Tell him to leave then. That baby will always be yours 
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This is definitely a conversation that both parties need to be a part of. The baby wasn’t planned so take a look at your financial situation. There’s nothing worse than bringing a child into the world that you can’t provide for. 6 kids is a lot to take on; if you and he go your separate ways; then you will be responsible for four kids. Do you have the financial strength to support four growing kids, while providing them with a place to live? Abortion doesn’t have to be the final say, there are plenty of people that can’t conceive and would love nothing more to adopt. The other thing to consider is that while everyone is on this forum yelling about your body your choice; it’s a little deeper than that. It took the both of you to create that baby, not just you so while you do have the ultimate say in the final choice; there needs to be a little more discussion on your options. You can’t expect him to provide financially if you decide to keep the child. He’s being honest with you about not wanting you to continue the pregnancy and you should really discuss his reasoning other than, “it wasn’t planned” there is probably a lot more to it than that. Seek counseling, check with your local adoption, scrub up on your financial situation and remember, you have 3 other babies that are already here that you are responsible for. Your final decision should be based off what’s best for everyone that you are responsible for, not just your emotions.
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Shame on him I would keep the baby and kick him to the curb
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Some many women dream of a child it is a blessing but you can only decide for yourself.
Ur body, ur choice. Just know he may end up being a deadbeat who’s nvr there for the baby, so u may end up being a single mom raising him/her on ur own. He could’ve taken more precautions (used condoms and pulled out) if he didn’t want another baby. No bc is 100% effective except abstinence. Babies r a blessing. My hubby and I have been ttc our last baby for four yrs. It’s heartbreaking not being able to have another baby.
If you don’t want to get an abortion, don’t get an abortion. 
HOWEVER, he told you where he stands so you may end up having to raise/support this child by yourself.
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SAY NO! If he feels the need to leave then SEE YA! Nobody is worth getting rid of an innocent baby. You’ll NEVER be able to live with yourself & resent him in the end if you do
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Tell him Don’t let the door hit your ass on the way out. Tell him you understand but your keeping it but this time get and tubal ligation or he needs to go get snipped.
It is 100% your choice. He doesn’t need to be in the baby’s life if he isn’t ready for that. If you want the baby have the baby
I was in a similar situation with my oldest. I was told I would never be able to have children when I was a teenager. When I found out I was pregnant, my fiancée wanted me to get an abortion. I left him, and now have a 27 year old son. Once you’re a mom, your children always come before a significant other. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out. You’ll get through this 
Keep baby and tell him good bye it is your body your choice
As someone who is very very open to the topic of abortion and would never judge a mama for it- don’t go that route if you don’t want to. If you are against abortions for yourself then do not get one and keep the baby if that’s what you want. However I would give him the option to either wrap his head around it or get out of the relationship no strings attached and not be in the baby’s life. If you don’t want the baby but don’t want to get an abortion, adoption is an option but again, don’t let anyone pressure you into that option either.
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Be prepared to do it alone. Congratulations and good luck
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Keep the baby loose the man 
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If you dont believe in it. Don’t don’t. I wouldn’t!
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Don’t let anyone pressure you into an abortion. You won’t get over it if it’s not what you want. I would get tested though. If you got pregnant on birth control there may be birth defects. My oldest brother was concieved on ineffective birth control and he did not make it because of devastating birth defects.
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This happened to me after I had my tubes tied! My husband had four kids and I had two. He wanted me to get an abortion. I don’t believe in it and I told him there is the door!! I can live without you but I have to live with myself!! He did stay for four yrs. This is up to you and no one else!! Good luck!
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If he was willing to have sex, he is willing to take care of the kid
That’s how I see it
No birth control is 100% effective
You guys need to sit down and talk, for real
Tell him “NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! WE MADE THIS BABY NOW WE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY BECAUSE IT DID NOT ASKED TO BE MADE!” Give it up for adoption but don’t KILL IT!
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All the people saying you will end up raising that baby alone is putting a negative thought out there. He is scared and having so many kids could be a lot. But he is also a dad and once he sees that baby everything could change for him. He will love you and that baby. Keep your baby because if you do go through with the abortion knowing you don’t want that, it will kill you in the inside. That’s your baby also and your body.
Maybe advise him to get fixed so no future unplanned babies if he doesn’t want anymore. The responsibility does not have to always fall on the woman. He knew what would happen having sex (even if you are on birth control it’s still not 100%) would possibly result in making a baby.
You said you want to keep it, so keep it. Not his decision.
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BOYFRIEND…
SMH. I don’t see how y’all allow ANY man to tell you what to do with your own body. But what really eats at me is that you want it and he’s only a BOYFRIEND and telling you to abort. Abort that grown ass man and tell him to gtfoooo
Your body your choice ! End of story.
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This happened to me my daughter is now 12 and her dad is in her life… but barely 
… its your choice don’t let him force you into something you don’t wanna do
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Dont do it. Know someone with 5 kids that got an abortion bc of her husband. They ended up pregnant again a year later and he wanted the baby. Messed up can pick and choose which kids to keep and which dont want. Adoption or get rid of the man if not supportive and keep the baby. Kids love you no matter what. Men are fickle.
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If you don’t believe in it don’t do it
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Ditch the dude, keep the baby.
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It’s completely your choice, you have many different paths in front of you, please know whichever one you go down is gunna be it’s own different difficultly. Just don’t let him or anyone persuade you or TELL you to do anything. I’m pro choice, choose to keep it if that’s what you need to do, you don’t believe in any options and that’s perfectly fine. You got this.
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Keep your baby honey children are a gift from the Lord above…
Tell him pack and go out the door.
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consider adoption - many prospective loving people who would raise the baby , don’t have an abortion , especially since you don’t believe in that , consult your provider as to reason that your BC failed.
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Do YOU!!! Its your body not his. Accidents happen and bf needs to suck it up.
It wasn’t planned:joy:
excuses, excuses, excuses scapegoat! You know what to do! And, if he isn’t ready then he should of known have to wear and put on the CONDOM.
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If you don’t believe in it then don’t do it, you can choose adoption if your not ready to parent again but do not force him to be a parent if he doesn’t want to. If you plan on keeping baby be ready to be the parent by yourself. You can do it.
Just remember dont be pressured into a abortion, you will Never forget it or get over it .
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Keep the baby or adoption. Praying for you and you’re family.
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Your body your choice if he didn’t want one maybe he should have used a condom
Tell him you’re keeping it. Then tell him to decide if he’s actually all in, and if not send him packing. I get that you were taking the steps to prevent another pregnancy, but I feel like this little one was meant to be! That’s some pretty awesome odds to get pregnant while on b.c. If you don’t believe in termination, which is an intense PERSONAL choice, I feel like, if you go through with it, you’ll regret it for the rest of your life. There’s also the chance of resentment towards your bf, which in turn could have a negative toll on your relationship. Give him some time to come around, maybe he’s just scared. The world is a crazy, expensive, hateful place right now. Maybe he is just thinking about added expenses. I honestly don’t know without actually knowing y’all. I hope you can work it out, and that he realizes soon what a blessing this baby is. Best of luck.
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What will happen if you got pregnant again after the abortion?? … I wouldn’t ever have sex with the guy again!
If that baby has been conceived despite birth control, it’s meant to be! Good luck with your future xx
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My boyfriend at the time wanted me to get an abortion with my son. I didn’t listen to him and I had my son who is now a very smart 14 almost 15 year old. If you want to keep your baby then keep your baby.
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Please don’t let a man tell you to get an abortion cause that had happened to me last may of 2021 and I refused! I lost my youngest in September
I would like to point out that on the birth control you can still conceive (everyone know this) its a 98% effective. If he didn’t want to risk the slight chance he would have worn a condom. So I would say it’s your choice since he didn’t do anything to prevent it from happening.
I told my ex that if I ever got pregnant that I’m keeping the kids. He can do what he wants but, in no way am I getting an abortion. I told him if he didn’t want to be apart of the babies life that he can happily sign his rights away and I will leave him alone.
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Tell him it’s not his decision and stick to your guns. My ex was abusive and dragged me to planned parenthood for an abortion. Thank God the nurse noticed my body language. She asked me if that’s what I really wanted and I said no. He tried arguing but she told him off and said they would not perform an abortion on someone that clearly did not want it. He abandoned us after my son was born. No regrets. My son is 17 now and being considered for the National Honor Society. I also married a good man. Ex hasn’t been in my son’s life and we prefer it that way.
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It’s your child too. If he didn’t want kids, he shouldn’t have left it solely to you to prevent pregnancy. He doesn’t like it? Leave.
He doesn’t make the rules of what to do with your body. Keep your baby.
Do what’s best for you and your baby it’s your body if you want to keep it . It’s your choice don’t loose your self or make choices based on someone else and there selfishness
Keep the baby. Toss the man.
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Keep your baby, you will regret making a decision that is contra to what you believe
Your body, your choice. Do what you feel is right for you. If you want to keep your baby, keep your baby. He can very easily exit the picture.
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Do whatever needs to be done and what you can live with. It will not be easy taking a life that has never had a chance to live and grow up.
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Uhhh keep it. Should this even be a question?
You want to keep your baby, you’ve already decided now just decide if you want to keep the man
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It’s your decision to make. You have to do what is best for you and the kids you already have it can’t a decision easy to make. Would you still want to have the baby if he decides he wants nothing to do with it? Good luck don’t let anyone make the decision for u. It’s not like you where irresponsible you where on birth control so you thought you where covered. I think it is a lot easier for a man to say get rid of it than it is for a woman.
Your body, your choice. I would keep my baby.
You decide what’s best for YoU and YOUR Kids! I know it seems like time invested but either your on the same page or your not and you shouldn’t feel obligated to do something you don’t believe because you want him around because we all no there are no guarantees 
Sorry just my thoughts
Your body. No one else has the right to made that decision for you.
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That’s it, your body your choice.
Your body your choice. If he doesn’t want to be involved then that’s on him, but I would never trade my morals or values over a relationship. If he can’t understand where you’re coming from, he never loved you anyway
Ultimately its no ones choice but you …do not let anyone persuade you…this is what u decide !
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If you keep it, just mentally be ready for him to not bond with it. Or really be mentally and emotionally clocked in and involved like you want or wish him to.
Do what you wish and what you feel is right.
But be resdy for whatever choice you make.
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My mum friend got abortion bec of the man she was date told her . 5 days after the abortion my mum friend kill herself . Writ note say why . She was only 23 at the time . I do not believe in bortion bec this shit can happen 
. You will hate you self do it . Tell him if he doesn’t want any more children tell him to go get snipped
You should keep it if that is what you want but you need to be prepared to be a single mother.
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There’s always adoption. Many people can’t have babies and would love to be parents
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It’s your decision not your boyfriends. If you don’t believe in abortion, I agree. Adoption is the way to go. You can provide a family with such a beautiful gift. Children are a blessing from the Lord.
You’re amazing and stay strong. I’ll be praying for you. Don’t let others to sway you in a design you’ll regret or don’t believe in. Adoption is a noble and brave way to go.
A lot of people say your body or choice but you know what’s not your body not just your body the baby is a totally different person with a little body in God’s eyes it’s murder
Don’t get pressure into aborting your baby. Men will do this. None of my babies were planned and they are the best unplanned humans and bestest friends in my life
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Do not kill a child because it wasn’t planned. There is always adoption.
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Please consider adoption. Don’t get rid of it just because it is an inconvenience
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Just tell him its your body your choice and you choose not to kill a innocent life
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Are you ready to emotionally and financially handle responsibility for these children on your own? Your decision.
My opinion on this is. It’s your body u decide what u want to do. If he doesn’t want anymore children then he should of went and had himself fixed. Or at least wrapped his Willy. Secondly if u want to have your baby but cannot afford to give this little child of god everything that he or she needs don’t let them suffer because You want to keep him or her. There are so many people out there who would love to have a little child and cannot have one. Put the child up for open adoption where you can still be involved in there lives. But please don’t have a abortion. Good luck with deciding what is best for u both. God bless
Keep the baby if it’s what you want xx
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Do want you want but don’t expect anything from him
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Your body, your choice.
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It’s a child…not an inconvenience….your boyfriend sounds like an ass.
Tell him no. That’s that. If he don’t like it he can go. He can’t force you to get an abortion
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Your body Your choice!!!
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Keep the baby 
He’ll come around and if not his lost…
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Leave him and keep the baby. He can’t force you to have an abortion you don’t want.
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Your body, your choice.
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It’s up to you acter all its your body, if your in a place financially and mentally able todo it on your own with other children. Consider other options if not. All the best for your decision. Xxx
It’s your choice. If you want the baby then keep it. Just bare in mind that your man may not want to be involved with it if you do. It’s just something you have to be prepared for in case. Don’t let him guilt you into doing something you don’t want to do.
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It is your choice…but I would suggest that if this is causing you problems because you are already raising 3 kids and down the line you may feel burdened, I would not abort but give birth and offer it up for adoption to someone who is desperately longing for a child who can’t have children. At least you are doing the humane thing and giving a wonderful opportunity to someone else who longs to be a mother. That would be a kind gesture on your part, but you must really think long and hard about that decision and be sure you can give the baby up. Do a pro’s and con list and see how the whole situation looks to you if he was to leave you, stay with you, is he ever planning on marrying you, raising this child by yourself without the baby’s father in helping you raise it. Look at the entire scenario and how you might feel in each situation. A lot to think about. Good luck in your decision!
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Keep your baby and if he can’t handle it, go your separate ways.
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Do what you want. Make decisions on what you can live with, not what someone can live with. If he doesn’t want children, he should get a vascetamy
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He has no right to tell you what choice to make but that being said you might have to choose going forward without him. That’s the choice I would make
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Do not let someone else push you to do anything. Lots of things in life are unplanned doesn’t mean it has to be a bad thing. It’s your choice, follow your heart not his
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Your body your choice, but your choice may have consequences you don’t want. Tough choice.
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Keep your baby if he stays good if he doesn’t let him go
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You are the mother. I don’t think you would have another happy day if you had an abortion to please the baby’s father. Praying for you as you want the baby.
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There is no reason for a abortion, and if you’re boyfriend told you to get one time to dump his sorry ass. You both are old enough and mature enough to know this could happen. Be responsible and do the right thing raise it and love it that’s the Godly way.
Keep the baby if that’s what you want. don’t do something your going to regret in the future it will never work out between the both of you. If he can’t handle it he can leave or after this one he can get a vasectomy.
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If you get rid of the baby because he wants you to you’re gonna end up resenting him and hating yourself if it’s not what you want you need to do what’s best for you and the baby he won’t have to live with the consequences like you do and what if you do this and it doesn’t work out in the long run
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I allowed my ex and his mother to pressure me into giving up my first pregnancy. I still regret it bcs it was not fully my decision. I was 21 and scared, living in her basement and I had just gotten hired at a place that could not tolerate a pregnant girl (dangerous job). I wish I had a better understanding of what I was giving up. I am now blessed with 3 beautiful rainbow babies but I’ll always wonder about who my first baby may have been 
it’s something I will never forgive myself for. I’ve never told anyone this, but I tell you know so hopefully you will think long and hard before you make a choice. I fully believe in every woman having that choice, so you do what is right for YOU. I wish you the best, but please do not let a man take your voice from you, it is your body and your life. If he wants to walk away then he is a piece of shit. It takes 2 to make a child and it’s not like you weren’t being safe, BC is not 
. But anyways, sorry for the long comment, we all support you and wish the very best for you.
You do what YOU want to do. Nobody can make that decision for you. Don’t feel forced by him hun.
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Adoption… abortion is the killing of human life… period!
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Keep the baby and get a tubal. He should get fixed, as well.
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Amen on him but please keep you baby
Are you a good Mommy or a horrible bitch Mommy?
Sorry I’m very blunt
Your body is making that baby. You want that baby, have that baby. He knew sex can lead to pregnancy.