Get out now and save the heart ache
You could always do what I did. Leave and dont say anything about the baby, till after you have it. The father didnāt believe the baby was his cause I waited so long, so we did a dna test. Now his paying child support, and he doesnāt talk to me, or even try to be in our sonās life. Donāt judge, but he was a one night stand after a break-up. I knew I could get pregnant so I told my ex about the one night stand. We both knew about the two possibilities, and he stayed with me just in case my son was his. I went through a lot of hell. He abused me my whole pregnancy, and the day before he got the dna test back. I told him to fuck off and that I was done. Luckily I did, cause he blocked me after finding out my son wasnāt his. I notified my sons father about 2 weeks after my sonās birth, to let him know he had a son. My son is now 12 months old and has never met his father, tho Iāve tried. His fiancĆØ doesnāt let him talk to me, cause he keeps cheating on her, and makes a new account on fb when he does. Some men, just donāt want to grow up.
I see lots of red flags. Children he doesnt see, he may have gotten her pregnant and now your pregnant. Please get std checked for safety of that baby and leave he will keep cheating on you. If he can put it in a different woman he wont stop, will be on to the next.
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Leave him. Keep the baby. Focus on your little family. You are better than that. Eventually you will find someone else and be happy. Thatās way to much hurt and stress to deal with for the rest of your life. In my opinion, I think the best decision is to let go of him. Keep your head up , sending love 
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Id abort the fetus and leave, other wise youāll just become one of those previous mothers, and unless you want a baby, why become another single mom left in his wake? Hes trash
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Is there proof or just a bunch of friends who probably dont like him trying to start shit. He said she said. Ask for proof.
Only about 3 red flags every sentenceā¦
You gotta do what best for you, and now your babyā¦
Heās NOT itā¦
I got the experience under my beltā¦
Please, just get out before you have it under yours tooā¦
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Heās just a breeder. Leave his sorry assā¦
Why would you stay? Get out!
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Iām sorry this sucks!
He only stated itās TRUE when he got caught.
He put through hell. I fel if he really loved u he would never cheat
All that baby mama drama gonna never end if u stay. She preggo tooā¦then u be watching him running over there claiming itās for her dr. Obgyn appt and what bout u?? U dont need that.
Its gonna be really hard to make this work if u stay. If he has parenting time with the other child u will have to spend time too and recall the disaster he created!! Horror but if u feel like u can regroup every time and love that child then deal with it.
Only u know what u can handle.
The fact that he never sees his other older kids was a red flag but ur here now so much to sort out.
Its ur life. Its ur happy end5that matters .not his.
He sounds like a real winner. 
Why would you want to keep him around?
He has kids he doesnāt even take care of? Bolt. Sounds like a loser.
Run. Go do your own thing.
Lots of red flags. Run. Your to good for him
Heās only sorry cause he got caught. He has kids youāve never even met? That he obviously aināt around for. Youāve heard about him being around with not 1 but multiple other females? Iāve thinks your gonna do the same to him that he did to you casus he feels guilty and that aināt gonna change only get worse. Now youāre pregnant And bringing a child into this mix of red flags and drama with an already dead beat dad. Strangers on the internet giving you the advice to do what you already know you should do isnāt gonna make you do it. But you now have more then just yourself to look out for. Heās not a father to his other kids. He isnāt gonna be one to yours. He didnāt stick around for their mom. Youāre not any different. Donāt mean to be blunt but itās the truth. Heās a cheater. And only confessed and apologized and ask that bs because he got caught. Not because he actually felt guilty for hurting you and doing you dirty.
Leave. I donāt know why you are even still with this skum bag! He cheated on you multiple times and now he is glued to you its because he knows you deserve better and could survive without him and be happier! Get out and show him!
How much time of yours and your childās life are you going to spend with someone who cannot be a parent to kids he already has and cannot be faithful in a relationship or even honest about it when hes caught. How disrespectful, manipulative, selfish and immature.
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Leave him. Get child support. He doesnāt respect you or your relationship. Better to deal with the heartbreak now than put your child through it later.
If u never met his kids thatās a bad sign. I say leave him cuz if heās already done it twice he will continue. & if u want to have ur baby go head girl!!!
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How long have yāall been together? The fact that he has kids and you never met them, most likely means heās a deadbeat dad. That alone says a lot about his character. The older I get, I would never date a guy that isnāt in his kids life for any reason or any excuse. I would pray that test is wrong- not someone I would want to bring kids in the world with.
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Ouch thats toughā¦i cant imagineā¦id see couples therapy and individual therapy.
Its better to speak to someone professionalā¦because he sounds sketchyā¦he might need help too
I would dump him and have the baby alone. One baby is enough. Heās not grown up or faithful.
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Is this a real? Read your question again. If your bff asked you this, what would you say to her?? Come on, nowā¦
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Wow Iād cut off his dick and throw him out!!! You got this!
Sounds like heās just to try reproduce as much as possible
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In the end u will leave, so save yourself the heartache and leave now.
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Cheating is cheating and the insecurity does not tighten the knot keep that in mind
If they cheat and get away with it theyāll do it again. Just like abuse. Once an abuser, always an abuser. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Thatās been my experience anyhow.
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Once this relationship dissolves, and it will, and you meet someone new, get to know the guy before you end up in a bad situation again. No hate, Iāve been there myself.
And having a child, makes it all the more important to be careful who bring into his/her life.
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He has full on Been cheating this whole time & heās going to continue wether you know abt it or notā¦
An infidelity is forgiven if the other person shows regret and the intention to change.
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Boyfriend and affair donāt go in the same sentence. Heās not your husband. And heās a cheater, leave.
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I would leave asap. What a liar!
Do you want to be the side chick? Cuz thatās pretty much what you are. He doesnāt love you or respect you. Also he has two women pregnant at the same time and he suppose to be with you yeah your a fool if you stay with him. Oh make sure you beat the holey hell outta him like everyday just start hitting him
Leave now dump him hell never change
I think his track record speaks for him. You really want to be attached to him?
If he really loved you he wouldnt of had an affair! Leave him save yourself from all the stress.
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You donāt sleep with and get pregnant by a man who cheated on you! Girl!!! KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!
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Leave him find someone that will love and respect you!
Leave run .he doesnt love u.its pure lust
Wow. If he is the father to your child the best thing I can tell you is that as hard as it may be for you that child has to know his father. This is a lifetime commitment to being his parents. You have to co-parent with this guy. Lots of women will tell you to leave and thatās fine. Others will tell you to file for support. Thatās fine too. Some will tell you to keep away from him and thatās where I have to disagree. He hurt you but in no way is he less a parent to that child than you are. Far too many women CONNECT father child relationship to past actions of a man. Donāt let anyone convince you that he is worthless as a FATHER. You donāt know what type of father he will be. He is clearly not a good partner for you but he is that childās father and has the same rights as you. If there is one thing to keep in mind moving forward I would say donāt get in the way of this child and his father. No one can erase stress or heartache by keeping a father out. This only prolongs pain for the child. Donāt be the cause of that pain. While some women think keeping him away is a quick fix they are right. Unfortunately for the children this causes more damage. People that purposely keep their children from knowing their father and their family are terrible people. The fact that he cheated on you is NOT a reason to hurt a child. Donāt let anyone try to convince you that this is okay because itās not. I hope that you can take this and do right by this child. Everything we do has a crazy way of coming back to us. Children will know the truth no matter what we say and do. That is a fact. Love your child enough. Grieve this pain but donāt pass it on to the child.
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All I read is the title. Leave him. Respect yourself enough to not put up with all that shit
So yourve never met his kids yet u go and get pregnant to himš¤¦āāļø stop being weak and leave him. Get some self worth in ya
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Girl get out while you can
Use a period ā¦damn
He should be worried that youāll find someone else, cause thatās what you should doš¤¦š½āāļø
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Oh my god, the fact that he has kids and you have never met them is a big turn off! Like worthless!!! And he cheated!! Bye Felicia!!!
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Get out now donāt wait ruuuuuunnnn
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Why are you with him in the first place when he has kids he doesnāt see?? What makes you think he will be apart of your childās life when heās not apart of the otherās lives? Iād leave.
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Danielle Malek 
Can we please start separating thoughts and sentences and paragraphs.
Almost every question makes my eyes hurt trying to sort it outā¦
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Buck up and be a role model to your child by kicking this loser to the curb and demonstrate how a woman should be treated.
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Take it to the STEVE WILKO SHOW
So easy to say leave, truthfully its not that easy. You know what you should do. That being said love does crazy things and if you feel like you still wantt to be with him than stay but, move on from the past and build your life. Its hard but if thats what you want than do it. If not than do the other thing and leave. At the end of the day none of us on here live in your shoes, make the best choice that you can stand by on your own.
Good luck 
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Leave all of that alone. Heās a liar- he will always twist shit up. You donāt know his kids- thatās a red flag. He doesnāt appreciate you or take you seriously.
Oh my goshā¦ Leave now while you still can. Just go. Donāt think about it. Youāre pregnant but that doesnāt mean you should stay, heās already lied and cheated. Time to end it.
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He wont change and is full ofā¦ run
Kick him to the curb!
U deserve so much better than this manā¦please run and dont look backā¦he loves the thrill of the chase and by the time he grows up, there will most likely be alot more unwanted children at least on his part. No.child deserves that either.
Sooooo is he a dead beat ? I mean if you never met his children that means heās never around, he cheated on you and now youāre pregnant ? 
imagine that life
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The word is and. Iām sorry thatās driving me crazy.
Leave him. End of story.
The more you forgive him the more he will love you. But each time you forgive him you will love him a little less. Might as well cut your losses now instead of wasting time
How people get with others that donāt take care of their kids and expect change is beyond me.
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Leave right now! Red flag number 1: He has cheated with someone that he has a past with BUT doesnāt trust you and thinks you will sleep with someone else. Red flag number 2: She may be pregnant so he is either irresponsible or he just doesnāt give a shit (probably both). Red flag number 3: he lied when you found out and lied initially when he said he was going to stay with his mom for a few days. So him cheating was something he planned in advance to do NOT āJust a one time thing.ā Red flag number 4: He has kid(s) already but has no intentions of being a father so if youāre pregnant by him, plan on him not stepping up as he will likely run from his responsibilities like he has been doing.
Iām sorry I donāt mean to sound harsh but guys like that donāt usually change and you deserve better. I know you probably have feelings for him so I know itās easy for us to tell you to leave but please know that no matter how strong those feelings are, no matter how much you love him right now, it will all go away with time and you will suffer less if you leave now and let time do itās thing. If you stay with him, you will be hurt by him over and over. He will likely keep cheating and you canāt trust him (you shouldnāt trust him and thatās his fault, not yours) itās damn near impossible to have a healthy relationship without trust but the main thing is that he does not care about you or the relationship. Good people who genuinely care do not do the things heās been doing. Be strong and see his behavior exactly for what it is! Best of luck to you and I hope you get away from him so you can have a real shot at happiness 
Move on with someone who wonāt do that to you and will be a father OR stay and be lied to with a deadbeatā¦ JS
I was in that situation. I left. Iād rather be a single Mom than a sad, worried, always feeling betrayed, stuck somewhere Iām unhappy and full of doubt kinda Mom. My feelings affect my kids feelings, I want them to know its NOT ok to be treated like that, its unacceptable
Wellā¦ He got you and another female pregnant he already has kids I mean when you said he already had kids he doesnāt even see that right there alone was a red flag. I would not at all stay with him regardless that your pregnant this guy canāt not be in a committed relationship and it will get much worse if you stay youāll lose yourself because it will continually happen break it off and do this
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He sounds like a real winner
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Leaveā¦ simple as that while you can, go!
Run leave him. If he cheated once. He will do it again. Being prego you can do it God bless
Cheaters cheat, trust will never be the same, ever. Choose your life or the life of constant worry.
Heās not gonna change run for the hills girl!!
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He might say the baby isnāt his but turn and say I am NOT like you and walk away. Went through that with my husband. Our son was born and a clone of him. Ended that. When you are able get a job and childcare and see what happens with him. Some men change, mine didnāt. I had heard things before in our first 4 years but trusted him and ignored. Become independent so you know your baby and you can do it alone. Emotionally and financially but child support would be warranted. I went back to work when my son was 3 months as I waited to see how things went. Depends on what you want to put up with in staying. Proās and Conās. I had been with my husband for 4 years before we married. Total years together was 10.
Moving out of state lol
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Put you and you baby first he will do it agen and agen and agen he has now become insecure because of his actions wont be long he will try to control you and manipulate you to the point you have felt you have done wrong just remember now if he makes you feel like its your fault and you know for sure it aint he is trying to control you let him know you deserve to have love and affection not stress it will play your mind a milly
Why leave him now? If you got pregnant after you knew he was with her, then whatās the point of tripping off it now?
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Dump him soo fast his head will spin
Why would you even need to think, leave his ass
Run as fast as you can
Run Run Run he a looser and does not care about anyone
Why have unprotected sex while u already knew that info?
Having a baby does5keep a man or make him loyal
Have the baby
But also know hes a big fat lier. U would be happier without him being ur true love cuz its not
Cheaters donāt change, youāre not even married. He hasnāt even introduced you to his kids. He doesnāt seem serious about your relationship or respects it. Iād leave.
Id pick up my self respect and dignity and RUN far away from him
Run. Run like the wind.
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Leave him now. Once a cheater always a cheater. Once thereās a doubt everything he says & does youāll doubt.
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Stay with him, itās what you will do anyway 
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Have his children it will keep him around lol 
Leaveā¦ Life is entirely to short to be with someone who doesnāt respect and cherish you the same way you do them. If he wasnāt man enough to confess on his own before getting caught, lied etcā¦ Heās not worth it!
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Why r u still with him. Once a cheater. Always a cheater.
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run for the hills huniā¦ he ent ever gonna change . find someone who loves you and respects you cuz he doesnt
Dump this lying, cheating POS and donāt look back!!!
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They never lie just once!!!
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This is a sad situation but you should have considered having a child with him knowing his past ā¦ leave his ass!!
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Fuckboy alertā¦turn and walk. Never look back. Focus on yourself and your future
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Run run run for the hills
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If he has left other children he will leave again. Run as far away as possible. Keep your pride
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He has children from a previous relationship and youāve never met themā¦?? Thereās your #1 answer!
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It took alot of time and effort to type out that whole storyā¦ Would take alot less of both to tell him bye.
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Leave him it wonāt stop!! the pregnancy will have you busy with planning for your child and him cheating more heāll use your mood swings due to hormone changes as a reason to cheat an if youāve never met his kids that tells you a baby coming wont change him heās already a POS dad
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Lies and more lies! You know whatās going on, break it off, because he will hurt you again.