Get the hell out, why you gotta have others tell you what you should do? Use some common sense. This is what I would tell my own daughter.
???âŚafter 7 years???âŚcanât you see the handwriting on the wall???âŚmost times itâs better to be by yourselfâŚthan take mental or physicial abuse???
He needs to shape up, or ship out. Simple. He sounds too comfortable and has a lack of respect.
You already answered your on questions no you donât want to stay with him, he doesnât care for you are the kids.
Why would you do this to yourself and your kid
Take it from someone with experience. They donât change
I think you just answered your own question in the last sentence. 
They said,quote âŚstick to the devil you know but itâs all up to you âŚ
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Plus your allowing the behavior if you stay
I think you already made the choice. You just have to plan the way out. Good luck. And good for you!
I would not stay with a person like that. Youâll be nothing but miserable and who knows doen the road he could be physically abusive, thatâs the next step. Get out before you might have more children.
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HoneyâŚpack his shit and say goodbye. He is not going to change. He doesnât appreciate you and you can do better.
TRUST ME.
Nope! Walk out that door take that daughter and move forward!!
You already know the answer. Iâm so sorry. Be strong and get your child and yourself out.
Leave. They donât âchangeâ. If he wanted to really change he would
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Then donât move on. Be happy. Why stay and be miserable
You must step away from this man and do not look back , you need to be happy and loved in your life . so leave and be with your self until you find the one that will love and respect you for who you are , YOU DESERVE NOTHING ELSE WILL DO
Sorry, but I think you just answered your own question. We canât help you, you have to help yourself first. Believe in yourself and you will be rewarded.
Run as fast as you can. He is NEVER going to change for you. Find a man that knows your worth and shows you respect. This guy kick to the curb. You and your kids deserve a lot more!
Run. It wonât get better. And you probably already know that.
Dating and courtship should never go beyond four years if there is to be serious sincere relationship.
Leave now! You and your kid donât need to be around that, it is obvious he is not going to change!
Does not sound like a family man. Really does not sound like a man, but more an overgrown boy. I know what ai would do. I would drop him like a hot potato. You have given him seven years; in exchange for lots of crap. Do yourself and your daughter a favor. Get out. Would you like your daughter to be with someone like this? Do not set a bad example for her.
Donât stay.you can survive an thrive on your own.will it be easy no.but you an yours will be safe an able to growâŚ
You need to move on. He wonât change.
He will never change, don`t put up with it for a moment longer, leave him to his miserable ways
The key here is 7 years he is not going to change time move forward Have a plan.
Run for the sake of your babies⌠you are teaching them this is how a relationship is ment to beâŚ
It wonât get better and the longer your with him , the longer heâll be like that. Dump the jerk and get a dog
Donât let it get to the point where he makes you hate him. That is exactly what will happen if he stays like he is and he will. Go now and make a new life for yourself and child. If it gets to the point of you hating him, you will cheat on him anyway, so leave now.
He dont really accepted u and ur 2 daugthers, gooooo pack ur things now! No good life ahead to u,w/that chauvanist !
Leave and spend some time thinking about why you made two bad choices
No you dont .Thats like saying you are happy to be walked all over .Why are you still there
Time to call it quits! Long time coming sounds like. My opinion
Maybe he is with you to take care of his kids and nothing more. He is afraid of losing you.
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You run and run fast like your tail was on fire away from himâŚif you stay or/and get married it will only get worseâŚsorry you have to deal with thatâŚ
No you donât. Heâs not gonna change and your life will be hell
Itâs not only you but think of your children. Sounds like he is angry and is verbally abusive. Get out!!
Take your kids and get the hell out of wherever you are living
This guy is a user he sees you as baby sitter and sex toy when heâs in the mood
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Why do you stay? Serious question as he sounds abusive
Why just donât live in move on with your lifeâs
Take a day off and pack up your nesessities and get out before he gets home.
Get out. You donât need it and your daughter definitely donât deserve it.
Change the scenery girl! Have faith in yourself.
If you have to ask the the answer is NO get out of that relationship and donât look back and I mean ASAP
Wouldnât spend 1 more minute with that dude!
Either you need to walk or stay, either way hes not going to change. I think you should make it on your own.
7 years as a fiancĂŠ says he isnât serious.
His attitude towards and about your family sounds very narcissistic.
His âIâll changeâ excuses are the thing he knows will keep you with him.
So let me ask you this, woman to woman;
After 7 years of being with him⌠how much permanent and positive change and growth have you seen from this man? How much commitment and love have you or your children received from him as a man? How valued have you felt? How valued have your children felt? Bc after 7 years⌠hell after 3-4 years, what you see⌠is what you get for better or for worse.
So love, if you want to live with that forever, go on and stay. But if you and your kids deserve better⌠stop wasting your time and energy. And donât look back. You deserve so much more and so do those kids.
I went through 10 years and 2 kids with my childrenâs bio father. 10 years as a fiancĂŠ. Never got commitment , was always made to feel needy for wanting to marry. Was cheated on and abused. I took it because I didnât feel I deserved more.
He was a predatory narcissist- and I donât throw the term around loosely.
But the day I realized that even if i didnât feel that I personally deserved better-
My kids certainly did- thatâs the day we packed up without saying a word
And left. It was the best decision Iâve ever made.
Now my children have a daddy, and I am with a wonderful man.
You guys deserve more babes
Research narcicist and gaslighting. He only uses you, he doesnât care about you and never will. Get out now.
Omg! Whereâs the dilemma? Sounds like a real catch; not! Dump him.
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Just tell him you need time out to sort out whatâs important to you and your siblings
So you can work out whatâs the next step to take to move on without him as heâs not what you want and need in your life at all
Youâre ,essentially, the nanny to his kids so that he doesnât have to be involved- just gives the appearance.
I 'd dump him like a hot potato! If this is how he is after seven years this is what you will be putting up with!
He should be making memories with you and your baby and if he canât do that begone
Not so sure with this ladyâs partner. Seven years and he still doesnât want to do things with the family. Just saying.
You better run cause it isnât going to change. Believe me I know done been there to many times.
The last sentence you wrote tells it allâŚyou think heâs going to flip the switch and turn different??
The writing is on the wall! He is showing you exactly who he is and this is exactly the life ahead that awaits you. Your choice to stay or go
He wonât change
There will come a day when your daughter will blame and hate your not leaving. Mine did.
7years you should of walked out then now itâs timeto run and donât look back.
Girlfriend get rid of him there are men out there that respects women and love to spend family time
For the sake of your daughter leave. She deserves better than that. What if she does what you are doing, and stays in a relationship like you are doing?
Are you still there? Sometimes, when you write it out and read it again- your answer is thereâŚâŚ
Get out before itâs too late!
Uhh itâs time to get the hell out he is an ungrateful man
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you give too much credit to men. 7 years .
LEAVE HIM!! Has Not Made A Commitment In 7 yrs!!He Never Will!!
He sounds like an ass to be around. Why play with him anyway?
Donât ,kick him to the curb life is too short you need to find someone who loves you and shows you 24/7 not be a pushy pain in the ass who can only be caring when itâs convenient for him put an end to it save your feelings and make a better life for you and yours
I think you know what you have to do with one marriage behind you, get rid xxxxx
When someone shows you who they are believe them.
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you been putting up with this for 7yrs, why the hell would you âwonderâ???/
He wanted a child carer he got you. Dump him and move on.
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You do know. Admit it and move on! He,s a deadbeat
Emotional abuse at itâs best. He. Will. Not. Change.
Then donât, move on. Then take them kids to swim in that hole.
7 years? Should have packed your bags a looonnngg time ago. Good luck
Move out and move on. He isnât worth your spit.
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If your daughter came to you and Said what you are saying about her man! What would you tell her!
Donât walk RUN
Then donât! Heâs using you. Always has been!
Run! Run away fast, because itâs not going to get any better!
7 years of that??? Iâd rethink my priorities.
What value does he add to your life?
Pack your bags and donât leave a note.
What reason is there to stay? LEAVE
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Think of it this way; if your daughter was with a man just like that what would you tell her to do??
Run as fast as you can. I wasted my life for 17 years with the same experience.
Walk away. Cut your losses and walk away. I just got out of a marriage of 34 years with someone just like your boyfriend. In fact just run.
Past time you dumped his butt and moved on.
Move out and leave him cope by himself with his children. Sounds like he got with you for the sake o his children. You work so you are reasonably in a good position to provide for yourself and child. Best of luck.
Ask yourself the Ann Landers question. Are you better off with him or without him.
Get out of that relationship as soon as possible. You can do so much better.
RUN!!! Do Not Pass Go & Skip your $200. RUN!!!
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Easy, get out now. What are you waiting for More mental abuse.
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Run for the hills !!! And donât ever look back.
Then donât. Not for another minute longer than you have to .
Why ask a question that you already know/have the answer to
This is why we date, to see if they will make a good spouse. He sounds like a self-centered jerk and needs to be sent packing.
what would you say if your daughter was experiencing the same thing ?he is not going to change .kick him out or you leave ,your not even married to this guy .
Seven years has been too long.Find some to be a family with.