Tell the man baby to sod off. Kids come first. If you and your Son are happy wtf business is it if anyone else.
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Have a good sit down about it and if he refuses to understand then good bye boyfriend. 
If he can’t respect your parenting decisions now its not going to get better. What happens if you have one with him? Then you’re stuck with his bum ass opinions forever. 
My husband slept with his parents until he was too big to. He’s the manly guy I know. Raise your boy how you want to mama.
When my husband and I first started dating, my daughter and I still co-slept. (She has just turned two at the time) When we decided to move in together, she nor I were comfortable w her being in her own room yet (she’d slept w me since she was born) so I put a toddler bed in our bedroom and she slept in her own bed, in our room for another year or so after that until she and I both were ready for her to go to her own room. Old habits die hard. It’s a hard transition for both mama & kiddo. Take baby steps to reach your ultimate goal.
She still sleeps in my bed from time to time, but only when my husband is working out of town. At some point, you have to teach them how to be independent or you’re just setting them up for failure as an adult.
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Ur bf has a point. Not his kid and he feels uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed. I nevee co slept with mine. So i never had an issue. Mine have slept in their own space since birth. Imo 3 is tooooo old to sleep in my bed.
If your boyfriend finds it weird then he (your bf) shouldn’t be sleeping in your bed. This is something that should have been addressed prior to him moving in.
True story I have family that kids slept in the bed with her all they youth …until the were teenager that finally wanted their own space.
My kids always slept in their own cots and beds.
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okay so you’ve been dating a man for less than a year and let him move in to your house and tell him he has to sleep with your 6 year old right beside him? Nahhhhhh that’d be inappropriate in my book too.
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I wouldn’t say it’s gross but I think he needs to be in his own bed
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The only thing I find weird is women moving their boyfriends in. Leave their asses at their OWN places and stop being so quick to bring them into your homes, around your babies and having them freeload.
Six is a bit older to be cosleeping but not unheard of. I think for the child’s own mental health, and yours, you should be weaning this process over the next year or so.
Barring nightmares, storms, illness, etc… My kids have always had their own beds.
My son almost died at birth and we have a bond too, but kids do need to learn that personal space is ok.
I will say, you moved a guy in after dating less than a yr and you’re surprised he doesn’t wanna co-sleep with a child, esp one that’s not his?
Really? 🤦
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Whatever you choose, I don’t think this man is the right person for your family. He shouldn’t “make fun” of you or your son IMO. I went through the same thing, I co slept with my children and when my boyfriend (now husband) moved in we sat and had a talk about it he explained to me that it made him feel uncomfortable and he was afraid that we might roll on them while de was sleeping and possibly hurt one of them - which is totally possible because he has such a heavy sleeper. So we came to the decision that as long as the children were healthy and feeling well they could sleep in their own beds but that when they start feeling sick I wanted them to sleep with me they would sleep on the outside of the bed while I slept in the middle of them two.
Why would YOU even want a man you’ve known less than a year sleeping with your kid.
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If I had a man or not, I still wouldnt like my kids sleeping in my bed. I like my own space and I go to bed later than they do. Now if we have a special night where its movies or holiday then yes let’s jump in together and snuggle. But kids need their own room and own space just like adults do
Boy bye! I can understand him not wanting him in the same bed as you but for 1 you are mom for 2 if he’s talking to you like that now it’s only gonna get worse.
I don’t think it’s weird or inappropriate for you, but from his view I can see why he wouldn’t want your son in the bed.
Mmm girl what’s disgusting is you having that grown ass man make fun of your child and you, and who the hell he thinks he is telling you what you should and shouldn’t do with your own. I have a 13 year old who wants to sleep with mama all cuddled up 
Mama don’t have an age mamas bed will always be the safe place in our children’s mind. You let that baby sleep with you love. 
I wouldn’t say it’s disgusting, but I do think you should start trying to put him in his own bed occasionally. I’ve known kids who slept in their parents bed for a long time and they are nowhere near independent by the age they should be.
The dude is wrong…
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I’m just not a co-sleeper at all. It’s not safe for infants. I think everyone needs their own space to sleep and it creates codependency issues. At 6, other than once in a while, I don’t think there’s a good reason why your child should be in your bed. Seems like an unhealthy attachment or codependency like I mentioned. But that’s just me.
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My son slept in my room until he was six months old and after that he has been in his own room since. When he has a nightmare I’ll lay and rock him and snuggle but he goes back in his bed. This has helped in everyday life. My son isn’t glued to my hip like I have seen some kids. My son is fine doing his own thin.
Yes you are wrong and I agree with your boyfriend he is 6 and needs to sleep in his own bed
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We’ve never been cosleepers. But I would think now is a good time to move him into his own bed
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Kick him out of your bed and house and keep your little boy in bed with you. Why would you want a guy that thinks something completely normal is disgusting. Byeeee
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My oldest (now 8) slept in the same room as I did until we had our youngest (now 2 1/2). Our oldest was in our room until we came home from the hospital…now our youngest is in our room. Co sleeping is sharing the same room, bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed. Maybe get him a toddler bed to put in your room, so he’s still close by. Tell your boyfriend to get lost
Sounds like u r not ready for your son to sleep in his own bed. I get it. but u made him dependent on thus u will have to break him and yourself of it.if they for scared have a bad dream sure. not disgusting but he will get made fun of by friends soon. We help our children become independent little by little not easy but needed we won’t be here forever. We r parents we have to do tough love sometimes. With our children and ourselfs
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No relationship for you… I can see if you weren’t trying to date. But who would want to put up with that. He should’ve been out your bed 5 years ago
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Things are gonna start getting awkward when the boy starts bringing girls over. Hahaha
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Here’s a thought. Stop letting your boyfriend sleep in the bed with your child. When he’s telling you he is uncomfortable stop allowing it. Your child is more important
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Does he have children? When I first moved in with my husband, I was 22 and didn’t have any kids… but he had a 4 year old. I couldn’t bring myself to let her sleep in the bed with my boyfriend and I because it was just to weird for me. She could get in bed with me after he left for work. Now my husband and I have 4 daughters and they’ve all slept with me. Our 4 and 5 year old still gets in the bed with us every night.
It’s normal for children to sleep with their parents until much older than 6! Looks like your boyfriend did you a favor and left!
I’d be questioning that your boyfriend is making fun of your son. This can be damaging. He needs a positive role model. This is a pretty small thing how will he react with bigger issues?
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I think it’s important we are allowed to be our child’s safety/nest until they’re ready to go out on their own… chances are one day soon he’ll ask for his own bed in his own room, if anything I think your bf hurt this progression. If not at a point we have to encourage them to detach even if it makes them a little uncomfortable. That’s just life.
My son is 9 and we still co sleep. 
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I went threw some bad stuff with my son as well it’s hard letting go I got a man that understands and he sleeps with us but my son does try to sleep on hes own can’t help it being a single mom for so long
When my husband is working out of town our 10 and 9 yr old sleep in our king size bed with me. Our 9 yr old sleeps with us off and on.
My son went right to his own bed when he was first born not being mean or anything but now is the time to wing him out of your bed
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Well when a man moves into your home maybe you shouldn’t allow your child to sleep in the same bed. It’s a little weird that you’d want to share a bed with a S/O that isn’t the father of your kid and expect him to be okay with it. Like do you not have sex in your bed? I’d start to get him in his own bed and make sure you date men that don’t make fun of you or your kid.
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I think where you and your son sleep is your business but you can’t expect a man to be okay sleeping with y’all and you shouldn’t be okay with a man you been with for such a short time cosleeping with y’all.
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And soon he won’t want to sleep in your bed😢
They grow way too quickly. enjoy your cuddles while you can ,it will only be a memory soon.
Kick that bf to the kerb
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Hes 6!! Well past time he has his own bed. In my opinion.
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Do it how you want to…your choice
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Your kid your decision period .
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He should have never slept with you. He’s to old to sleep with you mom
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It’s not disgusting nor disturbing, he’s an ass… however it’s time for you to transition him to his own bed.
I do think he needs to be acclimated to his own space. Especially if you expect this relationship to survive. It also needs boundaries.
HOWEVER, what I find actually disturbing is the way this asshole is reacting to it by making fun of you, and trying to make you feel bad for it. That’s fucked to me. How does he handle conflict then??
My kids are 5 and 7 and have their own room and beds and go to sleep in their own rooms, but more often than not I wake up with them snuggled as close as they can get to me and I cherish it. I like being that happy/comfortable place to them. I hope they always come to me when they just need some mama time no matter how old they are.
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My son was 4 years old when he stop sleeping in my bed
throw the whole boyfriend away… the way i see it is… my baby is only this little once and i want to spent every minute with him. Hes 7 and still sleeps in the middle of my husband and I…
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Ditch the boyfriend my son slept with us until he announced one day at 7 that he wanted to sleep in his own bed great adult now . college degree softwear engineer great job
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My son is four and still sleeps with us. I wouldn’t have it any other way!
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My husband worked shift work for years. Mine slept with me until they were teenagers. I was scared to death if the house caught fire when hubs was working nights we wouldn’t all get out unless we were together. The dogs even sleep with us. I don’t care what people think. They are my heart and soul and I just wanted to keep them safe in case of an emergency. Now they are old enough to know how to get out of the house in an emergency and hubs isn’t on shift work anymore.
Ummm…okay while I dont think its disturbing or disgusting cause your his mama. I do think it’s more of a indepence thing. Dont do it for your man, and honestly tell him off cause he def worded that wrong. But your kid should def having a bed that’s just his.
My children have never slept in my bed unless I accidentally fell asleep while breast feeding them. They had a cot in my room till they were about a year old then had their own bed in their own room.
I do notice though that a lot of people answering are from America, here in the UK it’s uncommon for children to sleep in their parents bed.
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Get rid of the boyfriend and leave the boy to get a good nights sleep lol! X
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ex boyfriend!!! Your child comes first
You are not wrong and you are not with a good man. No other way to put it🤷🏼♀️ Get him out of your house and your life.
My son is 8, he has his own room but still sleeps with hubby and I. At times he falls asleep in his bed but it’s a guarantee that he is back in our bed by 1am.
My 4 year old coslept with me for 3.5 years, but when I married and moved with my husband, he was out of my bed. I personally wouldn’t let my son sleep in the bed with myself and my husband, especially not this old. Also, bf shouldn’t be complaining if he’s living in YOUR home. I’d start putting son in his own bed and make bf get his own house
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I honestly think you should dump him don’t ever let a man come into your home start demanding shit fuck outa here kick the dude to the curb your baby comes first let that nigga sleep on the couch
Do what you want ur child ur heart …my man sleeps with our son who is 9 ,I dont mind at all the bond they have .when my first was born she was there alot after our 2nd he worked so much my son just needed his daddy .its not weird or gross it’s to my son that font matter how old you are you love ur kids at any age …he could be 20 and want his dad to sleep with him .there dad missed put on baby years working and providing for us .I love how my sons love there dad …I didnt have a dad until I was adopted. And when I found my real dad after 38 years I had 2 months just talking to him before he passed …dont worry what ppl think or say your kids come first always
Your boyfriend needs to go. My oldest is nearly 10. If one of my kids wants to sleep with me, they get to sleep with me. It comforts them. They rest better. They feel safe and happy. My youngest is 6. Both sleep in their own beds. But there are times, more often than not, when we huddle beneath the blankets and sleep together. There should be no stigma about it. To answer your question, The older one slept on their own at 3yrs old, the younger one before the age of 1.
Not disgusting, I’ve been a. Single mom right from the start and co-slept when she wouldn’t sleep on her own. She’s 3 and half years old now. My boyfriend understands that. And for me personally I want her in her own bed and am trying slowly. But if she wakes up and crawls into my bed I won’t make her go back to hers and the bf knows that to and is ok with that. Find a man who understands.
My son is 6 years old & although he starts off in his bed, he wakes up almost every night in the middle of the night & will make his way into my bed. There’s nothing disturbing with your child needing you or wanting his mother. You are his safe place & comfort. Time to kick the BF out 
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Tell the boyfriend to mind his business or better yet move out
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My children sleep in their own beds from the day I brought them home. It is very dangerous for a baby to sleep in the bed with you.
Get rid of the boy friend untill he marries you
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Personally I’m not sure when cosleeping became such a big thing but it really should stop. All you’re doing is caudling. He needs to be sleeping on his own. I slept on my own that young and so did my siblings. Co sleeping is a new trend and I don’t think it’s a healthy one at all, especially for the child, but that’s me
My 9 yo still sleeps with me when he doesn’t feel good. My 11 year old sister still sleeps with my mom. There is nothing wrong with it. I think he needs to hit the road if he dont like it
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My child slept with me in the same bed on and off until they were like 10. The reason I moved them in their own room is because I started a relationship. I dont find it disturbing that your child sleeps with you however I do find it awkward that you are still allowing them to after moving in a partner. I do t think I would feel comfortable with my partner in the same bed as my child. Just my opinion not saying you’re wrong or anything
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He is 6…it is time to start cutting the strings seriously. You want him to he healthy happy and well adjusted and learning to settle himself and deal with the dark is important . What part do U think it’s too late? He is approaching a certain age …it’s time to let him go to his own bed.
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I dont think he did anything wrong. Couples need to be parents AND a couple. Yes you’re a mom first but he is your partner and deserves that treatment
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He should be sleeping in own bed at that age also own room my child was in own room from age 2
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Nothing disturbing about this. He is your child and I dont care what the age my children can always share my bed
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I slept with my mama until I was a teenager…
Hes 6. He needs to sleep in his own bed. For his sake and yours.
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I think it’s normal and natural and he will go in his own bed in his own time let your Boyfriend go he s clearly jealous much Love xxx
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My 5 year old girl occasionally gets in my bed in the night I don’t see any harm in it
I would tell him to GTF…what an asshole
You are creating tension between you and your boyfriend. Don’t be surprised when he packs his stuff and leaves you. It will be your fault for not taking care of your relationship. I understand that at your kids age they are a bigger priority but y’all have to take care of your man and yourself as well. If not, when the kid grows up and y’all become empty nesters, you will be divorced if it doesn’t happen sooner than that.
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I think that’s just how it is whe your a single mum, I didnt get my son out of my bed until he was like 11. I just stop the cuddling when he was probably around 6 and then if I wasnt to tired I would try put him back in his own bed.
So where does the boyfriend sleep? Because him sleeping with you is one thing and no one can tell you when you should make him go to his own bed, but him sleeping with you & your boyfriend is a problem.
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Too big but is not his problem
I personally think no one should co sleep and babies should always be in their own bed or bassinet…
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Find a new boyfriend.
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you shouldn’t have your kid sleep in the same bed. they should be learning to sleep in their own bed and learning to do it on their own
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I slept in my moms bed up to the age 18 still do every now and then but she never Co slept with us I just had really bad nightmares and go in her room all the time my step dad didn’t care I now co-sleep with my son he’s a year old but I’m transaction him to his own bed
Maybe you should make a decision to understand why you are still wanting him to sleep with you. If you are having a problem letting go, then you need to adjust! I would think it is Time to have his friends do a sleep over in his room, in his bed with sleeping bags. Make his room his special place. My sons were happy to have their own rooms earlier than your son. Just the way I chose to Introduce them to their special room.
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Damn I wanted my son out of my bed at 2… how do you two have time to yourself?! Lol I’d be a little irritated. It’s not disgusting but just a little selfish.
All of you must be single.
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He’s only been around for 8mths. You’ve had your son for 6yrs. Him saying those ugly comments… not necessary… I’d tell the BF bye! You don’t know how long you’ll have your baby and you don’t know how long your baby will have you. He’ll go to his room when its time for you and him. 
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If he’s that harsh on you and saying those things to you, maybe you should reconsider him being in your life? Just a thought. No, your son doesn’t have to sleep with you every night and he should get used to sleeping by himself, but they way your boyfriend goes about it is asinine. Sorry
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My 7 year old autistic boy co sleeps
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I let my 14 year old daughter sleep with me whenever she wants. If anyone has a problem with it they can f off. Shes always my baby.
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When I was fling through a divorce , my eight year old wanted to sleep with me . I certainly allowed it for she and I both were going through a hard time . In time ( not very long ) , she moved back to her bed and was just fine . I think it’s appropriate for a small window of time .
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Not healthy in my opinion.
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Mine is 3 and still sleeps with me and my husband… it’s your kid do what you want… don’t matter what anyone says. You birthed that child. F**k whatever anyone else says. Are they parents… no.
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Tell your new boyfriend to stay in his lane
Your son will eventually want to sleep solo. If you allow this guy to mock and undermine your decision to co sleep, your son will never accept him in your life as he will blame him for ruining what you have always shared with your little one.
Keep your first love as top priority. You will not regret it in the end.
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He sounds like he’s jealous for your attention, my 5 almost 6 year old sleeps with me, it makes him feel safe so to bad for anyone who tries to tell me any different
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First and formost: if the boyfriend is already treating you and your son this way then he isnt the man for you!
Second thing: you do need to start making the transition for your son to sleep in his own bed in his own room, but there will be times when he is sick or just doesnt feel well that would be ok for a night with you in bed. If the boyfriend sleeps in the same bed then no it’s not ok…he and your son shouldnt be in the same bed…
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