My boyfriend doesn't want my son to color his hair: Advice?

Your kid your obligation to parent him, a boyfriend is for you, not to be confused with a co parent

Let your son be your son and do whatever he wants tell your boyfriend he can kiss your you-know-what

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Ok at first I was thinking … “well if you’re raising kids with him does he not deserve a say in WHEN kids can dye their hair?” (Not that I have an issue with coloring hair, I just put purple in my 4 year Olds haha). But then I read that he doesn’t think little BOYS should color their hair. My 4 yr old is a boy. I put left over color in from doing my 9yr old BOYS hair. So… I say do you! If it was an age thing I’d encourage compromise, open discussion. But a gender thing? Nah. Let your dude have color!

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I always allowed my kids to express themselves and they turned out great :+1::ok_hand:

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Its his hair he should do as he wants with it. My child’s father told her girls don’t get their hair done so it’s a fight to get it done i feel like this has taught her she will need to seek a male permission to get her hair done and I don’t approve of that what so ever.

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It’s up too you. Whether it’s “weird” or not it’s up too us too allow our children too express there weirdness and figure out who they are. Now the chemicals involved for being that young that might be another matter of discussion.

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I believe any child that age , boy or girl, is too young to make that decision.

I dont think at such a young age its appropriate… But they make alternatives… Such as wash out

It’s Hair! It’ll grow back. It’s just hair. Do it. I shaved the back of my daughter neck/hair area. She’s 11. It’ll grow back.

Not your bfs choice, it’s your son. Let the kid express himself and your bf can suck his opinion up his hooha

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All 3 of my boys used temp hair color and colored their hair blue in support of my 1 son having his second open heart surgery. They loved it I see no issue in allowing a child to express themselves

I dont think it hurts anything. Its hair, it will grow.

He’s your son. Your boyfriend has no say. Tell him to get over it.

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For me and my family, personally, 7 is too young to color hair. Id happily get some temporary color for his hair but that’s it. :woman_shrugging:

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I’m only okay with temporary dye on my daughter. She’s almost 9 but we’ve done it here and there since 4 or 5. And we’ve only done streaks or the underside not the whole thing. But the boys can’t sure their hair thing would be the problem for me

Sometimes people are raised different than you may have been. That doesn’t make them or you wrong. Different doesn’t mean wrong.

All of my kids have coloured hair. It’s the trend right now. I let them do what they want to do. It’s not really my personal style, but I’m not going to stop them from being as they want to be.

It’s your son but at the end of the day seven is too young.

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I’m sorry, boyfriend? :joy:
Boy bye, he is the BOYFRIEND. Not a husband. He’s YOUR KID, not his. He has ZERO say. Far as your son, dye that lasts couple weeks and comes off is ok. Kids should be allowed to express themselves.

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I personally don’t think it’s weird but at seven years old I find a little too young My mom didn’t let me die my hair until I was around 12/13 you can always try temporary dye

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He’s your kid. It’s up to you.

My boys are 8 and 5 and we’ve let them doin it the few times they asked. Hell my oldeat has had his ears peirced since he was 5. I see nothing wrong with it. Its not like hes asking for a real tattoo or a serious kind of pericing. Let the boy do it.

When one of my boys was that age he has his hair a different color every day with gel. It was awesome, great for boosting their self esteem

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For everyone saying he is just the boyfriend he doesn’t have a say or anything similar, he is still at the end of the day in the kids life and still somewhat a parental figure if she expects him to treat him like a father a father would treat a son that should include decision making when it comes to the child not just when it suits her.

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My only issue, is with people saying it’s your son your call… if you and your boyfriend are serious and in it for the long hall then you need to figure out a way to work through this with him…

Do non permanent dye🥰 sounds like he has an amazing mama!

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I don’t think him dying his hair is an Issue. But I will say my mother didn’t let me dye mine till I was 12.

Seems like it’s not his decision.

My kids do the temporary dye… that’s it… by hubby isn’t the the biological dad for our kids but has been there dad for almost 10 years now … he didn’t agree with permanent dye as well but agreed to temporary… so just because they are not his bio kids … hes been there father all these years so we are both 50/50 on decisions

7 is a little to young for permanent hair dye!!

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Find a NEW BOYFRIEND

He’s the boyfriend not the parent !!!

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Tell him it’s your son’s hair not his :woman_shrugging:t2:.

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Do it! What or who is it hurting!! Do it!! :partying_face:

If you are serious with this man, and expect him to act as a parent, a father figure or whatever to your son, then you need to figure out a way to work together on everything. I saw some suggest a temp hair dye, and I agree. Bring that up to the boyfriend and see if thats a compromise you can all live with. But if you’re serious about this guy then you nees to value his opinion, even when you do not agree and sit down to come up with a compromise that may work for all. Just my opinion lol​:woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging:

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We have let my kids dye their hair from day one. I used color depositing conditioner in the beginning but dye when they could sit still through the entire process. It’s important for them to find their own self expression. Hair is a great way to do it because eventually it’ll grow out again so whatever you do is completely temporary.

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One of my biggest pet peeves: letting someone to walk in and start dictating how I take care of me and MINE! Girl, your child! His opinion can be heard but it’s your decision that matters. If u are fine with him coloring his hair, well then guess what? It’s getting colored. Kids are only little for a small time. Let them make little decisions. It makes them feel valued. Of course, once again, that is only my opinion. You do what your heart tells u too

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How sad to be into haircolor. So much more fun and interesting.

I don’t think he is doing it in bad spirit… But you need to tell him that these are different times… Kids of all ages dye their hairs with bright colors now because it is so much fun… Show him a few pictures of other little boys rocking their cool punk styles and tell him he is so antiquated and out of tune and needs to catch-up with the times…

Your kid your choice. It’s just hair. It will grow out

Temp hair color, At 7 he will want something different in a short time.

Hair dye. I’m a woman, so I’m old. I dyed my hair once, Once. Why? Because I’m lazy! I have things to do then – cleaning after the dye job plus the dyeing plus buying the Right dye. No way! If he wants to dye his hair – fine, But don’t help! Make him buy (with his money) dye, towel, gloves, whatever is needed. Let him dye his own hair — do not help, no matter what! Let him clean up – himself, the room, etc. In fact, if you have bare concrete room use it. Hair dye makes a mess!!

We do the wash out my kids aged 3yr boy 5yr boy 7 yr old boy and 8 yr old girl they love it

No it’s not I color all my grand children’s hair all the time they live with me and I see nothing wrong with it

As a stylist and a mom I say as long as your not bleaching it out then color away or get wash out stuff I personally don’t see the problem especially if it’s summer time but your kid your choice :woman_shrugging:t2:

Not a big deal I used to have highlights and the high school baseball team would all dye their hair blonde

It’s not weird but I would say a 7 year old is too young. Try something fun like coloured hair sprays or coloured hair chalk. Nothing harsh/damaging

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Your kid, not his. Simple as that.

Im sorry but hes just ur bf, not a step dad yet until he marries u. Boyfriends come and go easily. So until he marries u, he doesnt have a say so. Secondly u can buy that color shampoo which doesnt hurt the hair. It wont be permanent. I colored my 7 yr olds hair before and all my other girls’ hair. Its a cute trend. And there isnt anything wrong with a child trying to express themselves by being themselves. If its something he likes, then dont take that away from him. Hes not hurting anyone and it will wash out. Dont let anyone tell u how to parent ur kid. If u see nothing wrong with it, then just do it!

It’s not weird. Let your child express himself. Your son comes first. His happiness is more important than your bfs toxic masculinity.

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That’s between you and your ex, you guys are not married and even if he does play a fatherly role in your sons life (doesn’t sound like it) than I wouldn’t even have entertained his comment or asked him about it. Now ask yourself how much it really bothers you he said it and are you listening/following him :woman_shrugging:t4::woman_shrugging:t4:

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Hair color wax. I didn’t allow my kids to color their hair until they were 16+. My personal preference. However the color wax is cool. It works fast and doesn’t damage hair!

Why does your bf, who is not the father, have a say in what your child does?

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Firstly, it’s not his son so its not exactly his choice… secondly if your son wants to colour his hair and you and dad are ok then do it, I wouldn’t do a permanent colour but a wash out one for a change, he should be able to Express himself x

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Simply look at your boyfriend and tell him where his place is🤷 yall arent married and even if yall were thats YOUR child, dye his hair and let him be a kid

Yes because if they choose you and you already have children then they need to take all or nothing

I don’t think it’s a problem. Look at YouTubers like Markiplier (probably spelled wrong) who have dyed their hair

Let the child enjoy being a child. My boys played with dolls, had long hair and still paint their nails. My girl wears her hair short. AS LONG AS YOUR CHILDREN ARE HAPPY, SAFE AND HEALTHY nobody’s opinions should matter :100:

Let him :heavy_heart_exclamation: hair grows back. Let him express himself

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It’s weird that ur boyfriend thinks he gets a say… I allow my 5 year old 2 have color in his hair… Its always the wash out kind but he loves it… Ur never to young to express ur own style… Tell ur boyfriend its not his hair so don’t worry about it…

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At the age of seven and want to colour his hair one good cutlass he will change his mind instantly

hes a kid. it’s just hair. It’ll grow back. Every kid does cool and dumb stuff to express themselves, let them do it, its how they find themselves.

I stopped reading at “my boyfriend”

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Ok first of all from a mom with a child from a previous marriage… if you and your boyfriend are serious and plan to get married you all have to work this out and the words this is my child is not going to work, because then your child will never respect him and he will never see your child or care for him as his own. Both my husband and i talk about any issues with my daughter and I respect his input and my husband also disciples my daughter and they have the best bond she is daddy’s girl and was 10 when he came into her life now 21.

I colored my sons hair. He wanted pink or purple so I bought it for him. It’s just hair.

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I personally wouldn’t color my kids hair at that age but it’s your child and you get to make that decision. As a step parent I think that’s one of those areas where it’s not affecting anyone besides your child so it should be up to you and the father to make that decision. And if he’s just a boyfriend not a fiancé or spouse he really shouldn’t be trying to control anything like that.

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You let your son colour his hair…

Get rid of your boyfriend…he’s obviously not on board with your openess with your son and he will suppress that…

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Let YOUR son dye his hair. My brother did it and followed suit. All throughout high school I dyed mine. I’m thankful my parents let me express myself in that way. Gave me a huge confidence boost

I dont think its weird and even if it is we are all different. All of us a little weird in some way

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He’s too young,dont destroy is hair so early on life.

I let my son color his hair blue and red. They are only little for so long! Nothing wrong with it

Pack your bags. Move out. Leave em all behind :rofl:

He is a boyfriend. He doesn’t get an opinion on your son’s hair color.

Plain and simple, he’s not his son. You’re the custodial parent in the situation, therefore your permission and help is all that’s needed. His thoughts are merely an opinion but not a factor in this decision making process. You don’t even need defensiveness because you’re the mother of this child.

I think its weird that you would go against a grown mans word when it comes to a little boy. That man is right, it is weird no boy should be putting any color in his hair that’s for girls. Listen to your man and stop being so defensive.

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No matter if he’s you’re sons father or not he’s a kid it’s not weird he’s expressing himself it’s harmless don’t sweat the small stuff

My 8 year old had his hair blue all last summer. If it’s not damaging them I think let them express themselves

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Allowing him to express himself will make him feel confident. Something safe like kool aid to dye hair looks cool and won’t damage his hair or soak into scalp to cause cancer. But I would have been defensive as well. If my baby wants to be seen , heard and stand out then so be it. No one should be told to blend in or be normal.

That’s just his opinion. I colored my sons hair. One time he wanted the tips colored and one time he wanted his whole head blue. You can always wash it out if you get temp color or it can grow out. It’s okay for your son to experience those things.

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Its weird that he’s so concerned over your child’s hair color. Its your kid, your decision.

Your child tour choose but to be short I would start with something he can wash right out at first just in case he not happy with his choice

My son is 7 and wanted to color his hair. I wasn’t on with coloring with chemicals. I bought temp dye that only a few days. We ended up doing my older daughter and my younger son who is 3. It only stayed in for a week but they loved it.

At the end of the day that’s your child and you make whatever decisions you need for your child and "Fu*k"what anyone thinks…

Why does he feel this is his problem? Many youngsters dye their hair , why make something like this even an issue! I think your son sounds like an exceptional kid, caring about his appearance and style!

Its only hair and will grow up.Tell him to loosen up.

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YOUR SON YOUR RULES. Plain and simple he should have absolutely no say over your son. Stand up for for your child and put that boyfriend his plac.

I’m not gonna say your son your choice if your in a relationship it should be both. Maybe talk about a temporary color for now. That way it will wash out every night spike it up and uses the colored hair spray like you would for Halloween. I personally think it’s crazy to have blue or purple hair. But generation change. It’s much more acceptable now the it was when I was growing up. And I’m only 25.

Use coloured hair spray washes out with shampoo or colour hair chalk.

It’s hair… who cares! LOL. Growing pains, this too shall pass ha…

Not his son not his choice

Boyfriend is out of bounds, he is not parent

Is it his son? Then who cares

It’s not his kid. Period. :person_shrugging: