I think that you have every right to feel the way you do. Being a SAHM you deserve a gift to yourself.
Forget all the remarks that you are selfish or ungrateful.
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He probably didnt think of it like that, since you are a SAHM he probably just thought it would make you less stressed. My car DVD player is a life saver. Maybe just tell him how grateful you are and next year tell him what you would like or could really use.
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Did he actually get that for you or just tell you that?
You need to be grateful he was thinking of you while the kids in the car lol but he should atleast get you something for just you, even if its little
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Next year choose a dollar amount same for both and get your own gifts.garenteed to get what you both actually want
Send it too me I’ll use it
Well hon ,every once in A while slip in A cd you like !
The comments on this page just get ruder and ruder.
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I understand what you’re saying but honestly I think that is a great gift.
I see your point of view and don’t blame you but I don’t think men think the same way lol their brains work differently. You’re aloud to have things that are just for YOU and no one else. You are so much more than a mother. Maybe express this to him and show your appreciation for the gift and next holiday or birthday he can get you something for just you momma! Don’t let all these rude people make you feel bad because you’re so much more than just a mother
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Men think logically.
It’s a reason why men try to solve the problem instead of just listening to the frustration.
This is coming from a good place, he thought about what you’ve probably mentioned out of frustration and thought “how can I make this easier for her?”
So this is a heart filled place and you’re kind of being an ass.
I wouldn’t try to make a big deal out of it. It may end up upsetting him. Men are just men 
I’ve asked for a digital camera with the changeable lenses for 2 years now, I did get it this year, but I picked it out and paid for it online on Black Friday 
I’ve also been asking for a cricut machine for a couple years now. I have yet to get that lol but I’ll probably buy that when income taxes comes back. My husband means well, but he’s a man and a lot of men aren’t really that good with being in tune with their wives wants lol
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Hell me and my husband didn’t get each other anything. 
is be grateful to get anything
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Sounds like he was trying to make your life easier don’t read so much into things. If you want something specific, ask.
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So you get nothing? Its basically the kids gift. But hey at least there will be something under the tree with your name on it. I got everyone in my family a gift this year and I’m not getting a damn thing. Not even from my husband so count yourself lucky I guess 
Men don’t know how to shop for their wives. I totally understand your frustration but I dont think he realized how much this would hurt your feelings. When my mom was with my sisters dad he got her pooh bear overalls. She was 18. 
if you could do so without him getting upset maybe explain to him you were hoping for a gift for just you.
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He may very well have been thinking of a way to make your life easier. I’m getting pots and pans but he does most of the cooking at our house due to work schedules.
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My husband is a stay at home dad. I got him a gift to use with our daughter and one to use with our son and then something for just him… and then something for me to wear FOR him, if you know what I mean 
. He’s not just the caretaker of our children, he’s my husband.
But he’s a horrible gifter so I buy my own presents. Spoiler alert: I got exactly what I wanted 
You don’t know what his thought process was when picking your gift out. Maybe he felt it would help you in some way. I’m positive his intentions were out of love and not to piss you off. It’s not like it’s a cheap last minute gas station gift… Gifts should alway appreciated.
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That present is for your 2 year old, not you.
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No hon next year by him a vacuum dyson a say this also helps me when you vacuum the house thx hon
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It is for you lol think of the peaceful road trips momma!!!
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Men don’t understand how women lose themselves in a way when they become a mother. It’s really a shame he thinks that’s what you need.
Talk to him.
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It’ll help you kinda right? When you’re driving the kids around? I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. But presents are not important to me or my husband. Most Christmases we don’t even get each other presents and just focus on kids and family. we buy so much we want through out the year and like going out to eat and stuff like that a present on Christmas just doesn’t feel important. So I may be a little biased but to me it’s not a big deal and I’d be grateful. It’s the thought that counts like maybe he genuinely thinks it will help you and be useful to you, make your day easier.
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We use a "wishlist notebook "
Where we add things we want and it’s easier to shop for each other. We aren’t mind readers and we aren’t perfect.
Truth be told, if you’ve ever fussed about the kids crying, being loud, headaches during your rides … well chances are he’s trying to help. Count your blessings. Some have gone through every holiday with nothing. Hold to your family.
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Hes trying to help. Men literally dont know. I’m sure hes doing it genuinely thinking it will help you 
dont be too hard on him.
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Shame on you…for being human!!! I agree tho’…
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I get what you’re saying… but his slip-up is innocent… he thinks it will help you and it will but it’s just not what you want
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I think you’re way wrong. When you become a mom, it’s no longer about you. It should always be about your kids 100%. My kids are my absolute world. Everything except my work schedule revolves around them, and I mean everything. If I’m asked what I want, it pertains to my kids. It’s just the way I was raised. Be thankful that he got you something. A DVD player will be a game changer.
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- he bought you a gift
- he actually thought about it and tried to give you something helpful and to make your life easier (shows love)
- he bought you a gift!
Give the guy a break for goodness sake. It may not be the all about you gift of your dreams but he definitely gets points for trying.
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My husband kept giving me kitchen things for Christmas and I finally had to tell him that while they are needs I would like fun gifts too. He finally got the message and stopped getting me just things I need. Men don’t think the same as us, just talk to him.
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Buy the kids a new tv for their room for his present next year, so they don’t ask to use his anymore. Merry Christmas.
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Maybe he just thought that he would get you something practical that would help you keep the kids entertained in the car (which is great if your travelling during the holiday season), if it was your birthday I would understand but it’s Christmas which I believe is about the children anyway. I wouldn’t be asking Santa for a new boyfriend. I’d be grateful for what I have. Some people aren’t even in a loving family environment durning this time.
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His intentions were good. Guys dont do “thoughtful” the way we do
If you want different, you’re gonna have to drop hints all Nov & December
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I’m not going to read the comments, you sound so ungrateful. You get a nice gift, have a man there for you and your kids and are complaining that the gift is for your family as a unit instead of being only for you. Merry flipping Christmas
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My husband used to get me dumb stuff when we first got married. On year it was a vacuum, my birthday I got new tires. I would say thank you and let it go. He tries. He is an amazing dad and husband and to me that’s all I need or could ask for. We dont do gifts for each other anymore now we just do a after Christmas date night so we can spend time together.
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Omg these “be grateful for anything” people are pathetic. You’re allowed to have wants. You’re allowed to not like a present. Be selfish like that! You deserve it, we all do.
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Not at all. I don’t think kids need to be constantly watching an electronic because when it malfunctions, which it will, it will make your life hell. It’s not a gift I would enjoy.
Just tell him…hmmm…all the actual problems people have…
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This is a great gift but if you don’t want it just tell him that. If you guys have good communication you should be able to tell him the truth and then pick something out together.
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So I’m replying on my fiancé’s profile but damn that’s very sad of you first of all the point if Christmas is time with family not the gifts so be grateful you’re gettin one, second that’s a very thoughtful gift you and your kids appreciate it.
Yeah thats a present for the kids not you…cant really watch it if you are driving…and it can be a distraction
One year my guy got me a kitchen sink drying rack… that’s it!
I think his intentions were something that would help make your life easier. Just from my point of view. Just talk to him about it, sometimes guys look at thoughtfulness differently
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Did you tell him some things that you might want for Christmas? If not, this one is on you. 
Yes you thought long and hard about his gift buts let’s be honest a lot of men don’t think that far. Hell Christmas is not even here yet, for all you know he may have another gift that’s JUST for you.
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Did he give it to you yet? Maybe he’s messing with you and has a real surprise? Either way, men are men. Be grateful and when next gift time, mention diff things you’d like for just yourself. Maybe he’ll catch on. I don’t think it’s ungrateful or selfish, just honest frustration. Lol it happens.
Okay if you have stated you need one of those for the car because he may be giving you what you been thinking about buying lol but it is a gift for the kids!
I think he is trying to make your life easier, and you should smile and say thank you. Not all men are good at choosing gifts for women.
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When my family asks what I want I say dipers and clothes for my child anything helps I would be happy with something like that I have a 3 year old and 7 month old and sometimes they get cranky in the car that would make it so easy honestly
I agree with you to a certain point because in order to be a mom you have to take care of yourself first. But I honestly don’t think his intentions were wrong. Just talk to him make him comprehend and understand you. Its ok to feel the way you do. I would too. Again, just talk to him.
Hahaha girl I feel you, my hubby always got my cleaning supplies…and yes I liked them but I felt it wasnt actually something for me…only me. I dont need anything crazy expensive but just something that only I would enjoy and actually meant something to me…idk hard to explain but I agree 100%. People who are sitting here saying you are wrong bc you are a mom…hahahahaha that doesnt mean you dont deserve something for just you. Yes you should always be there for your children, guide them, things are not all about you anymore blah blah blah but sometimes it’s okay for something to just be about you. Mommy should be happy too. Yes, will this present help you? Yea but it’s also helping him and your kiddos so technically it’s a present for the family. Lol girl I got you. Dont fight with him about it bc men dont understand BUT maybe express your feelings, that’s what I did and now we get each other things we both individually want for ourselves and I think that is 100% okay.
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I would be excited for that. Peaceful car rides are a gift!!
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Have a talk with him, most guys don’t realise that something that will help with the kids isn’t a “you” present but a “family/household” gift.
Tell him how you feel.
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Be thankful that you have a wonderful husband to give you presents, plenty of us don’t for various reasons you should consider yourself lucky
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I personally think that’s an amazing thoughtful gift! ESPECIALLY since I’m a stay at home mom who can’t afford to buy it herself. I’d be thrilled🤷🏼♀️ I asked for a gym membership and that’s all I’m getting, I’m fine with it. Christmas is for kids
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He was probably literally thinking it would make car rides much easier for you! I bet he had you 100% in mind on the gift… next year tell him stuff you are wanting.
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I literally take my husbands credit card, order what I want, and make him wrap it. Otherwise I get shirts too small, still in the bag.
Girl me and my man been together for 14 years and he buys me the corniest stuff most men don’t put to much thought into stuff like women
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Just wait until you take a long car ride with the kids… you will think it was the best gift ever…
Oh, and schedule yourself a massage as a present that is a little more personal and just for you…
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You’ll be getting a break, so it will be good.
Just be thankful & nice. Men do think different than us in every way. He loves you that’s gift enough. I’m not being mean, just truthful.
He’s trying to do you a favor by getting you something to make your time with your kids lessstressful. As a stay home mom myself with 5 kids, I would love something like that. My ass got curtains ive been wanting forever lol.
Perhaps he is giving you this is alleviate the stress of driving with an unhappy toddler. I would have loved to have one
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Be glad he got you anything! My husband hasn’t gotten me a Christmas gift he thought about himself since he proposed to me on Christmas day 4 years ago! He hasn’t even gotten me a birthday gift or valentine’s gift in years. But I dont really mind because he allows me to be a stay at home mom and he bought one of our dream cars this past summer for us to drive for fun as an extra vehicle. Men dont think of gifts and holidays the same way after awhile they just give up because they’ve already won you over per say. Just be glad he cared enough to get you something that will help you out and maybe make car trips a little easier for you and the kids. Holidays aren’t about the gifts but who you spend them with dknt be so greedy and materialistic
Maybe I am the odd one out but when I was married, we got each other a few tiny things and then each had money to do whatever we really wanted or buy what we really wanted. I think that if you have a man that is good to you and shows love and consideration for you why set them up to fail? 90% of guys suck at this.
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Return it, get the money back and go buy yourself something you want.
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Lol if I don’t but myself something my husband doesn’t have time to buy me anything lol
If it makes you feel any better, once my husband bought me a motorcycle helmet. I never got to wear it because he borrowed it to one of his gross friends and you just can’t really wash a helmet.
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Somethin is better then nothin !!! Be grateful feel blessed !!!
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Awe, very sweet. I barely get anything
Mine didn’t get me anything because I told him not to cause I don’t need anything. He asks me all the time so I tell him nothing. If he’s gonna get me something I want it to be from him not because it’s what I said I wanted. But I’d definitely be pissed if he got me DVD player for my kids I’d shove it up his butt lol but that’s me. Or maybe he’s trying to make it seem like he got you that but really it’s something else
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I like things I can use…I’d say it’s a win win…he apparently spent close to 100 on whatever he got me…I got him a figure of one of his favorite video game characters…his favorite cologne and some wireless bluetooth ear buds…also plan on getting him a nice shirt and some underwear…I’m almost 100% sure it’s some kind of jewelery he said it’s being custom made…but idk…I’m kinda scared tbh…
Making my kids happy makes me happy. And I bet if your having a hard trip in the car, that just may help lol
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I think it was a nice thought on his part, yet you’re not in the wrong for wanting something for you. Make it clear what you want in the future and enjoy your christmas you have now
It is more of a family purchase. I would just say how you feel and explain for next time
Just return the favour at his birthday!
I’d be disappointed as well. It would be for the kids. Not me.
I need a separate identity outside my kids
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I think his heart was in the right place. He was thinking about making things easier for you. That’s sweet. Some men could careless about how their wife feels. Next year I’d give him a list, or simply tell him that’s such a nice gift for the family but you would like to exchange gifts that are more personal. 
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Don’t feel bad my first Xmas with my fiancé he bought me and him matching white pillows! Like wtf I mean he bought other stuff too but like phone chargers idk just odd to me
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And all these responses saying “just be grateful”
Nah.
Don’t be rude. But I’d definitely have a gentle talk with him about how you really would like something more for you.
That doesn’t make you a witch. It makes you someone outside of being a mother. Which is OKAY.
Only being a mom and nothing else leads to depression and feelings of isolation.
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It’s nice but I would prefer a gift for just me. I get it.
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It’s sweet that he got you something to help you out with the kiddos. If you wanted something specifically, you should have just made it clear. Men dont think like we do, lol. He solved a problem in his mind that would make you happy. Sweet.
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You are absolutely entitled to your feelings!! I personally had ppd so for me it was really hard to separate my identity from being a parent so a gift for me but meant for use by my child would have just pushed me farther into that hole. I would just communicate that with your partner. You entire being doesn’t have to revolve around being a parent.
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My husband and I have been together 45 yrs. Married 22yrs. He never bought me anything for Christmas or my birthday, but always got me a box of candy for Valentine. We love each other. That’s enough. He does give my children and grandchildren money for Christmas and their bitthdays.
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I would be a little disappointed too.
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Quiet and entertained kids on a long car trip is a gift for everyone
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I see where U r coming from. Hopefully he is setting u up. I did that a few times with partners
…let slip ok gift…then they got amazing gift at end
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That will make your life easier it is a gift for you
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I was so beyond happy when my other half got me ours. With as much as we travel it’s a god send lol
Me and my husband don’t really do much for gifts for each other. I don’t think it is about the gift though, I think you are seeking more from him than he is giving you. It sucks not making your own money and can make you feel out of control at times. My husband got me new bras for xmas and honestly not sure there is anything else I would really want that bad
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It’s the thought that counts. What a wonderful idea, keep the kids quiet so you can drive in peace. If it bothers you that much, go get a massage, a mani pedi & tell him thats the gift he “got” you.
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Ya that’s messed up. That’s just like being gifted a mop. Idk man I would be mad
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Plain and simple: boys are dumb when it comes to this shit. I recieved a fishing rod once. For my 30th I got a $10 slow cooker book and scratchies - and while I felt like a massive bitch, I just expected something a bit more special and sentimental for my 30th birthday. We have 3 kids, everything revolves around them. After I cried and said birthdays and christmas is the times we get to get something special for ourselves or for our significant other, I think he finally got it. He grew up in a more simple, basic lifestyle where a block of chocolate is wrapped and given as a gift (literally) whereas I grew up with more lavish gifts I guess you could say… I don’t expect gold and diamonds every event, but a little bit more than a the big w basics slow cooker book 
bless him. I’m the same with giving him gifts. Its usually a bit more special and awesome than a bar of chocolate, which annoyingly he would be super happy with haha
Is it something you all have been talking about getting? Is it something you ever said you wanted? If so, maybe he got a good deal on it for Black Friday. Did you ever tell him things you wanted? Or hint at things? I understand where you’re coming from but if you don’t voice this to him, he doesn’t know. Maybe it was a joke and he was just trying to throw you off?
I think he got it for you so you can have peace while driving, it’s the thought that counts
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Dont feel bad . The first christmas when we got our house which was a month before Christmas, my husband bought me a Keurig and a sound bar and oven mitts ect for the house and I got him tools and boots ect .
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Everone is different it wouldn’t bother me. In fact would keep my kids from fighting in the car. So would be more for me then them.
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I understand you… but at least he bought you something even that it was not for you. I am married to my husband for 43 years and he never bought anything for him or the kids ( 2 sons). He would say to me , here is the money buy what ever you need. He never went to a store. But he is a very good person. Not a lovebirds husband. LOL 
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Honey that’s fair! So tell him how much you love the gift ( it’s totally practical! ) But your birthday present HAS to be something the kids can’t use!