So I have five children oldest is 14, and my youngest just turned 5months old. I work full-time, and their dad is currently going back to college full-time. So we recently had an argument, and he states I don’t know anything literally while he cleans, does laundry (here & there) cooks supper. It’s never really on a daily basis, and his classes are two days out of the five during the week…he stays up all night and plays video games and also watches movies saying he’s doing laundry…while I get kids ready for bed: showered, clothes picked out, shoes and jackets ready and go to bed by 10 pm and wake all the kids in the morning by 6 am to have them ready by 7:30 am for the bus and daycare. I make the rent payments, car payments, insurances, and daycare bill…so am I being the b**ch and tell him to leave when he cops an attitude with me and says I’m lazy and do nothing in the house?!
Nope. You have your hands full. He should be the one to help more since hes home all day and just goes to school
He’s a bitch. Treat him like one. 
My hubby says that to me all the time too. Smh fuck men:fu:t2:
Having kids and working full time is busy enough for you.he should pitch in as well given the fact he has more time then you
He needs to be more supportive. Being a mom and working full time is hard work!
Seems like you do everything yourself anyway I feel like a load would be lifted if you kick him to the curb!
Some couples counseling would help mediate the situation and find an agreeable result
I’d tell him if he has a problem with something that is not done whether it be laundry dishes or whatever, tell him if it bothers him that bad to do it himself. Life’s too short to be petty and argue over house chores. If he really loves you he would communicate with you in a way that is productive towards the situation.
Its time to clean house with boxes and say by by
Sounds like you have 6 children! He’s acting like a little boy… Don’t let him talk you down mama! Sounds like you handle yours pretty damn good on your own.
Maybe trade duties for a week, I’d be willing to bet caring for the kids is a bit more tiring than the housework he’s doing. Help him gain perspective. Sounds like you really bust your butt for your family, I’m sorry he’s being a brat
Tell him to go fuck himself my baby daddy was just like this and would complain about a dish in the room or sink. Yet he was aloud to do it 
He sounds like a lazy slob, use your common sense !
Wow throw this whole man-child out
Don’t do any of the things at home for a couple days, make him do it then he should change his attitude
You have 6 kids not 5…
One lady in another group was having similar problems and that she just flat out quit doing everything she does around the house for 2 weeks and now it’s not a problem anymore bc if hubby stops helping he knows she will just quit again😏
Hell no I’d be irate screw him fr you have alot on your plate if he wants to bitch then tell his ass to hike it if he doesn’t appreciate anything or better yet tell his ass to pay for everything 
Teamwork makes the dream work, both parents need to put their fair share in no matter who works or who stays at home you both live there and are both adults and would both have to do everything by yourself if you were single. Find a balance of housework and taking care of the children that works. Nobody wants a resentful spouse that one isn’t doing their fair share. It’s hard work, really freakin hard trying to take care of a house and children and bills and work and shopping and doctors appts and everything in between but you have to be a team!
Ummm…why is he there anyway?
Just for you to support him through school?
He goes to class two days a week and that is going to college full time? He needs an full time JOB!
You have a squatter not a boyfriend.
First off you are AMAZING! 5 kids and working full time then come home and bust your butt! In no way shape or form are you being a bitch for wanting help from your partner. There is no reason he cant help around the house, cook dinner and help with the kids. He needs to get off his high horse and help lighten your load or get the F out!
You have 6 kids. Grown men who are supposed to contribute, provide and parent don’t need to play video games.
Love its not you its him. It really is.
Kick his ass out. You’re better than to put up with that crap
It’s too easy to say pack up and go away. Bottom line if there is love and the children need to be thought off. Just think this over and sometimes counseling is a option.
He needs to get a job.
Throw the whole man out.
Y’all so quick to tell her to kick him to the curb… Do what Maria Byrd suggested. Also when y’all are called down and the kids are in bed. Sit down and have an actual conversation. See what’s up with him. Communication is the key to good relationships.
He wants a clean home in a place he stays in while persuing his dreams and not helping. He is bitching about his accomodations baby. There is a difference between a man who will help build and provide for a home and a squatter who bitches about his accomodations. Know the difference.
That’s just an extra child, if you aren’t contributing to my house with either money or time spent helping then I don’t need you. 
I would remind him everything you do
Ummm, wait a minute… he’s going to school two days a week and doing nothing the other part of the time? No, you have a 6th kid. There’s no reason why he couldn’t work while going to school especially if he isn’t keeping the kids and they are going to daycare. I seriously would step back and see exactly what’s wrong with this picture. If you don’t stop this now it will only get worse. I was raising my 4 kids, going to school full time, and working part time all while my husband was working full time. We didn’t pay for child care because we worked our schedules out to where someone was always home to take care of the kids. If your boyfriend can’t step up he needs to step out. No way would I ever allow this to go on in my home.
No you’re not being a bitch at all. He’s obviously not doing his full share and mirroring that onto you and you do not deserve that in the slightest. He needs a reality check stat!
Take 2 days or a week to yourself so he’s forced to do it all himself. And take the xbox with you
Shit fuck him. I work 40 hours a week and go to school full time which is 4 classes a week! And take care of the house kids etc. I would kick his ass to the curb.
Try making a chore list of what each can do to help each other out and the kids that are older and can help do as well…my hubby works and I do too and got 7 kids ages 4-16yrs old…so I make a list and switch it off each day so they won’t say they do the same thing everytime…maybe that could be something of a solution??? 
my hubby and I are included in the chore list…and things get done faster…
Make a theme song titled ‘Team US’…and sing it evertime he starts to complain and then go about your business. Or throw him a high five after he lists everything he does and say thank u and move on. There is no glory in the battle of who does the most. His chore list sound better them some guys I know but don’t abmit that to him. Just don’t give in to that fight you have better things to worry about and that is you. Your a rock star. Keep momming⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘
Don’t marry him. And don’t have any more kids with this man if you’re not happy.
You’re not being a bitch at all hes acting like a whiney teenager
If he’s not working and you are then he should do everything or at least most of it 
why aren’t the kids doing chores?
You can do better by yourself if you still have to pull all the weight he isnt anything but deadweight.
You have 6 kids. My hubby works 50+ hours a week construction and still comes home and helps around the house, takes kids to activities, and whatever else I need help with. You are not being a bitch you have 5 kids and work full time while all he does is school 2 days a week. He should be doing all the brunt of household stuff and you having to help with minor things when you get home. You have every right to say get out
Similar shit goes on at my house. We both work full time and have a 2.5 year old. Im doing everything. I don’t think my husband is capable of finishing anything, anything he starts is done half-assed. Washes laundry but doesn’t fold it, takes trash out but doesn’t put a bag in the trash can. His excuse for not breaking out the vacuum or the mop- he’s tired. So tf am I. Shits still gotta get done. I stop doing things and he calls me lazy, blah blah blah. Wtf I just made dinner, you can put the dishes in the dishwasher. I feel ya, Im still trying to figure out what to do about it. I think my husbands mother did everything for him and now he feels he doesn’t need to do any chores because I, the maid, will do it all. Im teaching my son to help around the house because thats what normal people do. Im not sending him out into the world expecting someone to do it all for him. Thats advice I would give, raise your kids to be independent. Know you aren’t alone!
I have 5 kids, oldest is almost 12 youngest almost 3 months. I don’t even work right now and my hubby works shift work and still helps me a ton. He will mop, sweep, laundry, cook, dishes , bath kids. He just hates cleaning the kids room and putting away laundry since i like it a certain way. Hes never once told me i dont do anything. He knows how hard kids can be and cleaning and taken care of babies is non stop. He told me today he cant wait to take me out valentines day cause i need a break! He really does so much and i try so hard to give him one. He just wants to play his games some nights. But ill be in bed anyways. Its honestly like having a kid and more stress on you as your trying non stop to please him it seems 
If this was me I’d show him what doing nothing around the house really is
Leave for two days and let him do all that you do…he’ll change his mind and maybe apologize lol don’t hold ur breath for the apology tho.
If he stays home why are you paying childcare, he is the father and he should be keeping them. I say kick him to the curb!
You are handling & paying for everything alone. Kick his butt out if he isnt going to be a responsible man, not play video games, etc. Set a good example for your kids. Get his ass out and show kids how a responsible adult acts.
That was definitely my ex. I walked. Life is too short
Make a whole list of what he does and what you do and tell him to revise his story
You are not being a bitch nor asshole. He can help or he can go. He’s not working nor paying for things so he can take care of the house. He’s being a douchebag. Keep rocking it and tell him to shape up or ship out.
Try teaching your oldest son some chores to do and if your the financial supporter then he has nothing to say! I would let him know how lazy I am until I kick him out my door then his butt
would of been looking for a job then he would know the meaning of lazy! Your his fiancee and his child mother not the house maid so it’s either he respects the hands that feeds him then it would of been done completely with him and i… I can’t stand grown folks acting like lil kids with tantrum! What he expected you to do?hes not working… if I was you I would of request more hours and early shifts for couple of days and let him do everything then hes gonna put some sense in his head or just walk away
Everyones dynamic is different. What works for some wont work for everyone. Clearly you have an issue with the way your dynamic is working and you should sit him down and talk to him. If a serious sit down and conversation doesnt help anything ir he blows it out of proportion then id definitely be kicking him out.
Personally, I wouldn’t tolerate that crap, to be honest.
I would not tolerate that crap personally. It should be team work not all on u mama. I’d be like there the door
I would write down what he does and what you do and show him
Sell his gaming system, that should free up a shit ton of time, if he says anything about it, show him the door 
his ass out!!
Ditch that lazy free-loading slob ASAP! I wouldn’t even be able to be with someone like that, super unattractive.
Damn, you’re better off living by yourself without him and the stress.
I’m sorry but it looks like you need to declutter your house and get rid of the extra baggage piling up
Why are you paying for child care if he is home 5 days a week? Is he not their biological father? In my home we both have things we do and won’t do, and if I don’t do anything for a week, he will just do it rather than fussing at me for it…
He does not work? So he’s kid #6? I’d boot him out.
How is that going to school full time?! Lol
Kick the dead beat moocher out
I read “I have 5 children” and stopped reading. Dont let a man tell you that you’re anything but beautiful!! You’re an amazing mother!!
Evict his ass NOW … U dnt need tht around your children
Get them kids to do it chores. Get it done by a certain time or its your ass
Dont do the things you do for a week, except work of course. See how he feels after that lol
Everything you do, stop for five days, he will see when he has no clean clothes, no cooked meals, a dirty house, a sink full of dishes, if he is up playing video games and not working, kick him out. If he is home all day with no kids, your house should be spotless. Mother’s teach sons how to be a man, mother’s teach daughters how they should be treated by a man. Your boyfriend is still a child. I have a girl and boy. They both were taught to cook , clean and wash clothes, both finished school, my daughter went to college, and got a job, my son wants a girlfriend. I tell him before you do. You need to get a job, you need to be able to afford a family when the time comes. You can’t date and have her pay for everything.
Wow! He is the lazy one. He only goes to school 2 days a week? He sounds like a baby boy that needs a strong reality check.
Devils advocate…is he a stay at home dad? Maybe hes suffering from feeling like hes less than. Not fulfilling his “gender” roles and feeling bad about himself. Not that that’s an excuse but maybe this man needs feel motivated and important in raising the kids and caring for the house… call super nanny
I’m sorry love but your just living with an extra child.
Of you want a partner in life instead you know what to do
Sorry, but your feelings on this is fairly common, I deal with it as does my daughter. It’s too bad really that video games/computer fun is more important.
Boy, BYE. Don’t put up with that shit, you’ve just carried a child for 9 months, a 5 month old is hard, among the 4 others, and he clearly doesn’t understand what contributing means. You damn sure don’t hold it over anyone’s head. My husband does the laundry and cleans some. I dare him to say something.
Go away for the weekend let him feel wat being lazy is and the things u normally do on a daily basis for the kids will on him, he would probably have a stroke
Ask him if he wants to reverse roles. I have 1 22yr and 1 1yr and I work part time, I rarely cook I do clean but I’m exhausted all the time I couldn’t imagine what your going through.I don’t know why men think cause your a women your supposed to clean, cook, take care of the kids and make sure everything is ok when noone checks on us. Noone does our laundry, cleans, etc all the time but we’re still supposed to make sure everything is ok that’s some bs. Tell him take care of his house like a man is supposed to and you would have time to do everything as long as your paying the bills ut is what it is. Sounds like you have an extra kid to me.
No your not he can go to school for.two days and work the rest even if it part tirme
You’re not the bitch. Send him packing.
Put his ass out. I’m a sahm & my s.o works. I take care of the house during the week which yes I do feel like it’s my place to do because I am the one at home with our 4 month old but that was the plan before we had her. But on the weekends he does pitch in. Put his ass out, obviously you don’t need him because you’re doing it all yourself.
Boy bye. 
be a strong momma. You deserve better.
Sorry to say, he needs to grow up. Hubby is self employed and works full time and I’m in full time employment. Neither of us complain about who does what; we both do what we can when we can. Some days I do more, some days him. It’s a partnership, a team effort. Tell him to quit being a whiny baby.
He doesn’t have the problem you do kick his ass out
The hubby and I both work so housework is usually split up by who has the time to do it which is usually him because I work crazy hours (like 10+ hr shifts 6 days a week) and he has a pretty set schedule (usually 8hr max 5 days a week) I also handle most of the stuff for our toddler and since I work that weird 2nd/3rd shift my toddlers sleep schedule is all kinds of messed up so when I get home in the mornings unless he falls asleep I’m up with him til my husband gets up it works for us for now if it stops working we’ll figure out a way to change it
Get rid of him he’s a loser
I’ve been where you are. 95% of why my hubby said and did that was because he was feeling inadequate when it came to pulling his weight. Felt embarrassed, so deflected the situation to me. Not saying that is the reason, but maybe you guys could sit and have a long serious talk. Discuss why he says things like that, because no one deserves to be treated that way. So if he truly feels that way, maybe a talk about parting ways (which I know is easier said then done when kids are involved and a life has been made together) but for your own well being (mentally) you need to feel appreciated.
I think he’s actually putting in some effort. He’s doing some stuff at least. My last partner did absolutely nothing.
Are you annoyed because you’re not getting any downtime and he obviously is?!?
Might be time you start taking care of yourself and heading out a bit more even if it means taking bubs.
I think you need to sit down and make a roster. If he is only doing 2 days a week then he needs to step up! Get it in writing and get the kids involved they should be pulling their weight too. If you don’t sit down and hash it out the relationship with suffer and so will the kids!!!
Correction 6 children. Your boyfriend is more of your child ijs.
He is a LAZY MAN BOY! Tell him grow up and stop his abusive complaining when he is a pathetic excuse for a husband and father.
I worked full time , had a kid, single mom,and went to college full time. 2 days a week…? He’s lazy. Cut your losses. He is not going to change and is emotionally, verbally abusive. Please dont let lack of self esteem keep you in this relationship. Not just saying this…I been there. Left with a 2 year old and never looked back. Life is too short.
Well how old are all of the kids??? 14 def needs to be helping but if he ain’t pulling his weight and your really doing it all yourself why do you need him??
No you are not being a B, it is his job to also do housework. Why don’t you tell him since you nothing to switch rolls with you. You do what he does and he does the nothing that you. Bet you he changes his mind then. It’s ok tonplay video games in your free time and with that many kids there’s not much of that. I know, I have 5 kids myself. Seriously though if you are basically a single mom, you don’t need him. At the end of the day it is your decision
He needs a job to go along with his 2 days of school…then remind him that house and family time is to be split evenly…he can most definitely do more
If he won t change leave with your youngest if he ll let you… Or get legal advice. To make him leave. Or you re be a doormat to him for rest of your life. Good luck.
So if he thinks you are doing nothing, sit down with him take out all the bills, make him start paying half, and then split the house hold chores up with him the kids and you. If he can’t afford to pay half the bills then tell him he needs to get a job or move out because you will no longer support someone who cannot support himself or carry hisnown weight.
Baby you need to learn your worth he can work and go to school and it’s from both of you . Women please stop raising other people son’s . .
Every relationship has trials and tribulations. Maybe sit down and divide household chores between the 2 of you and the children!