My boyfriend is questioning my children. I just found out from my daughter that my boyfriend asked her……”out of my exes who she likes more”…like who does that?? So I ask said boyfriend if he asked my kid that and he said and I quote “I wanted to see if the kids like me most” Now, I already know how I’m going to handle this and I plan to end things with him. (there is other nonsense I refuse to put up with) Just thought I’d get other’s opinion on this to really make sure I’m not just being “too much”
Be careful
This could potentially be grooming behaviour
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My boyfriend asked my kids if they liked him more than my exes - Mamas Uncut
Maybe he just wants to make sure the kids like him and he is doing right by them 
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Definitely leave him. That’s not okay
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I see no problem with that.
You would want your kids to like him. Why leave him over that makes no sense.
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Sounds like a narcissist feeding his ego. Good decision 
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I wouldn’t want anyone doing that to my daughter.
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I smell insecurities 
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Inappropriate behavior
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That’s super weird, I’m sorry but my kids don’t need to tell you this to boost your ego and don’t put my children in a potentially uncomfortable situation.
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It’s a tad weird, but I agree with the poster above … he might just genuinely want to make sure he’s doing a good job as the guy who’s dating their mom…
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Send him his walking papers.
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Maybe he just wants to whether your kids really like him before the relationship gets more serious and theres talk about marriage.
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Overreacting much obv it’s not love if u could walk away over something so petty
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How many is there to choose from? 
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Completely inappropriate.
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He’s not mature enough yet. Put this one back
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That’s a little ridiculous to break up with him over that question…
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Narcissist behavior. No one should ask a kid a weird question like that. Puts the kid on the spot. What would he have done if the kid chooses someone else ? Red flag all over and very immature.
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It’s not really that weird my step mum used to ask me and my siblings all the time if we liked her, what other things are you not putting up with?.
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Don’t engage with children about adult things
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Yeah, that’s creepy. Don’t involve kids into insecurities. It would be one thing to ask if they like him or enjoy spending time with him, but asking about ex’s… definitely weird.
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If this was the only thing, I’d say yes you’re overreacting. But this seems to be the straw that broke the camels back I guess.
Definitely immature, both of you. How many exes are there, that’s not good for them either?
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Yea not cool n defo someone u wanna KEEP UR KIDS AWAY FROM
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He probably just wanted to see if the kids like him.
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Not a question to ask kids but he probably didn’t think it through and just wanted to know if they like him. Not sure it warrants ending the relationship unless you were already planning to end it for some other reasons.
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Children should not be put in the middle of adult shit. Hes fishing and he’s using the kids I myself would of never done that with my husband son.
I dont see how it’s so bad you need to leave him ? Dang what am I missing here ?
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I dont see an issue. He probably just wanted to know. You’re ridiculous and reaching if you’d walk away because of that
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Narcissistic tendencies coming out… 
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yah your definitely being to much, if your gonna end it over something so petty, then this is obviously not a relationship you really wanna be in.
maybe he wants to make sure your kids like him? i dont find it weird that he asked.
like come on now!
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Think it really depends how long you’ve been together, and how old they are. Adult discussions aren’t for kids.
I think it was an inappropriate question. Of course he wants to be liked. But you don’t ask a child questions like that….?
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I think more information would be needed like does he legit care if they like him and was he just being casual or like what? The fact that you’re bothered by it says it is weird. If your gut says it’s off then believe it. I could definitely see it as harmless from most people, but others it would creep me out.
Maybe he’s seeing if the kids like him for a long term plan. Just testing the waters? But to dump him over this does seem like you can cut ties easy. Maybe you 2 are on different pages.
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You’re not being too much
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Lol I just see it as he wants to make sure you’re kids like him🤷🏻♀️ this totally makes you look like someone with multiple exes around your children and just super petty
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I know it sounds childish and weird but maybe he just has a self confidence problem. But he should know there is a reason they are exes and not a current. I would probably just talk to him but we also don’t know how other reasons you mentioned. I would just do what’s you feel best for you and you family.
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You’re overreacting big time. Maybe tell him not to be asking kids stuff like that. But to leave him over a simple question is beyond petty and childish. He deserves better if you’re that quick to just up and leave him. Should be an adult and just have a conversation with the man. Geez this generation 
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I mean he probably really just wanted to know if they liked him 🤷 not something to break up with him over just tell him u don’t like him questioning the kids like that
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What way ? Lol was he just casually chatting and Said well who do you like more ? Jokingly? I dunno… seems like you must not like thus dude much. I don’t know what other reasons there are … but this single one… walk it off gurl 
super touchy
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My exes wife told my kids that when their dad dies it all goes to her. They are 10 and 12!! There are just stupid people in this world! 
He may not have meant it like that he may of been trying to see if the kids like him. But it is very weird especially your insecurities around the children. Seems a little odd.
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If you have that bad vib, do it!
Just how many exs have you introduced your kids to though for this to even be a question that would come up. …
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I don’t think you should end things. Tho his approach was wrong, his intentions were good. At least he cares about your kids and wants them to like him too
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Um… You are over reacting yes… Smh
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I don’t think your partner should be asking your children such questions. That’s just my opinion.
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All My Exes Live in Texas -
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Damn how many men do you bring around your kids?
Personally it seems like something that isn’t much of a big deal unless it made your children uncomfortable. It seems you’ve already made your mind up so I say follow your intuition. It will not steer you wrong.
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Really asking for advice for something so stupid. The world is falling apart and that’s what ur worried about. Come on
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Maybe he is trying to gauge the seriousness of the relationship. Honestly just sounds like an immature way of asking.
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No wonder there’s multiple exes to compare himself to if you’re ending it over that lol better question is how many different dudes are you comfortable bringing into your children’s lives? The question was a little insecure on his part but if that’s enough for you to end it maybe you’ve also got some commitment issues. Some problems can be worked through not every bump in the road is worth canceling your trip
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Is he a parent himself? Sometimes people don’t understand that there are questions you don’t/shouldn’t really ask , and that also Varys with each parent. Have you tried to educate him (without talking down to him) about things like this? He may not realise that what he’s done has made you uncomfortable
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If he isn’t around kids much he might not know that questioning your kids is a big, no huge, red flag
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I don’t think that’s a reason to end the relationship lol. I do find it weird and you guys should sit down and talk it out. Because that’s not okay. But I don’t think it’s THAT serious but that’s my opinion
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How many boyfriends have they been around?
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I understand how the wording came out but I don’t think he meant anything bad by it ar all. Honestly if I was in your shoes I’d be a lil touched he made sure they like him.
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Kind of weird but you’re definitely overreacting, unless you’re looking for a reason to end it (that’s the vibe I get)
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I don’t see a huge issue with it. He may genuinely care and may be scared that the kids don’t like him more. It also could have been a certain context of a conversation.
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This make me question you and how many men you’ve had around your kids.
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Maybe he’s trying to find out how many before him.
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Could be innocent just seeing if he is liked more just a normal question
Or if his only asking your daughter that I would question what he means by like more ? Like attractive is he trying to seduce her etc. I mean this does happen and it starts of with small talks like that .
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It’s weird to put kids in that position, but maybe he just wants to be liked and accepted? He shouldn’t have done that, but if you’ve been dating long enough that he has met your kids, and it has been going good before this, I would just talk to him about it. If he doesn’t have any kids at the zoo and he might not see it has a big deal. To me it sounds like he is starting to care for your kids and wants them to like him.
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I don’t think it’s a reason to end the relationship. Just talk to him
Boyfriendssss. Lol. Girl. You’re overreacting
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This is why I’m single. Ppl are so quick to cut things off. If you didn’t like it talk to him. If you care for him talk it out. Obviously you’re fishing for ideas to kick him to the curb.
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Men don’t always know how to act when it comes to emotional things com up maybe this was just his way of feeling out the situation, by doing this, it seems as though he really is serious about you. If there are other issues that you’re not explaining on this post, then I get that but if this is all it is, I wouldn’t jump to conclusions.
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Lmao girl you are definitely being too much
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I think you are to much…
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Sounds like there’s been way too many boyfriends around your kids I honestly think you’re being a bit much with this. It’s really not that serious. Tell him how you feel about it, ask him not to do it again & keep it moving (with the same boyfriend). Learn to communicate, then maybe you won’t go through so many 
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This feels like grooming…
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Too much. But you really don’t need a reason to break it off. If that’s what you wanna do, you do you.
Overreacting. If they would have said someone else he would have asked why and then would have tried filling those shoes and become better.
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Overreacting. I too am wondering how many boyfriends you’ve had around your kids
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I personally think that’s weird to ask someone else’s kids. I wouldn’t ask my step kids if they liked me more than the girlfriend my husband had before me lol
But I don’t think it’s necessarily a huge deal? If that makes sense.
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Completely overreacting… It might just be his way of making sure the kids like him, cause I’ve learned that if the kids don’t like the your partner they’ll make it harder then hell… Maybe he’s had that happen to him before also
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I would find it good that he cares enough what they think
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You’re being too much. It’s cool that he wants your kids to like him and not make the mistakes the other guys made.
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End it you’re not doing too much
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I think your being a little over dramatic. My boyfriend has asked ny daughter the same question.
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Its like a Seinfeld episode, you’re just looking for a reason
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If this is a big deal to you I’d like to know what the other ‘nonsense’ is that is making this an end all……
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This is over the top. The whip cream to the ice cream
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How many men do you Bring around your kids
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Youre giving me Vicki Pollard 
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I personally would get rid of him…if he needs validation from your children then he’s to insecure
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You do what you feel that needs done girl!
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id say byeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Ex’s as in their dads or ex’s in every guy you’ve dated since you’ve left their dads? Because asking if they like him more than their dads is far worse than the latter.
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Right, totally agree. Inappropriate question for your child. How is she supposed to answer 
I’m sure she told him what he wanted to hear too. This guy is very insecure and not being mature enough to handle being around your kids.
I don’t think you’re overreacting, I think it’s a sign he will use your kids and not think about what is best for them. If he wants to know info about your exes, he should talk to you.
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You’re being a bit much. You’d end a relationship over that?
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Sounds like something a guy would ask his new girlfriends kids😆
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Nothing wrong with him asking that especially if you 2 have been together for awhile. But to me it seems like you’re looking for an excuse to get rid of him
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How many boyfriends have they been around exactly 
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You are too much. And he needs to run. You are already trying to end it… good luck with the next guy in line… wow… these babies don’t need you influencing them anymore maybe… that is probably the main concern you should worry about.
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Dnt ask my kids shit!
I’ll drop u in a heart beat