You answered your own question…you dont want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that…its scary at first, but women are resilient and strong…you can do it! Sometimes the breakup is a blessing.
Your gut is telling you what to do and you need to listen. You deserve so much more. He has no intentions of ever changing but just says that so he can keep you hooked. Run and don’t look back!
I’ll be saying kiss my butt good bye. What your see and hear is not good for them. Don’t allowed a man to disrespect you.
Run! He will not change! You and your daughter deserve a better life than this. It is much better to be a happy single mom than a miserable married mom.
Why would you stay with someone like this??! I would be going crazy with lack of attention, affection, and consideration!!! He’s not capable of loving you the way YOU NEED TO BE LOVED!!! I would leave and leave asap!!! Why prolong the enivenable??? Go out and find someone that’s capable of loving you!!
I don’t understand how you could stay for 7 years with this poor excuse for a partner. Get rid of him now and it will restore your self esteem as well as that of your daughter. She needs to see her mother as a strong and loving person, not one who will allow her to be used as a doormat. There is a good life waiting for you, which does not include him. Under no circumstances allow yourself to continue in this unhealthy relationship. Put the needs of your daughter first and good luck to you. Blessings.
He is who he is! You’re not going to change him or his behavior. You have one of two choices here. Agree to accept his BS or agree to change yourself and move on. His behavior is not about YOU. Respect yourself!
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He will not change. He’s done this for seven years and seems fine with it. Your happiness and well-being are secondary concerns to his comfort and ego. Leave while you can and work on yourself. Really take stock in your needs and what you want for your life and family before dating anyone. Good luck.
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You DO NOT want to spend the rest of your life with a rude uncaring person… if you were in a marriage i would say counseling but dont jump in the fire then try to put it out… you’ve already been there if divorced.
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You deserve better but only you can break the cycle so you have to want to make the changes. Personally I wouldn’t put up with his attitude, he would be on his bike x
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You shouldn’t stay in a situation where you feel trapped. I spent 25 years like that. It is taking me time, but I am in a good state. Being single has been an adjustment. Hope you find happiness with or without the guy.
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Read about a narcissist. What you are doing is teaching your child that his behavior is acceptable. It has been 7 years and you think he is going to change and marry you? 
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Now since you both work, get your own place and don’t continue in that relationship. Learn from this one so you don’t repeat the same mistake again. Keep your own place that is stress free for you and your child. Don’t announce that you are moving, just move when you have everything in order and don’t look back. Being rude is a sign he don’t want you so your instincts are correct. 
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Don’t put your daughter thru this or yourself it won’t get better.
To me he sounds like he has an interest elsewhere.
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If you’re already questioning the relationship this way, it may be time to walk away.
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No. Don’t marry him yet. Go to counseling and find out what is wrong. It may be from his past and his childhood. Don’t be surprised if he doesn’t want to go, though.
Why are you still with someone who treats you like this…life is too short…there is someone out there that will love and cherish you…accept nothing less
It sounds like you should dump him, he will continue to get meaner as time goes on. I would say he is a narcissist (I hope I spelled that right) and from past experience things will not improve, get him out of your life. Good luck
Just leave if that’s the case. It will just get worse if you get married to him. Maybe a sit down to see where you both stand in the relationship you should find out then to be to late.
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Do his children see spend time with their mother? If they do I would suggest to her that she go for custody… I would calmly and cooly, try to discuss with him if possible that its time for tthe calling out. Stand you ground though because I am sure that you want the best for your children as well as his. If he will not listen to you or give you a chance to say your peace, leave him alone… Do not cook for him, no laundry, no nothing. It seems as if he needs to get a taste of his own medicine as the saying goes. If things don’t change. Tell him you want a separation that he can see the kids but he needs to find some place else to live temporarily… Perhaps consider marriage counseling. There’s no way any husband of mine, no I’ve never been married would get away with acting like that. Good luck praying for you.
Sounds like you answered your own question to me. Time to move on.
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You deserve better. Leave now and start over. He’s emotionally abusive and won’t change.
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You just answered your own questions. So get out and be done with him. Just do it! It’s all wrong so only you can make a difference to change your life!
Please, you have to ask people for advice! Common sense tells you to move on, shouldn’t waste any more time with him.
Go ahead and leave, in my opinion a grown man isn’t going to change no matter how much they say they will ! Ask yourself, can you live with him treating you like this for the next ( however many years you would be married)? I’m sure the answer will be no !
You said he’s your boyfriend - Shouldn’t be a hard decision to make.
Life is short - Live, Be Happy!
Girl, grab your kids and 
…a man like that will promise to change but will always be who they are, I would rather be happy along then to be sad with someone that is like a sheep in sheep clothing
7 yrs you have been with him even while you was married to another yr, and you cant actually say you was his fiance the entire time as you was still married. But what kind of example are you setting for your daughter by staying with him, while you was married you technically belonged to someone else and committing adultery, well now your free to do whatever and he seems to care less about you and your emotions. He also sounds like he could be emotionally abusive. But could there be a reason why he doesn’t want to be seen in public with you, is he possibly seeing someone else, he was seeing you while you was still married so whats stopping him from having someone else. You sure you need him because you make him sound like he is horrible and once married he isn’t going to get better
With you being unhappy think about what your daughter is feeling about this and think about if you would want her in a relationship like that
He sounds like he is not happy with his life. If I were you I’d pack up my things and move out. That Is not a healthy life for you or your child. You know what you have to do. Rent a apartment get your stuff together and leave. Also leave him a note.
You already know what you want to do your hart leave and get your own place i was in a similar situation and I left with my 2sons it will all work out in the end and you child will be a lot happier if the mother is happy then the children will be happy to
He will get worse the older he gets.
Make a “pros” and “cons” list. Sounds like he has nothing to put on the “pros” list—get out and don’t look back
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7 years He will never change .Sorry to say move on
You deserve to be treated better then that
7 years?? He will never treat you any better. You do not need the opinion of others to move him or you out.
Run as fast as you can that man does not love you. He is using you like he used the mothers of his children. He is self centered and can’t see past his own nose. Run for your life!
Sounds like he’s a narcissist or at least has narcissistic tendencies. If he’s your “fiancée” after 7 years and he’s all that you say why would you want to spend your life with him? It’s obvious that he doesn’t share the same feelings. We must learn to love ourselves more than we love others especially when our love isn’t be reciprocated
Get your kids and clothes in your car move as far away as you can your life is what you make it. Be happy
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You know exactly what you should have already done. Question: What’s the pull that keeps you there? I don’t hear a love story, but a tough story that’s no fun nor rewarding. Pack your bags…leave…be happy
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Get him out of your life!
This person is blocking your LAW OF ATTRACTION from creating your true love from coming into your life.
Run run as fast as you can. 7 years he’s not going to change
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Run. If he was going to change he would of done it like long before now. He doesn’t want a commitment he is just stringing you along for as long as you will let him. Yeah if you say you are ending it he might do the I will change and etc but you have heard that before. Please if nothing else think about your daughter. If she is raised in that environment then when she is older she will let guys treat her like that because that is all she knows. You and her deserve happiness. Get out and let it be just you and her. I don’t know if you are a praying person but God will see you through anything. I promise. Been there done that
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Did your ex-husband treat you this way? Maybe you don’t feel your worth so much more. Lots of people fall victim to narcissistic behavior. That is definitely this guy. Also have a relationship done and over with for awhile before moving to the next. Find out who you are. You jumped from a marriage to a LTR relationship without that time you needed to know yourself. You have a duty to show your daughter that she can stand on her own, not needing a man in her life but want a man in her life, or woman (don’t know, she could like the same sex, either way be able make it through life for her not the love of another).
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Just read back to yourself what was written. You shouldn’t have a difficult time making his decision!!
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Why on earth are you still there… Run like the Wind away from him…you don’t have to think… You have answered your own question by writing this post… Reread it… Then leave… Good Luck…
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Sounds like he has someone to take care of the housework and kids for him. Go with your instincts lady!!!
Life’s to short not to be happy. You never find Mr. right if you stay with Mr. wrong.
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Read your above post, again.
You clearly already know the answer to your own question.
Your daughter will learn how a woman should be treated by watching you….
Good luck, ma’am.
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Rude is an understatement. Kick him to the curb, honey. You deserve better.
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Why are you staying? You allowing his behaviour and what is it showing your child? You deserve better, we only get this one life.
You know exactly what you need to do. I wouldn’t put my kid in that kind of situation either. Don’t you think you deserve any better? Like Dr. Phil says, you teach people how to treat you!! I wouldn’t spend another night in the same house with him!!!
Well duh if you have to ask you deserve to be stick with him. Why do women act like they are nothing if they don’t have a man yelling at them. You were a whole person when you were born you didn’t come out of the womb with a male hanging off you foot. You are someone you are a child of God why would you think you are not worthy. Dump this man and get yourself a life and happiness and your child Needs to be happy he or she needs to see their Mother be the person she needs to be. You .can do this. Good luck .
If you have no more self worth than to be with this selfish, self observed, narcissistic person the you both deserve each other. Remember your choice includes the life of another. Is that what you want for your child
Trust me, you don’t!! Same thing happened to me. They don’t change. I heard" if I start doing anything like before just say something" well I won’t repeat what he called me when I did say something.
Honey get out that mess I was in the same mess myself but I was married my husband disrespect me he abused me mentally and physically I left I know it’s scary but I wake up every morning with a smile on my face don’t have to hear anyone cussing me out saying nasty things to me I feel good I was told you live you love and you learn but one thing for sure you’ll find love and the next time it will be right for you…
Why have you let him treat you that way for seven years? Put yourself and your child first, and make a life for yourself that doesn’t include him.
You don’t need to be told its not working better to be free than be together
Walk away! He sounds like an immature jackass. Some relationships are NOT worth fighting for! He’s never going to change
Then don’t! Maybe not that simple, but think of the kids! What about there life’s? What kind of example is he gonna set! Move on, is all I have to say.
Get out while you still can. Before he hurts you or your child or his.
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DUMP HIM! He’ll never change. He may even get worse. Neither you or your children need that kind of person in your life.
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Trust me you don’t want to do it I made the mistake of marrying the same kind of man and I regret it everyday but I also don’t believe in divorce
Why in the world would you want to subject yourself to his rudeness and selfishness? Be kind to yourself by being patient and wait for someone who loves you for who you are
This post is a joke right? I feel bad for all kids involved if there is no good role model. The woman doesn’t love herself enough to see her guy isn’t a prince and the fact that she was with him before her divorce was finalized tells us she’s not stable enough or loves herself to be on her own with a man… if you can call him that. Those kids have poor role models and I hope she snaps out of it and moves out with her kids to mature to the great and strong woman she’s destine you become.
Girl, you can do WAY better than this guy. Look again at how he treats the kids and how he treats you. Don’t settle for less than what you and the kids deserve. If not for yourself, at least think of the children, and move on.
Von Stockton- find someone that treats you like his soul mate. They are out there.
Run!! please don’t waste your life with a selfish, uncaring individual. He won’t change that’s him. If you put up with him then don’t complain.
Go get your skates on he will not improve but he will get worse
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If you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that then you don’t need to. Your choice
Think you better move on, to many red flags 
and not a good environment for your children. Find someone who will make all of you Happy!!
You may be able to arrage with his kids mom to be able to do fun things. Never know. But be better to you for you and yours
All these good people have told you the truth but have you got the strength to do it, you know it’s what you should do but will you?
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Time to cut the cord girlfriend. Move on. You deserve better than that. If George gaunt changed by now…he won’t
Time to make a life for you and your daughter…without a selfish rude little boy.
Read your post! You don’t know if you want to spend the rest of your life like this? Woman, you are not thinking at all. Not a great example to set for your child and you are showing yourself a whole lot of disrespect.
No, you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with a man like that, and you won’t. Because he will get worse…
Get out, you and your daughter deserve so much more. You need to lead by example. By staying, your daughter will think that the way he is treating you is ok. Same for his kids too.
then dont…hes not gonna change !! next will be the slaps then the hits…get your child away now!!
You don’t know if you want to spend the rest of your life like that? Oh you know. You know you don’t. Run.
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You have been with him for seven years and you just got your divorce finalized? If he is acting the way your describing why would you want to be with him, you got divorced for a reason.
He is not going to change . So you need to decide if that’s the kind of life you want to live - if not it’s time to move on…
He doesn’t know better. If u do, leave. You can’t change anyone to fit your expectations.
WHY would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that? A SEVEN year fiancé? Seemed like you could not find one good thing about him. Is he nice to you??? No. Is he good with the kids??? No. Sounds like he’s just happy having a babysitter and a housekeeper so he can go fish.
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He wont change his ways. You rather be single and happy. You may meet someone better. Dont waste your time with him. Go out and enjoy your life.
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Well Darlin’ , you just answered your own question cut the ties if u can’t tolerate situation because he’s not gonna change .
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Obviously has no respect for you. You can do better. Need to do better for your child’s sake
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Why are you still there , Grab your daughter and get out . It wont get better . Don’t rush into more of what you just divorced . Take your time ,enjoy your daughter ,meet someone else
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I would not want to spend my life with a guy that treated me like that. Get out of that relationship sooner than later.
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Excuse me, but you have no kids together so leaving and custody battles would not be an issue. Take care of you. No man is worth your self respect or peace of mind.
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If you accept and you have accepted the way he acts and his attitude nothing will change,. You gave him the chance to change, you called him out, he sees nothing wrong. Time to leave.
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Have respect for yourself. That is not a loving, caring, family type man. Is this what you want for the rest of your life? I wouldn’t last 10 mins.
Seems you already see the picture clearly and it sounds like it’s been that way and Iam quite sure it will stay that way best advice walk away now there’s more fish in the sea many would love to have a family
Honestly I think you have answered your own question. This is not how you what your daughter to be treated in her future relationships, so why should you put up with him being an ass. Could be why he got divorced the first time.
Move out and learn to love yourself and your daughter. This will give you confidence and help you find a healthy relationship
Run as far and as fast as I can it will only get worse if u marry him
Looks like it’s time to leave this toxic situation. Seven years is long enough to “test the waters”. Give both him and you permission to find the life you both want, evidently this isn’t it.
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You won’t spend the rest of your life with him.
Cause when he’s done with you, he’s out. And if he won’t care about his kids, he certainly isn’t gonna give a damn about you and yours.
Leave and live !!!
Run… get out
There’s a reason why he has children from relationships… not marriages and even then some men shouldn’t get married
He sounds like a loser and if you just divorced another one, do not make the same mistake twice. You should not settle for someone like that. There are men out there that would not treat you that way.
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Get out it will get worse!!! I know!!! Good luck!!! He will always be rude, do you want your children raised around that??
You been together 7 years but you just got divorced. Guess I don’t understand why you are asking people on fb for advice you know how he treats you so you decide
I would do things with my kids,leave it alone. Cant force people.??? Keep on keeping on.
Hes not just rude ,he’s not your partner or part of the family. Why stay?
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It won’t improve. I stayed with my abuser for 23 years before I got the strength to leave. Don’t wait that long.