I guess if you aren’t going to change what you do then he should find someone else to be with. I would crawl into my moms bed even as a teenager sometimes. But only sometimes. I think it’s healthy for children to learn to sleep on their own.
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Although i feel your son should be sleeping in his own bed now, i disagree with how he is choosing to voice his opinion on it and how unsupportive he is about it. If anything, he should be helping your formulate a plan to transition your son out- not bullying you or degrading you. He sounds like you should move on (while also helping your son move on to his own bed).
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he sounds like a dick 
my oldest is 6 and he sometimes still sleeps with me. It was literally within this last year that he went to his own bed. My youngest is 3, and most nights he’s in my bed too. It’s up to you, what you do with your child. Yes he’s getting older, so it might be time to start thinking about it, but that’s definitely not your boyfriends choice. Your his mama, you know what is best for YOUR child. No one else. And personally, if someone said that to me, they’d be gone. That doesn’t sound like someone who should be with someone who has children.
Let the boyfriend go…I believe his response and how he handled this situation is a red flag you shouldn’t ignore.
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My kids had always slept in their own crib. They would nap on my bed with me but at night they would sleep in the crib unless they are sick. I wouldn’t say it’s disgusting but maybe try putting him in a toddler bed next to yours
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Throw the boyfriend away. I’m married and my husband would never dare say something about our 6 year old needing to lay with me. Sometimes he just needs his mom. My husband has even moved to the couch so our son could lay with me without waking us. The fact that he is even slightly trying to sexualize this natural thing gives me the creeps.
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Its not disturbing or disgusting. My baby has won out over two men that seemed to have a problem with him sleeping in my bed but he nearly died as an infant and frankly it became a comfort thing for the both of us (i would know he was still ok and he had his momma) if the new boyfriend has this big of a problem with it, i think its a red flag. You should move your son to his own bed when you are ready not when a man tells you to.
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This is how children end up getting touched or killed. You moved an asshole in that you honestly dont even know, and you brought him around your son. I am done
I don’t think your son should be in the bed with you AND the new bf in the bed as well, it would be different if it was his dad but if it’s a new man then your son shouldn’t be in the bed anymore, he’s old enough to transition even to a toddler bed in the same room
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Run and run fast away from that man!!!
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You can have a hundred boyfriends … you only have one son
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There is something wrong with your boyfriend, you should definitely consider getting a dog instead
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It is your house tell him to leave.
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Ya, bye bye boyfriend… I would never let my “boyfriend” say that about me and/or my child. If my son wants to sleep with me… he can sleep with me. How is that disturbing that a 6 year old sleeps with his mother? That’s weird to me that he finds that disturbing, and a used the wrong word choice! Let him go girly! Screw him.
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Your boyfriend needs to be sleeping in HIS own bed. You’ve only been together 8 months
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Need to have your son in his own bed.
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If your son was a “daughter” instead, would you find it appropriate for her to sleep in the same bed as your SO?
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My daughter is 11 and i still co sleep🤷🏾♀️
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I had a 42wk stillborn son 3yrs ago I went on to have 2 girls my oldest is 2 we struggle every night to get her into bed she always ends up in mine,it’s there safe place I guess kids before blokes get rid
Totally get it .and you don’t ever need to explain yourself to anyone . But you will Eventually have to Get him in his own bed .you certainly need to enjoy Intimacy. And it’s a little hard with a child in your bed . You’ll know in your gut when it’s time . Good luck
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I think he’s old enough he should be sleeping in his own bed, but I don’t think that it is disturbing or disgusting that he sleep with you in yours.
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My daughter out of 4 other age 10 still sleeps with us whenever she wants though hes not her bio dad but hes been her dad for 8 years of her life … so I dont or we dont thinks it’s disgusting or disturbing we both love her let her know shes a big part of our lives as as her sibling… so I’d tell you bf to take his belongings and kick his whimpering butt out … let him know hes disgusting himself for even thinking that
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M’y brothers n I would sleep with my mom till we were about 10 and even at that there’s nothing wrong with it it’s your child !
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8 months in and he’s moved in AND telling you what to do with your child??? THAT’S a problem…maybe your son is old enough to sleep in his own bed but your bf is probably old enough to sleep in his OWN apartment too…first it’s “disturbing” he co sleeps…what’s next??? No way
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I’ve never allowed my kids to sleep in my bed. They all slept in their own rooms /beds from 6 weeks on
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My son is 10 years old and he still sometimes sleeps in my room
You do not have to justify why your son sleeps with you, you are his Mama and will do whatever is right for you and your boy. Whatever that decision may be. That being said I question what happened to your boyfriend to make him say things like that?
He also sounds like he could be jealous of your son and bullying you to make you second guess yourself. Is this being said in front of your son as well? Keep an eye on this, and how he’s treating your little boy.
You can get your son his own bed and try to transition, get a bed big enough for the both of you though and let the man child sleep alone, I say this because he can approach this situation with more respect. I don’t know your entire situation but I know that men can and will, come and go. Your son is for the rest of your life, choose him always.
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I have to add I never ever brought men home when my kids where young . And I’m so very glad I made that decision .
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My 6 yo crawls into mine and his dads bed some nights for comfort but that’s his dad. I would certainly not have a man who I only have been dating 8 months share my bed with me and my son. For my sons sake. If you both still co sleep then I think that you are entitled to that as he is your child but I would think that you shouldn’t have your boyfriend move in and share the bed with you. I personally would have held off on having my boyfriend move in until I knew my child were ready to have his own bed/room. That’s a choice you should have made before having your boyfriend move in with you. And certainly should have been discussed beforehand as well.
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For myself I only co sleep if my kids are very sick or have nightmares… I try to give them the self confidence to sleep on their own bc my hubby and I dont have a big enough bed really… but I co slept with my grandparents until I was 8 and they forced me to break the habit… at some point he is going to just be to old and to big… but that’s up to you to decide I personally wouldn’t want a kid that age sleeping in my bed every night . . But by no means make such a change just bc some guy decides you are wrong … I helped break my step son of co sleeping one step at a time… and only bc his father agreed it was best
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I have 2 girls aged 9 and 5, they both sleep in our bed still.
If their father and i werent together, id find it weird for a very new partner to be sleeping in the bed with the kids and i. 
but in saying that. Ive never been in that position before so its unfamiliar to me.
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Even my son thinks that’s weird… He just turned 8.never slept in my bed. He even refused during a tornado. He slept on the floor…
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I have the similar situation with my daughter her and I both almost lost our lives we both had to be resuscitated and she has slept in my bed ever since she was little and now she just turned nine and she still sleeps with me she has her own bedroom and her own bed but she has the choice of where she would like to sleep I am currently single but any man that doesn’t understand that my daughter sleeps in my room is somebody I don’t want in my life and the only time that would change and I’d make her asleep I in her own room is if somebody was sleeping in my bed but that would be a discussion I would have with her before I allowed a man to move into my house Id make sure my daughter and I were on the same page and she loved him enough to give that part of her childhood up before we made the change
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Sounds like you bf needs to grow up and stop making you feel bad about co sleeping with your child
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Honey, I slept with my mom until I was like 10. My dad was a truck driver and gone all week so I was able to plus I was the baby as well and got the advantage. I’m very close to my mom and it’s not disgusting at all. I’m grown with my own child on the way but I still and will always call her Mommy.
Fuck your boyfriend and how he makes you feel about it.
Let your boyfriend go!!! It’s OK to co sleeping with your children. For 10 years, my son Co sleep with us… And then he decide to move to his own bed. That’s 10 years, one of the best in my life, we talk about everything, readib books, watching movies, snuggle, cuddle, laughing, crying… And more. Don’t let people dictate you!!! Live your life the way you want…
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Maybe he doesn’t want to sleep in a bed with a child that isnt his. I mean, I kicked my 2 year old out of my bed because my husband and I need a space that is ours. Kids own the house. We own our bed.
It’s not a bad thing to want to sleep alone with your partner
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You and your significant other needs yall own space to for yalls selves. To have alone time.
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Co sleeping is not a good thing.
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Mine still sleeps with me and hes almost 7. He can and does sometimes sleeps in his bed or when he’s gone, he likes it, I just deal. They are only with you for a short amount of time.
I think your boyfriend is jealous! I slept with my Daddy til I was 10. I had bad athsma and always thought I would die alone not being able to breathe. I had nightmares and to this day I sleep with a light on. I’m going to be 63 yrs old. Tell that boyfriend of yours to sleep some place else!
My kids always sleep in their own beds because that’s what works for our family and household. You do what you think is best for you and your son. Dude has no right telling you what to do with your child. He sounds jealous. Get rid of him.
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He needs to sleep in his own bed
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Your boyfriend is jealous, get rid of him.
He is 6. He is in school. Under normal circumstances I would say he should be in his own bed more often than not. What you went through was scarybut it was also 6 years ago…
What is disturbing though is that he really should not be sharing a bed with mom and her boyfriend of less than a year. You said he’s been there for months, your son probably should have been in his own room through all of that. You can date someone for YEARS and never really know them. You need to be careful…
But an alternative when you’re ready: maybe your son could have a bed in the same room to help ease both of your anxieties about it? If that isn’t an option maybe move him after he passes out once or twice a week just so he can get used to it for when he is older, and baby monitors can help ease your anxieties on that too.
As for the boyfriend it has not even been a year. Your son has had you his entire life and this man hasn’t been there for any of it. He has no right to tell you how to raise your child. He doesn’t sound like he respects you in the least, or your son for that matter
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I plan on letting my daughter’s both sleep in bed with me until they’re 10-12 unless they decide otherwise
What’s disturbing is his attitude. If he talks to you and treats you like that, you need to kick him to the curb.
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He honestly has no right to decide where your son sleeps. As you mentioned above he moved into your home. If you both agree you need the bed to yourself maybe have a small bed set next to yours for your son to sleep in until YOU are comfortable with him sleeping in his own room.
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I pick my children over a guy. I think you have to do what is best for you and your son. There are plenty of guys in the world. Probably was too soon to have him move in.
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Definitely disturbing that you moved your boyfriend in so quickly. Break up with him and continue doing what’s best for you and your child.
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Even though my son is only 8 months old he’s been kicked out of my bed for the most part
My son will be 12 and he still sleeps with me. I have a chronic autoimmune disease and he won’t barely leave my side… I see nothing wrong with it your mom…do whatever you want…I think that your son is going to resent your boyfriend
Well I think u know what to do u just know it won’t be easy . Why have a bf if u want ur son in the bed too … time to get ur son his own bed mama , new chapter for you both 
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I never let my kids sleep with me. That However is a personal choice. Many parents do or don’t for an assortment of reasons that fit their families individual circumstances. I feel 6 is definitely old enough to really consider future ramifications of not transitioning soon because they start noticing body differences etc… in addition I feel like my room and bed are my only sacred safe haven for privacy and you definitely need it as children mature. They also need to learn to set healthy boundaries with others and do so by your example and what they find normal. That being said… I think you should establish boundaries with your boyfriend as far as how influential his OPINION is in regards to how you chose to raise your child. He has no right to step into a family unit with pre-established routines that have been implemented since birth and act as though his needs are a priority. Particularly in the form of mocking or making negative comments. YOU AND ONLY YOU decide when and how that transition will occur and WHY. Do yourself a favor and let him know his thoughts are appreciated, considered and are to be communicated privately in order to not make your son feel he’s interfering or weird or being torn from mom because of a BOYFRIEND. If your boyfriend doesn’t like it… let him go before he gets the impression he has control he shouldn’t.
Your son is comfortable with his mother! That is not disturbing that is natural. I’d draw the line with boyfriend. Either he respects your choices as a mother or he can hit the door. 
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I would say maybe there is underlying issues…other than he probably feels uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed as the two of you. 8 months and he moved in could be another issue as well.
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My kids slept with me till the were 11 or 12 and I’d still let them do it today but, they don’t want to. LOL.
My daughter’s 4 almost 5 and she sleeps with me or her dad Because she has since birth some nights she sleeps on her own but mostly sleeps with us my other two younger girls sleep on their own though
DUMP THAT immature asshole of a boyfriend on the damn curb. Don’t let anyone verbally abuse you and try to damage the relationship you have with your child. My 7 year old sleeps in my bed with my husband and I. (His father.) Why is a “presumably” grown man so triggered by a child needing his mother? An adult made fun of you and your kid. SAY GOODBYE TO THE BOYfriend. A REAL MAN wouldn’t disrupt a mother and child bond for his selfish wants.
I could see him feeling uncomfortable sleeping with lil man but someone sounds jealous of your son. I wouldn’t have it, he would be gone if he was making fun of my son. That’s extremely inappropriate and that makes him a bully. Next your BF will be hitting your son.
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I don’t think it’s disturbing or disgusting but I do think he’s too old and should be sleeping in his own bed
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My kids never slept in my bed, but would lay a blanket on the floor with a pillow and sleep in my room…
Children belong in their own bed, my opinion. Your bed is for you and your partner. If you want to keep your child in your bed then you’ll have to find someone who is ok with that
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He should be in his own bed, At that age he is too old to sleep with mom.
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Sound like you need to dump about 190 pounds 
there is nothing wrong with YOUR son sleeping in your bed. Your so called boyfriend sounds jealous and insecure.
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I don’t think the issue is with your child sleeping in your bed. I have much more of an issue with your bf making fun of your son and calling it disgusting. I feel like these are communication red flags that could be issues later in your relationship. You will know when it’s time for your child to sleep alone and any man worthy of being in your and your sons life will work with you, not against you, on these issues.
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Ur boyfriend may have sm issues of his own sounds like
Nothing wrong but are you waiting until he is ready or until you are?
Kick his ass out. Yes you should probably work at transitioning him to his own bed but it doesnt have to be a reason for you or your child to get belittled. The BF is easily replaceable. Your son is not.
Some nights my 8 year old still crawls into bed with me
My youngest still does on occasion & she’s 12 
Boyfriend is an asshole & she needs to get rid of him.
First off your boyfriend is a douche! Second of all yes it’s time to upgrade your kiddo to his own bed. He needs to learn it’s okay to sleep on his own but I would never let a man tell me that it’s gross cause it’s not. You love your baby and that’s natural but I’m sure he is upset by the very obvious reason that you guys can’t get any alone sexy time and by six he should be in his own bed. But the way he handled it was wayyyy wrong and kinda manipulative
Not disturbing, at all. Intrusive for a new relationship…yes.
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Why get a man if you’re sharing the bed with your son? Wont that interfere with you and your boyfriends “quality time”??
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Let that baby sleep with you as long as he needs to
I don’t know about your son sleeping with you but if your bringing a man into your bed your son shouldn’t be in it. As for the guy let him keep walking. Start working on getting your son in his own bed before you you share it with someone else
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I don’t see it as ‘gross’ or anything, but for real, time for his own bed. As a baby I slept in my parents room but not in their bed. By the time I was a toddler I was in my own room in a crib. By 5 I had a regular bed, in my own room.
Sounds like you’re trying to justify it. There’s ways to be close to your kid without having them up your ass 24/7. It goes along with what a lot of single mothers say ‘my kid will always come first’. I get that, but at the same time it sends a clear message to a potential mate ‘you’ll never be as close to me, you’ll always be 2nd rate so don’t even try’. I imagine it’s hard to be close, have alone time or have sex with a kid in the bed. Sex is part of a relationship and night is one of the few times couples (especially those with kids) get alone after all the housework, the jobs, the family life stuff. Is when the kid goes to bed, in their own room.
If you’re not interested in making room for another person in your life then maybe come to terms with it. You seem content being alone and just having it be you and your kid. Your bf sounds like he’s been pretty patient but if things aren’t going to change maybe he needs someone better. Someone who feels a new relationship is also a priority and willing to make the effort. It seems your bf cares, he’s still around. I wouldn’t be. Too many other women willing to make the effort you’re not, being a couple means a transition where both partners make adjustments for one another and form a new routine/bond. You’re expecting him to make all the changes, it’s not a one way street. If you’re unwilling, if it’s that important to you then maybe a relationship isn’t for you. Or maybe he’s the wrong one for you and vice versa.
My children are 15 and 13 they still take turns sleeping with me. We birthed them so they can sleep in the same bed as us for as long as we choose.
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My son is 6(just turned 6 today) and would sleeo in bed with me at every opportunity. He doesn’t sleep well so he falls asleep on me down stairs on the sofa. Then we put him in his bed. Then about 2 hours later he will get in bed with me and his dad xxx
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It’s not “disgusting” at all. But I do feel that if you’re going to start a relationship and that person is going to be sleeping with you in bed then your kids need to not be in the bed too.
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I often end up with a 6,4 and 2 yr old in my bed if he thinks it’s disturbing then what does that say about him
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Ew hes disgusting… Idk how good the D is but no D is worth that.
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No my son is six and sleeps with me
Your in a hard predicament. You are not wrong yet your in a new relationship and having your child between you is not ok and it is obviously not ok with the new boyfriend. If it was his father it be one thing but I think you need to decide what it is you want or you’ll continue to have issues with the boyfriend who by the way sounds like a mean dirtbag he totally approached this all wrong.
Its not disgusting but i dont agree that a child should be sleeping with u if u going to have a live in boyfriend
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Tell him to go freak off he’s your kid no one comes before your kid no one
Sounds to me like the S/O was jealous and you don’t need that I your relationship. If you were honest and he knew this in the beginning it’s on him. However, in my opinion until you and your son are ready to stop co-sleeping I would not suggest allowing another man into your home. Just because most people will not understand and can cause issues. Most kids his age are in their own beds, but it doesn’t matter what most others are doing. You do what’s best for the two of you. I co-slept with my children until they hit about two. But after moving them to their own beds I still lay down with them at night, and stay with them until they are asleep. I then will get up and finish my house work then go to my own bed. My children are now 8 and 6.
And pack him up he can go
It’s more disturbing that you’ve only been with this man eight months and he moved in a few months ago
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What a jerk to say that to you
Boyfriend is an ass. Kick him to the curb
I think you need a new boyfriend. Kick this one to the curb.
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My son, who is grown now, almost died when he was born and he still had his own bed when we came home from the hospital from day 1…each parent must decide what is best for their child and situation but since you are asking folks for their opinions then my opinion is YES he is too old to still be sleeping with you.
When you’re ready. Don’t let relationships pressure you.
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Get rid of the guy ! My boy 5 sleeps with me and I don’t give a rats what anyone says ! Your boyfriend is the disturbed one . Send him packing !
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I dont think its disturbing or disgusting. However my kids was in their own room by 2 and a half to 3.
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My first kid slept with me until he was 5. My second one didn’t at all. My third slept with my husband and I until she was about 3 or 4. Who cares what people think. Of course you should eventually get him to sleep in his own bed. Maybe put a bed in your bedroom to start off with. I do believe that he should not be sleeping with you and your boyfriend at any age unless the BF is also the babys daddy.
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Let him go. He’s pathetic. Throw his crap out the door.
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I think that while you work on getting your son to sleep in his own bed. Your boyfriend can move the heck out. Dont let him bully your son and dont let your son see you let him bully you.
You co-sleeping is not the problem in this scenario
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Let him have a child and see what he thinks.
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