That’s like getting appliances.
Just thank him and then go buy yourself a present x
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Guess he plans on being chauffeur, so you can use your Christmas gift?
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I totally get it.
It’s like when my husband was going to buy me a stroller for my birthday. Yes, I needed a better stroller, but it sucks when you become a mom and everything is so centered around that. You kind of lose your individualism.
You have the right to feel disappointed.
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Once you start using it, you will see the gift really IS for you. It will keep your kiddos quiet and entertained, my kids loved it so much when we had our old vehicle, wish we still had it!!
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Most men truly arent good at gifts. Sorry not sorry. I learned early on if you want something you actually want. Just tell them. Or ask for a gift card. Lol fr
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I believe in practical gifts, I think it’s an amazing thought and he seemed to think it was gonna be good to help you out while out with the kids. I say just be grateful that’s all
All of these women saying say that gift IS for you or saying how you you should appreciate it and use it obviously don’t understand what’s it’s like for your spouse to see you as an individual human being. If he truly saw you as a partner and not just someone that takes care of his kids, he would have gotten you something that you would have enjoyed personally or with him.
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I suppose a new tradition of sending amazon Christmas lists to each other would be helpful
I’ll take that over the nasty smelling lotion that I got all my birthday when I was supposed to get a Pandora bracelet. The bracelet cost the same amount as the glotion so I have no idea why or what happened they’re clueless men are clueless. He really should put thought into your gift not get you something for the kids it’s ridiculous
I would be happy with that. Someone being good to my kids is more important than anything really.
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You seem ungrateful to me 
it’s still a gift and he was thinking of you. It’s the thought that counts after all
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I’d rather we spent our money on the kids, my partner and I never get eachother anything. It’s not about us really, but at least his gift will benefit you I would be stoked!
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Maybe he’s secretly going to propose instead
Jk jk lol
Sooooo… get yourself a gift! He’s only looking to help YOU. Sometimes men don’t know what we feel.
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Well he probably thinks that will make your life easier. My minivan has a DVD player and I used it to workout in the parking lot while my kids are at church activities, confirmation classes, sports practices, etc so I’m close by but still getting something done. I keep exercise dvds, weights, sneakers, workout clothes and a yoga mat in the car.
I pick my gifts out and he picks his out and we let the kids wrap them that way we get what we need or want most lol
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Honestly, I’d rather that then something pointless. However, Christmas is not about the gifts… it’s about spending time with your loved ones. My husband and I used to make sure the kids had presents, and once they were done we’d get each other a few things. This year is a bit different and we both agreed… we can buy each other whatever whenever, we don’t need a holiday to give us a reason to spend more money on each other then we do the other 364 days of the year.
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This is a tough situation. You’re not wrong in wanting something for yourself and not something the kids will use, however, as many have pointed out, most men aren’t the best gift givers, they’re more practical and less thoughtful. If it bothers you that much, talk to him about it. But be honest and don’t drop hints (they’re not good with hints either). Probably every woman on here could share a horrible gift story, you’re not alone.
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His intentions are in the right place. But at the wrong time
My man is great and gifts! But not all men are. Some just think “oh they said they wanted this” and the next thing you know, you’ve got a slow cooker or vacuum cleaner for your birthday 
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It’s practical and smart and benefits more than you…nothing wrong at all
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But it is a gift for you… It keeps the children distracted and often puts them to sleep.
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Could be worst my partner got me a birthday present and it was what he wanted but couldn’t afford a gift for me and his gift. I got broad band for my birthday so he could save Xbox levels. 
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Don’t let anybody make you think he doesn’t care or see you as an individual. He was probably just going off of something you mentioned and trying to make your life easier. My daughter has a tablet and that gives me a break. It keeps her busy so I can get things done. Maybe he thought this would give you peaceful car rides. It’s always the thought that counts. My boyfriend hears me mention this ninja foodi commercial coming on every break and being annoying so he offered to buy one when they were on sale. I don’t want one. But sometimes people just go off of things you subtly mention. For him he just heard “ninja foodi” and thought of a gift. Maybe you mentioned the car rides being tough and while browsing that became a gift idea to him. I’m sure he meant well.
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That’s so thought ful of him. Id be stoked. Id be real disapplinted if it was just something for me an my kids couldnt use. My life revolves around my kids. I go no where wirhout them. That’s a really good gift he is given you. Its hard find a man who thinks of your kids as well. He got me the drones. Unless my toddlers right there ready watch an chase it I dont care play with it. I dont do all that petty female make up crap or cloths or pedicures or all girly nonsense. Its my kids. I personally think its great. And you will look ungreatful an cause a fight. Some of us would love to jave some thing loke that. Its better than getting nothing at all.
I get where your coming from i would feel a little disappointed too. After all you look after them 24/7 everything is about the children and there needs, sometimes people forget our needs. Just maybe say to him something you would of liked either hint or just say. On saying this he did get something and seems to have thought about it, luckier than a lot of woman out there men can be useless at gift buying. Have a lovely Christmas x
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I guess I’m old school but men these days are clueless. They seem to have no clue what romance is & wonder why woman start to distance themselves. You sound like a wonderful mother who feels bad even thinking, 'I’d just like something personal that shows he loves me as a woman, not just a mother to his children". A SAHM has it hard enough & begins to lose her identity; In my opinion, you need a personal gift from your man more than if you got out every day to work. I say, take the gift you got him back & buy yourself something personal you’d love & buy him a bag of his favorite candy or whatever with the change. Wrap them both up & open in front of your children & give him a big kiss & a hug & thank him out loud for the beautiful ‘personal’ gift. Butt that’s just me. Merry Christmas, Momma❤️.
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One year for Mother’s day my husband bought me a golf cart. I didn’t golf, he did. I laughed , thought it was funny.
At least you’re getting something !
Well. I’ve gotten my bf guitars and other manly gifts that were only for him…so I get where your coming from. You want an individual gift for yourself.
It’s not wrong for you to think about yourself when it comes to gifts. That DVD gift isn’t for you, it’s actually for the kids. It’s not like your going to sit in the back of the car with the kids and watch it. So the next time just let him know what kind of gift you would appreciate. Let him know what your interested in that current time. Every mama needs to get individually spoiled as much as the guy does.
I hope that helps.
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Men ugh, lol I think it’s nice ,& cute that he thinks the DVD is for you& it is ,well for your car lmao aww men ugh if u dont spell it out ,they are lost:woman_facepalming:
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Honestly this is exactly what I’ve asked my partner for for Christmas
Oh trust me u will be thankful he bought u this!
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I’ve had 5 kids and road trips even to the grocery store is a night mare. That thing has saved our lives many times!
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My dad bought my mom a toaster for their anniversary one year Men aren’t always smart. I’ll give my husband credit. His gifts are solely to me.
I use to buy my man a gift for everything… Valentine’s Day, birthday, Christmas & Father’s Day and that was before we had our own kids together. On Valentine’s Day I would make us a nice dinner … steak, salad, baked potatoes & strawberry cake And there were a few times he got me something too but majority of the time I got nothing 
I eventually just stopped getting him gifts all together. Ijs … I would be thankful for anything. Maybe in the future try being very specific about what you want.
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Great. You can sit in the back and watch it whilst he drives
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Yes be grateful and all that.
But that gift was for the kid.
I feel like he tried at least. Maybe you will be glad you have it.
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That’s a gift for them. Not you.
I’d love that as a gift.
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I would say that’s a family gift! Not a gift for you or the kids. But as a whole family.
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We loose a lot of our identity as moms and it sounds like that’s what you’re struggling with. A present isn’t going to change or fix that, his intentions were good and he was thinking about something that would help you which is nice but I get where you’re coming from. Maybe slip into conversation that you’re feeling this way, not about the present but in general that you’re feeling overwhelmed and like people don’t view you as your own separate person other than “mom.”
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Its perfactly ok to be upset. As a mom we tend to lose our identity as a person. Everything has a tendency to revolve around the raising of tiny humans. I am sure he genuinely thought he was giving you a great gift but sometimes we do just want something specifically for ourselves.
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Oh that is for you, for a moment of sanity when you are driving.
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I dont want presents any more as long as the kids are happy that’s my main concern who care know some way its does benefit u I wish my hubby get me one for the car
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He brought you peace and quite for your car. Idk I’d be thankful. My husband and I don’t really buy gifts for each other any long cause we usually buy what we want when we want it.
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I’d just be excited to have something to unwrap lol!!! Bday was Wednesday and I’ve never had bday cake, presents, etc, and since becoming an adult never really had Christmas gifts. (Though one year my ex got “me” a kurig back when they came out… I don’t drink coffee though, so it was more for him)
Honestly I’d RATHER get something for the kids than myself, but you know I would love to get nice comfy blankies, socks, pillow, etc lol I’m LAME
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If you complain about your two year old a lot maybe he thinks it is for you.
You are right the present should be for you. That is a present for the child
It’s better than nothing.
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He sounds like he was being very thoughtful
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I think it’s thoughtful, it could help save your sanity depending how your child is in the car
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A looooot a ungrateful females in here. 🤦 you coulda got nothing. Then you might have something to complain about. Good Lord. He tried.
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Omg you sound so ungrateful… At least he bought something. Next time, tell him straight out what you want; problem solved!
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We can be a bit dense sometimes… Please let us know, lots of us appreciate some guidance too 
It just depends on the person. I get it. I do. I would feel the same as you. Just tell him the truth.
You sound ungrateful…
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Men don’t think like we do!! You have to drop hints… or make a list of things you like… and just say honey these are some ideas for you in case your wandering what I want for Xmas…
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You are not ungrateful at all! All these women saying that you are ungrateful are probably with someone that never gets them anything like never. Just because these females standards are so damn low doesn’t mean that the gift is right. It is not!! That dvd is a present for your kids. It can be a nice side present. But your main present should have been something that was for you to use only.
I dont thonk you sound ungrateful. You have a toddler and another on the way your hormones are out of sorts as it is lol.
Take it as him trying to make your drives more pleasant for you. And maybe sit him down and instead of saying I dont appreciate this gift, you can say, lately I’ve been feeling like the only thing I am is a mom, like I’m starting to lose who else I am. Can we work on trying to get that back? Then give him some ideas as to how. Get into hobbies you enjoy. Itll make it easier for him to pick gifts in the future. Good luck
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Ugh. Cant find my comment. A 2 year old and just had one. Your hormones are still out of sorts
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Be grateful…its not about presents! He works his ass off so you can stay at home and he is only trying to make your life easier…give dude a break before breaks…merry christmas
My husband got stuff for the home for me. Dishes, vacuum, clock stuff like that. More like a joint present. I bought him personal presents. BD’s nothing. I did for his. A DVD player sounds kinda cool though. Yeah my feelings were hurt. Maybe BF thought the DVD would help you with the 2 year old? Being a stay at home mom is hard.
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You’re not wrong for wanting something just for yourself and I would be a little disappointed too, but trust me you’re going to love that DVD player! It’s going to be handy! I’ve used one for years. We’ve now moved on to an iPad now that she’s older. On occasion, she’ll still want to watch a DVD video.
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Christmas isn’t about the gifts it’s about the birth of Jesus, it’s also aimed to children not grown ups. It’s not our turn anymore it’s the kids if you get anything as a gift you’re lucky neither of us are getting things for Christmas because we have to provide for the kids I will be getting a late gift if you wanna call it that and we’re getting a mini van with get this a DVD player build in.
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He may be thinking he is getting you a gift … A gift of driving without kids fussing. I don’t know the story but his intentions may be good … Or not. We don’t know. You know him, the people in this thread do not. You need to examine the intention of the gift versus the actual gift.
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Ummmm ur kids should always be 100% of life…maybe that was something you should have thought of
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It sounds like he was being thoughtful and trying to make your days easier.
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Maybe it’s just one of the gifts?
I wouldnt complain about that my kids can be right s**** in the car at times anything to keep them quiet on long journeys yes please
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I think you should just accept the gift with the spirit he is giving it to you. I understand how you feel. As the kids grow up things will change
Better than a sock full of hard white dog shit…be thankful you received anything…
I make a list on amazon through the year of things i want. I send him the link to it.
He goes rogue mostly though. I feel like he gets ideas from it. Like if i like this i would also like that. Maybe you should do that.
I understand why you feel the way you do. I agree with others that his heart is in the right place. Dont get too upset with him. Maybe after you get it, everytime you go places together, sit in the back and watch a movie 
What he should’ve done was got that as a present for you and the kids and then got you a second present just for yourself. I can see where he was trying to be helpful and solve a problem but you still deserve something thats just for you. I don’t think you’re being selfish. I see a lot of comments on here saying that but I would be upset too.
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Honey, don’t hurt his feelings. Sounds to me HE thought it would be an excellent gift to you… peace of mind while driving… accept the gift and be happy about it. Why not try to talk with him about how y’all will do gifts next year… as in maybe yall show each other what yall REALLY want and then let little thoughtful surprises gifts left unknown. Works for me.
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Car rides are hard for any parent. Sounds like he was trying to get u something that would be used. I wish I had one. I live in a small town so doctors appointments are AT LEAST 1 hour long to get to and then not say one of my daughters has 2 specialist that are almost 4hrs away
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Idk. I would be just fine with that. I used to ask for items that would help with the housecleaning. That isn’t much different. It was meant to make your life a little easier, that’s his thinking. I would appreciate his caring because it sounds like he knows it can get tough when you’re out and about with the little ones. I struggle to even get mine in their car seats and they demand to buckle themselves now.
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Jesus H Christ! He tried. At least give him some credit for that.
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Men have to be told. Did you tell him what you wanted?
Ungrateful selfish and sad
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Do you think maybe he is tricking you and maybe he is getting you something for yourself? Also, if he has extra money and bills are paid etc. then no your not being selfish. From your post it sounds more like you just want a little something for your self. We do alot as moms and give our babies our all 24/7. Its nice to have something for our selves every once in a while. Thats not being ungrateful, you sound grateful for the dvd players, you would just like a little somethibg too. Like i said if everything is paid bill wise and your kids are taken care of, why shouldnt you get something too?
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He probably got it for you thinking that he was making you life easier. Those things are a Godsend. Christmas is really for kids anyway. We, as adults realize we’re really celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ. Be grateful love. It really will make life easier
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Hey hes helping you out lol
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You’re a Mother now you’re whole life will always revolve around your children get used to it
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Each is there own and im sure he meant well and thought it was a helpful gift that you would appreciate… Thoughtful if u ask me…
Accept it. Its the thoughts that count and may be in the car they will be calm and not distract you while you drive.
Men are thick headed, you have to be very explicit in what type of gift you would like to have. I once asked for a pair of boots, I did not qualify, “fashion boots”, I ended up getting a pair of work boots, you know the tan one’s, I was so disappointed. One time I got a vacuum cleaner, not a nice one, either, my ex was an idiot. Perhaps your BF needs to know you would.like a spa day, a facial, a pedicure, a gift card, or even just a day off, sleep late, and additional help around the house. It’s okay to ask for these things. None of which has to be expensive. Hope he has something else for you. Being a stay at home mom is no joke, you deserve a little pampering
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It’s the thought that counts. Hubby and I aren’t even exchanging gifts this year because it’s not in the budget
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Be grateful I don’t receive anything for my birthday or Christmas
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when you have kids you don’t get gifts for you anymore an that’s fine w me my baby needs stuff more all i need is to make sure my schooling can be paid for when it needs to be (i’m in college i jus dropped over 1100$ on jus my classes that doesn’t include books that i’ll need in a little bit or the gas i drive a full hour one way to my school) so i don’t mind that my child gets all the presents i don’t need anything jus what’s important you know ?
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He was thinking of you! Those dvd players for the car are a godsend! The kids are actually QUIET! HE GAVE YOU SANITY WHILE YOU DRIVE!
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Ok. Either you had your heart set on something specific, which you’ve talked to him about, or you’re unreasonable. It’s one of the 2. If you didn’t give him any indication of what you might want, then you’re stuck with whatever he comes up with. Clearly he felt it was a gift that would make your life better. That’s what gifts are. Think of it this way, if he got you a nanny or a maid, would you be like, “well he and the kids benefit from that service too, so fuck him!”? Because if that’s the case, you’re a fucking nut job and you can send the nanny AND the DVD player my way, lol. If you had dropped hints about something else you wanted and they went over his head, that’s kind of on you. It’s not news that men, for better or worse, are mostly clueless, or that they don’t really listen when their wives. Now you know to TELL him what you want. If you DID tell him what you wanted… then next time write it tf down and text him a picture and a link to where he can buy it. Is it romantic? No. But it wasn’t romantic for him when you shit out those kids, either. So… you win some, you lose some. Hopefully you’ll both learn and next year will be better.
Some of these comments are so hilarious these bitches are truly tripping…YEAH I SAID IT!!
Everyone deserves some time for themselves in a parenting class or expert out there would let you know that alone time and a break for every single person is a necessity in life. Granite we are parents as a stay-at-home mom you take care of him 24/7 so you definitely deserve something for you as well as a break. These Little Debbie Downer’s can fuck off!!
You are their world and they are yours and that means that you don’t get anything to herself or even get a gift for yourself on Christmas:joy: I’m sorry so many of these comments are so stupid I would definitely tell your boyfriend a couple idea that what you want immediately so he can go and get you something that you actually want as well as deserve. Some of these comments are kind of sad it’s like these women just wait until Christmas to buy their children shit on Christmas my kids don’t need anything because I bought it throughout the whole year. Yes you deserve a gift Christmas is about family as well as the birth of Jesus. Maybe you should just put your self into the tree and remind them all that you are truly the gift:kissing_heart:
Sounds like he was trying to make your life easier.
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First of all, don’t listen to the people telling you you’re ungrateful or that your life should revolve around your kids 100%. However, as others have pointed out he probably thinks it will make your life easier, so he is thinking of you. Since he’s already let it slip, just tell him your thoughts on how you appreciate the gift and, though it was not his intention, it feels like it’s a present for the kids rather than you.
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I was done with the forgetting the gift, not getting something I need or want.
I told him he sucked at gift giving and showing appreciation.
I told him its part of my love language and he was ignoring it because of his own love language. He’s a provider, protector and acts of service kind of guy. I’m a intimate, touchy gift giver type. We talked, we compmrised. He sets alarms for special occasions and buys off my wish list that I started on Amazon. Communication is key!
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I think he legit thought you’d really like it lol I did the same for my boyfriend years ago for his car but then again I also got him separate gifts. Maybe he has something else for you… it’s not Christmas just yet
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I got a ping pong table
Women stop calling men thick headed because they are not if you never tell them what your interested in they will never know, my fiancé knows that I would love new dishes, cleaning supplies, anything glee or greys anatomy related, clothes for the kiddos, anything that makes him happy and more.