Is she a Christian? Then she needs to do what God says!
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Donât say anything. Be there for your friend when this guy breaks her heart. He most probably will. Keep the secret. your friend trusts you and confided in you. Now be a good friend. She might say itâs only for the fun but there might be more to it than that.
She wants fun her husband wants commitment he obviously thinks thats what he already has
I would never cover someones arse so they can cheat ,no matter if there friend or family
Get some.evidence and send it his way ,let him get on with his life ,people who cheat deserve to loose everything and get caught
Sounds like youâre abit jealous, maybe sheâs having a mid life crisis or just wants some fun and exciting from everyday crappy life. Itâs obvious itâs not going to end well but itâs not really your business friend or not let her learn the hard way and if youâre a friend just be there for her
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First off donât say anything to her husband. Donât allow her to use you as an excuse to carry on her affair. Iâm sure the husband would be very hurt if he were to find out. Point out to your friend some things that could happen if her husband were to find out. He can divorce her and she can loose at least part of custody of her children. If she owns a home she might loose part of that etc. Aside from hurting her husband, she will be hurting her children. Donât share this knowledge with anyone else there is a bigger change of it getting back to the husband. After that there is really nothing you can or should do. Donât let you BFF ruin your opinion of marriage. You just have to pick the right person to marry.
Itâs an ugly feeling to be treated wrong like this, at one time I wish someone would have told me, itâs not right, donât stay out of it because no one deserves to be treated so bad, she needs to woman up and let him go to get his life with someone who will love him too. Let her know that! You arenât wrong for this and donât feel bad about it.
Keep out of it, let her make her own mistakes, be there for her when it falls apart. Its pretty obvious that the relationship is going nowhere. If her husband finds out she could loose her marriage too.
If it were me, I would tell the âfriendâ either sheâs needs to come clean with her husband or I will. I would put a date on it and then follow through. I donât want a friend like that. Or at least need to take a break from her. Thatâs just me, and from these comments, Iâm in the minority.
Personally stay out of it, regardless if sheâs ur best friend or notâŚsheâs a grown adult ( maybe not a mature one) is playing a dangerous game ( so is this man) no future, kidâs involved, married , recipe for a disaster sad part these innocent children will probably be the one to get hurt the most.
All you can do is what youâve done. Tell her that this will end badly as they usually do. Tell her to take what she has learned from this and move forward. Donât threaten to tell her spouse but tell her that this is objectionable on every level, especially with kids involved.
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Stay out of it , walk away fast as you can. Cause when all is said and done, you will be the enemy. She will tell her husband you said this and that.
Itâs not worth the drama . She knows right from wrong.
This breaks my heart! Iâve been cheated on in like every relationship - in one way or another; it sucks. You start to internalize the reasoning. My thoughts, she agreed to get married. She chose to get married. That is a lifelong commitment that she made, she needs to do what is right and work on what she has instead of looking for it outside the relationship - thatâs not fair. If she isnât happy she needs to communicate that to her husband and allow them to make decisions moving forward, the husband is 50% of that relationship and he deserves to know the truth. If he chooses to leave her, thatâs his decision but at least then he will not be living blindly in a lie that isnât healthy for anyone involved. Marriage is forever. I just got married 4 months ago, Iâve been with the guy for 12 years, engaged for 2 of that. I could never do anything to him like that, though no kids are present, yet - anything that is wrong or âoffâ in the relationship we talk a out it, work on it, nurture it, and grow together - thatâs the agreement we made together.
If he were to contact some kind of disease because of her you would feel badly. Tell her you love her, her children, and her husband. That you donât feel itâs right what she is doing to him the children or to herself. That you give her time to come clean or to get rid of this guy. After that you will not be held accountable for what may or may not happen.
You donât have to agree with everything a friend does to be a friend. That subject if you you feel this way about it is off limits. Especially if it makes you uncomfortable which it clearly does. Distance your self or tell her this is something your not wanting to hear about or be part of.
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Keep your head on your shoulders just as is. For your friend youâve given advice now stop given her any more. Let her make her mistakes because thatâs how you learn in life.
End it and be quiet. If she tells him, itâs over.Being honest will do nothing to make him feel better.
Hate to say this. Its not your business nor place to say anything. This isnt your circus or your monkeys. Dont talk to her about it. Dont babysit for her do not do any favors for her. Stay out of it. This is going to get really ugly. Really soon. Just dont.
Your friend is playing with fire and is going to get burned. Dont get burned too.
There is nothing you can do.
Just make sure when you are with her or talking to her, that you donât allow her to talk about the affair or the guy that sheâs having an affair with.
Since you have made it clear that you donât approve of her actionsâŚ.
out of respect, she should not discuss those actions with you.
Sorry to say, some people just want their cake and eat it too, unfortunately. And those of them that play with fire usually get burned in the long run. The best advice is to just stay out of it cuz in the long run youâll be the bad guy either way. Either to her or her husband. Ik itâs hard cuz you donât want to see either of them get hurt.
Best advice. . . Stay out of it ! Everyone will get hurt when truth comes ou !
Not your monkey, not your circus. Let her sort it herself. Donât get involved. Sheâs the only one that will crash n burn.
As someone who was cheated on Iâd give her an ultimatum to either tell her husband and come clean or you will. People who say stay out of it have never been in the husbandâs shoes
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Stay scared and get out of your friends business if you donât you will be the one to break up a marriage let they work it out their way.
Sounds like she may not have been in love with her husband to start with! And it may not be either of these guys she will be with long term . When she gets tired of this guy, there maybe #3, #4 and so on until someone breaks her!! But, you donât have to talk about it with anyone . The one thing no one knows is how he (her husband) will react when he learns what is going on! Stay away from her situation, donât talk about it! She is playing with fire and she will slip up and her husband will find out soon enough.
Tell her how you feel but stay out of itâŚnot your place to say.
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Iâd call her out on it amd tell him. If it happens once it can happen again no matter who it is. Boredom is the saddest excuse.tho none are okay . I mean she may say she loves him and hopefully she means it bit she doesnât need to stay with someone sheâs bored with and canât communicate with about it to the point it leads to cheating. Nope.sorry. you could lose her as a friend or both but honestly I wouldnât want a friend thsts a cheater thst canât communicate her Boredom to her husband.
Precisely: youâre single. You donât know and itâs not your family. Mind your own business.
Stay out of it you will be the bad one if you say anything where is her honesty
If you play with Fire you will get burnt and thatâs fixing to go into a explosion People can get hurt or killed fooling in relationships,It happens all most everyday I wouldnât answer any questions if he Husband ask you Get away from her Fast sheâs a joker and a loser and you definitely shouldnât be caught in the middle,But you say your single and some times some people like to see relationships fall so they can get a part of it But if you donât have the hots for that you need to lose their address and Phone number and walk away cause you can walk in some CRAP that A-JAX want take it Off so hopped off while the getting is good
I would drop the friend. Actually I did drop a very dear friend many years ago. I was 19/20 & she was married with kids. I loved her husband as much as I loved her. I just stepped away out of everyoneâs life cause my I felt like IIke I was cheating. If I told him I broke up the marriage but I didnât want to hear about it from her. I had known her since I was 8 & she was 18. My mom met her when they were both in hairdressers school. I have reconnected after 25 years with her oldest daughter. I would drop the friendship.
Iâm sorry but I would let her husband know, itâs the right thing to do! I canât believe all you people are turning a blind eye to this. Itâs just wrong. No wonder our society is so fucked up. People like you all contribute to this bullshit. At least leave a note on the guys windshield of his car, let him know how and where he can catch her in the act. Balls in his court then. You did your part, now bow out. Everyone of you would want someone to tell you! Donât be a hypocrite.
Girl you better tell that man this woman is playing his heart strings! Just so everyone knows, you can actually die from a literal broken heart. When traumatic events happen, those little muscle strings holding your heart together break, in the end, dying from a literal broken heart.
If she were truly your âbest friendâ you wouldnât be questioning your choices.
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She is not a nice person doing this . He has a right to know his so called loving wife is spreading it around like a troll 
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She is clearly doing something you donât agree with which leaves you two choices, stay out of it and distance yourself from the situation, or do something. This sounds like a friendship you donât need.
Mind your business. Sounds like the husband needs to get a job, but doesnât want to, he may already know.
Stay out of it. Thatâs a trust issue. What do you think her loyalty as a friend is to you? If her husband found this out he would also look at you some kind of way. I would step back and donât get involved. Let her do her.
Why you should do anything?? She is an adult, let her live her experience and pay its consequences. None of your business
This is none of your business ⌠butt out!!! You will cause more harm than good. You are a busy body!!! You will remain single forever if you donât stop interfering where you donât belong.
First off did she not think on how this would affect her kids in the long run if her husband found out and how long has she been married to feel bored
I would take myself out of that scenario completely. Friend or no friend this is going to end ugly.
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Tell her ur thoughts and feelings on the matter and the situation sheâs has put u in. either way you look at this is wrong
Tell him or donât tell him
Tbh if it was me when she told me I would have said think u need to be telling ur bloke
Why is it wrong for men to cheat on women and everybody to know and its wrong and the bloke gets shammed
But now itâs a women cheating on a man itâs a a different story
U do understand spreading std or sti could turn in to something serious and ruin people lives just for 5 mins of fun and lies
Her husband and children do not deserve this regardless of their circumstances. If she is not happy, do it the right way and separate etc. Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. As a friend, I would tell her get rid of bed partner or you will tell her husband and will no longer be her friend. There are consequences for dishonesty, PERIOD. I hate a cheater and obviously you are not ok with either or you wouldnât be asking for advice, knowing deep in your heart what the right thing to do is. Peace
All I can say is, there were people who knew what my husband was doing and I wish someone would have told me.
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Please do yourself a favor and stay out of it. This is their life and it will come to a head but you need to focus on yourself and move quietly away. She is not your best friend . You owe her nothing and you owe her husband nothing.
If youâre not comfortable with it, move on from the friendship.
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You should be able to tell your friend anything. No one is perfect but we donât give up on them. I really hope you never do wrong. I would distance myself before betraying my friendâs trust.
Mind your own business its her issue.If you tell hubby the only one who gets hurt in all of this is you and the kids.Let them figure it out on there own.
Back out its not your issue
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Until you have been in that situation no oneâs know what they would do
Tell her you donât want to hear anything about it.
Let her know you are not happy with her choices.
Put distance between yourself and your friend.
Time will go on.
You said your piece to her. Leave it be. Unless her husband asks you straight up donât go .asking things worse. It will play out the way it is meant to.
Find a more honest friend and start distancing yourself from this situation. Nothing good can come of it. Someone who is cheating on their spouse is also cheating on their children.
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Iâm gonna be blunt like usual. Whoâs friend are you? What sheâs doing is not right. But it sounds like u need to worry about your own life and stay out of hers. Kinda sounds like you got a thing for the husband. I feel bad for the husband and all but itâs not ur place as her friend to say anything to him. And honestly I do feel you are to involved. And this shows it. Worry about your life and let her screw up hers. Oh and a best friend would have never even posted this. I think u need to learn how how best friends act. Talking to her is what a best friend would do. And when that donât work out. Again mind ur own business.
People who live in glass houses shouldnât throw stonesâŚwe all live in a glass house of some sort.
First ,You Need to Bid âadiosâ! To This Reptile !!! She Isnât a Real Friend !!! She Is Playing Games . Regular Party Games Want Her Cake & all the Beer !! Wants What She Wants When She Wants it !!! Doesnât Care About Her Husband ,Her Kids ,You Or The " New Flame""!! She Will Get Burnt. Then What Exactly Will You Do ,Clean Her Wounds Fr. Her ? Come To The Rescue ??? Those Ignorant People Love Setting Others Up !!! Tell Her You Donât Want To Hear ANYTHING About Her Stupid Escapees. She Isnât Paying You Crap. Some How By Mixing You Into ADULTEROUS Stupidity it Will ALL Go South !!! Let Her Fend Fr. Herself. Be Bold !!! If You Meet the Gigalo Ask Him If He Likes Parlaying With A Married Woman ? & if Her Husband Happens To Shoot Him, What Then ??? If The Husband Calls You Or Ask You Anything About His Wife & "Whatâs UP " !!! Tell Him ,I Donât Cover Fr. Her in Her Quest To Be An Adulterer "!!! Like I Told Her " I Am NOT interested In Hearing Any Of Your Escapades "!!! He Will Get The Point & get on The Trail !! If She Donât Like It " Hell, With her "! If She Doesnât Change Her Evil Ways then She Could Be Destined That Deep Dark Downward Path !!! Find New Friends !! Cancel her Contract ! She Is No Friend To Any of You !!!
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Encourage her to tell her husband that she is not happy with his dull lifestyle, to the point that she could cheat on him. Encourage her to reâinvest in her marriage, with the father of her children, to find some fun with him. They need to get a sitter and go out, or go camping, or whatever interests the 2 of them can share. Can you be the sitter? You can be a good friend by figuring out what your own boundaries are. You can say that you want her to be happy but you canât see her while this is going on, as it puts you in a bad place with her spouse. But is that your boundary? What is your need?
I think 
it no body is a business if u tell him and some thing bad he can do to her u are going to blame your self for saying somethin what wood u do if it was u let him find out but him self I think I wood not say nothing
Itâs her life, leave her to it⌠Just be there to listen and not judge⌠You risk losing her as a friend if you meddle too much.
Her choices her consequences She WILL Be found out by him Someone will see her with her gigalo Let someone else be the tattle tail You said your piece and make it known to her she will have consequences and the kids will be caught in the middle
Stay out of it. That womanâs morals are none of your business. The only question you need to ask is if sheâs a good friend to you and do you enjoy her company. If you donât agree with what sheâs doing you should be able to talk to her about it and it shouldnât effect your relationship. Just donât let her bad behavior influence you. If her bad behavior influences you, get out. Cut your ties and walk away.
I guess I would just stay in my own lane creator or whatever you think about doing youâre damned if you do it and if you donât
None of your business. Certainly shouldnât tell her husband. Tell her you donât want to know and focus on other things.
It is none of your business!! You are her friend so share your feelings but support her until she figures it all out. It is not for you to get involved. Would u want her to do that to u?!! Or instead talk to u and continue to love you. Are u without wrong doing? So donât act so holier than thou. It is not right but also not your damn place so chill.
That is the best way to hurt your children sheâs bored some one should explain to her selfish people get bored
I would say tell her you canât be apart of this and cut ties, it obviously is bothering you
You need to drop her as a friend if sheâs not listening to your advice. It will end badly.
Stay out of it. Tell your friend you do not want to be in the middle of this. Also, you may want to tell her if she still loves her husband donât do this to him or respect him enough to leave him.
I would tell her either you tell him or I will.
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Stay out of it. Trust me this could turn around on you. When itâs family matter especially between a man and a woman a person should never stick their nose where it doesnât belong. Your friends husband may already know about the affair and hoping it will blow over. Even if he doesnât let him find out completely on his own. Maybe your friendâs husband may never find out about the affair. It will most likely blow over. Many marriages survive affairs. Be a friend but donât go asking for trouble. If friends not happy she not going to listen. Your friend is trusting you to keep her secret. If you expose it you will lose a friend because she will see your actions as a betrayal. Unfortunately her husband may see it the same way. Iâve seen this happen. I know itâs hard. I hope you take my advice. Whatever happens you will be no part of it and thatâs a great thing and your conscience will be clear. Let your friend work the problem she created out for herself just listen.
Donât say anything. You can listen to hear vent and share that personally you would not have an affair but other than that 
Keep your nose out of it. Unless you are willing to lose a friend.
Tell her she needs to tell him or you will. It became your business once she told you.
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Stay out of it. Tell her that you know it is wrong and she should too.
Do nothing. You have advised her. Mind your own business
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Time to unfriendly her. When he finds out he will be angry with you too.
Sheâs risking her marriage,sounds like this guy is just using her for now till someone else takes his fancy,I think you should stay out of it ,he will find out eventually one way or another.
Mind your biscuits and everything will be gravy.
It always turns on you no matter how good your intentions
You stay out of it because itâs none of your business.
Stay out of it. If you involve yourself even in the slightest, you will get burned when this whole situation blows up. Tell your friend you donât want to hear anything else about it.
Take care of YOUR businessâŚif there is cheating. You will be treading on Egg shellsâŚI suspect they will both turn on you⌠even if they stay together or go different ways⌠You will never be looked at in the same manner as previouslyâŚ
None of your business stay out of it. Because it will affentally come out in the open
No business of yours. Anything you tattle will come back to bite you.
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Stay out of it it is none of your business.
Stay out of it. Save yourself a lot of trouble or you will definitely lose your friendship.
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For all you who say not her business. It bacame her business when her friend told her.
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Mind your own business is the best advice.
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If sheâs your best friend, donât tell her husband. Thatâs what best friends are for!
She needs to leave that man alone ! She has a husband.
That donât got nothing to do with you. Pray for your friend and keep it moving.
Hope she gets caught her husband does not deserve this just because she is bored
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Let her make her own mistakes. I feel bad for the husband.
Getting involved in her personal drama will not end well for youâŚ
If you say sheâs your best friend you shut up. If you donât like it tell her u donât want to hear about it.
Donât get involved on this soap opera, best friend or not, apparently your values are quite different. Sheâs the star of this 3 person dance, holding each of the men by the hand but sheâs the choreographer pushing and pulling each when she wants. If she does that to then, she canât be a reliable friend to you either.
Stay out of it
Youâll end up the bad guy
Well her being a friend and all. She knows how you would feel about it before she told you. She knows how you are. I tell the truth. I would tell him and the wife be damned
Tell her you no longer want to be friends, otherwise you will have to tell her husband and you want no part of it
I would find a new friend. Itâs not your place to tell her husband. Walk away!
Not your marriage, not your business.
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