Already controlling, imagine what it would be like if you lived with him. Alarm bells are ringing loud and clear. Heed them.
Yeah no. I wouldn’t even date this person but that’s just me.
Break it off and stay where you are. He will only get more possessive once you move in with him. He’s already abusing you. No real man would ever call you a h**. He will not be a good role model for your daughter. Stay clear. You’ve only had a few months of a “committed” relationship with him. You’re not losing out on anything. I promise.
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You did nothing wrong. You need to leave him though. He’s abusing you. That’s called coercive control. And it will only escalate if you continue your relationship with him. You don’t deserve that
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Oh nahhhhhh girl your first red flag was him only confessing his feelings etc only when you showed interest in someone else. He already felt like you were his property or something before yall were even together. Please don’t move there, even if he never gets physical with you that will definitely lead to some heavy emotional abuse. Hes already doing it by manipulating you into cutting everyone off. Cut it off or keep his behind in the friend zone indefinitely.
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RUN. change your passwords and MOVE ON, this is a nightmare waiting to happen!!
If he speaks to you that way now… imagine how abusive and controlling it will become there.
Don’t put you or your daughter in that situation… move on!
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Can you say “HUGE RED FLAG” honey, run dont walk…
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Ummmm he calls u a hoe! Enough said. Move on. He isn’t the one girl
Run, don’t walk, away from him as fast as you can. He is degrading you, trying to control you and it will not get better. That’s a red flag warning.
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My advice to you is to run the other way. He is only going to get worse and you do not not want to live under that kind of stress and intimidation.
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Girl cut him off and run… please
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These are the red flags they tell you about before it gets worse! He either needs to either quit his shit & start acting like a grown ass adult or he can be single again and miss out on YOU!
Break it off. That’s not healthy at all. Nobody should be in a relationship with someone that degrades them on their past.
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Don’t bother he will never get over that
Red flag 
he’s controlling and manipulative and is already basically trying to isolate you. The past is the past anything you did while you were single should not be thrown back in your face because you weren’t in a relationship.
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If a man called me hoe he would be gone!! No man gets to you names like that disgusting
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My ex to a tee! I’m telling you now, LEG IT! As fast as you can
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Do not ever give anyone your passwords! Change them, noone should ever be that in control that they have access to these
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Red flags! Please end it now. It’s never going to be better then the start of the relationship so imagine how he will act toward you then. Not the kind of relation ship you need or should have your daughter around
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Do not put your child in that type if environment.
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Oh god don’t even get involved with him, it won’t be healthy for you or your daughter
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He’s gaslighting you, you did nothing wrong. LEAVE HIS ASS
Break it off, that’s not the way to start a relationship at all, you shouldn’t have to break up with your friends or change for a man at all.
Leave him, do not move for him. Don’t you find it strange that you were just friends talking and he wasn’t interested in a relationship until someone else was? He doesn’t want to be your boyfriend he wants to own you and control you. Your like the last toy on the shelf, he’s happy to walk right past until he sees someone else grabbing it and then, mine.
He’s already being jealous and controlling - that will just get worse and probably more abusive. He doesn’t trust you when you have been nothing but faithful since establishing your relationship - chances are that lack of trust comes from his actions not yours - he’d cheating.
I can see him getting bored of you and you being alone and homeless somewhere where you know no one. Or buried under his patio. Be smart and part
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That’s not a friend, let alone a boyfriend. That’s an asshole.
Red Flags honey. You deserve better… Do not leave your home, family and friends for him. Then he will have total control over you which is what he wants. Dump him, this isn’t love.
Immature. Let him go.
Do not go!! Cut ties with him hes toxic and it will only get worse!.
In all honesty…leave him. He isn’t going to get over it. He’s immature. In the future though don’t do that. You called him your friend first. & you don’t do that to a friend. Were you at least honest about seeing other people? That’s definitely a conversation that should’ve been had! You also said that he told you how he felt and that was that. Did you express an interest too? Maybe that’s why he didn’t make his move sooner. “Talking” to someone for a year is pretty serious. I mean even if he didn’t say hey be my gf I still think it was kind of messed up. Given that you guys were friends & were talking for a year and he told you how he felt. Also I think he’s more hurt but obviously doesn’t deal well. I would still say leave. It’s clearly already too late to fix it. Giving him your passwords and all that isn’t going to change his behavior. Even that doesn’t give him the right to call you out of your name and disrespect you. Definitely don’t bring your daughter into that environment.
I see the works of a narcissit here. He constantly accuses you and blames you and shames you for something that is clearly not wrong on your part. What’s worse, he has gotten you completely convinced that you were wrong… aaaand… to give him all your passwords and privacy invasion (which of course is wrong and of course still he would get it and still not be happy about it) …
Honestly after reading so much abojt narcissim i can now see all these things very clearly while before i wouldn’t even recognize it. Please look up narcissim, and see for yourself! If you feel he qualifies for one, do yourself a favor and cut him out from the beginning because it will only get much much harder from now on!
And RUN. Like the the wind can’t stop you…
Calling you a h**? Throw him in the bin 
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He has some growing up to do thats toxic cut ties and move on
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You answered your own question. If this is the start of your relationship. Imagine the control he will try to pull once you move! YIKES!!!
Red flags all over that. Dump him.
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Controlling! Yes there might be some hurt but no one should make you go to that length and act like you cheated. This is his true side and he’s taking that situation as a opportunity. Put your foot down say firmly enough is enough you never cheated you both wasn’t together he either accepts it or you can’t continue but you are no longer being treated how you have been.
All the best xxxx
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Don’t do it girl! He sounds extremely toxic!
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Was he a virgin when you got together? If not, bring it up everyday how he was with someone before you got together! 
He’s being ridiculous!
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No no no!! Change your passwords and make no more apologies! You were single and could talk to who ever you liked! Not all chats became anything and he may have admitted he liked you but he didn’t do anything about it! Your bf sounds very jealous and potentially controlling and that is not right. If he’s going to attack you with it all the time, that’s mental abuse. People have different opinions on how you conducted yourself and that’s fine. But again, you were single! Did he not speak to another girl before you 2 got together? I’ll be my head says no doesn’t he? Yeah ok
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Run! My alarm bells are ringing. If he wants to be with you, he has to accept your past and not create an emotional burden from it. He will always use it against you.
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Sounds like a control freak. Ditch him
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Don’t go. Move on. It’ll only get worse and you don’t want your daughter hearing him call you those kinds things. You deserve better.#knowyourworth
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Ahh the red flags already showing. Be glad you’re seeing them now and not later on. I wouldn’t move states away for him if he treats you that way.
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Thats controlling abuse.you need to give him the arse.its not going to get better.run now while it’s easier.
Honey red flag. Anyone who calls you names like that is NOT okay. You are not married to this man. You owe him no explanation.
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Drop him now, if you start a relationship with him this is going to be continuous.
Let him GO! Big red flag!
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He’s a jerk and a control freak. Woman,you better stay away from him, he want do nothing but control your life and probably start hitting you. He has issues. RED FLAGS ALL OVER THIS MAN.
He’s very insecure and needs someone he can control .
Break off all contact with him, don’t stay friends much less anything else.
Put your child first, cause he will control her also.
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Yeah… red flag. Get out now!
Also asking you to drop friends because he does not feel comfortable is alienation. The first step in an abusive relationship. Giving your passwords? He is already controlling you. You cannot build a relationship without trust. There isn’t any trust. You are supposed to be a partner, not property. It’s clear if you move to Texas you and your daughter will be property and will probably be beaten in just a few short months. Sorry if that’s harsh, but if you are in the lust stage of this relationship you need the hard truth.
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Just stepping back in to say I appreciate all the strong women on here giving the exact same advice…maybe cause you have been through it or supported a friend…the kindness of strangers is amazing regardless:muscle:
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Definitely run away. Don’t bring your daughter with you into an abusive relationship. You both deserve better. He is controlling you already, it will only get worse. You want to show your daughter that you deserve better from any man. Don’t do it.
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Any person that puts you down and makes you feel less than yourself, DOESN’T deserve you. Value yourself. You don’t need to prove anything to this man, he either loves you and moves on, which clearly he has proven he can’t, so your next safe move is to NOT uproot and move in with him. You don’t need a man that is so insecure about himself that he resorts to acting like a child!! Keep in mind that if this is his behavior now of being verbally abusive, unstable and TOXIC, then he has the possibility of becoming physically abusive as well. I am sure that you are well informed of current news events of how many women are murdered by angry, jealous significant others! Just RUN in the opposite direction. You want better for yourself and your daughter. Stay safe, safeguard your precious daughter, don’t trust this abusive man.
To be honest, if you had to ask for others opinions, then your heart is not believing in this man and your mind has already told you no. Trust your instinct. Best wishes to you! 
God Bless you.
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Run . Leave. Cut him off and out of your life. Be strong.
He’s showing you who he is. You don’t need to apologize or defend yourself.
This will only get worse. This is not normal or healthy . This is not love.
If he blows up, apologizes, and then does it again, he’s grooming you and gaslighting you so that he can control you . you’ve even dropped
Friends to make him
Happy. He’s trying to make you think its your fault. To isolate you.
End it now!
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A lot of people have already given some solid advice about his controlling behavior! I just want to also add to the support and tell you not to put up with this abusive behavior! He called you a hoe? Who talks to someone they love like that? Do not move to Texas!
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Don’t move, you’ve officially been dating this person for a few months??!!! Even if they were your friend, I still wouldn’t pack up and move halfway across the country.
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I’m sure its been said by everyone already. But No You Are NOT Wrong. That is a red flag and will only get worse. Do not put you and your daughter in a situation that will be hard to get out of. Especially if he is the only one in Texas you are familiar with.
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Move on, My Dear! This could get toxic! You are in the honeymoon stage, in a way! When you give up all that you’ve got in your present home and state, then move you’re trapped! Move on, you’re better tgen this! To be called a awful disrespectful names… this is not a good life, RUN! Your daughter deserves better too!
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Yes, you are wrong. From the information you provided here, you are wrong to delete ANYONE who is a friend, you are wrong to give him your passwords if you are not married to him, you are wrong to not talk to anyone except for him, and you are wrong to continue to accept this abuse. His behavior is narcissistic and controlling and sounds like the perfect set up for an abusive spouse in the future. If he cannot move on, then YOU should! Best of luck!! 
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Anything you did before the two of you were official is none of his business. Do not ignore this red flag. You and your daughter will go through hell with an immature and possessive man. He should just feel fortunate you chose him.
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I feel you should move on he is already showing very toxic, jealous, possessive traits. If you dont do it for you, then do it for your daughter. Do not teach her that is ok to be in a relationship like that. you should never have to “prove” your worth and loyalty. If he can’t let it go then you pull an elsa:wind_face:
and let him go.
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Do not move it with him. Stop this relationship, and definitely never feel obligated to give a person your passwords, and you should change them. What he’s doing is control and abuse and it will get worse I can promise you. The fact he brought it up period is a problem. His calling you a hoe unacceptable. Stop with him and definitely don’t bring you daughter around this guy.
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Stay way from him! If not for your sake, then do it for your kid. This relationship will not go well or end well if you continue! Block him and delete him and then move on with your life.
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Not worth talking to or being friends with! Stay away and find someone who doesn’t judge or care about your past! And just wants to be with you!
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This guy is bad news. Please cut him out of your life. Your daughter and you deserve someone that understands and respects you.
If he’s like this right now, he will be much worse once he thinks he has you trapped.
Do you really want to fall down a spiral of emotional and psychological abuse that will affect you and your daughter for the rest of your lives for some guy ? And moving to him? That’s crazy . He wants to trap and manipulate you.
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Girl you dont need that kinda craziness!!! Please dont move and dont subject your child to that!
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It’s crazy cuz the EXACT same thing just happened to my friend …guy from Texas tries to get her and her daughter to move out there from CT and acts all crazy when he doesnt get his way…I asked my friend if she posted this…she said doesnt know about this page…she said it wasnt her…the only difference in the story is that she didnt give him passwords and the timing is like a month or 2 off. The similarity of this girl and my friends story blows my mind.
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You deserve better than him!! Leave him alone get as far away as possible!! Never settle on someone who doesn’t love you enough or want to be with you enough to for give!! never let your child see you being treated like that she’ll think it’s ok to be abused emotionally or physically she’ll think it’s ok cause you let it happen to you!! There’s someone out there who will make you and your child happy!! Don’t settle wait for Mr. Right!! he will never change no matter how hard you try or how many times he says I’m sorry I’ll change I promise!! Don’t fall for his lies!! A lot of women are hurt bad or killed because of men like him!! Your child needs her mother you don’t need a person like him!! Don’t think twice change your number let him go!!!
Move on girlfriend. If you have to give him your passwords AND delete friends, he is not worth it. This is the tip of the iceberg. Most likely once you move in with him he will become very controlling. You don’t want that. He will keep you away from your friends and family. If you don’t call it quits for yourself do it for your daughter. She does not need to live in that type of environment!!
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Find a real man that will treat you like a princess and not hold your past against you.
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Any man that feels comfortable calling you a hoe is not someone you need to be with. That alone should be a deal breaker. Are you going to move your daughter in with someone who calls her momma names? I don’t know how old she is but she’ll get old enough one day to understand, if she isn’t already. If you don’t run from this man for you, do it for your daughter. You’re her example!!
You did nothing wrong and if you stay he will lord it over your head for the length of any relationship you have with him. Run far, run fast don’t look back. You are lucky enough to see his true colors now and this early on that’s only the tip of the iceberg. It will get worse and he has issues he needs to work on but you can not change/ fix him. It is in your best interest especially if you have a child to walk now.
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Would you want your daughter treated that way? Or in that environment? Even in a relationship, that is way too much you are giving up and being too transparent about unless he is doing the same. Name calling is a huge red flag. Even in arguments. My husband and I have been together over 13 years and we’ve never called either one names. If in a disagreement you are not being respected enough for someone to not call you names then they don’t respect and honor you enough to treat you like you deserve.
Red flags everywhere. DO NOT MOVE, move on from him.
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Do not move to Texas especially bringing a child with you. Run !
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Not wrong. And get the hell out of that relationship. Do not move to Texas. Do not give him control. In fact, ghost his butt. Immediately change all passwords and block him. Honestly, I’d probably move elsewhere since he has your info…
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Run, immediately run. This guy has gaslighted you into giving up your privacy, it’s only going to get worse
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It’s something he will continually bring up in any conversation. And how do you know he wasn’t doing his own thing when you were single
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Hell no get out of it while you can! I was in a relationship that sounds just like this and it was terrible really regret staying for so long! Don’t change for someone else or feel guilty for something you shouldn’t feel guilty about! Been with my husband 11 years almost and he doesn’t have my passwords to anything and never asked me to not be friends with someone! Relationship ate partnership not one party controlling the other
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Girl, he isn’t the one for you. You deserve better, end things with him, change your passwords, block him. You shouldn’t be treated like that
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Girl you need to RUN FAST!!! You REALLY want to live your life with a control freak and have your DAUGHTER WITNESS that behavior???!!! I certainly hope not
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what is there to forgive? You were single he can catch a bus and you can move on to happiness
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Run. I was in a relationship like that and it only got worse. To the point of severe emotional and physical abuse.
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There are so many red flags here I could never have enough room! Run the other way. Grow up and figure out what you want. Do not move across country, do not move your child and never consider a relationship with someone who is “ disgusted” with you. Get counseling, find out who you are and how to be happy with yourself, before you try to be happy with someone else.
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Doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship. What you did before him is none of his business. Sounds like he’s too controlling and you might be entering an abusive relationship. Take it slow if you’re pursuing this relationship or end it while you can.
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Girl time to get out while you can now. This is controlling manipulatve behavior. If he is like this now where you have friends just think about how he will be if you move to Texas and meet new people. He isn’t going to allow it and you will be isolated. Think of what this could do to your child as well as yourself. Best wishes for you.
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Unfortunately he is never going to let that go and is always going to hold it over your head… I personally would let that go especially with you having a child that shouldn’t have to see all that mess… He seems toxic… Think about your kid in this one…
Run the other way fast.Don’t involve your daughter into this craziness.
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Um no don’t be with someone who acts like that big red flag
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Run and run fast!!! If this is how he treats you in the beginning, it will not get any better. It will always be someone even if it’s nobody.
RUN AWAY NOW! This is ownership behavior. Do not let anyone “own” you. Voice of experience here.
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You don’t want to show your daughter that this kind of relationship is the right one . DONT MOVED TO TEXAS
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You didn’t do anything wrong there was no ring, you were just talking if I were you I would not go to Texas he’s calling you names saying horrible things let him go for you and your daughter. You can find someone who will love you for you and will be a father to your daughter. Dump this craziness quickly
Run! As fast as you can! There are good men out there just be patient! It took me 3 years but I think I found my forever!
Why does he have your passwords? I’m married, have been married for a long time, we share the same accounts but we have our own passwords. That right there is a red flag. Did he give you his passwords? I’d change my passwords ASAP before your identity and everything you own is stolen
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I think the fact that you’re asking here shows that you know the answer.
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If he’s hung up on your discretion before he was in a relationship with you, would he be upset about the guys that were there 3, 6 or 9 months prior? Decisions we make when we are single & mingling are very different when we are into someone reciprocating that seriousness and no one needs to apologize much less be harangued over them. Maybe it’s an age thing, maybe it’s experience- but we don’t talk about how where when and all the exact details of previous Exes for reasons like this. But if he can’t move past this (nonexistent) infraction- imagine how petty and emo he’d get about other real life situations yet to come. 
everyone has a past and it should stay there, any new relationship starts with a new slate
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If you are looking for validation that his behavior is excessive and that you are right to be concerned and exit before things get worse, consider all all of this that validation and permission. Disgusted by you now will mean hurting you for it. Keep yourself and your about this. Here’s always how I help friends see it…if your daughter were seeking advice for HERSELF in this situation, would you advise her to stay?
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