My 5 year old slept with me until I got with the man I’m with now and we got a new home. My son was there and seen his dad beat on me and has always been by my side. So when me and his dad split I let him continue to sleep with me for comfort because i was scared he’d wake up and wonder where he was or where mama was. I always said screw everyone else’s opinion on what I do with my kids they should focus on their own. Your “boyfriend” should never say those words to you or your son regardless of the situation. If mine said me and my son where disgusting for it he wouldn’t have balls or be in my home anymore 🤷 Kids remember things that are said about them and you dont know what damage that could be doing to them. You do you mama 
when I got pregnant with my 2nd baby then he decided he wanted his own room to share with bubba and that was that 
He should have his own room and bed.
And moving the boy friend in so quick might not have been the best idea…
But He obviously feels uncomfortable sharing a bed with a child…
My oldest had his own bed since he was 6 months old, but he always will crawl in bed with his dad and I he is almost 10,my youngest will crawl in bed as well, he is almost 4… i will allow the kids to fall a sleep in our bed, but once they are sleeping i move them to their own beds
Boyfriend needs to go! You do you and sleep in bed with your little man
I understand that it’s weird to your bf BUT as a mom I don’t personally find it weird my daughter and I were alone until she was 4 and I started seriously dating my now husband so obviously I transitioned her to her own bed but had he not come along at it was just me and her who knows. We now have three kids and when he’s gone me and the girls have sleepovers lol. (and our three year old sleeps with us) 🤷
Why be with someone like that? He the boyfriend has the problem. He’s jealous. Don’t let anyone make your child feel less than.
Boyfriend sounds like a dick.
It’s not wrong that the boy still sleeps with you but it seems like the bf does NOT want to bed share with the boy. There’s nothing wrong with that. YOU should also not want your child in the same bed as a bf.
Tell him …bye felicia
He’s an arsehole! He should be understanding of the situation, he doesn’t care about your son, as it is his home and he’s moving in and already pushing him out… he just wants a fuck!
My son is almost 6 and he is welcomed In my head whenever he needs to… nothing is wrong with that. You are dating a bitch not a man
If a man ever said that something I was doing with or for my son was disgusting… Ummmm bye ! 
Do what u feel is right, I’m dieing and would love to hold my Son at night or any time and he’s soon to be 45. Only u know how y’all feel. This made me cry I only have my Son he takes care of me don’t let people decide for u. Id be lost with out my Boy.
My son slept with me and his dad until he was 3, so I think he should be sleeping by himself, but it’s not disgusting. And for your boyfriend to say that, is just rude. He should be understanding and try to help you get your son to sleep on his own. It’s probably kinda awkward but him saying that isn’t helping anybody
I think that when you move a man in, it is appropriate to move your child out of the bed.
However, why did he move in? Why doesn’t he hVe his own place? Saying things like “disgusting” sounds demeaning and sounds like he just wants control. Also, doesn’t sound like much of a man to “leave” you because your son sleeps with you. If he was a man, that would be something you address together. At some point, children need to establish their independence, get him his own bed. I bet he will love it. It’ll be a transition for both of you, but I imagine you are the one holding on to it a lot tighter than your son.
I would lose boyfriend and start transitioning soon into his own room personally.
Disturbing? Lol to mother your child? Lmfao wooooo chile throw the whole man away. Do not i repeat DO NOT reproduce with him!! He’ll tell you breastfeeding is sexual nipples are for his pleasure only.
Sounds like he’s a controlling jerk, and you should protect yourself and your son by leaving him! He has no right to make fun of you, and certainly no right to make fun of and belittle your young son! There’s no reason to not co-sleep as long as you and your son are comfortable with it. It is not sick, disgusting, or sexual in any way. It is perfectly natural, humans evolved to co-sleep, especially when they’re young.
Leave him and tell him to stop perverting something that’s innocent…sick fucker 
It’s definitely weird that he sleeps with you and your boyfriend. My daughter just turned 2 and I put her in her own bed up against mine a couple months ago. But at 6? He definitely shouldn’t still be sleeping with you
Get the BF out of your life before it goes too far and you and your child suffer. It’s one thing to feel a certain way but to express this by verbal abuse to you is unacceptable. What’s next? It’s not worth the risk. Hold tight to your boy for as long as you can, independence will happen soon enough. Stay mom strong!
What the??? That’s your son!! Your baby boy!! If hes still wants to sleep with mum and you dont mind then let him!! I think letting them grow out of it is fine! Theres nothing wrong with your child needing the comfort of his mum to go to bed.
Boyfriend needs to stfu 
dont come between a mother and her child
You’re new bf sounds like a dick
My daughter is 8 and cosleeps. Idc what anyone else says about it. You do you momma
I will always pick my childs needs over some man. Im sorry thats just me. No one shoukd EVER make you feel bad for how you parent. He sounds jealous and insecure.
When he got into a relationship with you. You should have made it clear that your child comes first. Your child has been there with you before your bf came in the picture. If he was actually a man and not an asshole instead of making fun of you and your child, he should of came to you respectfully and talked to you about it. Second, you moved him into YOUR home way too quick. It’s your bed your home your say. Third, I would dump him I would never respect a man to disrespect my child. He is not a man and obviously doesn’t care about you or your child. Find someone who love your child equally as he does you. Talk to your child as well as to when he would want his own bed make it sound exciting. He’s gonna be a young man soon who will need his own space. But the boyfriend is the bigger issue!
Oh, and our daughter was 5 years old when me and my husband met. We s to lol shared a bed and he’s the one that actually broke her out of it. He understood that with me being a single mom, how close we were and still are, our time together was seldom and we would watch movies and shit and would just fall asleep together. He never made fun or was a douche bag about it. Drop that man like a bad habit 
I’d lose the boyfriend 
Well you shouldn’t have move in with him if you didn’t talk to him first about the situation I moved in with my partner like a year ago
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Maybe not disturbing but it is definitely time for him to get his own bed…there will be a age where it starts to be innapropriate.
Our baby is 7. He has his own room. He can sleep wherever he chooses but usually ends up in our bed by early morning . He’s little. And if it keeps him feeling safe, then so be it. He’ll outgrow us soon enough 
Boyfriend sounds like an idiot. How you parent is non of his business. Tell him to get lost, he’s been around 8 months and feels confident enough to question you as a mother. Smh
Leave that man for sure
most cultures generations are known to sleep together but almost all parents and their children sleep together. do what makes you and your son happy
At 6 he should def be going to bed in his bed. My oldest is 7 and he goes to bed in his own bed but sometimes will end up in our bed.
Time to kick the man out of your life and your son out of your bed. Let him sleep on a pallet beside your bed if he wants, but he needs to be not sleeping with mama.
My kids co sleep with me brings us closer mummy’s boys
My now husband of 20 years didn’t even meet my son until we had been dating a year.
The man sounds like a jerk if he wants to change anything about your son and what he does.
Boyfriend is a loser
Ewww. Punch him in the throat then dump his disgusting ass. Also I think 8months is to soon to be moving in with a man and for him to even have opinion about things With your son. Also I don’t think it’s good that your son is laying with a man after you only dating him for 8 months. I’m assuming that you three lay in the same bed though.
My oldest who is now 12, slept with my exhusband and I until she was 4. My son whos 8, will still end up in my bed a couple nights a week. And my youngest who’s 5 still sleeps with me. I coslept with all kids from newborn up. To me, its normal. Its yours and their comfort. Have a talk with the bf. If he cant accept it then it might be time for him to move out.
My son is 6 and sleeps with me. When my bf sleeps over, he sleeps in his room.
I don’t think it’s disturbing to sleep in the same bed as your son. I can see why the boyfriend is uncomfortable though. If you moved him in he obviously thought he was going to sleep in the same bed as you. I can see why he doesn’t want to sleep in the same bed as your son. If your son isn’t ready to sleep in his own bed maybe you should have waited to move the boyfriend in.
Ur boyfriend sounds like an idiot. Only someone with a dirty mind would find the bond between a mother and her son disgusting. Only a douche, grown man would feel jealous of a 6 year old. Maybe ease your son into his own bed little by little, but don’t do it for some guy. Men come and go, but u will forever be ur son’s mommy, and your son should come first.
Disturbing no, on the weekend my 6 year old son will come crawl into bed with us still, I did transition him into his own bed at 2 but it never stuck until we got him a loft bed “big boy bed” just after his 6th birthday now he only crawls into my bed in weekends… my daughter loves crawling into bed with me every morning after I get her brother off to school… it doesn’t hurt to transition him into his own bed but there’s nothing wrong with him sleeping in the same bed as you… your boyfriend much not know what it’s like to have a bond like your’s and your son’s…
So your new boyfriend probably hates your son, and I bet he gets annoyed by everything the poor kid does.
He needs his own bed ,maybe put a small bed in your room for awhile, then move him to his own room
You should have moved your son to his room when he started school… that’s just my opinion. I coslept till my son was 4… but theres a time and place for everything. If you’re comfortable doing it that’s on you however I wouldnt…m
You haven’t been with this guy long enough for him to have an opinion on your parenting. I’d say he has offended you and your child and that’s a huge red flag. I’d kick him to the curb.
You need a new boyfriend
My 6 year old would still be in my bed if I hadn’t had the baby. Every now and then I find her in my bed but have to ask her to go back to hers because no one gets any sleep if anyone else is in the bed! The baby is a nightmare for it 
she’s slept with me since birth and is 2 next month. And still in my bed. I love it though. Wouldn’t change it. The eldest is a nightmare to sleep with though she moves too much! And disturbs everyone
I don’t see an issue with your son sharing your bed. You’re his mum! Your boyfriend is out of order! It’s not his place to speak this way! Up to you what you do with your child.
Soooo much wrong with this post… and not one thing wrong with the 6 year old co sleeping.
Get rid of the boyfriend
He should have his own bed no six year old boy should sleep with his mother and her gentleman friend that almost always causes problems for the child.pray about it talk about it. talk to your son then ask him how he feel
It definitely isn’t disturbing.
You are his mum and he is your son.
I think your boyfriend is a bit of a freak for thinking its disturbing.
Get rid of him!
Your boyfriend is wrong for making fun of you and I hope your son doesn’t hear this because that will emotionally damage him. When my husband was on deployments and away for training my kids always slept in bed with me. I’m sorry but for him to put you down and make fun of you, that’s more of a Red flag , than your son sleeping in your bed.
Everybody’s shunning the boyfriend, but I’d be more concerned over a man who was comfortable sleeping in the same bed with another man’s child, whom he obviously hasn’t known long. No man besides the father of the child should feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed as a child!
Please get your 6 year in his own bed …every now and then is ok but not nightly
Sounds like that guy is jealous of your child. #curb
He your son do what u feel is right that must have really bad experience what u went through with ur son all the best
Let him sleep with you and snuggle him because one day boom! They are grown.
He’s strange for even thinking it’s disturbing.
Get rid now 
I’m gonna be real honest here, it probably upsets him cause he wants to do the dirty and the kid is there.
You do what you choose. If it was me I’d transition my kid to his own bed regardless of situation. It cant go on forever.
Well it sounds like your boyfriend is quite disrespectful and that wouldn’t fly with me. I can o see where it would be very uncomfortable for him to share a bed with you and your son. I think you need to make a decision on whether you’re really in a position to want to live with your boyfriend or not because I don’t think it’s fair that you should force him to sleep in a bed with you and your six-year-old son. There’s really no set age. My almost 4 your old daughter still Co sleeps with me most nights but her dad also works nights and usually doesn’t even go to bed till about the time we get up. This really is a conversation you should have had before your boyfriend moved in so now it sounds like you’re going to be forced to move your son into his own bed
The child should be sleeping in his own bed
How do u get alone time for you to have a sex life ??? Personally I’ve never co slept unless child ill. But certainly wouldn’t have a child in my bed with someone who isn’t their father.
I dont think its wrong at all however he cn sleep in your bed whn your boyfriend does. Thats not good for any relationship…privacy is imp
Get rid of the boyfriend
Girl kick his ass out. No man should ever make fun of your children or shame you for doing something that comforts your son. You deserve better and so does your son.
I’d say it’s a litttttllllleeee weird the child sleeps with you ANDDD your boyfriend… but that was something that needed to be discussed before him (boyfriend) moving in. Also he is 6… every once in awhile is okay but not every night.
WHENEVER YOU FEEL ITS THE RIGHT TIME!! Our son who is now 7 has co slept with us since birth. He was our rainbow baby & he has had a really close bond with me and his father. Ur son comes b4 any man. Do what makes you 2 happy not the boyfriend.
Mine slept in my bed til she was 8 she still gets in my bed if she can shes now 13 an still loves sleeping next to me
The fact that he’s not comfortable sleeping with your child and you haven’t respected that, shows you arent ready for a relationship. That’s meant to be his home and his bed as much as yours and you’re calling all the shots. Should never have moved in together without discussing this.
When do you have adult time with a 6yo between you every night? Lol
My opinion is that it isnt disturbing but he is too old. You need to have your own space for you and your male partner. You can’t expect a relationship to work with your 6 year old in your bed
I think if you’re comfortable still sleeping with your son then let it be, although do encourage him to try sleeping in a separate bed for part of the night, he will get used to it and eventually sleep in his own big boys bed. Your very new partner should not be trying to tell you how to parent your child. I would personally not feel comfortable with such a new partner sleeping in the same bed as my child. Its a toss of the coin for you as to who is more important to be sharing your bed with. …your son or your new partner?
Oh. My. God. I slept in my parents bed until I was almost 12, and my little brother slept in my parents bed until he was about 9 or 10. There’s nothing wrong with a 6 year old sleeping next to his mom or cuddling with his mom.
My 6 yo wouldn’t go to sleep last night til I held him like a baby. I co slept exclusively til he was 4 and on and off since then. I love sleeping next to my baby
Well, he moved in with you so now it’s time for your son to sleep in his own bed. Your bfs words were immature and mean. I am sure he is desperate to sleep alone with you. My husband does not like cosleeping with my daughter. She sleeps in her own room fine. We made a reward chart to help her stay in her bed and in the morning she can cuddle with me.
I wouldn’t say its disgusting but it’s probably time for little man to be sleeping in his own bed, especially if you are living and sleeping with someone that is not his dad… but if he knew that this happened he should have never moved in
He needs to get over it. One day your son won’t want to sleep in your bed anymore. You’re on borrowed time with your child. Enjoy it and show him all the love an comfort he wants because one day he won’t be living with you at all and he won’t want to cuddle with you anymore. Your bf is weird for suggesting that there is anything wrong with your son sleeping with you.
Both of you should of had the conversation before you started sleeping together I get that theirs a bond and you both nearly lost your lives but your son will never want to leave your bed if you keep getting angry at your partner and making excuses the child is 6 and is alive and well now just think you’ve put yourself in a hole if you can’t see a problem with this I have 3 kids I’m not anti Co sleep all my children did until 2 I have an 18 month old who still is in my bed in which my partner sleeps in a different room
Sounds like he is jealous of a 6 year old boy. I have shared custody of my boys with my ex but for a while they weren’t allowed to stay with me. My sons are 13 (with autism) and 10. I lay in their beds with them until they fall asleep when they are with me.
My little sisters slept in the bed with my mom up until they were 11 and 12. If he doesn’t like it or can’t come to you like an adult rather than making fun of you and saying it’s disgusting, kick his disrespectful, ignorant ass to ths curb
Just my thoughts …i dont think its right for you ti bedshare with your child and boyfriend since he isnt the father. He does seem alittle old to still be bed sharing everynight. Your child need their own bed. Gonna help little one build confidence in himself. You not want to still be bed shareing when he is 10 or more do you?. But again just my thoughts
I have a two almost 3 year old. I broke her of the cosleeping habbit at around a year an a half. The only time she sleeps with me now is if she is sick or when my fiance is out for a week. Usially by day 4 she misses his a lot and has a hard time sleeping so I’ll let her sleep with me because by then I honestly am exhausted and need the sleep.he is usially home for like 36 to 48 hours before leaving again
Its not weird or disturbing but at that age he should be in his own bed now it certainly wont do your relationship with any man any good . Your son needs his own independence too starting with his own room and bed
Lol…My kids were 12 and I had to finally kick them out. Mom’s are usually safe & a comfort. I personally find NOTHING wrong with you sleeping with your child. I do understand that your boyfriend is uncomfortable, but he shouldn’t make fun.
Disturbing is that the boyfriend moved in with you and your son within less than a year
I was 14 and still slept with my mom. (My dad worked 3rd shift) I’ve NEVER slept alone. I slept with my momma and I met my husband when I was 15 & I still slept with my mom. Him and I dated a year before we got pregnant and he moved in with us. So I’ve always slept with someone and have never slept alone. I can remember being 6-8-10 years old and sleeping between my parents every night. I even took naps with my dad during the day up til I was 15.
I was raised in a wonderful and loving home too. I have nothing to complain about in my childhood. I felt safe and secure.
I think it’s time for your son to sleep in his own bed, am concerned about boyfriend making fun of you and son and saying it’s disgusting
The fact that he’s unsupportive, making fun of you, saying your parenting choice is “disgusting” and “disturbing” is a big red flag.
This guy is just a boyfriend. He is moving into your family that you and your son have set up. Either he needs to accept that your son’s needs come first, or he should find other sleeping arrangements.
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with cosleeping with your child. This type of sleeping arrangement has been the norm for over 100,000 years of the human race, and in many countries currently. You are providing comfort and safety for your child until he feels ready to sleep on his own. Don’t ever let some boyfriend or randoms on this thread make you doubt what works and feels right for YOUR family.
If you ever have questions or just need validation from many others who co-sleep with older children, Biologically Normal Infant Sleep is a great group.
You let a man move In with you in less than a year what do you expect? He has no idea how you handle your son and what is acceptable in your household. I’m not understanding why you would even let him lay in bed with your son so early in the relationship he’s still a stranger to him.
All I can say is wow
I guess theres something wrong with your boyfriend! And nothing with your son he is still need you at his young age. 
I think now is the perfect time & age for your child to sleep in his own bed. Make it so it’s all about being a big boy, buy him new sheet, comforter set cuz he’s a big boy now. It will also guide him into becoming confident in himself & independant.
Please don’t let that an alone with your baby. I see this turning bad real quick. Also, i see both sides but i think you may have moved too fast with the man
It’s not disgusting and I would put a stop that behavior of him being a bully to you and your son…id be pissed, he is helping raise that little boy just make sure he doesn’t see mama be bullied and don’t let him be bullied.
Who came first.always choose ur kids over a boyfriend
I see nothing wrong with it. Eventually he won’t do it anymore about 12 . Enjoy them when they little. The years go fast.