My son is two and has slept in our bed twice. I don’t think it’s “disturbing.” It’s disturbing a grown ass man would make fun of a six year old. Just be cautious.
If be like, bye boy. My son over anyone.
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Every mama has their own opinion but my first thought was when and if you guys are ever able to be intimate 
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My daughter is 6. She still sleeps with me most nights. We both honestly sleep better that way. My boyfriend (not my daughters bio father, has been around since she was a baby) doesn’t mind at all. He happily sleeps downstairs. If your boyfriend thinks it’s weird, and ESPECIALLY is making fun of your child… he doesn’t have a parent mentality and that’s something you should really think about. I’d tell him to kick rocks.
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Dump the boyfriend. He thinks your situation is disgusting. I wonder what other demands he will start making and what other judgments he will proclaim.
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If you don’t put your kid in his own bed now he will turn 40 and still be sleeping in your bed
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Dump boyfriend!! And work on getting son his own room. I’m from generation children had own bedroom. If my child got scared I’d go sleep with them until they feel asleep. Please don’t others attack me because I don’t believe in children sleeping with parents. But again this boyfriend has to go.
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LET HIM GO. If he’s making fun of you and your son then he surely would not make a good father for him. Your son will get in his bed when he’s ready. My children slept with me wouldn’t have it any other way. My grandchildren sleep with their mom .
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Get rid of the boyfriend
Its not at all disgusting or disturbing. He will eventually need to learn how to sleep alone though, and I can see how he would want that time to just be between the twp of you, but no its not disturbing
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SEE-YA !! kick 'im to the curb!!
GOOD RIDDANCE!!
Male lions kill the cubs of other lions to make the females breed
I think you have to get rid of your boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with you sleeping with your son.
I lost one son when he was two and half months old to sids so I gave birth to two more boys after that and slept with us until I felt comfortable putting them in there own bed.
My sons adhd i still at 7 co sleep
Sounds like your boyfriend is an asshole.
And now my grandchildren sleeps with me when I am staying night or two at my son,s place. I have one grandson who is turning 10 in January want to sleep with grandma because his had their turn. So there is nothing wrong with you sleeping with your son.
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I wish someone would tell my 9 year old she’s done cosleeping- she’s a ninja 
First, I think you need to have a proper adult conversation with your man. He’s misplacing his own feelings, it’s not “disgusting” that you co sleep with your 6yr old however I can understand him feeling uncomfortable with it as it’s not his child. He doesn’t share that same relationship with your son, their bond is still new and being built.
Second, you probably should have worked on sleep training into his own bed before moving a boyfriend in, especially after only 8 months… I don’t think it’s fair of him to belittle how you and your son live, however if this is supposed to be his bed as well you can’t expect him to be okay with sharing it with your child (especially if you didn’t discuss prior) having your own space is pretty important.
Get your son a big boy bed, get him used to it, I still crawl into my girls bed and pass out with her some nights. It doesn’t need to be entirely one or the other, you can co sleep in your kids bed if you want and transition slowly. If this relationship is important to you, you need to be considerate of his needs to, it’s already difficult for some people to take part in such a big role like a child’s life.
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My 4 year old son sleeps in my bed with me most nights. Nothing disgusting or weird about it. Tell bf to fck off
Your boy your rules keep him close as they grow to fast 
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I think its disgusting that this guy thinks he can tell you how he wants your relationship with your son to be.
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It’s your kid and no not disturbing at all…my dad worked night shifts and I would sleep with my mom and we would do TV night way older…
Your son is a more important relationship than a boyfriend. Mother and child first.
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Mama it’s time to cut the cord. He needs and deserves his own space.
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My kids had their own bedrooms. How do you “spend time” with your boyfriend with your son in the bed? Six is old enough to be in his own bed. 6 months would be different!
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Your bf sounds like a narcissist. Run from him quickly
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This is so disturbing on so many levels! Your boyfriend is absolutely correct! This is not normal behavior! Poor Guy! Feel bad for the boyfriend! Get it together!
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I don’t think it’s disgusting at all! I do think the little one needs to learn to sleep on his own… I had a friend when I was younger that always slept with her mom. When we got older and wanted to have sleepovers, she was like 10-13 years old crying she had to have her mom pick her up… one time we had a tent sleepover in my backyard with a bunch of girls. She actually walked home in the middle of the night and my parents were totally freaking out in the morning once we all woke up and she wasn’t there… I think the longer you have your son sleeping with you, the harder independence will be for him.
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ya that little man(6)year old needs to be in his own bed I let children sleep in bed till I was seriously seeing someone and when that person 
moved in just my opinion tho
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It’s not that weird he is just uncomfortable sharing a bed with him
I think by 6 a child should be sleeping in his own bed, but that’s just my opinion, I also think you should dump the guy, he sounds narcissistic
My son is 9 and sleeps in my bed, meh
Both of my children one girl and one boy co slept with me until they were around 10. They would get up in the middle of the night and sneak in my bed. I loved having them close to.mommy.
A full grown man wakes up in circumstances that should be inappropriate to have your kids see. Does your boy sleep between!? It’s not disgusting, but inappropriate when you have a man with you.
I wouldn’t care what my boyfriend thought. He is your child.
If you want to co sleep you can, not my cup of tea but to each their own.
However I would NEVER have a boyfriend sleep with you two. I don’t care if it’s two weeks or two years your together.
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It may be annoying, but it’s by no means disturbing.
If your boyfriend is sexualizing you sleeping with you son, you need a new boyfriend.
If your boyfriend left because your son sleeps with you is disturbing. He’s a kid. My kids (now 7&9) slept with me and my husband until they were around that age. My 2 year old sleeps with us now. I think it’s time to start working on him going to his own bed but not because your boyfriend says it. Please make sure you are doing things for your childs own good and not because you’re being told to do so. If he makes fun of him you need to let him go. Next will be him abusing your child. Your priority is your child. Not some want to be entitled douch. Just saying.
Mine did off and on til around 8. We would all cuddle and watch movies. They grow up too fast they won’t want to cuddle forever. Nothing wrong with it
It’s not weird if you guys aren’t ready to sleep in different beds that’s fine maybe if your bf isn’t ok with it and teases ur son he’s not the one for you kids always come first
As long as they feel comfortable is how long they need to sleep with you! Anyone who says different is both selfish and an inconsiderate parent. Safety is first and foremost, the rest is crap. Got rid of this loser now before he causes harm to your child
Belittling yours and your sons relationship and using language like “disgusting” to describe a perfectly natural mother child bond - serious red flag 
. Your son comes first, get rid of the narcissistic boyfriend before he does any damage to you and your son.
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Not wrong no but I’m sure it’s very annoying to him the relationship is still need so im sure he wants some… while in bed as well. 
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Whether it’s right ir wrong letting your 6 year old sleep with you doesn’t bother me as much as you allowing your boyfriend to bully you and your son… Now thats disturbing.
He is not an understanding companion. He needs to go elsewhere… Have you given it a second thought what he can do to your son in your absence… No man is worth more than our children…
If he was a good partner he would nicely attempt to ween your son from your side in a kind lovable atmosphere.
He’s invading your sons space…
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My son co slept with me until he was 12. Controversial for some and even his Dad made fun of us but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I co slept with my mom out of necessity until about the same age as my son. My son is now 15, an honor student, athlete and has a great social life. I stayed single because I did date one man after his Dad who also made fun of the co-sleeping. That was when my son was barely 4 and I dumped that guy asap. I’d rather stay single instead of staying in a relationship that makes fun of my son and/or I.
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to hzrd to bresk bim if this do it soon after christmas this has really got to change
There is no age limit for a child to sleep with their parent. When the parent is done sharing their bed or when the child wants their own space is fine. .
Sounds like your bf actually feels awkward and doesn’t know to tell you he’s uncomfortable so that’s why he’s making fun so maybe your son stops sleeping on the same bed or for you to get him used to his own bed. By my own experience it’s definitely awkward. He can have his own bed in the same room and once he’s ready he can have his own room. But for sure there’s nothing wrong with co sleeping. When my husband would leave out of town all my kids would sleep on the bed with me. It’s their comfort. 
Sounds like you need to get rid of the immature boyfriend!
My son is 6 and sleeps with my fiancé and i !
My son has been doing this since he was 3 and i dont mind at all i love having him.
Its definitely a comfort thing. He’ll grow out of it im sure
In the meantime ditch the bf and find someone who is more understanding and compassionate towards your child and yourself !!!
Honestly it’s past time for your son to be sleeping in his own bed. Granted that’s my opinion and I didn’t cosleep with any if my boys unless I fell asleep nursing.
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I would dump the boyfriend. It is healthy for a child to sleep in their parents bed till they no longer want too. It’s where they feel safe. We like laying with someone in the bed with us and kids are the same they like to be close and feel safe.
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Ours did but after 2 or 3 years old it’s really not good for either of you… It’s a marriage killer. You need adult time with your husband. Sex. You need intimate time and sex!!! This is a sex inhibitor. I’ve been there done it, from experience I can tell you it’s cute, and cuddly and all this wonderful things but at some point it’s not healthy for any of you.
Yes at that age he should be sleeping in his own bed.
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Lose the boyfriend…snuggle your son.
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Just my opinion… your son should be sleeping in his own bed by now. It is NOT disturbing or disgusting by any means, probably just time for him to have his own bed and maybe you and your boyfriend could have more “alone” time- which is needed in a relationship. Doesnt mean you love your son any less but its a step in independence for him
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Ha ha ha, fuck him. Lovers come and go but your kids are forever. I had a bf like that. That relationship lasted for a very very short time. Also maybe start working towards him sleeping in his own bed, def not because someone belittled you to do it
It’s a new relationship. He is feeling some type a way. Maybe he needs your adult attention at night and cant cause your kid is there. If it was the kids father. That’s understandable. But it’s not. Still. Keep the kid. Lose the boyfriend.
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My 5 and 1 year old sleep with their daddy and I it’s crammed but warm I don’t see anything wrong with it sometimes the oldest will crash on the couch and sometimes we move the little one to the crib and the older to the couch if we need some space I think calling you and your son’s relationship disturbing and disgusting is a red flag to dump the man especially if you guys have only been together 8 months how well does he even understand you and your child
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No it’s not wrong because he’s your child, if your boyfriend doesn’t like it well then tough shit for him! It’s just inconvenient for him to get sex is all cause men are just selfish
That said, your boyfriend is not the biological father. Maybe that creeps him out a bit. Then, there is sex. Pretty sure I wouldn’t want to have sex with a 6 year old in the bed.
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Also would like to add, my 2 yr old sleeps with me and my fiancee almost every night. We put him in hus bed but him and his 9 yr old brother make their way to our bed along with my 2 large dogs and he was the boyfriend… Now the fiancee, the fact that he is understanding and right there cuddling them along with me is one reason i love him, because none of my kids are biologically his…
I would end it right now.
I get it if u wanna sleep in bed with your boy but I also get why he dont like it … 3 in a bed is a bit too much … when my little girl needs a hug at night we sleep on her bed or the sofa … I cant be squashed when sleeping I dont like it and I get too hot … maybe the problem isnt the kid sleeping in ur bed but the kid sleeping in your bed when ur boyfriend is over … u cant do anything in bed with your son there
He’s old enough to start sleeping on his own BUT the disturbing part of this situation is that your man would perceive this as disgusting. Making fun of you and calling this disgusting and disturbing is a serious red flag. I say move them both to their own beds because your son is ready and your man is an asshat.
He’s not even your husband so he has no say about it
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Why do I feel like your bf has suffered some kind of trauma and he doesn’t think u should cosleep with your baby.
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Well unless there’s a medical reason that he has to be watched constantly I would say 6 years old needs to be in his own bed I would think he would want to be in his own realm I didn’t ever have any of my children sleep with me that long I didn’t care to have them do that and they didn’t care to do it either and unless they were sick and just didn’t happen but it’s your decision just way if you want to keep that boyfriend cuz if you don’t care you’re going to lose him cuz that 6 year olds going to be in that bed and you know what that means is not going to take place if there’s a six-year-old in the bed
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That guy is a ass dont let him come in and turn you nor your sons world upside down he’s the outsider coming in he needs to adjust and shut the fuck up
He’s only six! I feel like your bf is jealous of your relationship with your son. That being said, he does need his own bed to sleep in and he does have to get used to it (and believe me I understand, I almost died quite a few times during and because of my birthing process. Son and I are lucky to be alive)
My 8 year old still sneaks in every night about 2 and on a Friday and Saturday he sleeps with us lol xx
Looks like you need a new boyfriend
Totally irrelevant but 8 months of dating and moved in, calls for disaster I sleep with my daughter I’m a single mom and will forever sleep with her until she doesn’t want to anymore even if I don’t date which I could care less for.
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I co slept with my oldest till he was 5 and I got into a relationship. Me personally I wouldnt have a man other then his father sleeping with us. If you bf is in your bed your son needs to be in his own …in my opinion. I dont think it disgusting or disturbing I just think it’s a little out of place
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Since you have a boyfriend in the bed too, not appropriate. Time for his own bed.
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Sounds to me like he’s a little jealous and probably just thinks that since your boy is sleeping in your bed, he’s getting in the way of possible sex or something.
Just my opinion. Dump his ass. It’s not disgusting. He’s your son. He’s disgusting for even talking that way.
My thoughts r yu need to get yu a new man! Theres nothing wrong with that baby sleeping with you & if he doesnt like it hes the problem! My sons a year and a half & has slept with me since he was born. Dont ever let someone make fun of your baby bc thats gonna stick with him forever. Im a single mother & if someone even had the nerve theyd be out the door.
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My kids are 12 , 11 , and 6 and they still jump at the chance to sleep in my bed. Its not a dirty thing, they just want to be close to mom.
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How the fuck is that disturbing lol yea if you were co-sleeping with a teenager THAT would be disturbing, but not a 6 year old wtf sorry your boyfriend is off the rocker.
First off who the hell is he to make fun of you or your son. And no it’s not disgusting. Clearly you are better off without this guy. As for you son sleeping with you at 6. Go with your gut. My 4 year old sleeps with me a lot but I like my space as well as enjoy the cuddle with my lil munchkin.i try to put him in his bed and let him come into mine if he wakes. But basically you need to do what works for you and your son.
The root issue here is you and your boyfriend need to get on the same page about this very important issue. A decision you both make together.
If you don’t want to do this, then dump him.
Parenting styles need to be similar in order for a relationship to work. My last relationship they came here with nothing. His daughter was 6 and almost as big as me. I’m serious! So we had three of us in a full size bed. He weighed 270 pounds. It was horrible sleeping. He also was like the last post I just read on here- running around inappropriately or sleeping that way, too. Not okay with a little girl in a preteen body.
Eight months or whatever is way too soon to be bed sharing with your boyfriend. Even introducing your child, imo and what I took away from my last relationship.
I had to stop reading at the point where the boyfriend (a grown ass man) is making fun of a 6yo! If you are ok with being in a relationship with someone who is bullying you and your son, then I think it’s time to reevaluate your relationship standards!
Your son will always be your son, you just met this guy
I think your son needs to be in his own bed, yes, but this guy saying you’re disgusting? Cuz he’s not getting his way? Pack that mentally abusing ass up and get him out.
Maybe out of place, but moving a bf in after only 8 months when you have a little one is wayyyy too fast and aside from that, it sounds like he needs to go.
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What’s disturbing is his way of thinking! He needs to be the one to leave. It’s his way of thinking that’s bothersome. But… If you want to have a healthy relationship with your bf (other than him) you do need to start letting your son sleep in his own bedroom. Your significant other needs that space for the two of you. For intimate nights or just a way to wind down at the end of the day with you.
Im not taken the boyfriends side. He sounds like a bully, who likes to bully on kids. But none the less. Your son should have his on bed and room. His on space. His tv, his xbox & games.
Your making a mom’s boy out of him.
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My son is 9 1/2 and still sneaks into my room at night! I say try to get him to fall asleep in his own bed but if he comes into your bed in the middle of the night then let them. The lady time I crawled into bed with my mom after having a nightmare, I was 19!
Its beginning to sound alot like DUMP HIM
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My sons almost 4. I absolutely hate him sleeping with his father and I. No matter how many times we move him out the bed he comes back. One day it’ll stop tho 
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I have 2 kids my son is 11 and my daughter is 5 my son will come and sneak in my room and sleep beside me don’t really care cus once they get older they won’t want to cuddle any more.
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Everyone parents differently and it’s really not anyone’s place to tell you if cosleeping is right or wrong. My mom got married when I was 8 years old, and if it wasn’t for that I probably would have slept in bed with her until I moved out of her house. If cosleeping makes you and your child feel secure than other people’s opinions don’t matter. As far as the boyfriend goes, if he truly cared about you and your son he would not try to come between your relationship even if it is just cosleeping.
My stepdaughter is 19 and when my husband is gone for a night she will sleep in his spot cause our bed is bigger and more comfortable. It’s weird though cause my kids would never cause they’re too cool .
STOP it right now! There are negative side effects long term. I suggest you seek professional help for your ?'s. Good Luck
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It’s not that he doesn’t understand a mother’s love and is jealous of your son
My sons never slept with me unless they were sick.
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Sounds like the boyfriend did not get to co sleep and is jealous
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Ummm… so I have a 7 year old boy who loves to snuggle. I do make him sleep in his bed on school nights bc he needs to be in his own bed at a certain time. However there are plenty of nights he crawls in bed with me. I have no problem with it. I have a 12 year old son and he loves to get that snuggle time with me too. Doesnt happen often and it makes me said he is growing up on me. Now heres where I draw the line with boyfriends. I did not allow my children lay in bed with me with my boyfriend. Highly inappropriate for me. And my ex used to say the same thing to me and his ex wife about this. To me they dont have the compassion that a mom has. He is wrong for putting you down for loving your baby. And if he wants to stay gone… well your son is more important than any man. And if your bf really lived you. He would honor your time with your boy. Screw him.
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ok and? thats your son
What is disturbing for me it’s letting someone move in after 8 mths… But none of my business
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Makes fun of you? Disgusts him?
DROP HIM.
Or school him real if you feel it’s worth it.
It’s what you do, when you’re a parent or dating a parent.
This cat better step up or GTFO.
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First I will say… if this was the kids dad. It would be ok for him to sleep in the same bed. Not appropriate with the boyfriend that is isn’t his dad and that’s by law. He really shouldnt be in the same room either but alot of ppl do it. Maybe try to get him in his own bed in your room. It’s better than him being in the same bed as u. I’m ok with co sleeping. But I find it hard when it comes down to intimacy time. That to me if your private time together as adults. Maybe that’s why the boyfriend is frustrated with your boy being in your bed still. But that doesn’t give him a right to think the way he does. I think hes wrong. Other than that your son sleeping with u shouldnt be an issue. They are only little for alittle while. My kids are 6 and almost 2. I’m married. I co sleep once in awhile. But not every night. But that’s me. Every parent is different. I like my private time with my husband sometimes.
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