Ditch the prick b4 he turns into a real wanker
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Your boyfriend is disgusting for being jealous of a 6 year old. Honestly you need to get rid of the boyfriend not your son in your bed.
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Listen, six is still fairly young. I agree with you that one option is to wait until he’s ready. On the other hand, it could benefit him to start the transition slowly when you’re ready. But there is nothing wrong with cosleeping and studies have actually shown benefits to co sleeping. Anyone who ridicules that and actually makes fun of you was not a good match for you anyway. If you want to date, it would probably be a good idea to start the transition before you meet someone else. But even though it hurts, don’t believe anyone who shames you because they didn’t get what they wanted from you. A real partner would work with you to try to resolve the issue, not just leave and ridicule you
I don’t think it’s weird, but the fact that you moved this man in and expected that A. You were going to have your son sleeping in bed with your boyfriend, or B. That your son was just going to be fine sleeping alone suddenly, says alot about your decision making skills. It’s probably time to start training him to sleep alone. When do you have ever sex with this man if your child is in your bed every night. Y’all don’t have jobs? I never understood that.
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That’s up to you. I say personally the boyfriend would have to go.
I slept with my mom until I was 11 lol
I think kids need their own space… we have a three bedroom apartment. Each of my three girls get their own room. My son gets tge whole den i sleep on couch… thats the sacrifice we make for our kids.
His mind is lost if he thinks your son sleeping with you is disgusting. He sounds like he doesny have children himself so he has no idea how a relationship between a child is. If you want to have your child sleep with you he can literally go fuck himself. Excuse my french. You’re mom not him. You will know when you are ready to have him have his own space to sleep in.
I have 4 children… 3 of them sleep in my room… 1 in my bed… my oldest (who is a teenager) slept with me in my bed til he was 6 & in my room til he was 8…but I was single & didn’t have ppl in my house around him
So where is your boyfriend sleeping if he moved in with you? Are you expecting him to be ok with ALL of you bed sharing? Where do you two make time for your own intimacy if your son is in bed with you?
Edit he’s wrong for making the comments and ridiculing, but he’s not wrong to want solo time with you. That should’ve been considered before he moved in. If you expected nothing to change in your sleeping arrangements besides adding him to the mix, that’s wrong on your part.
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He’s not the one then! A good man will understand! There’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing! My fiancé and I have co slept with our two children and I co slept with my oldest son until he was four. There are studies that even show co sleeping with your children helps them in the long run with emotions and security. You’re doing an amazing thing! He’ll stop wanting to sleep with you in his own time!
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If you see this man in your future then he should come first. Our spouse should always be number one. Why? Your children grow & move out. He will be with you the rest of your life.
He could have been more sensitive & talked to you, but how many men talk about their feelings?
Sleep with a blanket to get your scent on it & move little man to his own bed. Buy him his favorite character sheets, get him a night light, & even make a bottle of “monster spray”.
Best of luck!!
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Umm the boyfriend needs to go. Sounds like a real asshat. No it’s not disturbing or disgusting.
Your child comes before any man. Get rid.
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I dont think he should be making fun of you but your child is 6 and should definitely learn to sleep by himself…obviously there are exceptions…when he’s sick, scared, thunderstorms ect. But on a regular basis he should sleep in his own bed… I’m guessing ur boyfriend wants time alone with you and hes not wrong to want it… but if u feel strongly about your child continuing to sleep with you then you probably should of had that conversation with the boyfriend before u moved him in
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So okay you moved a guy in after about 6months of dating. Without knowing him or his opinions on anything that really matters. I mean I dont think it’s a problem u bed share with your son but, if that’s what you want dont move a guy in and expect him to just accept it. I mean is this guy expected to share your bed with a kid he barely knows too? If so u really need a bit of a reality check to be honest. That is in no way protecting ur son or his best interests. And even more to the point where is there any time for just you and the boyfriend to be together. You guys are in very early days and should totally still be in those throws of passion and intimacy, I can imagine a 6year old throws all that out the window too.
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My daughter is 21 n when she sleeps over she sleeps w momma my son is 10 n still sleeps w me 🤷🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻 idc idc idc
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I mean, to even have any thought cross your mind that would make that situation disgusting or wierd makes him disgusting. Im 20 and still snuggle with my mom when i go see her. I mean unless there really is innapropriate behavior happening, then something like that shouldnt be a question when it comes to your children.
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Mate I would kill for my 3 year old to still want to sleep with me. I don’t sleep properly and haven’t for almost a year since he decided he wanted to sleep in his bed. They get there in their own time and it sounds like it’s time to yeet the boyfriend
Dump him ! Wtf why is it a question ? Is ur son more important then a shitty bf ? Um yeah then dump him wtf he either supports and understands ur love for ur son or he need to GTFO
He will one day sleep on his own and won’t want to sleep with you. Speaking from experience since I have a 19 year old and he slept with me since a baby. He stopped once we got him a bunk bed and a friend got to spend the night with him. I let my youngest fall asleep wherever he wants and if anyone has a problem with it then they can kick rocks.
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When I got in a serious relationship I strongly encouraged my son to sleep in his room. He was 8. Before that it was him and I.
Although I never take the advice of my boyfriend who hasn’t been in my life that long, I would have to agree. He’s school age, it’s time he has his own bed
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I don’t think it’s disturbing but your son may soon want his own space. I can understand it cramping your style a little if there’s a child in bed with you and probably discourages him from wanting to sleep over. However he’s been in your life only 8 months. Do what is best for you and your child. And don’t let someone make you feel ashamed of something that is innocent. You don’t need someone trying to control you.
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Your child comes first I would not want to be in a relationship with someone who makes fun. of my son and me Especially if you explained that you both almost died But if you are going to have a relationship with a guy most will not want your son in your bed
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My son sleeps with me whenever he wants. He’s 8 and will occasionally ask to sleep in my bed. We stay up late and watch tv and talk then go to bed. I’m a single mom. No way in hell would I let him sleep in bed with me and a boyfriend tho. That’s just weird and not appropriate at all. You expected this man to move in and be ok with sleeping in a bed with you and your son? That’s not ok at all. Why would you think that was an appropriate arrangement? Even at 6 he should be in his OWN BED at least most of the time with an occasional night in your bed here and there…
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I’m 43 and my mom is 74. I still sleep with her on occasion when I visit her. My husband used to make fun of me too for that. Said I was too old to sleep with my mom. My mom is a blessing and I’m so thankful that she’s still alive and I’ll never regret our bond.
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My kids co-slept with me until they were 5 years old. I’ve been a single mother since they were little. When my kids started going to school is when I moved them to their own rooms.
I wouldn’t have them sleep on my bed if there was a man there with me. They would need to sleep on their own.
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What is disturbing to me is that you would let a man you’ve been dating for 8 months move in with you and your 6 year old child after 6 months…and then…even consider letting him change what is normal for you and your child…I’d kick this guy to the curb before I let him make fun of my child…soon…when you’re ready it WILL be time for your son to transition to his own bed/room but not because some “stranger” says so…
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Sweetheart first wrong move is that you moved that jerk in way too soon! Second is that you allow him to treat you guys like this!! You should be glad he left!! He’s an ass…I’d be scared he’s jealous and hurt your son!! Be careful…people like that is who hurts their gf kids…I see it on the news every day!!
I slept with my dad until I was 7…my mom slept on the couch to make it easier because I had terrible nightmares and needed my dad. I am normal and had an amazing relationship with my dad. My son is almost 5. He is in his own bed and maybe sleeps with me 1-3x a month. He seems content in his own bed though 
Get rid of your boyfriend.
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Bye bye boyfriend 
My 13 year old sleeps on a cot in my room. He prefers that over his expensive bed. He will sleep in his room when friends are over or when its summer and he’s up all night. My husband came into my sons life when he was like 7. If he gave me a hard time about my son sleeping in my bed and then on a cot he wouldn’t be my husband…I was a single mom for a long time and I wont push my kids out just because someone else thinks it isn’t okay.
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My daughter is 7 and STILL sleeps with me. We both sleep better that way. I’d be disturbed that he thinks it’s disturbing and he’d have to go.
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You need to lose a boyfriend!
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If he is having thoughts like that, about a 6 year old in your bed, him leaving and taking his twisted thoughts is a good thing.
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Sounds like boyfriend wants to hook up alot more than yall do therefore hes trying to make your son stop cosleeping. Screw him!!! Kick him to the curb
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Jealous ass dude. Man, f him fr don’t be dumb over a dude that can’t respect you and your sons relationship or bond. That guy needs to GROW THE FUCK UP. PERIOD.
Kick the guy out! Who is he to walk in there and start making fun of your son and you? You can do and deserve better and so does your son.
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Boyfriend is clueless. Think twice about establushing a relationship wirh him if he doesnt understand kids. Seriously
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All this dads and boy friend find it hard with our kids sleeping with us is like F you all get a hold or your Balls and take a hike … for reals it’s been like this for the longest time . I kick mine to the curve
I think encouraging your son to sleep in his own room should come because that’s what you want. If you do it now for this guy it may cause your son major emotional problems. It’s a security blanket that your taking from him because the new man in your life demands it.
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Boyfriend of 8 months vs child of 6 years.
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My son is 5 and still sleeps with me… I see nothing wrong with it… but soon he’ll be moving into his own bed.
Throw the whole man away 
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It’s not disturbing, your BOYfriends behaviour is. He is getting to the age where you should be starting to sleep in his own bed, but do it gradually, give him incentive and reward him when he does.
You have made a rod for your back letting him do it this long, but as I said gradually with incentive and in your own time he will sleep in his own bed.
On the BOYfriend front, he sounds like a cock, bin him off
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So First, the dude is disgusting. Bye Felicia.
Second. If I had a dude sleeping/living with me I would NOT have my child in the bed with us. Biological father is one thing but a boyfriend? Absolutely not.
Third. You and your child need to make your own decision on cosleeping. There is no right or wrong age. In my opinion.
And again eww that dude sounds like a dirt bag. Seriously fuck him.
The only thing that’s disturbing is the boyfriend.
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Im with the boyfriend on this one. Your boyfriend of 8 months shouldnt be sharing a bed with your child. That is gross.
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My daughter is 5 years old and she has always slept with me I don’t see a problem enjoy your son while he is little it won’t last long before he wants to sleep by himself. But I am a single mom though.
And If your significant only he wants to have sex or be intimate yeah give your significant other his place and start a routine with your son so he can every now and then sleeps in his bed. Momma you’ve got this!
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As long as it’s not enabling him as he gets old.the horror stories I hear about mommas boys when they decided to start their own family
What did I just read??? Find a new boyfriend ASAP. My 3 year old still sleeps in our bed, the other night our 6 year old fell asleep in our bed, he wanted to be close to mama his bed is 2 feet from ours Daddy tried laying down and going to sleep but couldn’t get comfortable so he went to sleep in sons bed cause that’s what you do when you have kids you put their comfort above your own.
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Drop that guy like a dead weight.
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My first born slept in my bed with me until she was potty training at 2, and then after that she would climb into bed in the wee hours of the morning with me until she was about 5. Once she started school she was tired enough that she slept through the night in her bed, I was a single mom up until I met my husband when she was 5 and we moved in together when she was 6,. She would still come in the room when she had nightmares and climb in bed, I’d let her fall back asleep and then I’d carry her back to her bed at that time, but only because my now husband (then boyfriend) was always a underwear sleeper and I didnt want her seeing him in his underwear. We were never ever intimate with her in the room, maybe that’s why your boyfriend thinks it’s weird, he may want to be intimate with you more often but cant because your boy is in the bed. Morning wakup sex is a thing. I think it’s pretty normal for single moms to have their kiddos sleep in their bed, but once a relationship is established, that usually encourages the child to sleep in their own bed.
Bf needs to go for 1. Instead of having a healthy conversation he’s being degrading. Red flag #1. I wouldn’t say it’s disturbing, I would say that it’s probably about time to start transitioning him into his own space. Especially if you’re trying to have a relationship. Yes, your child comes first but also keep in mind that you need to have intimate time in a relationship as well. Still, this guy sounds awful.
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My son was still born when he was born and i myself almost did not make it. They were able to bring my son back - he’s 7 now. He slept in my room for 3 months afterwards. He’s obsessed with me and I don’t think I would ever have let him go longer than that. At 6 I think boys start becoming curious about mom parts…( at least mine lol) I would talk w your boyfriend and ensure him that this is the way it’s going to be. If he can’t get over it may be he’s not a good fit for your family. But then again maybe he wants some alone time with you.
My only question is, how did you move someone in who didn’t know your son still sleeps with you? … How were things like that not discussed prior. He also sounds like a insensitive ass… Sorry. I think I would take the red flag and, give him his 30 day notice to move.
First of all no men should be telling you anything when it comes to your son his YOUR son. If he talks to you like that & makes fun of your son just shows his no good. I wouldn’t allowed any men or anyone make fun of my son your son deserves respect as well. If you want wanna co-sleep with him go ahead they are only young ones. I don’t see anything wrong with that but also get him use to having his own bed. Even if it’s in the same room you have to start somewhere so he feels comfortable. Some kids are different and it takes time you also wanna allowed yourself to be able to have the bed all to yourself for better rest perhaps. But honestly don’t let your boyfriend talk to you or make fun of yours son y’all deserve better than that. Your son should always come 1st above any men or anyone!
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My son is 12,he sleeps with me he’s my lil comfort and I’m his until he’s ready to be on his own
He needs to go real men arent threatened by a good mothers bond with her son but maybe attempt a little bedtime separation as the longer u leave it the harder it will be…goodluck this way soooo hard for our family
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My son sleeps in his own room but most nights comes to mine and my husband’s bed we have never turned him away as the song goes let them laugh let them giggle let them sleep in the middle let them be little
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Honestly, that’s more between you and the father of your child. If both parties are fine with it… It’s a personal choice. That being said, I’m whole heartedly against co-sleeping. My oldest crawled in my bed almost every night until she was 11. At 11 she was as tall as I am, that coupled with her being a bed hog it physically hurt and my ex-husband did not like it at all. When I got with my second husband my two youngest stepsons slept in his bed (two year old the whole night and six year old crawled in the bed. I never complained but my husband said he felt the need was crowded and I agreed. Plus we both felt that the six year old was more than old enough to sleep in his own bed. We took measures to get him comfortable with the transition and it worked… Slowly. We moved the youngest to his own bed at 3 years old.
I mean he is 6 probably should be sleeping in his own bed it sounds like it’s time to start making the transition . he probably wants to sleep alone with your or probably have sex ! Also it’s not his decision .
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I’m still in shock your child is in the same bed as a man you’ve been seeing for 8 months 
never in my life would my child be in a bed with a man that ain’t their father I find it unsettling
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Grandchildren slept with me more than my kids ever did.
That makes me angry! Do what is best for your son, always!! I can see things from the guys side TO A POINT but there’s no reason for him to say it’s disgusting!! Drop that guy and move on! Maybe work getting your son moved over to his own bed, if he’s ready! My daughter was about 4 when I moved her over to her own bed but she still sneaks in whenever she wants (she’s 6 now). And that’s perfectly healthy for any Mothers and their babies 
Get rid of him he is disgusting one
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We never coslept all in the same bed but that had nothing to do with feelings of disgust. Our bed cannot accommodate 3-4 people and all of us sleep comfortably. My kids have always slept in their own bed but if they need either of us we will sleep with them in their beds. My daughter is the oldest (5) and I lay down with her every night until she goes to sleep. Sometimes her dad gets up with her in the middle of the night if she’s having a bad night and I don’t find it disgusting that he sleep with her or if I slept with our 3 year old son. I get it, some people don’t approve of kids needing their parents at night beyond a certain age but there’s no reason to call names or anything.
I’d just stop seeing him. It’s your home and your child. Tell him to get lost. I wouldn’t change up my child’s routine to accommodate a boyfriend.
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Boyfriend is insecure and only in your lives for 8 months. Your son is a part of you. I would rather be alone than compromise my child’s comfort and security especially for someone youve only just met.
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So wait, he left you because your son co-sleeps with you still? Sounds like you upgraded immensely and the trash took itself out… my son is 6 and has his own room but when he is with us(myself & bf) he will sometimes ask to sleep with us especially when he has bad dreams and my bf is very accepting and will even carry him in our room.
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Well really, its a good time for your 6 year old to start sleeping in his own bed, especially if your getting involved with people like that… thats going to expected with anyone you get involved with and will impact any other relationship you get in, in the future but the fact that hes making fun of you and your son, isnt right and id kick him to the curb for that reason alone… but he isnt wrong for expecting the kid to be in his own bed. And tbh in my opinion, if your not ready to do away with co sleepin, then you shouldn’t be getting involved in serious relationships that involve the person moving in with you
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Your bf sounds jealous and kinda like an ass hat imo. Leave his ass its not that strange to co sleep maybe start getting your son used to his bed so in future he doesn’t have issues falling asleep on his own but I think your bf is insensitive and negative especially his way of going about the topic with you if he has issues he sgould respectfully like an adult tell you that and if he’s being childish I’d boot him …
Ok 1 don’t go back to that guy, if he has thoughts like that, then he doesn’t need to be anywhere near you and your son. And I don’t have a 2nd cuz I haven’t been through that yet, my son is 3 and has also been with me since the day he was born yes even in the hospital lol but you should consider doing that before you share your bed with someone else.
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Hes 6 still sleeping with you? Yall wild af with all this cosleeping business, maybe every once in a while but not every night.
Idk if I would have made fun of you, but I definitely wouldn’t date you and your 6 year old sleeping partner
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Why did you have the boyfriend move in knowing you co-sleep? Now if you force your son out, he will always think he got booted due to this man. I have never co slept, but my 10 yr old still will wander into my room during the night occasionally. Much to my husband’s dismay, I let him stay. Kids are young for such a short time and if it comforts them, so be it.
I would have the boyfriend move out until you and your son both feel it is time to not co-sleep. Do not let a man youve been with for 8 months dictate what is best for you and your son… as far as him making fun of you both, no way would I tolerate that …
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I think the bigger issue is that you let your boyfriend move in with you and your child after only 8 months and your now questioning your parenting style because of a guy who is disrespecting you and your child by making fun of you both. Perhaps you should of figured this out before you allowed him to move in?!. Although it might be a good idea to encourage and get your child to sleep on his own, if you feel that’s something you’d like to do, you have now created a whole other issue while attempting doing it while theres a new man in your home. Good luck.
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That’s not a man, that’s trash. Take it out.
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While I see nothing wrong with the co sleeping iftself I would start the transition soon. At least to his own bed, if you want him in the room at first then that works too. Tbats what I did with my 1st. I also had a traumatic birth (severe oreeclampsia, I could have stroked and he was 2 months premature and very small) and kept him with me and my husband until like 4 1/2. I got a small blow up matress and he started sleeping there. I had to sit or lay with him until he fell asleep but that was ok with me. Children crave comfort and Momma is comfort and safety. DONT EVER let a man, much less one yoh’ve been dating only 8 months, tell you how to raise or deal with your kid. He obviously has no clue. Its not disturbing. The only way it would be disturbing is if you wanted the boyfrjend, youa nd your son all in the same bed. Mh advice, either get a more understanding boyfriend or try to get your son to sleep in his own bed because this won’t be an isolated case when you are a single mother.
Kick dude to the curb.
My boyfriend knows my kid comes before him so he never said a word about my son age 5 sleeping in my bed.
I did end up getting my son his own bed and put it against mine only because 3 is a crowd but I still want my son near me.
He has CHD and I constantly check on him during the night.
My SIL has her 10 year old still sleeping in the same bed.
Now I wont cosleep with the baby I’m due with in few months but he will also be sleeping in our bedroom . My boyfriend tosses to much in his sleep so cosleeping with a infant would not be safe
Ew, he MAKES FUN OF YOU AND YOUR SON???!!! Tell him goodbye, love. Your son is way more important than some dumb dude. He sounds like a man baby anyway. Keep doing what works for you and your kiddo.
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Well, my 22 year old niece (I raised her) slept with me Saturday night. She is experiencing some events in life where she needed her mama. My boys occasionally sleep with me, maybe 3-4 times a year. But it’s not ok for him to make fun of a child and you. That says more about him, than co-sleeping could ever say about you and your son.
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We co slept with our son til just recently he’s 4 but he still comes in our bed if he wakes up during the night and our 2 yr old has her crib right beside our bed and sometimes she gets out and sleeps with us it’s a security thing. I’d say let the bf go if he doesn’t want to accept the decisions you make with your son.
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Our son slept with us till he was about 9 he started out in his bed and then jumped in with us in the middle of the night. It will be months of slow going to get your son in his own bed. Don’t rush it there are enough changes with a new man in the house. It’s not a good sign that your new guy is making fun of you two. Especially wouldn’t allow him to say things like that to my son!!!
Your son is 6. He should be sleeping in his own bed. I totally understand what the bf is saying… i personally dont think its healthy to co sleep with a 6yr old. At all. But in saying that the bf does sound like he handled it wrong. Each to their own…
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He called you and your child disgusting? Pack his crap and throw him out. You should NEVER allow anyone to speak of your child in such a manner. You are not dating a man but a horrible boy. My son is 5 and will still crawl into bed with me and I would never tell him to go back to his bed. And damn sure not because of a “man”.
I think to each their own…his reaction to it though is a bit strong and he needs to communicate like an adult because the child involved is only 6 and doesnt need to be made fun of. There has to be a healthier way of expressing his feelings about the situation.
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I think it’s weird that the boyfriend thinks it’s weird. He is making something innocent into something perverse. That’s a major red flag to me.
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Lmao i find it weird that your bf finds it disturbing… my hunny loves watching me sleep with all my little loves!!
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Sis read between the lines. He’s trying to shame u into removing your son from your room so he can have sex with u. I usually don’t tell ppl break up with their significant others but if he has gone so far as to not only shaming you but a small child, that may not be the best influence for your son to grow up seeing cause he about to give him some bad childhood memories. He’s a selfish man and is lacking in the dad quality department. Pay attention to him sis
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My bf has a son and he sleeps on his own but at any time he gets scared you bet he jumps in bed.
My bfs baby momma lets her 8 year old and 4 year sleep with her and just let this guy moved in and they got booted quiet fast to their own beds
It made my bfs kid very scared of sleeping in his own bed in both homes
But at the same time I think after a certain age they should be sleeping in their own bed and if they arnt then don’t welcome someone who you think can’t handle it
- do not go back to that man. Please DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK.
- if your son sleeping with you doesn’t bother you. Then that’s your business. I’ve been cosleeping since my son was born and he’s 2 and I don’t honestly have the desire to stop. We sleep so much better and I sleep deeper. Kids are only kids for so long. Enjoy it. Raise your baby the way you want too.
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If you’ve only been together 8 months and this is how he is acting now, do you really expect it to get better? Do you really think he will not try to take control over both yours and your sons lives? Are you willing to put a man before your child?
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Both my older kids eventually left my bed to sleep on their own. Neither was still sleeping with me at night by 9 years old or so. I also have an almost 8th…and some nights she sleeps on her own, some nights she sleeps with her dad and I.
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Your “bf” is disgusting and disturbing 
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If you have a boy friend he should not be sleeping with you and him
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That’s f#$ked up! My son’s 7 and still sleeps with me! Has done since he was born!
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BOY BYE I don’t fucking understand people who stay with partners like this?!
It is not wrong to want your child in the bed with you or your child wanting to be with you. He should not make fun of you or your son for that. I stopped co sleeping only because I had two kids under 2 amd my oldest rolled on top of my youngest, luckily there was no damage done. Now they are 6 and 7 years old and sometimes they still come to bed if they are sick or have a nightmare. My husband does not say anything about it. He has never made fun of his step kids.
All my kids still try sleeping in my bed some times
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This man is a loser get rid of him. My mother had 4 children, when it would storm late at night bad. We would all end up in her bed with my stepdad and he never said shit about it and we were ages 3-12. I still go over to my mother’s house and my son and I and her all take a nap in the same bed. Not weird at all.