Lmao men don’t think the same way we do. He probably put a lot of thought into it and realizes that is WILL make your life easier and last for years. Just focus on the fact that he thought of you over the kids on this one. Your sanity was on his mind. Not their comfort. It might not be as personal as you’d like, but you’d use it all the time, and will appreciate it once you start
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I tell everyone if they are gonna get anything to get things for my kids. So honestly idk.
I mean, it kinda is for you. If it keeps them quiet and entertained in the car, then it let’s you keep a little more sanity everyday.
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Men think alot differently than we do. To him, he probably did put alot of thought and effort into this gift. He could have just gotten you a gift card but he thought of something that you would get alot of use out of. The kids will be entertained while you’re out driving with them. That will make for less stressful outings
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Ugh there is nothing worse than a gift for you that’s really for the kids. I would open it and hand it to the kids and say look what daddy got YOU! Kids don’t need DVD players in the car, I find that’s when mine want to talk the most. Now a loud radio comes in handy when someone gets whining. If you didn’t ask for it makes sure he gets that you are upset about the gift. I hate when people would by me something and say it’s for you and the kids, because the kids already get so many gifts and would just want one thing just for ME!
Just look at it this way. You wanted them to have dvd players bc it would make them happy and it would make life a little easier for you sometimes. He is seriously thinking of you with this I promise. He wants to make sure the day to day things you do are easier and he’s hoping to take some of that stress away.
But as for the gift for you, I would literally just tell him next year exactly what you want or give him a list.
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I get being grateful and stuff but that really sounds like it’s more for the kiddo. I guess if he said he would help with the kid it’s his way of helping 🤷
I bought my own present.
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It is for you. He’s trying to be helpful. Maybe try being appreciative.
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Yea then that’s for your 2 year old not you. Tell him umm our 2 year old is the one that will us it so that is for our child not me. A present to someone is supposed to be for them not for someone else.
I literally put one of these on my Christmas list this year lol I have four kids and this would make long car trips soooo much easier!
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Being a SAHM your life is 100% your kids. But you do deserve something meaningful for yourself.
That isn’t for you too? To help with the kids while driving lol
The portable DVD player is a family type gift he did not give much thought in giving you something for yourself
I had a similar situation. We choose our own presents. I source and buy them etc. He chose gel blaster guns and i chose a new…baby bag. Leading up to xmas as i kept adding to the present stash i realised i didn’t really have anything for ME! Then 2 days ago my phone (thats been slowly dying) finally gets to the point its about to cark it. So we went to get me a new phone to unwrap on xmas day! I fel better now.
Btw almost all of bubbys presents are to make my life easier (hes 6mo).
So i say have a chat to hubby and go get yourself a little something to unwrap just for YOU!
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He should have gave you another present also that was just for you.
He was trying but maybe he thinks you have pretty much everything that you need except quiet time in the car.
He should get you something for yourself. However, maybe the DVD will be a piece of mind for you and they will stay chilled 
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No he should give you something. You matter too. That’s a nice gift (the dvd) but it’s not for you. Next time, get him something for him that’s more for you.
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I have three girls (15, 13, an 6) an I have my mom which is 66. Care for them all. An I hardly ever get time to myself or anything but. I try to get me something too.
A gift for them is also for you. It’s a gift of sanity while in the car. Lol
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At least he was thinking of you. But I get it, I’d talk to him about it or by yourself something nice for Christmas, spoil yourself as moms don’t do this often
I agree u should get something for u but also next try getting him something but mainly for the use of the kids for the summer time even… Also u still may get something else never n if that was only part of it
I guess I’m different. I always put my kids before myself 100% of the time. They’re only young for such a short time. I want them to grow up knowing I was always there doing my best for them.
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I honestly think he was really trying to give you something to help you. Peaceful car rides are a God sent, especially long ones. Maybe kindly tell him how much you appreciate the thoughtfulness of the DVD player and ask if he could take you shopping for something just for you. It’s the thought behind the gift, that’s the gift. But also telling him there’s a little something you would like for yourself, is a start.
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does he usually give thoughtful personal gifts? if so then i’d say he truly believes this is a thoughtful gift, however it isn’t making you feel special or thought of so i would wait till after the holidays ( don’t want your children to see you unhappy or arguing on christmas) then just ask him what made him think of that gift and did it ever cross his mind that the gift was actually going to be used by your child ? also explain how you felt, but do not let him make light of your feelings! as moms we go out of our way and above and beyond for our families and at Christmas time we go the extra mile, it’s not to much to ask that your husband give you that recognition with a small thoughtful gift
At least he tried. And hunni let me tell you, that DVD in the car is everything when you have kids.
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I would much rather have my bf get something for my kids over me any day. I am not one for gifts but love giving them and making other people happy.
But you are not wrong for feeling that way, it was nice he thought of your kids first, but I’m assuming he figured it would help you with quiet care trips? Maybe just mention that it would be nice if he got something special just for you as well?
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at least he got something. my ex husband who i.was married to for 19 yrs bought me one Christmas present in the entire marriage… a $20 PAIR of earrings. he took $200 out of savings to buy the earrings. i never did see what he spent the other $180 on. must have been his girlfriend.
Buy what you want & wrap it, that’s what I do lol
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It is a present for you, while in the car, your 2 year old isnt screaming, What’s a better gift than that?
I got my boyfriend something for our daughter. But I also got something for him to go with it. And something separate for him.
The dvd player was a nice thought for mothers day. Not christmas. I was married for 20 years and never bought myself something until i had bought my kids and my husband first. After my divorce i went to go shopping and i literally didnt know how to shop for myself. I would pick something up think cool i need that, and before i got to checkout i would put it back saying i didnt really need it. Dont get me wrong because i always made sure my kids were first(hence putting things back). But there is a time and a place for mom gifts and a time and a place for you gifts. The dvd would have been more appreciated on mothers day. And a sexy nighty or something like that on your birthday but christmas is YOUR wish list.
Accept the gift take it back and get what you want.
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No your not but atleast he tried maybe he really was thinking about your sanity. I made the mistake of tell my now husband about what not to buy me. I also told him one time because I was mad dont bring men flowers they die. So guess who doesn’t get flowers anymore. Just my thought
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I would talk to him about it
its not about the gift. it’s the thought that counts. he could have bought nothing. instead he not only had you in mind but those kids too. that itself should show you what a loving man he is… to think of them as well. Sure gifts are nice but dont let this wonderful man feel like he did wrong or not good enough because its ’ not what YOU wanted’. Sounds pretty selfish of you honestly. The man tried. Give him credit. You have Valentines day and a birthday too dont you. 
Trust me you will be thankful because it will give you peace when you are in the vehicle I have 4 boys and when it plays I get quiet time
Maybe get him a present that will help with the kids so he understands what ur going threw
You’re right. A woman’s life should never be 100% about the kids. Soon they will be grown and gone, and the woman will have no idea who she is anymore. However, do not allow this to ruin Christmas. He was trying. Thank him graciously for the gift. Then, next year, start talking about a couple of things you want for yourself, or (as my mom does) circle something in a catalogue and leave it lying on the bed so he has ideas of what to get you.
Take whatever you got him Back & buy You something You’d really like. Then tell him its to bring him some Peace with YOU. Or buy him something that is geared towards him with the kids too.
It’s not the gift that counts it’s the thought behind it! Your boyfriend was probably thinking about the safety of both of you in purchasing a DVD player for the car. Young children can get bored and distracted easily and with a DVD player to occupy your child it’s less likely that you will get distracted by your child as you drive so you can concentrate fully on the road and your surroundings. Your boy could have not got you anything at all for Christmas besides Christmas isn’t about presents.
You know you just don’t realise just how lucky you are. Your husband just wanted to get something that would make your life easier. He must pay attention or he wouldn’t even come up with the gift. He was only thinking of you and how he could make your driving with kids less stressful and that was his way of showing how much loves you. I wouldn’t blame him if he feels very hurt and wonders why did he even bother and probably won’t next year. I hope you didn’t let him see how ungrateful you were.
Now he should get you something personalized.
And he should not get you anything that you got to cook with or clean with.
that’s the difference between a man and a woman that men don’t know how to think about really getting a woman something for Christmas.
It’s either bedroom wear , ring or necklace or divorce papers…
But all joking aside he should get you something that’s about you your character, why he loves you, and something that reflects you!
I don’t care if I get anything or not. I am the type who puts my kids n grandkids first. But then if I want anything it is always something like a new vaccum, pots n pans and things I can use for my house.\
Personally, think you’re being overdramatic. Also not very thoughtful yourself.
Wow, you are a spoiled brat, aren’t you? Be grateful he got you something