As long as she’s a lesbian , it’s fine 
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Very strange that he would go on a trip alone with her and not even invite you. Plus if she’s such a good friend of his you would think out of mutual respect for you that you would know her a lot better by now so that you feel more comfortable with him having a female best friend etc and you would know she is not a threat. Seems very suss to me. I get the feeling he is in a relationship with her as well that is more than just ‘best friends’.
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I don’t expect everyone to agree with me and I’m not saying I’m right but I’ve been in 2 long term relationships and they both were the person I wanted to spend my time with. I didn’t give up all my friends but the guy I loved was the person I wanted to go out of town with. He became my best friend.
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Double life. It’s all a lie. He wants his cake and to eat it too.
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Not right by any means
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Not ok, they are both going out of their way to disrespect you. Move on to better things.
Well that’s up to you but if you don’t trust him you don’t need him
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My son has a female best friend. He also has a girlfriend. She is married to a man also friends with my son. Both get along great now after a bit of jealousy on both girls parts. It’s possible that you don’t see your best opposite gender friend in any sexual way.
Get rid darling the only women he should be going on holiday with are you and his mother or sister if he has one!!! Not some ‘friend’ he’s got no respect for you! Literally text him and say she can have you you freak!!!
the old adage applies here. 2 is company, 3 is a crowd.
I don’t know why on earth you couldn’t go?
Do we see our parents spending the weekend alone with the opposite sex? No! So why are we now normalising this behaviour? Yes they may be friends don’t stop that or even try but you and your partner her and her partner could all go away don’t ya think?
Depends on how much you trust him and what your gut is telling you.
I can not believe that you still call him your boyfriend. Why would you let him disrespect you like that. What would he say if you want to go away for the weekend with some guy. You deserve better
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No. Something isn’t right with that.
Sis move on they together… Bestfriend is a cover up boo… Not sure why ppl can’t just be real and do what they really want instead of playing with ppl emotions… That’s how ppl get killed… Or some kill themselves it’s really sad and should be a crime… I pray for your sanity and strength to move on… I pray God blesses you with a real man because he’s not it sis…
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This is where it depends on you. It’s your life, either get over him having girl best friends and doing things that friends do OR find someone who better suits what you want, and expect from a man in a relationship 
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When I was very young and naive my fiance, my brother and my best friend went to the club. I was told I wasn’t allowed to go. I spent the whole night crying. Asked my brother the next day what happened and yes my fiance and my BFF had been kissing. He should not be going anywhere like clubs, holidays without you and if he is your gut will tell you it is wrong. Which it already has done.
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Never again, love flows easy not pain
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3 years before you and you don’t know her?? That don’t sit right with me
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I fully believe that a male and female can be friends. BUT I find it weird that you don’t know her very well. If they were besties then they would hang out a lot and you would be there some of that time.
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You already know. This is unusual, irresponsible, disrespectful and being allowed. She 
always liked him and he her and if it was legit you would be as close to her as he is. A man that wants your time will seek out your time. Even when texting! If a man isn’t spending his time talking with you then it’s being spent with someone else.
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Have your boy best friend there with you when he comes back.
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it doesnt matter how long theyve been friends, if YOU dont want him with her PERIOD< he is to respect that without question as im sure he would expect you to
It’s a no for me Dawg.
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I would not be in that situation get out. Trust your gut. Something is def up. Sorry
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If that’s his best friend but she’s not even your friend… I’d say there’s something being hidden. I’m all for male/female friendships but if you got something to hide that’s not ok
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Don’t allow yourself to be gas lighted. I don’t care how long they have been friends, the “going away together” should have stopped when you and he came together as a couple. End of discussion. You are being taken advantage of, and if he cared for you he wouldn’t be doing this. He’s not that stupid!
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That other girl is some1 whom he can’t marry but he loves to spend time with. So it’s clear they r going around n she’s spl to him.
Leave this man
He’s definitely cheating on you. C’mon!
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How long have you been dating?
These comments are not it. I have two guy best friends and we have always traveled together. Their girlfriends didn’t like me at first but we never did anything but make memories as most friends would do none of us were really on our phones unless we were in the car or at our hotel Rooms. We are all best friends now. Known them for 7 years and have only been best friends with their girlfriend’s for about 3-4 I was even asked to be a bridesmaid. However always listen to your gut. If you feel something is off then something is
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A mam amd a woman can be actually be best friends and nothing more. It does happen. Talk to him, have a face to face serious discussion. Ask her about it too.
SHE should be understanding and respect you by talking to you herself. She might become a good friend of yours as well.
You’re wrong AND you should trust him.
If they were going to be a thang, they would’ve done the damn thang.
Let him have fun. You wouldn’t be tripping if she had a penis. Why are you tripping that’s she’s a female?! They have BEEN friends. She’s going to be there when your yesterday’s news.
Pick your battles.
Yaaaaaa I’m gonna have to say fuck that shit. Tell him to not let the door hit his ass on the way out.
The only girl mates my man is having are the ones thats going to be my friends too. “Haaaay fraaaand” x haha but likewise for him, my bros are his bros slap him upside the head because you should be his best friend
Something else is going on definitely & the fact that he doesn’t see a problem with your concerns 
how long have u 2 been dating for?
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What is a relationship without trust? That’s the question you should be asking yourself
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Super sketch
Get a new bf
Not sure if i could not get into more of the best frest friend if you never been with the two of them to do things together. Better be careful, don’t sound right to me.
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I mean if you going to be in securely texting every 2 minutes would avoid u too. Only 1 side to your story
I honestly don’t care for the whole can’t be friends with the other sex mentality. I think friends are important to have. But in saying that, if you’re deliberately being excluded then that’s a problem.
Yah the girl best friend may be reserved at first, but if she’s really just a friend she will go out of the way to get to know you. Even if its just to figure out whether she thinks you’re good for him or not.
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If you can’t trust him to have a female friend and go on a trip with her then you shouldn’t be with him there is no relationship without trust
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Depends really like I would trust my bf with quite a few of his girl mates. Like one I was uncouraging to go see this band he likes cause he asked me to go and I don’t like them and I know his mate does 
but then he got this mate that sleeps around with his mates that I wouldn’t feel comfortable him going away with… so really depends on a lot of things.
Hell no. I would leave. It’s not right for a bf to go on vaction with a supposedly best friend especially without the gf.
Yeah no. I’ve got male friends. Always have. I don’t have a single one I would leave my partner at home alone for while I went on a vacation with them. That’s a line you shouldn’t cross. There’s a big difference between going to a bar/concert/evening event, and being gone in a hotel overnights.
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I would never put up with it. These men and their female “best friends” 
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I hate to say this …He does not put anyone above you!! Something is wrong here!!
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He’s secretly in love with her
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If he can’t respond to your text tell the ass GOODBYE
Ever see rom-com movie ?
Boundary crossed for sure.
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Key sentence 3 years BEFORE you came into the picture… hunny she will be there when your with him and when or if your without him… male and females can be JUST friends without it being sexual….
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You do not have a boyfriend. You have a boy to raise, pamper and let go when he grows up! Hope you like being a surrogate Mother.
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yeah that’s a huge fucking NO in my relationship… we don’t go on trips with other people
I m 77 years old …believe me would not…could not and won’t put up with it
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That’s not ok you should had been invited and included in the plans aswell, wouldn’t trust either of them I wouldn’t be ok with my fiance going away with a chick friend and you have every right to be pissed and to dump him I would. That’s so disrespectful
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Every female on here saying he’s a pos probably has multiple male best friends. SMH people can have platonic relationships stop acting like it’s all sex. But I can tell you this if you’re this pressed about it you don’t love or trust him so just move on.
If u feel like a boundary was crossed, then it was crossed. Your feelings are valid. Talk to him. If you don’t like the response he gives, leave him. Life is so beautiful, and u will find a man whose perfect for you.
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Oh hell no way hunnnay your smarter than this I’m sure…leave his asssssss
Not a fan of men going away with other females and vice versa, if they have a girlfriend, wife, or significant other.
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The fact that he doesn’t have any respect enough to care that you’re concerned is grounds enough to say see you later but yeah I’d boot him
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Kick him to the curb…
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Yeah, it’s time to move on…
Has he given you any reasons not to trust him?
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Sorry lady!! But I think I would have to say to him don’t let the door hit you on the way out! There just seems to be so much wrong with him taking this gf on a little vacation and you not being asked to go. I know there are male/female plutonic not sexual relationships out there…. Plenty of them but you don’t NOT ASK your significant other,gf, or wife to go and just take the “gf” …… he def crossed a line that should never be crossed!!!
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You need to tell him it’s Ok to have a friend that’s a woman but no vakays with out you , something is fishy
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So ur man has a girlfriend
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Send him packing to his best friends house!!! ASAP!!!
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Oh girl. You’re being played
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absolutely not why would a girl other then his girlfriend oe wife be his best friendi belive i would check in on them
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Crazy that you let him do that period! Dump that zero and get yourself a hero! Absolutely unacceptable! You deserve better.
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They sleeping together and this trip is for them not you. They having wonderful time your the one lefted home worried but guess what he don’t care about you otherwise be you with him.fuck wether you trust him cunts that do that are not worth giving shit he playing you leave the fcker now before he back don’t even waste your time
That boundary was crossed. Big time. That is so disrespectful.
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a boundry has been crossed - sorry, but don’t trust that “friendship” … on to the next immediately - you deserve much better and are being shorted.
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LMAO… All yall women saying a boundry was crossed… if roles were reversed yall damn well know you would be saying “You’re over reacting”
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I think it’s reasonable not to respond to text as quickly when you’re on vacation. He doesn’t respond to text quick normally so I’d expect it to be worse on vacation. You gotta go with your gut though. If you don’t trust him then get rid of him.
I get that they had their friendship well established prior to y’alls relationship, however, she is NOT “one of the guys” and regardless of any other detail, it is a boundary crossed in my book.
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How would he feel if you went on a trip with a good Male friend??? Ask, I bet it would not be ok with him! Go ahead get your best Male friend and say go to Las Vegas for the weekend. If you do you will probably come back and dump him. All sorts of things happen between friends, especially on vacation, alcohol etc… if he says it’s ok that’s only because then he can be with the good friend!
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I have several male friends. And that’s what they are “friends “.
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Girl u knew the answer to this before u even ask. Tell him goodbye even if there is nothing going on and they r just friends that is over stepping boundaries in a big way. That’s a fat no and c ya later it was good to know ya! Ur bf and his “gf” have zero respect for ur relationship! And the fact that they have no respect is grounds enough to terminate this relationship! FYI they are not just friends! Friends with benefits maybe
Just know she’s the one who’s going to take your spot when y’all break up. 
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First WHY did you not go? If you were not invited then I’d tell him to stay on vacation!! If for some reason you got an invite but couldn’t go he’d still be hearing stay on vacation! If he wanted to go on vacation it should have been with you!
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Find a new boy friend!!
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You are not wrong find you another boy friend
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My best friend is a man and when I went on vacation he had the room key. We’re both single now and that’s my brother from another mother. It seems like you and him are in a new relationship since you barely know the girl and he took her on the trio instead of you.
Nope, not okay, get rid of his ass now, seems he would rather spend time with the “best friend” anyways.
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They fucked on that trip girl! Get even and leave his sorry ass.
Trust must be earned and he does not seem to interested in your trusting him or not.
You’re not wrong. Definite boundary crossed. Not quite sure why you even allowed it in the first place. Even if it was supposedly innocent, its extremely disrespectful on his part and hers. Get Rid of him.
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It is weird. And if your gut is talking… I’d listen
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It is weird. And if your gut is talking… I’d listen
Unless she’s a lesbian… there’s no way I’d trust that, and even still?
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Does he hang out with the two of you at the same time, or do you stay completely separated? If he keeps you away from each other, then he is hiding something/playing a game.
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So its YOUR boyfriend and YOUR relationship. If YOU feel a boundary has been crossed…it has been.
You don’t need to be in a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. You need to just be a friend to him like she is. Meaning, don’t live with him, or him with you. Let him take care of all his needs by himself. You take care of you. This will free up more of your time for your friends.
You’re not married…walk away…
remove yourself on the equation.