Have that baby then beat his ass!! 
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Why are you allowing him to go to a strip club ??? A man that goes to strip clubs desires a variety of women and apparently your not one of them move on heās a looser.
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- why would she call at Midnight. 2) why wouldnāt you say anything when you answered the phone? You know what it is. No advice needed.
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only you know what to do. if youāre asking the questions, then you already know. just like only you know if heās cheating or not, we can usually tell the difference between our own paranoia & a gut feelingā¦ also, donāt listen to the shit advice of ācall her to find outāā¦ BITCHES ARE PETTY. if a bitch knows she mightāve caused an issue & is all friendly & shit, sheāll tell you whatever she wants to tell you in her mind games whether itās the truth or not.
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Baby girl that was a stripper calling your man cus he had planned to come over and sleep with her. Hes cheating on you. It aināt no strip club. Move on and leave his ass
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I trust no men. And no women. At my age. And with experience. I seen my son gf after she had the baby she just dump my son and went back to her ex bf. And I have proof she asked how will he feel to be a Daddy to her baby.
This world is all messed up.
Even the minister and pastor from all the churches are sleeping with 2 or 5 women while theyāre marry. Thereās no one out there faithful or honest. Iām never gonna get marry. I rather stay single than be with an asshoe.
His a cheater let him go
Leave or stay with your cheater no need to ask us
Never have a kid with a man that has no ring on it
Kadrah pais canāt handle real talks on the internet
The fact that you are even asking these questions after knowing what you know, makes me question you ?!?!? 
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Face it he is lying and cheating. Its yours to live with
I was married to a cop. He was a cop for 25 yrs and retired about a year ago. I canāt speak for your situation but I can absolutely tell you that the cops where he worked weāre all sleeping with each other, each otherās wifes/husbands, and anyone else they could get their hands on. They had all, including my ex, been married to atleast one or two other cops on the force. They were the biggest bunch of high school, grab assing, cheaters Iāve ever become aware of. Iām not saying all cops are bad but all of them at that department was a bunch of cheaters. Thus being why I divorced him last year. Good luck. I hope u resolve whatās going on. Trust your instincts. Had I taken that advice I wouldnāt have lost my house that was paid for long before I even met him!
All lies. End it now and let him have the stripper.
Of course , he is your partner , you two are gonna have a baby together and he will be soon going to be a father , that is disrespectful . Some women have no morals and standard , no self respect and some men pretend not taken even if they are . They canāt afford to pamper their wife/partner by buying them flowers not even chocolate but can afford to buy a woman from a strip club some drinks or even sleep with not for free of course but with pay . I just wonder what a man will feel if itās the other way around
I have always enjoyed Journeys Of A Woman but these questions lately almost seem made up for reactions, then everyone gets angry and calls the person who disagrees as a female basher. My only thought with this post is āDONāT HAVE MULTIPLE CHILDREN WITH LOSERSā especially if you donāt trust them to begin with. I see so many wonderful Women staying with pieces of sheot, buy some batteries for real. Stupid.
The douche is cheating and probably swapping stds you need to leave immediately that is unless you want you and your already at risk fetus to catch an std givin by some prostitutes
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I highly recommend you get your ladies come with you and go to that strip club find out truth come out 
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Oh you know just run away, dont try and work on anything.
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Iāll would find out for sure but that sounds shadyā¦
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Hes cheatingā¦ What a doucheā¦
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Cheating, obviously.
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ākept her contact details when she calledā uh pretty sure that unprofessional for him to store her contact details in her personal cell phone.
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Nope I would call Janet back or go to the strip club to get the full story then she can confirm his cheating and you can move on with your life
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I would be asking her.
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Leaveā¦ I will post this a million times and Hopeās it will help one woman. I have been with my husband for 22 years, married 19 years. Kick him to the curb! I just found out mine is going to massage parlors and friending women on Facebook and I kicked him out yesterday! You have to be strong and I would have never thought he would do me so dirty, but he did! They are all fucking trash bottom line!!
Why the fuck not talk like adults if you dont trust him leave.
Whatās a relationship with no trust I dont understand some womans mentality?
Why would he save it under her name as well as the strip club? Sounds fishy. Usually officers who do call someone off their private number also call restricted so she shouldnāt have had his number. And they only are supposed to contact when they are on duty. It all sounds fishy. Iām sorry girl.
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Shadyā¦ probably cheating
Why wouldnāt you just ask Janet?
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Tell your sisters and get your brother in-laws side/opinion. I think he sounds shady af. Always go with your gut. But you also need to keep yourself as stress free as possible for the babyās. Make sure your dr checks you for stiās , being pregnant you cannot risk catching something.
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Threatened abortion? Huh? Anyways heās probably cheating but because he came up with this story let it go for now. Keep your eyes and ears open and get the evidence you need then go. You can even let him know now to watch himself. You certainly hope heās not but remind if he is or does what he will lose.
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I would tell him hes lost going out now and drinking. I would tell him that only you and him drink when your together.
Then see therapy. You guys need to get the trust back.
Sounds like hes cheating when he saved her contactsā¦
Heās definitely lying. Call and ask her
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Liar liar pants on fire
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Idk. This sounds like a pile of bullshit. Trust your intuition.
also if he did get her details through his work (police assistance) then isnāt this breaking some kind of violation if heās then saved it in his personal/contacted her from it? Sounds fishy!
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For being a cop he sounds dumb as hell.
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As a police officer myself sweetheart i will tell you he is cheating. We do not call anyone work related with our private phones. Especially late at night. Donāt stress yourself too much so it doesnāt hurt the soon to be little one. Take care and good luck to you and the precious one!
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Heās probably cheating.
Put your PI hat on girl! Im telling you if shit feels offā¦its OFF!
Heās lying like a mfr. Call up Janet and get her side. I would š¤·
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If sheās asking about him coming over that is really shady and just to even have a call when youāre with him makes no sense. If heās a good guy let him see his kids but I would dump him
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Iād call her back or go to the club & ask for Janet. Ask her how often he comes/contacts her & what goes on between the 2 of them.
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Nah he cheating sis. Trust your gut, my ex and I had a similar experience expect she was ājust a friend at work who asked him what was wrongā
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number one why the hell you going to threaten ABORTION, because he being stupid? the messed up on so many levels, you DO NOT play with your childās life like that. nothing is worth your child not even a cheating jackass like him.
Heās definitely lying cause for one, if she called for police assistance it wouldnāt go to his personal phone but to the dispatcher who would then dispatch an officer. And anytime a cop needed information or whatever I would have to send it through email, no numbers were ever exchange so heās not telling the truth. Guys are so damn quick to think up a lie to tell 
What do you mean bed rest for threatened abortion?! Do you know that he goes to the strip club?? Does he and his brotherās do this often?Need way more details.
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Or youāre just hormonalā¦
Put him out focus on your kids trust me
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Talk to her also dont be mad at her its him if something happend who you should be mad at trust me I was on the other end dated a guy then got a call from his pregnant fiance luckily she was very nice to me and we talked it out she wasnt mad at me because she knew I had no clue and he used me she was pissed at him either way try and talk to her keep it calm and see where you go from therw
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You have her number, call her and get her version of the story, if itās the same as his then itās the truth, if its different then theres your answer
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Im going to be the one that says maybe heās being honest. Generally cops will go out of their way for a female in a bad situation with a man and give their personal number in case she needs anything. The fact that she works at a strip club doesnāt matter because she could be the one who collects the cover charge or a server/bartender. I asked my husbands opinion and he said the same thing. If you still feel uneasy, talk to her.
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Why would she ask if he was still coming over?
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Damn yāall are intense. Just cut ties and call someone you donāt know a liar and cheater.
Seriously think about the advice yāall are giving before you just run away.
There are some trust issues here. I donāt have to check my husbands phone when it goes off- ever.
Find a couple therapist and figure out how to earn the trust you have lost in each other. Iām sure he will now have issues trusting you after this.
If you need to fish- I would sit him down and ask him in a supportive conversation that allows freedom
To talk. If you walk into it thinking heās guilty and he walks into it feeling that youāre going to try and make him do anything- it probably wonāt work well.
Use your logic and discourse. Then if you need to back up what your partner states (because heās your PARTNER) then ask your BiL and Sister.
Remember:
Stress can cause major issues in pregnancy.
What exactly is a āthreatened abortion ā?
Id call ask her if she says she meant club and mentions brother in law then hes being honest. My man was a bouncer at a club before and some dancers have men who call to see only them.
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For sure dudes lying been through this shit all too well
Of course heās going to lie his way outā¦
Where there is smoke, thereās fire!
Heās lying, and cheating
He sounds like a trained liar. Why you putting your babyās life in danger by putting up with this guy?
You already know the answer, trust your gut. Itāll never mislead you honey
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Iāve had a male cop go outta his way to help me out, he was married and it never felt weird, but they usually donāt give out their personal numbers. Iām not defending your guy I find it shady she asked if he was still coming over tho, go to that club and just ask her lol
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Heās lying and seeing that women behind your back
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Julia Marie tell her sisā¦
Iām gonna too though 
Girl trust your instinctsā¦ thatās all
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Yea heās a liar. Run.
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Sounds very sketchy to me. Iām sorry but I donāt believe it. The fact she was saved in his phone raises big red flags. Prayers for your health with your baby.
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Oh man, my auntie is with an officer and you can say cheaterrrrrrr.
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Just call her and ask. She works in a strip club, not that there is anything wrong with that. Sounds like heās a client!
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Lies all lies been there done thatā¦
I would confront that woman at the club. Explain youāre pregnant with his kid and you need to know the truth. Most women would have compassion on you and be honest.
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Get out. If the answer doesnāt make sense itās because itās a lie. Save yourself the stress and nonsense and get out of this crap. Itās all crap.
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abortion you plan on having an abortion?
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Call herā¦get her sideā¦see if storied line upā¦caught a cheater in my past that wayā¦but frm a history of having cheaters and storied tht make no since/or like bsā¦usually areā¦he is gonna spare your feelingsā¦she prob wont
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āstillā coming over would be a concern for me. I would talk to her she may not even know about you or your relationship with him. Donāt be angry with her though. My husband did not wear a wedding ring but you are not married so she would not know.
Girls have male strippers at hens night and men have female strippers at bucks night has anything changed. I think you are over reacting and also with your hormone levels during pregnancy.
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And this is just a preview imagine whatās to come get out while you can
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I would definitely do some digging.
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I think itās one thing to go to a strip club(either partner, knowingly)and another to call and talk to specific dancersā¦however every marriage is differentā¦Iād have many many questions.
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Heās a liar and a cheater! RUN!!
Child support could be a lot for 2 babies especially if you never worked.
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Girl heās on a first name basis with a stripper, this prolly isnāt the first time!
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WTH! Iād be upset. He doesnāt need her contact info and she does not need to be calling him. Sounds real fishy to me
Oh my Godā¦ overreacting.
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Literally call her from your phone and ask about him. Sounds like a Cheater.
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I will say that I have known personally of several officers who have a hard time getting women to leave them alone. These guys would legitimately tell them that they are committed and uninterested. But some women are persistent. Ask him to be transparent with you while he handles it. But donāt assume the worst. The badge bunny is a real phenomenon. But it doesnāt necessarily mean your man is cheating.
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Fishy for sureā¦ yes Iām sure your hormones are raging but Janet said ā are you coming over?ā
Been thereā¦my ex had me brainwashed and I fell for it. There were several times after the first incident and I didnāt want to believe it because he seemed so genuine in his pleas.
Walk in that mf and ask for Janet. Ask her face to face whatās going on.
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You have her numberš¤·š½āāļø Call and politely say youāre in a relationship with the dude and ask her if anythingās going on between them. Some girls will be happy to help you out and tell you the truth, plus kids are involved. Could be nothing, could be something, better to not have to jump to conclusions
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I always say give him the benefit of the doubtā¦but sounds real suspicious to me!
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He saved a stripperās number into his phone, with the strip club as part of the contactā¦ and yāall say overreacting? Hell. No.
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I kind of think youāve answered your own question 
if thereās suspicion then thereās doubt which most likely means deep down you donāt hundy trust him I know itās not clean cut when itām comes to emotions & kids ā¦ look after yourself, make your baby the priority, this gift has only you to look out for him/her so concentrate on that , let dad work on proving his loyalty ā¦ if he is being honest & loves you & his family it wonāt be a task itāll be a pleasureā¦ all the bestā:two_hearts:
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Iād leave Iāve known many guys who go to strip clubs and noone saves a strippers infoā¦
Iām not saying he is or isnt cheatingā¦ But I would ask why he didnt think he should tell you any of this beforehandā¦
Feels like heās hiding something.
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Itās the father of your kids, work it out! And usually strippers want the money girl, not your man.
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Sis your man is trash throw him away.
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Well you stated you seen all this stuff. Its really a decision you need to make. I get you want advice but the truth is right in front of you. And she said are you still coming over. Your answer is there. Smh. You better do the right thing before you break your own heart more.
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Call her! Fuck both of them. Time to investigate!!!
If your man is cheating on you then he donāt love you at all
He just useing you so dump him