Maybe it’s time to send him home to mommy. You dont need that kind d of “help”.
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You are not wrong! And the way he is behaving after you talked to him is also wrong.
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You are not wrong. He can go live with his mama if she is more important than his GF or his baby
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Hell no! Get rid of the SOB. It will not get any better 
Should not have waited 3 years for this conversation. This behavior didn’t just start.
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Tell him bye bye you don’t need too more kids too take care of
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Kick him to the curb… his priorities are screwed up…
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Um…if you want things right you should have started it out right…
God, marriage, kids. When you start out compromising you don’t just stop and now want this black & white or yes & no.
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Your Right! You n your all’s child comes before momma. She’s married n working. Can buy herself what ever. Spoiled!!
Is him helping his mama putting y’all out?
If yes, I definitely would be saying something. If not, then I would probably keep my opinion to myself, or maybe bring it up casually. But it wouldn’t bother me as long as our home and family was taken care of first.
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NOT wrong for telling him how you feel. NOT wrong it bothers you. The family he created comes before his family now.
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Nope as a couple you decide what money is spent on together!
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He needs to cut the cord…
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if its not your husband and this is already an issue and you care about his money how are you gonna react if you are married …hmmmm controlling woman lol chicks spoil themselves all the time but when dude spoils his mom she gets jealous …
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No, you are NOT wrong! My hubs & I are now separated partially due to the fact that every time his momma holds her hand out, he hands over $$. She has a job. She wastes her money on stuff she will never use and is abusive toward him and his siblings if they deny her. Kudos to you for standing up! Time for him to get off Momma’s tit or get sent back to her for Mothers day
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While I commend the fact that he loves his mom… I definitely feel like there’s a creepy Ness to that situation. now she is struggling with bills or had legitimate needs I could totally understand. even with that being said he should still run things by you first because you are his immediate family. So no I don’t think that you’re wrong at all for feeling like you do and saying what you did
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if he’s still helping and taking care of his responsibilities at home, then I don’t see what the big deal is. If you truly felt that you were in the right, you shouldn’t need validation from strangers on the internet…that’s just me though. Good luck!
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I went through a similar situation with my EX where he always took his moms side no matter if she was in the wrong or not and every time I would say anything it turned into a fight. It never got any better. I should’ve known because right after I had our first baby his dad put our newborn in a dangerous situation and his mom was upset because I said something and he told me that if I didn’t like it to move out. I have wished 1000x that I would’ve left his ass that day. Mamas boys don’t change!!!
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I think you have every right to be upset if shes coming before the family you created together especially if she isn’t in dire need. And even more so that in protest he’s stopped helping you with your child.
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I’m kind of shocked he would be so petty as to stop doing the tasks he would help with before with his own child just because he didn’t like your input on a situation that involves both of you.
I think you need to get how he feels about the situation too though. All the things our mother’s do for us and we get to a point where we can do anything for them to show appreciation is a wonderful thing. It’s an issue if it’s breaking bank as a family and needs to reign in a bit but if that’s not the case and still able to save money too it’s one of those things that you just need to accept.
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Sounds just like my exhusband… lol emphasize the word EX
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He’s throwing a temper tantrum… Send him packing to Mommy.
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I would never ask my son to buy me stuff. His dad can lol
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Who knows what he had put her through before you came into the picture. Maybe this is a way he’s paying her back or something?
I do understand where you’re coming from. I’m married to a mamas boy. But she doesn’t and will never ask for money or gifts. We owe her a couple grand from like 6 years ago and she refuses it still.
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what women don’t realize is their mom is not going to live forever and how he treats his mom now is how he will treat you in the future if you don’t mess it up
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You should’ve told him long before this
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Your not wrong at all!
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Is it your money as well? Because if it’s not, you really don’t have a say in how he spends his money. If it’s causing you guys to struggle financially, then no, you weren’t wrong.
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Ask him if he likes the way the mother of his child is being treated just for voicing her opinion.
You’re not wrong. There needs to be open dialogue. And you can’t expect him to drop his mama like a bad habit, only to make an effort to prioritize differently.
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If he been taking care of his mother then why would he stop now because you have a problem with it
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Send him back to mommy.
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Emotional incest. Had to deal with it for years. Sickening byt once you get ya head around it nd move tf on, its great. Im 10x the woman she is at 1/3 of her age. Get out and rub it in that you dont need him as much as she does.
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You and y’alls baby should be his number 1 priority, not his mom. And you should be able to voice your concerns without him throwing a fit and refusing to help with the child yall both made. Helping her every now and then, that’s ok but sounds like she’s taking advantage of him. She’s an adult and should be able to handle her own. 
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Maybe he has borrowed money from her and owes it back…so he helps when he feels he can??
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Change the locks and leave his belongings outside. Show him that you wont put up with that kind of petty behavior. I’m sure he would NEVER give his mother this kind of cold shoulder attitude. So why would he treat the mother of his child that way? It’s a lack of respect and lack or importance you have in his life.
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I’d honestly flip the eff out on him. Honestly I get tired of just hearing about men doing stupid shit like this. Tell him to get his shit together and start being part of your family. If he doesn’t, leave. He can give his mom money as long as there is a hearty savings account there for you and the baby. And if he thinks for a minute that he is justified in not being a father to that baby and a husband to you because he’s upset that you have an opinion …then he is sorely mistaken.
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You are so not wrong, y’all should be his FIRST priority!! The family he made is more important than the family he came from im sorry but that’s the truth. If he doesn’t understand where you’re coming from then that’s his fault. You & your daughter always comes before his mother. His mother should NOT have to rely on her son for money especially if she makes enough to support herself. So you should not feel bad what so ever!!
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Send him back to his mommy. 
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So wrong. That’s the woman who raised him. You may not know or ever know the whole story. Maybe they had it rough but she still managed to give him her all & he appreciates that & now that he has money he can now show her how much she truly means to him & thank her for everything.
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My man did the same thing for a long time. Still does when he can but his momma didnt raise him. After a couple years when it started to affect us and our home i told him it was to much and he stopped because he saw it to. This last year we sold her a truck for less then half of what i wanted it for to help her out and all she does is complain its crap, he has gotten her all her furniture in her home she also complains about, we gave her a washer and dryer to update hers because we moved into a place that had a set and she broke them, he replaced her stove because shes on a fixed income but can work and refuses to ( we also pay her to watch our daughter) and couldn’t save the money for one because she buys unneeded items, after the stove she tried to get him to buy her a new water heater she doesn’t need i was a SAHM and we got by it was draining us to help her so much and she just kept wanting more and more. We also do a lot for his younger sister whos still in school. Got to the point we were struggling he finally realized she just was taking advantage not really needing the help most of the time and he stopped. Shes not very happy with us and tries to say he doesnt help her out but we still do what we can when we can she’s an adult she’ll figure it out
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My husband used to do this also, but she was saying I need money for car payment and she wouldn’t even pay the damn thing I finally put my foot down and told him I know that’s your mom but we have kids enough is enough or I’m leaving and taking the kids, she’s a grown ass woman with a job so stop it, he finally did when he found out about the car payment she wasn’t paying
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Sounds like a titty baby to me🤷♀️ not a man
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He needs to be checked! U and baby or go back and live with mum… he can’t act like a child when this is a concern for you.
Tell him to grow up recieve that u have said and work together that it does not interfere with your relationship.
You’re not wrong he could be helping you out buying you and your daughter the things you need, most importantly for your daughter yes I get that’s his mom but you guys are raising a child together.
You’ll most likely never be able to separate a mother from her son in all honesty. That’s a type of loyalty whether you stay or leave. I would be looking deeper into your boyfriend. He may have his reasons of “paying her back”. Does he happen to have more kids? Do you pay his insurances? Has she loaned him money your unaware of? If it’s his money he’s giving, I wouldn’t pick it if you’re not ready to leave him over it. It’s a fight you probably won’t win with a grown man…
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It’s his mom expect it!! Do you and the baby have what you need?? Are the Bill’s paid,food on the table?? If so…let it be!! You really can’t tell him what he can and can’t do with his money!!
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send him back to his mommy!!! sounds like a childish boy i would be cussin him out lol
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This means you don’t have a good relationship with your own mother. Instead of celebrating of how well he treats his mother, you drove him away. That proves that you’re not a good partner and not a good mother either!
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As long as you’re being taken care of, have food, a home, your kiddo is taken care of, then make your own money mama. Spoil yourself and your kiddo. Don’t spoil him. Just make sure everything is 50/50. If he is spending the rent money, bill money, food money and causing hard times for y’all, then yeah, you have every right to speak up.
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Um, I think you need to really think about your relationship. Money is the #1 cause of divorce and split ups.
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No. You are feeling how any person would in your position. If he wants to act like a child and not communicate and help out with the baby, he can go back and live with his mom. Don’t feel bad not one bit. You already have a child. You don’t need a grown one.
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My therapist says the family you make with your spouse is the priority. You and baby come first.
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Your boyfriend needs to grow up. His mother still see him as a child and no woman is good enough for him.
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There is helping your mom out and her taking advantage I personally dont think it’s right he buys her things all the time like clothes and shoes of it was for food or Bill’s I’d understand it’s a need but when it’s a want nope that is my opinion and him not helping out with your guy’s baby because you told him you didn’t like the fact that he was that’s unacceptable and all because he was giving his mom money sorry he should be taking it out like that he should also be telling you how he feels and so on you two need to talk about this problem dont let it get buried where it later becomes a bigger problem
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Y’all aren’t even married yet. You dont get to have a say in what he does with his money.
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Dealing with the same mamas boy issues minus the neglect. Its never gonna change.
If his mother was in a better financial position, I bet this complaing -itsh would accept any money coming from his mother wholeheartedly!
Okay I’m sorry but no you are not wrong there is a healthy relationship with your mother and there is a seriously wrong Vibe coming from that relationship there is a time to cut the cord and that cord Cuts both ways she’s a grown ass woman with her own job and her own husband to pay her bills why on Earth is her son neglecting his responsibilities to take care of hers and if he has a problem with you voicing your opinions and feelings then he needs to pack his s*** and go live up mommy’s ass and see how long Mommy’s husband appreciates that b******* he needs to step the f****** and take care of it you and his daughter
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Idk this is tough because I’m Mexican , and we all do that - it’s like a thing we do. My parents and aunts and uncles all did it for my grandparents , they did it for theirs , etc… it’s like our way of saying “thank you for all you did for me , now it’s our turn to help you” and I know a whole lot of people who do the same . I would understand if like it was affecting us financially like not having money for groceries or necessities , but if it’s not hurting us , then please do take care of your family.
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You’re the girlfriend, not the wife, what did you expect?
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Nope. You’re not and I doubt it will get better. My husband is a mama’s boy but he knows without a doubt his number one priority is me and our kids.
Honestly I’d move on. Or even leave for awhile. He puts his mother before you and he shouldn’t. I was always told that the family you create is NUMBER ONE. Period🤷🏻♀️ He needs to grow tf up. She sounds like she’s taking advantage of him bc she knows he’s a mamas boy.
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Pack that manchild up and send him home to his mommy.
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Some moms think they are entitled to things from their children. They’ve raised their children (your boyfriend) to cater to their selfish needs without thinking that your boyfriend could use that money on himself, the baby, or you. It’s a deep rooted narcissistic thing that you’ll have to ease into and work on. Be gentle but firm in standing your ground. They’ve lived like this for several years and it’ll take a while to cut back. It’s really too bad that moms expect and feel entitled to things. We’re suppose to be loving, supportive, and unburdening.
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His mom has a man to buy her all that stuff for her tell him that… they need to cut the cord already …she’s just using him .
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Tell his ass to go live with her then
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Hell no, you weren’t wrong! He’s punishing you for calling him on being his mama’s widdle man. Move out and move on, total manipulative jerk.
I’m concerned with why the mother is allowing her son to do all this for her? I have a son, only 14 but I would never take from him? Especially if he’s got a family to take care of? If he has extra money I’d advise him to save it, or put in an account for his child’s future. Helping out when times are tough is one thing. But this woman is married, grown, works? Makes no sense why she would be consistently taking from her son. If you’re living with this man you have every single right to question anything that he does? He’s upset with you and stops taking care of his own child out of spite?? Wtf? Are we dealing with a grown man or a child himself. Again taking his mom to lunch or dinner from time to time, or buying her something if he’s out and about here or there is wonderful behavior. But this doesn’t sound right? Parents should not be going to their children for their wants and needs. I would be 
concerned the exact same way you are. Hang in there hun. Stand your ground!!
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Maybe he owes good mom money and you don’t know about it and he’s repaying her slowly.
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Unless he’s a diaper, you can’t change him. His response to your concern is very childish. If he’s going to act like this when you approach him about a situation, the relationship is not going to work. Definitely seek couples counseling.
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You need to have a heart to heart with her. You tried with him. If it continues, put him out.
Send him back to him momma. If he doesn’t pay bills, won’t help-bye.
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Ohhh how I feel you, I’ve been with my husband 17 years married 3 he paid his moms cell phone bill, car insurance gave her money for bingo an to go out to eat an shopping for 14 years we also have a 16 year old son an I’ve got a 25 year old step daughter I raised from the age of 12. I feel there’s one thing with helping someone parents of not an another with being taken advantage of an that’s how I felt after we got married my name went on the bank account my pay check included an I told him it needed to stop.You an your child are his family an he should be doing for ya’ll helping is one thing but it sounds like it’s like she’s abusing the situation which is what I went thru good luck I wish u the best of luck hopefully he sees what’s right
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If hes taking from you and children to give to mom then that’s wrong, there should be limits…however I’d dump him for being spiteful and purposely not helping as if hes trying to punish you…fuck that
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Why did you wait this long to bring it up, what you let fly, in the beginning, can’t become discontent now, especially when it was a discontent from the start for you and didn’t voice your concern about them.
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If hes helping out and your bills are paid. And his child is taken care of … Y’all arent married. He can do whatever with the rest of his money. I dont see what the big deal is. 
I’d rather my man buy his mom things than waste money on other stupid crap. I’ve been with my live in boyfriend 8 yrs… Bills are paid our 3 kids taken care of, food on the table… What i do or he does with money left over is our own business. Smh. I help my parents out. And mine would help his out but unfortunately he dont have the luxury of doing so because his parents are deceased. Parents dont live forever. And spending money on your parents isnt a taboo thing. But then again I’m not a petty controlling woman
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Send him home to his moma
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Sounds more like a sugar daddy then a son. That’s crazy.
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I had the same issue. I talked to her about it, it went no where. Now we are done and he lives with his mom and pays her bills. So that’s how that went.
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Well i think id move on and forget start over i have grown sons but id never take a dime from them i might have them bring a coke to me but id pay for it some do take care of mothers that wont change
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He’s acting like a toddler. Tell him if he wants to act that way he can go live with his mama and then be on child support.
Shame on the mom for taking it! I hate that expectation! Like when people start making money, everyone around them expects a piece of it! So tacky! 
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We send my mil money every so often so she can buy her medications. In our case, she lives in a different country where there isn’t Medicaid/ Medicare or other resources that helps patients get their medications. Even with this, my mil feels awful and it’s extremely grateful. She hesitates to ask for money for other things because she’s very aware of our family needs. There’s a huge difference between helping someone get their necessities over wants (shoes, clothes, eating out, e.t.c). As a mother herself, shame on her for allowing such behavior in her son. This only teaches him that he doesn’t have to be responsible for s/o and or child!
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Kick his ass out. If he wanna be a Mama’s boy she can take care of him. 
If he can’t even take care of his daughter that he help make get rid of that. Especially since he needs to respect you and what you want and need as well.
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Super weird behavior of him. 
I’d be questioning it 100% and if he feels differently girl, get used to it because he may never change.
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Are you sure that’s his MOM? 
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Sounds like he’s a spoiled man child that needs to go live with his mom. Let him pay child support
In my opinion if he’s taking care of you and the baby and you guys are well off then I don’t see the problem even if mom has her own things and own jobs . now if y’all are struggling and hes giving his mom money then I feel like that’s an issue . a lot of y’all sound greedy , that mom raised him provided all the food and love and support he needed . I didn’t hear once home girl say that the man treated her wrong in fact she stated the opposite . I hope I one day make enough to buy my mom all the things her heart desires they way she used to do for me . bet all y’all are ganna put your mom’s in a retirement home too huh?
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Wow how weird. Apparently, you can’t tell him anything without him pouting. What will he act like, if it’s something really important? I’d ditch him.
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You’re not his wife. His daughter Is one thing but he’s not legally obligated to you. Also if he is contributing financially and taking care of his child then why can’t he help his mother. Smh He needs to leave.
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One its YALLS HOUSE so stop saying MINE. You would have to legally evict him, if you throw him out you will be in trouble.
Two Get a job if you dont have one
Three HIS MONEY his choice, he can do what he wants with it
Four its HIS MOTHER not yours and im sure you’d do the same for yours.
He doesnt have to take care of you. only the child. He isnt married to you. He isnt legally obligated to. This is a boyfriend. Not a spouse. both yall need to grow TF up.
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Honestly my biggest problem with this, is that when he’s upset with you, he stops helping you with your child and house work. That’s ridiculous. I don’t care what you’ve done to piss him off. He still has responsibilities.
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Send him back to mommy. Tell him some is ok but all that he does for momma is a bit much and if you have a future together that shit won’t fly. I’m all for loving your mom and doing what you can for them but this seems too much
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Nope! Not in the wrong. I don’t understand why he’s spoiling her and not you guys. Somethings off and weird about that. I mean I can understand helping family out but thats just weird. And why does she need all that anyways if she makes more than you guys do?! I wouldn’t deal with that personally. Especially when his response to you is to act like a damn child and not help you out anymore. Pack his crap for him and tell him to go back to his mom.
Kick his stupid ass out to go stay with mommy
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Your never wrong for expressing how you feel. This should have resulted in a discussion about the situation rather than shutting you out for voicing your opinion. Maybe he needs some space, this may be his initial reaction, but you can bet he is thinking about what you said. I’d give him a little while to process and ask him how he wants to proceed your obviously not going to live like this forever so what’s the next step for your family. Will he be able to see your side or will you have to accept that he for whatever reason feels it’s his job to take care of her in this way. Can you stay with him if he refused to stop helping his mom. Even if it’s not correct in our eyes there is a reason his relationship with his mother is what it is. If you try to put an ultimatum down it will only backfire. He will resent you for making the choice for him. He will at some point have to step back and reflect on the choices he has made and why and how he wants to move forward. Everyone talking about kicking him out… Please this Is the shit you work through as a couple that makes you stronger. Is he being petty absolutely do I agree you should have spoken up absolutely but walking away from the man you love and a family your obviously invested in is absolutely insane. Couples have gotten through worse and you guys will get through this. Sending strength and love.
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Ew I’d get rid of him too throw the whole man away 
mine threw his whole mom away thank god bc she was a weirdo treated him as if he were her property hence the reason they don’t talk 
but I was getting ready to throw the whole man away! Don’t ever hold things in with your s/o especially if y’all been together 3 years !!
damn all these hateful comments 
i give my mom money an buy her things all the time and if my man didnt like it he can leave. my mother raised me… gave me everything she could growing up and now that im grown if i want to return the favor i will.
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What kind of woman does better financially than her son is and still asks him for money when he has a child to support !?!? Raised by a woman like that, can see why he does it. I would get put of this relationship now that you are aware of how far it goes
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