Copied from another, because um yes, this!
You have only been together for two months and he has already started to isolate you (before you have even moved) from friends/support systems, has access ie. control over your social media, is gaslighting you so you think you may be the cause, and so on and so on. You and your daughter deserve better. If you wouldn’t be happy with your daughter being in a relationship like this one then you need to run because she is looking to you for how she should be treated and what a healthy relationship looks and feels like. If he is emotionally and mentally abusive like this from across the country and after only a couple months what do you think the abusive progression will be if he gets you to move there? This is a bad situation, girl. Change your passwords, block his number, and take some time to reevaluate your worth then find someone you and your daughter deserve.
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if he can’t get over it move on
You were single? He has no right to be angry at it in all honesty, bet if he had done it and you got upset he wouldn’t care because he was single. Sounds toxic already. Personally the “relationship” doesn’t sound worth it, move on from it.
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Don’t be with anyone who calls you names. Like, ever.
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Thats a narcissistic man right there get the fuck out while you still can ive been there and done that and dont wish it upon anyone
up stay where you are this has the very makings of a toxic abusive relationship for you and your daughter’s sake don’t do it he is way out of line and if he is calling you derogative names now and having moments about things that were actually none of his business then think about what your future could/would look like
Get out don’t let him do this he’s not the one
If he’s already disrespectful, block him and move on. Big fat red flag!
There’s the warning signs of how things will be if you stay with him. I’d advise you to cut ties with him.
Honestly he needs to let that stuff go, it sounds like he’s starting to be a bit controlling and possessive about it… super unhealthy.
Let’s see you was just friends he lost his chance not 1 but 2 times. F*** that bs!! You did nothing wrong at all don’t beat yourself up over trash.
Don’t move!!! Tell him to kick rocks. He is already being abusive and it will only get worse when he has you where he wants you
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Red flags, thats controlling as, and toxic, you will not be happy with him if he’s made a huge issue about this already, he will make issues about everything, and sounds like he has alot of work to do on himself before getting into a relationship.
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Honey this will just progress once he has moved you away from your support network. He is possessive and controlling and once he has you completely beaten down so that you have no fight left, he will never let you go. If you can’t run for yourself, please please do it for your daughter.
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I’d say run. That’s just the beginning of a very toxic situation.
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Girl, that is signs of a narcissist. If he’s showing you how he is right now, the name calling is going to get worse. The fact he only told you he wanted to be with you when you were with someone else (if he knew then) that’s him wanting you to entertain him and no one else. And it sounded like he knew what was going on when it was happening so constantly bringing it up now to make you feel guilt isn’t okay. That boy is mentally abusing you and it’ll get worse if you stay with him.
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Do not move to Texas. This my friend is what we call A RED FLAG
Lots of red flags here. Run away from this guy and don’t look back.
Girl pls don’t bring your child into that kind of relationship! Get away from him while you can
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Run away and fast! Huge red flags with him calling you names and is already possessive and controlling.
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Girl don’t move in with him he is already insulting you his sounds controlling him having you password removing friends he feels threatened by his already being abusive remember it starts this way
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Its time to just be done with this relationship before it goes any further holy shit red flags if he’s this much of a control monster when you don’t live in the same state what will it be like loving together stay away you have a daughter to protect
RUN! narcissist, controlling etc…imo, I would def end things and def NOT uproot my child for a little boy who doesn’t know how to treat a woman right!! Know your worth beautiful lady!!!
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You definitely do not want to move to Texas to be with that guy …
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Stop the relationship. Now. You haven’t moved yet, you weren’t dating, and he’s gaslighting you. It’s all your fault now and it always will be.
My ex husband would get so angry because i had a life before us that he called me whore. And swore i was still sleeping with my exs .he beat me and tried to kill me because he wouldn’t believe me.i wasnt allowed to lookup at anyone I had to look at rhe ground and he smashed my phones anytime id get one .i wasn’t allowed to speak to my family because they could be allowing me to speak to my exs.mind you this man has 6 kids who he wasnt taking care of said he had more .amd he was cheating on me.he finally left me and our son after 4 years of us enduring horrendous things and him being in jail 3 times for beating me .they will accuse yoy if they are doing it cause when he left us it was for his ex
dont be with him he sounds controlling and super jealous
I agree with the red flags. Please don’t put your daughter in a relationship with this boy. You both deserve better than him
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Run away before is too late. So many red flags. If you continue with him you will regret it, he sounds like a narcissist. Run before he destroys you
Red flags, leave him. You don’t need that bs.
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Sis, you better run. No one who respects you is going to speak to you like that. And that’s already signs of abusive behavior and he sounds toxic as hell.
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Break it off NOW !!! If he can’t get over it and calls you names he too immature to be in any relationship. Sounds like he is too controlling as well if you have had to drop friends just because he is " threatened by them " Don’t move there and give up your life to live under his thumb. You and your daughter will be sorry. Js
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Narcissism at it’s best. Run girl, and run far away!.
It will only get worse after you move. Leave him there. Stay where you are so you and your daughter are safe.
Girl I hope you’re not moving. Major red flags
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You need to change your passwords and block him from everything.
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Put your running shoes on and lace those bitches up tight. 1…2…3…go!!! Get tf away from him now.
red flags don’t move there and don’t be with someone like that period. do not put you and your daughter into that toxic situation because it will most likely end badly
Good lord that is bright red flag!! He sounds crazy controlling & toxic! Break it off immediately girl! If he’s already jealous & you’re states away, imagine how it will be in person!
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Throw the whole fucking man away. Don’t move. He’s being abusive and will continue to be abusive. Once you are away from everyone you know, the abuse will get worse.
Sounds like he’s isolating you from your peers. Huge red flag.
He’s controlling, stay in CT
Girl WALK AWAY! Leave that whole mess behind. Cut him out of your life completely. You don’t need that kind of toxic bullshit. DO NOT MOVE IN WITH HIM! DON’T DO IT! You will be MISERABLE and he will make sure of it!
He’s controlling, run, fast!
You were not even together.
No one needs to be reminded of the past. You know your past, it’s really non of his business. Find someone that loves you and your child.
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You do not want to live this way for the rest of your life, do you? Take it from someone who lived this life for 15 years. You will regret it. You will lose yourself. Your daughter will not know how she is supposed to be treated in a relationship. Please, hold higher standards for yourself. You are worthy of so much more.
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Run away as fast as you can! That’s def not a healthy relationship. Major red flags. Don’t put you and your daughter in that situation, you will feel absolutely stuck.
Do not move in with him! Change your passwords. You absolutely did NOT do anything wrong! Cut things off with him and don’t look back.
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This is toxic and emotionally abusive behavior… You two weren’t together, you did nothing wrong.
Cut him off. Now, before you get even more attached.
This isn’t a good basis for a relationship. He doesn’t care about/for you, he doesn’t love you… He wants to own you.
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End that situation and move on…it won’t get better
Don’t do it stay where you are at,stay friends
Please don’t go. He thinks your trapped enough and the verbal abuse will be even worse. Delete and block and move on.
I think you should move on. He doesn’t trust you and probably never will. Do you want to continue being blamed ?
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Run TF AWAY!! He’s already acting like a weirdo and it will only get worse girl…
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No respectful man will ever call a woman a h*e…EVER! Do not…I repeat, DO NOT put you or your daughter into a relationship with him…especially in another state, so far away from friends and family. You have a daughter, how would you feel if a man was calling her degrading names? You would probably tell her to run…you need to do the same. He’s pulling you away from everyone you know and slowly grooming you…next thing you know he will cut off any communication with your family and complete seclude you so that no one else knows how he’s actually treating you. I’ve been in this situation and I know how it ends. Don’t make the same mistake…
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Do not uproot your child and life for a controlling ass
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Run! It won’t get any better once you move. He sounds very insecure and not a place you need to move your daughter to.
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If it hasn’t been said already, get out now. Everything here is a red flag. Nothing to bring a child into.
Whoa. Run,run fast! Red flag galore
He is showing you who he is believe him!! Like others said he is waving a fed flags.
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Drop him … you didn’t do anything wrong except exercise your right to a relationship with who you chose. You deserve better than this and he’s not going to get better.
Change your passwords back, get your friends back and kick this ass to the curb. If he’s controlling you from another state, and treats you this way. Imagine how bad it will be in person, away from everyone.
Sounds like a narcissistic behaviour.
Drop this relationship…
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Do not move to Texas. Leave him! He’s a little boy
RUN FAST. Imagine moving to another state with a man that is already disrespecting you from afar. Also, change your passwords to something he doesn’t know. He’s giving you HUGE red flags.
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He’s cheating and feels insecure, move on with yourself and find someone better. There’s always more fish in the sea.
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Wait you have a daughter… and want to be with a man who called you out your name?
Girl!!! Drop him.
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Girl kick his child ass to the curb and find yourself someone who isn’t so insecure and childish about what happened BEFORE you two were even an item.
Do not move with him!
Run ! That is a major red flag to be so possessive and controlling. Just my opinion
Listen if he is already doing these things to you and you aren’t even living together he is abusive and controlling Google power and control wheel. Don’t move in with him. Honestly it is probably best to just end the relationship now as it will only get worse if you move in together especially of you are miles away from your family or anyone that you can run to.
Toxic af don’t take your daughter around this man to grow up thinking controlling behaviour is normal. Leave his stupid ass
Red flag! That’s a narcissist if I’ve ever heard of one! Do not get your child involved in a relationship like that!
You have a real obligation to your daughter to keep her safe. If you won’t do it for you do it for her… he is a self centered individual who has already had you drop friends on his behalf. Wake up… run like hell the other way…
March 2021 was only two months ago! Run girl, run.
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So, different perspective here…my husband and I separated last year, he moved on rather quickly. Now, we are working on things. I know it’s slightly different bc y’all did not have the past relationship, but this is where I stand on the situation. I had questions and still have insecurities about our relationship. I do not in anyway agree with calling you a hoe, but he is insecure in y’all relationship and probably needs reassurance. I have passwords and hubs has deleted people, but without the constant reassurance, it’s hard to get over. It’s hard to feel like you aren’t easily replaceable and with the distance between y’all, I’m sure his mind wonders a lot more. Hubs feels like he shouldn’t have to keep paying for the things that happened and that they shouldn’t matter bc we weren’t actually together. I know it’s a pain to have to constantly reassure someone, and I hate that I throw that pressure on him, but I think the only way to help someone get over their insecurities is to do so (or at least that’s what I’m feeling I need to get back to where we once were). Once he feels secure in the relationship, he may calm down. I would definitely take it day by day and make sure it’s better before you make that move.
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Girl RUN. RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!. Hes trying to manipulate you. Hes trying to break you down by making you feel bad about something that you have no reason to feel bad about. Google signs of a manipulative partner and I bet he will check more than just one box. Please get away as fast as you can. If he’s like this in a long distance relationship then he’s going to be 100x worse when yall aren’t long distance
If he’s already calling you stuff imagine how he will treat you while living together. You don’t need him especially if you have a daughter end things now. And if you try to end things and he apologizes or asks for a second chance don’t!! Just security him off now
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Don’t move in together! This sounds like your giving up to much control over your life to him. Stay near family and don’t give up friends to make him happy.
Girl the second he called you a hoe and started slut shaming you, you should have BEEN dropped his ass!!! It will only get worse!
do not move in with someone comfortable enough to call you a hoe, before yall even in the same state.
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Think about your child! Is this really a question? Because why would you even consider moving in with someone who seems like he would beat you senseless if you were in his home over bs that happened when you were single! Just think about your daughter.
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You will never be able to move on with him he will never never forget or forgive you move on without him. Had the same thing happen and if I went with girl friends and he knew these women I was a who’re.
Babe, that is a giant RED:stop_sign: flag. Please block him and move on with your life, you deserve better.
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If he’s calling you names now, it’s only going to get worse.
#narcassist
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Wow that sounds possessive. He isn’t for you. Let him go…luckily its already long distance.
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He sounds possessive and emotionally abusive… id get you while you can. Before moving. Don’t put yourself and especially your child in that situation
Those are red flags and you shouldnt be considering moving to a different state where you wont know anyone! Sounds like the perfect recipe for a controlling narcissistic relationship. You’ve already removed friends and his control is so apparent. Be smarter than him, remove him from your friends list
Good luck
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I see a paragraph of red flags! Please dont move thousands of miles away from family to be with someone that is already this narcissistic and abusive. Especially with your baby. I wish you all the luck and good vibes.
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Girl DO NOT move in with him. This is the beginning of him trying to abuse you. He is mentally breaking you down over something you have no reason to be guilty of. You were single. He was JUST a friend then. Sounds very controlling. Think of your daughter please!!!
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Leave. That is textbook narcissistic behavior
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DO NOT MOVE TO TEXAS!
He is toxic and being emotionally abusive whether you see it or not. The worse thing you could do for yourself and your daughter is to move 1000s of miles from your home to live with him.
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I didnt even need to.finish reading to be able to tell you that’s abuse…I would not be moving to live with him,
Not the one for you babe!
Absolutely not in the wrong and you should run!
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Cut your loses change your passwords and get your ass out of this relationship. It is not good news.
Please don’t move you and your daughter to be with him at this time, if he’s treating you like this now if you move in with him it will be 20 times worse, this is a form of abuse. You did nothing wrong when you weren’t even in a committed relationship. You deserve better than him!
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How does he know? And don’t move your daughter in please. If you were going yourself that would be one thing but don’t take a child there. You need to cut it off.
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You shouldn’t have to stop talking to anybody and everybody and isolate yourself to make him happy. It’ll never work!! You deserve better… good luck!