Your boyfriend sounds pretty immature. There’s nothing disgusting about your kid sleeping in your bed. I’d probably dump him. 
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My 43 year old son still sleeps in my bed, oh wait that’s my husband. Both my boys have their own bed in the same room and they both find their way back to my bed by 8am at least 4 out of 7 nights
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We co sleept on and off untill the age of one … I don’t think it’s disgusting at all , however it’s good for your son to have his own little bed even if it’s in your room … And to me this dude clearly doesn’t understand the situation so maybe he needs to read up on parenting skills before he tells you what you can and can’t do with your little one 🤷
Honesty I think 6 is to old to still be sleeping with you. I never co slept with my boys for many reasons. Because it be harder to get them sleep in their own bed plus that’s my space and husband space without our children. But I do believe your boyfriend went at this in the wrong way. But I wouldn’t moved him in with only being 8 months of dating. But Maybe he should try and help you to get him sleep in his own bed by making him feel like a big boy to sleep in his own bed. So y’all can have you n him time. But I don’t think your disgusting for your son to sleep with you. And I understand that y’all almost died and I see why you n your little boy are close.
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Ummm…I had my bassinet I my room until babe was 6 mo old them moves babe to own room. Mama need to get some sleep if I am going to be my best for them. Plus my bed time is reserved for sex and cuddles with my husband. I love my children and then can cuddle if they are scared but the need to learn to sleep in their own beds and self sooth and learn independance. Life is a bitch sometimes and it will help them grow and mature if I am their mother not their friend first. Time to stop babying your son and let him be a big boy now.
I’m 27 years old and don’t like to sleep by myself… 
sooo how could I ever get upset at my kiddos for not wanting to sleep alone from time to time.
will he still be sleeping with you when he is sixteen- seventeen or older.
Ope.
Looks like the boyfriend needs to go.
I can understand talking to you and saying he would appreciate you two sleeping alone as an adult couple. But, making fun of it, nope. See ya.
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I think a 6yo should have his own bed and space. What if he wants to have a sleepover? Not to mention the boyfriend is probably extremely uncomfortable sleeping in bed with a 6yo boy that’s not his and has only known for a short time. I couldn’t begin to imagine the fallout if the kid said something at school that was harmless, but taken the wrong way. Child protection is a big thing these days and you wouldn’t want any misunderstandings
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To each their own!! Leave her alone!!!
If he’s making fun of you and your son then it sounds like he’s jealous of your bond. I WAS in a relationship like that and he would tease my son. He tried to make it sound like he was joking but he kept at it and it only got worse until we split.
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Your son need to sleep in his bed.
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My 7 and 10 year old boys sleep in my bed 85 % of the time 
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Gross or disturbing i think not n your boyfriend needs to chill out on that! My son is 7 and has been sleeping in his own bed for a long time. Once u get them started its very hard but i do believe that a 4 year old n up should deff be sleeping in there own bed! Like i said tho its a hard habbit to break n im not judgemental…
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I think perhaps sleeping in your bed every night still is probably abit much… He should be learning to sleep in his bed… Your boyfriend sounds like he doesn’t have kids of his own… I think only being a few months into the relationship he might be still wanting your attention and in the honeymoon stage with you? But that’s taking a back seat due to your son in your bed… It’s definitely not disgusting but I think it’s time he slept in his own bed… You have to make room in your life, and your bed, for your partner… He may not feel comfortable sleeping with kids in the bed and you have to respect his views if you want him to respect yours too
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My 6 year old typically sleeps in his own bed, but he had a bad day is asked to sleep in our bed tonight. Its not weird, especially if its been just the 2 of you for a while. You need to have a conversation with your BF about boundaries as far as making decisions in your household, and if it’s worth it, maybe try to find a compromise that everyone is comfortable with
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I think it’s okay until like 5-7 years old but honestly it ain’t teaching them the right way and when your living wit one else or in a relationship it’s not good to allow it anymore good luck hope you figure what works for you
My 5 yr old is next to me, sleep…
Right where he belongs
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My daughter is 10, and sleeps in my bed. I am single.
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Get rid of the guy because obviously he’s the wrong one if he’s going to make fun of you or your son for any reason. My daughter is soon to be 5 and she still sleeps in the bed with me. You and your son have the right to live your lives the way you see fit. Keep on keeping on.
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Single mum and have a 4 yr old son, we co-sleep.It gets difficult coz he roams around the bed like an octopus.
You need to leave this man immediately.He doesnt respect you or your son.
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Single mums and their children have already been through so much.You need someone who will love you and your son and will marry you.Your son needs a father figure.
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You need to kick that boyfriend to the curb and keep putting you and your son first. Take it from someone who just got dumped by the love of their life and later found out the ex was being nasty to my son but my son didn’t want to upset me. Your boyfriend openly ridiculing you and your son makes me wonder what he does when you’re out of ear shot. I never thought the ex would harm my child emotionally either.
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My son was 7 before he moved into his own bed. I can kinda understand you b.f point of view it isnt his child. It was a little easier for my son to move as he was moving in with his 2 brothers. You have to do whats best for you and your child
You’re not wrong for co sleeping with him. How ever. You also should expect a grown man that you’re dating to want privacy and to be able to sleep in bed without a child. Legally. I dont believe your supposed to sleep with any child or share a room if they’re the opposite sex when they are able to realize the fact that body parts are different. I’m not faulting you or saying ANYTHING bad about you or your son. I’m just saying maybe try and get to the sourxe why hes uncomfortable. Maybe there’s a reason. Maybe it triggers something from his childhood. You never know. Dont assume the worst. It could very well be that he just doesn’t understand. But whatever you do. Make sure you put your son first.
Remember. Its you and him.
Get the son his own bed.
Your son your rules but I wouldn’t be letting no guy speak to me like utter trash.
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I co-slept with my mom until I was 15, but my dad wasn’t too happy because for all those years he had to sleep by himself.
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Get rid of the guy, obviously he doesnt love you son so he must go.
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He needs to have his own bed to sleep in, if he has a bad night then it’s ok to come to mom but he needs to be going to bed in his own room in his own bed by now.
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My son is 5 years old and has slept with me since day 1
I do not think it’s disgusting. I have 3 boys and I co-slept with all of them. It’s a comfort thing. They will grow out of it, trust me, so enjoy them while they are still young and innocent. I do however have a concern for your boyfriend saying it’s disgusting! Sounds like this relationship could turn into a nightmare not only for you but for your son. Sounds like he could start becoming abusive. Please be careful.
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Kids feel safer with parents
My boyfriend works 3rd shift and my 10 4 and 1 year old tend to always end up in my bed at some point in the night they feel safe and it comforts them to be close. One day they won’t want to be that close so you may as well take it in while you can.
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I never had my kids sleep with me. Never started it. They had there own rooms and felt that’s where they belonged. But you do what is comfortable for you and your son. A guy should never come in to your house and tell you what to do!!!
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My son is 9 and he just now started sleeping in his bed this past summer. I would tell the guy your kid comes first and if he doesnt like it he can lock the door on his way out. Don’t let a man change your routine with your child. Momma knows best.
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He obviously doesn’t understand children, you need someone who will take the time to understand parenthood, he might be a good guy but if you want someone to share your life with he needs to accept your son as his own, he obviously isn’t up to that…
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You’re the problem. Because of your near tradgeity…you’re afraid to let him out of your sight. Give the boy a chance to grow fully. You’re not doing him justice by having him sleep in bed with you. Go sleep in his bed…get the picture?
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Your boyfriend is an ass 
he needs to go. Your son is your baby, his allowed to sleep next to you. My daughter is 5 going on 6 and she still sleeps in the same bed as my husband and I. Being close to ur kids at night brings them so much of comfort.
I didn’t have any of my kids sleep in my bed . Better sleep for all . However get rid of boyfriend .
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My 13 y/o daughter still sleeps with me sometimes, and as long as she wants to, she can!
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I agree on both sides do not get mad at the boyfriend it’s not his kid I was in the same boat, however I knew it’s not appropriate for the child to share a bed when you have a man sleeping next to you it’s weird unless it’s his father I would t want him there he is old enough to transition to a big boy room he can come whenever he needs to but he needs to start separating perhaps start with a cot next to your bed and slowly start moving him out when he falls asleep carry him to his room he still falls asleep with mom but your boyfriend and you can have privacy as a couple everyone is happy ! Your not single anymore you have to make changes and compromise … however if other stuff starts to bother your boyfriend besides that or if he ever never treats your kid kindly and gently and as equally as if he had his own then don’t wait for a moment nor waste your time child first then boyfriend
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Their only little once, there are more fish in the sea sounds like the one ya have needs left go, anyone who thinks a child snuggling with their parent is disgusting needs to leave and it not be around kids period
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You can’t expect to be in a relationship in these circumstances. You are relying heavily on your Son for your own comfort. Until you are ready to let your Son become more independent, an adult relationship won’t happen.
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My six year old still sleeps with me and when my fiancé is gone my thirteen year old does also.
Okay… statistics show when a child is anxious a mother’s body helps regulate their children’s bodies naturally and this is a huge reason why kids do push to and continue sleeping with their mothers. Trauma of any kind adds onto the needs of every child no matter their age. My daughter was finally sleeping on her own solidly by 2.5 then went thru some traumatic things and now wants me sleeping with her every night even at age 5. I gauge the night when and if I will but encourage her every night to try on her own with tools and if she still can’t sleep when I go to bed then we go from there. My twins are 2.5 and will finally go to sleep in their beds but if they wake in the night insist on our bed. I keep them all regulated and feeling safe. That’s how my body as a mother was designed. However I would be very cautious of anyone being in a bed with my child esp someone I’ve only known a few months. You do what each of you need to do- let’s please not tear anyone down about what we think of bed sharing with children is or isn’t okay. Why don’t we focus on what our children need ?
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Uhhhh, you need to get rid of the boyfriend.
Your son will always be around, this guy won’t.
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Kids before anyone else. Your house your rules, if he doesn’t like then out he goes.
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My son slept with me for a few years until I was faced with a similar situation. He’s half his age, but still, same concept I think. This is what worked for us: I moved his bed into my bedroom. Slowly we transitioned him to it. He had a period of time where he slept in his bed in my room. After that, I set up his bedroom real nice for him and put his bed in there. There was many nights I had to drag his mattress in my room. Many nights he woke up and wanted to come in my room. A lot of trial and error. But it worked. At the end, we became firm and told him there was no other option, he’s a big boy now and big boys have their own beds and rooms. Eight months later he’s fully transitioned, however we still get the occasional “I wanna lay in mummas bed” . 
Best of luck, give him his own space! No one will regret it!
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Dump him and run! Also- don’t move a guy in after a few months of dating. 
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I’m single parent. Me and my 10 yo son is sleeping in the same room.
I tried to separate our room during summer but decided to get together during winter and then separate again for next summer.
Rotation to be exact.
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I wouldn’t have a man ive only known for 8 months sleeping in the same bed as my child. Just me though. I would not stop bedsharing with my baby though…
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Sounds like this guy is jealous of your relationship with your son. If that’s the case, I would tell him to get bent
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Let them sleep with you as long as they want to , it changes with in a blink of eye.
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You let your baby cuddle you as long as you can. Because once it’s gone, you don’t get it back. Send him on his way. Bc that’s bullshit you don’t need in your life
My son has been sleeping in his own bed since he was six months but I think you need to tell your boyfriend he is gonna sleep with you until you and him want to stop. He was out of line saying that.
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My boy had his own bed and a lovely room but still slept in with me at night
His choice and he stopped when he was ready
He was around 7 if I remember correctly
I’m not about to deny my children that safety blanket to keep a man happy
Plenty more men out there but your kids are always your kids x
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My kids can sleep with me anytime they want. However… I would not have them sleeping in a bed with a man that isn’t their father. That’s the weird part in my opinion
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Sounds like a beginning of a toxic relationship and no way I would have a man who is not the biological father be sleeping in the bed with me and my child… 
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It’s way past him sleeping in his own bed. I think by age 4-5 they should sleep in there own bed unless sick. You asked that’s my opinion
My son sleeps with me and my fiance sleeps in my sons room. He has never complained once. My son is 5. As i tell my fiance there will be a day where my son wont want to sleep with me… and i will suck it in till i cant anymore. Fiance doesnt care a bit or make me feel horrible about it. Son was terrified of sleeping alone. As i have told him, my son slept with me before he came along and i wont change that for anyone. We just had a beautiful daughter a month ago.
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My 5 yr old sleeps with me still at times. My boyfriend sleeps over and there are times they are both in my bed. My boyfriend has never said some dumb shit or made fun of us. But, than again he wouldn’t be my boyfriend anymore if he tried. In my opinion that’s childish, insecure (of you and your sons relationship), controlling, and disrespectful. If he’s already disrespecting you and especially your kid… he shouldnt even be a concern anymore , he should be an ex.
my son slept with me nothing wrong with it, he was about 11 when he moved out lol
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Heres what you should do… ditch the boyfriend!!! If he is finding faults in your child and your parenting already it wont get better. My youngest son is almost 5 and when my husband is working he will sleep with me. When husband is home he will sleep in his own bed. Unless he is a teenager I dont think there is anything wrong with that.
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I’m not seeing any loss in this boyfriend leaving. Don’t waste any further time thinking about him or his opinions. Whether he’s right or wrong about your son sleeping in the same bed as you, his approach to discussing it was immature, disrespectful,and clearly not in the interest of the family as a whole.
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I understand he isnt comfortable with it since your son isnt his, but to call it weird makes me mad.
My son isnt my fiance’s and he sleeps with us and he is 8. He has been involved since my son was turning 2 so been a while though.
We do have twin girls together also but they dont even sleep with us (we have a king size bed but all 3 kids and then us 2 is crowded, not happening lol!)
So my son sleeps with us at least 2 nights a week on weekends especially. Or if my fiance falls asleep paying his games in the livingroom.
I’m thankful they have a good relationship though.
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Six years… he’s still your baby. Keep him there for as long as he wants to be there. That’s boi needs to bounce!
Dump him. How is this a question
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Good question. My daughter is 4.5 & just routinely climbs in my bed. I’m fine w it. I dint have a man so it’s like .
Now it’s more breaking me of my comfort bcuz she literally will sleep on her own at my sisters house.
It’s a bond. There’s nothing gross about it. But I do understand why he might have been uncomfortable. ESP w it not being his son.
That’s not to say you should do anything different for a man tho. When your ready, it will happen
Tell him to KICK ROCKS!!!
I think its time to get him in his own bed for his own sake, eventually he will start being teased and laughed at and that could cause new issues for him. Plus if your ever going to have a normal relationship again then its gotta change
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Around six but he still ends up in our bed every morning for cuddles. Boyfriend doesn’t have any kids does he? Also, he sounds like a dick. Just sayin
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My kids still cosleep with me , 6,4,3,3 months old. And sometimes my step daughters 13,12. Whenever their dad isn’t home. Or they’ll come pile up in our room and bring their brother’s toddler bed to the floor in our room too sleep. No problem I love it
Sounds like he’s jealous. Huge red flag. Run while you can and I would be worried about leaving your son home alone with anyone who acts like that. Not normal.
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Personally kids should sleep in their own beds unless their poorly or something like that. Your never going to hold down a relationship with a man if you can’t share a bed with him. Like you can’t be intimate in bed with your kid in their too so that is probably why he thinks it’s weird because it makes him uncomfortable. Let him come in for a cuddle on a morning but at his age he should be sleeping in his own bed. I had two very traumatic births and have a close bond with both mine but I also value my relationship with my man so don’t want our kids in the bed with us. We have one together and my daughter from a previous we’re all very close as he’s been in her life since she was about 18 months. They love to come jump on the bed for a morning snuggle but that’s it.
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Time to yeet the boyfriend into a volcano 
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I have 5 kids, all were traumatic births… that being said, our kids sleep in their own beds, ages 10, 9, 7, 4 and 2… our 4 year old will sometimes end up in bed with us, but most nights he sleeps through on his own bed… if a child is on bed with you all night, when do you spend time and be intimate with you’re SO? I love my kids beyond words but they need to sleep in their own beds… what we usually do is try getting them to sleep on their own beds in their own room from around 3… My daughter who is 2 years and 4 months is sleeping on her own bed, in our room, till we can see she sleeps okay, started at just before 2 years, and she’s doing great, pretty soon we are going to move her in with her sisters… then it’s just me and hubby again…
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Nothing wrong with it at alllllllll
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I think he your son needs his own space as you and your man also do. Its time to get your son use to his own surrounds at this age. This is Not good for anyones relationship.You need to explain this softly to your son. If it continues he will never get use to being a big boy. Share things to get him comfortable like doing his room over and let him help. This way he will understand this is where he needs to stay. In his own room.
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First if all how is a man that moved into YOUR house gonna say anything about YOUR KID. Throw that man away. 
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Don’t leave your son in his care…red flags
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What’s disturbing is that he finds something that wrong in something so innocent. He’s weird as fuck and I would keep him gone! He’s jealous of a 6 year old…
Disturbing? More like threatened …
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At least once a month my fiancee says we need to move our 6 month old son from our bed to his crib. And everytime I look at him and pretend I’m too tired to listen as I take the baby with me to bed and fall asleep 
. If he don’t want the baby sleeping in the bed he dont want me sleeping in the bed and that’s that. I’m not ready to sleep separate from my son yet, the cuddles are great and I am so attached to him of course which my fiancer doesnt understand because he didn’t go through the pain and recovery of a c section and sleepless nights and gas pains for this baby. Until I am ready my son isint going anywhere 
if he doesn’t like it we have a couch in the living room and extra blankets in a basket next to it.
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Where does the boyfriend sleep ?
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The way he said it is what’s wrong. My kids have all slept with me from birth cuz they were breastfeeding, but after they stopped breastfeeding, 🏌️♂️ off you go child lol!
My 5yr old still sneaks in my bed often & the 2.5yr old he sleeps wherever the fuck he pleases lol. In my bed in his brother’s room in his sisters room everywhere…
But I think that maybe you should start transitioning him to sleep alone, if you ever want to have a healthy relationship with a man.
Not cuz its “wierd” like this bf said, but cuz you & whoever you date need your own privacy in the bedroom. I tell my man, yes we are parents, but were also man & wife & we need our space & privacy, hes more soft with the kids lol. & let’s them stay in our bed . …I’m not too much
I learned my lesson the first time around for the most part haha my daughter is two months and sleeps in a bassinet/playpen combo right beside my bed. My son slept with me until he was four I tried desperately to get him into his own bed as he got older but it would be days and days with little sleep to no sleep and eventually I would put him in with me. A lot of men are more comfortable when they are their own kids, when I got with my boyfriend I moved my son to his own bed although I had already known it was time too it was difficult still and still is sometimes at bed time but snuggles at bedtime help at first I laid with him until he was asleep and sometimes we still sleep together on the couch for naps personally that can sleep with you as long as you feel comfortable I loved it not because of anything to do with birth but just because I was and am straight up attached to my kids. I put my son in my bed at 3 weeks for help with my breast milk and like I said he didn’t leave till he was four and my bf moved in. My daughter sleeps with us on occasion she is in our bed for day time naps and at about 630 she comes in her daddy/my bf doesn’t mind at all where he really minded my son in the bed but he was much bigger and I agreed that he was to big. I do think 6 is a good age to move your son he is in school and that should help but it is your choice and you will love the privacy. Good luck!
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What ever you decide what best for you and your son wether that’s staying in you’re bed or having his own bed that’s up to you, for the boyfriend who is making fun out of you and your son I’d tell him to move out and find a bed somewhere else.
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No they need there own rooms.
I’d be saying goodbye to said boyfriend.
Nothing wrong with Co sleeping at an older age. When the monsters are under the bed so on… They’re still babies fgs.
Mine still take in turns to sleep with mama. My almost 7 year old still comes in every night.
Start with him staying in his bed or… Because YOU know your son… Start in your bed… Then once asleep transfer him.
It will take time and it will take consistency on your part.
But don’t you ever let someone degrade you ever. On any issue. Ever.
Red flags for future… And he’s picking on a bloody 6 year old fgs. Not OK. Sounds like bullying behaviour to me.
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Tell him to move back out. How dare a man be in your life only 8 months and comment on your child. And why are you moving a man into your house without knowing how he feels about important topics like your son 
Red flags waving all over the place!
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He should be in is own bed unless you want a mummy boy
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8 months ?? Whys he living with you already . And your child comes first obviously.
To be honest I wouldn’t want a new boyfriend sleeping in the same bed as my child… I’m guessing your fella doesn’t sleep on the sofa when he’s there…
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I co-sleep withy 2 aged 1 and 3. Probably best to have a separate bed for the boyfriend and bed hop when you need to… Just my opinion
I can’t imagine why a man would want a gf and her son sleeping nightly in a bed.
Your son is plenty old enough to sleep in his own personal space.
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Do what you want to do!
My kids had they own room since they were infant’s…my room is my personal space and I will keep that way…
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Sounds like your boyfriend has some issues.
Tell that guy not to let the door hit him in the ass on the way out the door 