you. Like NOTHING. Mind your own business
Mind the business that pays you. Period. You’re probably single because you’re tending to others business. MYMFB
Stay single till you find the right one and take it slow.
Stay out of it and let them be!
Your friend is a POS. Tell her husband.
Mind your own GD business, it’s not your place and you don’t know what their marriage is like, how do you know he’s not shit, not ignoring her, not giving her time or attention, there’s always a reason, rather you like it or not, it’s not your place, unless you lived it. 
Would you want to be told if someone was cheating on you?
I would talk to her,to tell her she needs to Figure this mess out!
None of your business .
What you do is mind your business. Don’t put yourself in the middle of their marriage.
Tell her how you honestly feel…and explain either she can tell him or you will because honestly if she’s doing that to her husband imagine what she would do to you…I get she felt comfortable enough to confide in you but if you don’t agree with let her know…I promise once you do that you’ll see how much of a friend she is to you…a true friend doesn’t mind the criticism and can see how that would put you in a very awkward position.
You had me at head winner. LOL
Stay out of it and send her a letter
Also what I love about the women in this group 90% of the time would tell you to tell her to tell her if she was the one being cheated on. I have always said stay out of a person’s Marriage in all of these kind of situations. Help me make sense out of the double standard going on up in here.
Talk to her and tell her she needs to make a choice.
If she continues tell her husband. She’s a POS and it sounds like hubby deserves better.
If she’s your friend tell her how you feel ! Tell her you’re scared her actions will have consequences she isn’t necessarily seeing or preparing herself for. Tell her you love and support her and you want her to know your concerns. Tell her this isn’t her normal character and you can see that she and her husband have personality differences she needs to learn to navigate and communicate through and that you will be there for her but it’s not right to do what she’s doing to her husband and you feel put in the middle . Then ask if she found out he was doing it to her how would she feel ?
Give her advise always…be with her side till she move on from this bad case