I have a question. I was talking to my new boyfriend for about a year, and at that time, we hadn’t made it known that we were actively pursuing each other. We were just friends who began liking each other. He lives in Texas; I live in Connecticut. In that time, about six months into us talking(in Sept 2020), I started talking to someone else and got into a very brief relationship which I honestly regret. That is when my friend told me how he felt about me and that he wanted to be with me. He remained a friend and did not pursue me, so I began talking to someone else for a few weeks. That went nowhere other than just conversation. Months later, I began talking to someone else when my friend again tells me he wants to be with me in a relationship. I ended the conversation with the new person and focused solely on my friend. He booked a trip here, and we decided to make it official and continue with a long-distance relationship. The plan was for me to move to Texas in July with my daughter. The problem now is that he continues to bring up what I did, calling me an h** and telling me he is disgusted that I was intimate with the person from September. He will not drop it. I’ve apologized, I’ve given him my passwords, I don’t talk to anyone except him, I’ve deleted people that were literally just friends whom he felt threatened by… he can’t move on. I am not asking him to forget what I did, but I am asking him to move on. He and I weren’t official till March 2021. I don’t feel I should continuously be condemned for something I did when I was single. Am I wrong?
If you all were talking then you shouldn’t have been talking to two other people. 
And those are red flags think about your daughter and if the way he is reacting healthy for her.
Ditch him. It’s only gonna get worse. He can’t let it go now it won’t get any better.
girl too much cut your losses and move on
Call it off it will only get worse
IMO If you two weren’t official then you didn’t do anything wrong… if he feels that you did and can’t get over it then I would move on to someone else… that amount of jealousy in a relationship is not healthy
You’re not wrong and this is already screaming toxic insecurity to me! Time to reevaluate if he’s already name calling and insecure
No, and you know the answer.
RUUUUUUUUN!!!
RUN!!! Not walk!!! Away from him!!! It will only get worse!!! He is NOT a man if he is calling you a h!!! It will only get worse!!! Stay where you are and enjoy your daughter and your life!!! You guys were NOT official so he needs to get over it or kick rocks!!! But the fact that he calls you ugly names means he has NO respect for you or anyone else!!!
End it now too many red flags to uproot your life
Run 
away toxic behavior
Do you seriously have to ask what to do? Don’t move if he is bring up something from when you weren’t even speaking anymore he is controlling
Major red flags!!!
Why should u be deleting friends that are just that?
And if he feels OK with that then his morals and integrity are in serious question.
U carry on pandering to his jealousy… you will make it ten times worse… and how dare he call u names!!!
U were single end of… be very stern with him and tell him to stop it right now… or forget the relationship.
U carry that relationship on without setting firm boundaries days now… u and ur daughter will be living in hell where u won’t be allowed out to the local shop…
Seriously he is so out of order … for the jealous and calling u names.
Billions of men in this world and you choose this toxic relationship. Don’t move your daughter to another state to live with an abusive man. Protect her at all costs.
Red flags. Save your child and yourself a lot of issues and don’t move. I personally would cut ties.
Don’t go! Sounds like a narcissist! 
and I definitely wouldnt make a move with my child(ren) that I don’t actually know other then long distance and once to meet!
Leave!!! Narcissistic controlling behavior.
Byyee
Run, fast and don’t look back! Nothing good is going to come from you uprooting your daughter and moving that far away. He’s already showing his true colors. It’s not going to magically get better. And if you’re talking to someone and your trying for a relationship with that person don’t talk to other people.
I would tell him to fuck all the way off. You cannot get pissed off at something someone did before you got together. Huge red flag.
So many red flags for abuse here. Do not move there. End the relationship and move on. Do not trust him at all
He sounds very immature
He’s a controlling person don’t move cut the ties
You are not in the wrong.
Leave. Now. It will only get worse.
You are not wrong, he is. I always think that they’re on their “good” behavior early in the relationship, so be prepared for this controlling and shaming to worsen with time. Dump him now…
I definitely wouldn’t be moving many miles away for someone like that… he’s showing signs of controlling and that’s not a good start to any relationship.
DO NOT MOVE THERE, you will regret it!!
It’s him requesting the passwords for me
Apparently in his mind you were in a relationship you knew nothing about. But sounds like he is controlling. Say no. Find someone else.
Leave him… it will turn into an abusive relationship
If he’s this controlling and insecure it will only get worse when you’re isolated and living with him. This is classic gaslighting tactics listen to the women on this post to many red flags.
No you aren’t wrong. That’s crazy. Trust me run from him. Don’t give it a second thought. You will end up stuck in a marriage where they suck out all of your confidence and you feel trapped. He will start doing things to you that are hurtful then deny it when you talk to him about it. Just leave and don’t look back.
Dump him. That’s ridiculous. If he’s like that now think of how disgustingly controlling and mean he’ll be going forward.
Don’t get Involved with that, it will only get worse
Run girl. If he’s calling you names for some history of your life, run. Trust me on this it will not get better
He is soooo not worthy. End it!
Don’t move! He sounds very controlling. He either has to move on from this issue he made in his head because you were not together. And obviously he has shown you he can’t do that. Also he may be just doing it as a way to control you. These are giant red flags. I would end things with him and definitely don’t move to be with him.
Girl, run. If he’s that way now, it will only get worse. Been there, done that.
Yikes girl. This is ALLLL fucking bad. 
Him calling you a “hoe” means he has NO respect for women. Is that REALLY the guy you want raising your daughter?
You dont even live in the same state and hes already controllinf. I dont think thatd be a safe choice for yout, or your child… dont do it.
That’s the beginning of a controlling and abusive relationship. Break it off now and DO NOT move!
Run! It sounds like that will never end! He will ALWAYS bring it up!
… Red flags!!! Dont move in with that guy… Run!
This will never stop. You will never be happy.
Run away from him. It will get worse
My boyfriend does this too. It’s awful. For him it goes beyond normal emotion because he has issues from being abandoned by his bio mom when he was really little, like at times he’ll come to me in a seemingly psychotic state if I let him wake up without me next to him…and his jealousy gets really out of control really easily and he rewrites history about times when we weren’t together and gets very insulting which isn’t at all like his normal personality. I suppose you could say it’s no measure of good health to be well adjusted to a sick society in situations like this. The phenomenon of male jealousy amounts to a real pathology for my boyfriend and it seems like for yours. Mine’s issues improved a lot when he decided to stop drinking, just a thought. Beyond that I can really only offer solidarity.
If he is acting like this before you are even living together think what it will be like when you are. When you are thousands of miles from home and I am guessing your family.
Do. Not. Move. Do. Not. Continue. This. Relationship. End it. And END IT NOW.
So many red flags. #1 long distance relationships are hard when you didn’t start out long distance. You literally started this relationship with a huge distance.
#2 you have to move in with someone you barely know. You’re putting your daughter in this situation??? Umm no!
#3 he’s emotionally abusive & controlling. You should never apologize to someone for something you did without any commitment. Him calling you names & making you feel bad is control & abuse.
GET RID OF HIM NOW! Tell him you will be treated that way. It’s over. No conservation, don’t give him a chance to get you to change your mind. Say it then immediately block him on everything. Cut him off completely. I hope that’s it. But if he doesn’t take no for an answer, continues to contact you or God forbid goes to your house move & get a restraining order.
Girl, end it. You know that’s abuse and that’s why you’re here. You can’t change people like that. End it and move on with your life and love YOURSELF the way you deserve to be loved by another and one day you will attract the right person.
Leave before things are difficult to recover from. ‘Don’t dig the hole deeper’
Girl, just RUN!
Don’t uproot your daughter & move half way across the country when this guy acts like a complete dipshit.
He’s Not gonna let it go.
He’s insecure & got major trust issues.
And more than likely, he “hung out” or slept with someone in the interim before you became official & is just projecting his issues onto you.
Do not move in with this man. He is over possessive and jealous. Things will only get worse if you move in with him, he sounds like he may eventually become abusive.
If you won’t stay away from him for your own sake, do it for your daughter’s.
Do not think he will get better once the distance is no longer an issue. He will have more physical control over you once you are there. He will find something new to stir over. The man at the grocery store. A co worker , whomever.
Do not walk away from him…RUN as fast as you can!!! He’s a narcissist and it will only get worse as time goes on!!!
Way too obsessed!! Red flag alert!! You can have friends, he sounds too controlling!! Run as fast as you can
Stop the relationship if he’s going to be like that it’s going to turn toxic quick and he’s going to end up being controlling.
Run!! If you move there, it will get worse.
End it. If not for you then for your daughter. It will only get worse.
Don’t go. Do. Not. Do. This!
Run. Nope. Controlling. Y’all were JUST FRIENDS and he’s calling you out? Hell naw.
Leave him now. He’s possessive and can’t move on. Change your passwords. The relationship will be controlling and abusive.
That boy is rotten. Throw him out and start from scratch
Like others have stated… RUN!
Run run run. He’s already abusive. Don’t move. Block him. Danger danger
Bad way to start. Too controlling.
Everyone whose already commented is 
right! This is a big red flag, even if he says he’s over it he won’t ever let it go, you are better off not moving in with him and being stuck. I’d move on…
He sounds like an ass who is insecure and wants you to himself but isn’t mature enough for a mutual relationship
This is abuse and no matter how wonderful he may seem now this is a definite red flag if you’ve discussed it and done all the reasonable things to help him feel secure and he is still behaving this way then he know precisely what he is doing and it’s not ok
Drop him. It will get worse when you move in. You do not want your daughter nor yourself around that.
Red flags out the ASS. Please don’t continue being with this douchebag. You were single. Maybe he should have actually asked you out or said he wanted a relationship with you instead of “I like you.” If he can’t comprehend you were single at the time then I don’t even wanna know what other misunderstandings he has in his head.
Take this as a red flag
He’s overly possessive and already controlling you from a distance. Imagine in person. Beware
Not wrong don’t up root your life because of him.
Run now. He is emotionally abusive toward you. It will only be a matter of time before he become physically abusive toward you
You are teaching your daughter that this behavior is ok to expect. No matter how young she is and how you dont think she will pick up on it, she will. Is this what you want for her future? I know its hard when you really care, but love yourself and your daughter more.
Leave that asshole. OR IT WILL GET MESSIER FOR YOU IF YOU MOVE IN WITH HIM. Save yourself from any forms of abuse you will be getting from him. He’s the one who’s disgusting.
Run away. This is text book control. Don’t isolate yourself even more by moving there. Do not move. Cut ties immediately
Run and do not move!! It’s only going to get worse if you move there!
Don’t bother getting serious and moving in with him I’m married for 12 years and I still have the same issue with my husband that it has even made me drift away from him
Break up with him, he’s toxic.
Control is a big red flag!!! It’s starting already. Next is isolation which is already starting. Don’t do it sweetie. Just don’t do it
He’s already isolating you from people. That’s a big red flag.
He is showing you exactly who he is!!! BELIEVE HIM!!!
IF that’s not clear enough for you… PLEASE for the sake of your child, follow your own advice and MOVE ON!
PS- you don’t need friends like that (that call you a h** either! )
Oh baby run, change all of your passwords, block him, move on and leave him where he is please. Good people don’t manipulate other people, he’s abusing you and if you get there the abuse could spread to your daughter too. Protect yourself and your baby and cut it off right now, don’t leave him room to come back into your life because he will try. Please, please, please end the entire “relationship” now before any more damage is done
Girl fuckn run fast!!! If red flags could be any redder they would smack the shit out of you!! Don’t you dare move anywhere with this man and your daughter. Stay single do you. Let a man prove his worthyness by action. You and your daughter are precious. No man deserves you until he proves to be safe and committed. Not controlling. Not emotionally abusive. Please just do you and your single moms shit. Don’t let any man treat you like this.
I would see this as a good thing . You don’t need to move in with a guy who is that much of an asshole
Get out of that situation ASAP. It’ll only get worse. That’s no friend, and no way to treat someone. He shouldn’t need your passwords and he shouldn’t control who your friends are.
Nope. Believe me that relationship will never work and the toxicity is very obvious. He will not change now, he will never change later so save yourself & your daughter.
The only thing wrong about this situation would be if you stayed with that loser, he is nothing but trouble. Dump him fast and don’t look back.
Move on. Someone that truly cares about you isn’t going to call you names like that. Big red flag
Sounds like a huge narcissist. Time to leave him where he is at and move on. Don’t move and don’t involve your child around him. He sounds like a huge manipulator and extremely toxic.
Break up with him now. You will be making the biggest mistake moving to texas with him. He is already controling you and you and him are not in the same state together or living together.
You just said he’s calling you a hoe. That was enough right there to end it🤷🏽♀️ don’t let him get comfortable disrespecting you it’ll only get worse.
You have only been together for two months and he has already started to isolate you (before you have even moved) from friends/support systems, has access ie. control over your social media, is gaslighting you so you think you may be the cause, and so on and so on. You and your daughter deserve better. If you wouldn’t be happy with your daughter being in a relationship like this one then you need to run because she is looking to you for how she should be treated and what a healthy relationship looks and feels like. If he is emotionally and mentally abusive like this from across the country and after only a couple months what do you think the abusive progression will be if he gets you to move there? This is a bad situation, girl. Change your passwords, block his number, and take some time to reevaluate your worth then find someone you and your daughter deserve.
Sound like a very controlling boyfriend to me that is insecure.
Dump him!
Well this is all indications of the hell you have to look forward to if you ever make him mad or disappoint him and it’s all awful and not ok. He does not have any say over you you are not property and you don’t owe him passwords or to prove your worth to him now. This behavior is not ok and if escalated will lead to physical violence. I would apologize and be done and if he can’t accept that as an adult and a human being than that’s all on him. Do NOT let him make you feel awful for what you did when you were not in a relationship with him. You did nothing wrong. Good luck and stay safe.
Do not move. Leave. He professes feelings for you every time you get interested in someone else and then brings it up like you did something wrong when yall were not together. Nope huge red flags. Run run fast.
Noo do not go to Texas.
RUN No one should ever call you names. Is this the relationship you want to model for your DAUGHTER ? Block and move on this is abusive AF:triangular_flag_on_post: