Tell him adios motherfuker
I say leave him and get on with your life yrs down the rd U will be fighting the same old problems if he has been your financeâ for 7 yrs chances R heâs not going to marry U
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If you have to ask. You already know the answer. Follow your gut. Mines never failed me. Donât waste another year of your life with someone who constantly makes you question your relationship. You will only end up resenting him and regretting your decision to stay. Easier said than done, I know. But 6 months from ending your relationship, you will wonder why you didnât do it sooner.
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Youâre not married. Leave him already. Why is this even a question? Heâs made his decision very clear, you just donât want to hear it.
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Run and leave that shit behind
You should have left a long time ago!
If you have to ask you already know the answer.
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First and best thing is to communicate. No one has the right to always be rude and what makes him that way or feel as he does and second can this be repaired or mainly how does this affect the children? Is my guess there is an underlying problem that he is keeping inside and may not really realize there is a problem! Most of all how do you really feel and what is going to happen with you and the children if you continue with out changes and communication of the reason and solution! Find the source I guess I am saying! Love goes both ways!
Youâve answered your own question hun, my question is whatâs stopping you? Then find your solutions. Good luck lovely xx
From experienceâŚRUN, DONâT WALK. What you accept, you teach your children that is ok to treat someone like that AND, itâs OK to be treated that way as well. You and your children are worth so much more 
Your feet 
are there for walking! Go!!!
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I think you answered your own question
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If itâs your house start the eviction process, if itâs his house find somewhere else to go! Youâre better off without him and you definitely donât want your kids learning how to treat people from him! You deserve better!
So, why are you still with him? He will never change, so get out while you can, you will be a lot happier, and find someone thatâs loves you for you.
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Take your kid and go.
You are being abused
Why did you divorce the first one
Leave and get counseling
Donât count on someone else to make you happy
Itâs your job to take care of that
If he hasnât changed by now he isnât going to. Move on sweetie. Life is to short not to enjoy it with someone who wants to be with you. Good luck and God bless.
Find a new one. Itâs not going to get better.
I would not put up with this crap. Take your child and go.
You already know the answer. Do we really need to tell you what to do. Really
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Time for a new boyfriend. Donât settle!
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You donât trust međ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸
I would take the kids and run, far away from him
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Get rid of this JERK.
If you think heâs going to wake up and change, itâs not going to happen. By staying youâre accepting it.
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Heâs showing you who he really is⌠Pay attention
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You have a daughter and whatever your ex did to warrant a divorce and what this one, from your perspective, is doing do not sound like the best environment to have your daughter growing up witnessing if you want to end the generational trauma cycle. The fact you felt the need to put the word fiancĂŠ in quotations after 7 years alone is off putting. Read some books on codependency and seek therapy after leaving this man. Wishing you and your daughter all the best 
Only you can make the change if you choose him then dont complain, or you can choose to step forward and live the life you deserve you are a strong talented wahine believe in your self
Time to go. Donât invest anymore time into him. Men never change
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He has shown you what heâs like. Is that what you want? Are you better off with him or without him?
This dude is a narcissistâŚkick his ass to the curb. Now
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Get out .get out .get out.
Do yourself and your daughter a favor and leave.he will never changeâŚhe hasnât in 7yearsâŚ
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Why ask? You already know what you need to do. ffs.
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You have already answered your question. If you donât want to stay think how it will be for the kids 
. They learn what they see and hear.
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I say run something may be worng like bring sick or heâs just mean but really I would run I been married for 37 years and will be till we die fine a good man one that will take all of you out and say this my and kids just saying he sounds like a jerk to me
Hope you all survive this
He is a jerk and you know it, why do women seek out the same POS they left for another? Get help
I sure as hell wouldnât. Time to find yourself and your babies
At this point, after 7 years, you probably stay because youâre âusedâ to things the way they are. And if you are writing this asking for advice, youâve probably already made up your mind to stay, just looking for advice on how to make it better without consequences. No one can make this decision for you, if you donât like the way things are then itâs up to you to make the changes. I can tell you now that if you stay he will use the things he doesnât like about you, against you to justify his own bad behavior.
Hopefully itâs not too late for you to see your own worth and move own for the good of yourself and your childrenâs.
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Why get into another screwed up marriage
Donât let your kids see you doing that get rid of stupid so she doesnât end up with a fine example of stupid
He does not care of you or your family.
I mean, by the time you finished writing this letter you shouldâve had your answer. I donât even want to know what the one you divorced acts like. Dump. Him. Now.
Get rid of him it doesnât sound like heâs in the relationship at all
Run for the hills as fast as you can I mad the mistake of staying with someone like that till I finally realized he will never change and the one night turned into a disaster
Is this some sort of joke???
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I just left a similar man, hardest thing to do. As much as I wanted it, he is who he is. You accept him for who he is, or you leave him. My thing was I pushed him away more the more I stood up for myself. Donât be afraid to take a stand and find your worth. The worst part isnât starting over alone, itâs wasting the best years of your life being miserable because of a miserable man.
Run as fast as you can AWAY from this man
#1⌠I have a very hard time thinking/believing a man respects a woman who is STILL married but in a ârelationshipâ with him.
If anybody knows herâŚthey knows she was STILL married. He probably feel like the âside pieceâ
YesâŚeven tho the rolls are reversed all the time.
But fr fr⌠does she REALLY need to ask what she needs to do???
Itâs been how longâŚand youâre just now getting a divorce.
Nothing is wrong with himâŚitâs HER.
Itâs been 7 YEARSâŚand youâre just now getting a divorce.
Whatâs the question again???
Girl, BYE !!!
As a man I will ask you why do you stay? If all this is true and he treats you this way then you already know what you should do. You donât need the opinions of others. It doesnât seem that you are happy so move on start a life for you and your child.
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If you got a divorce the first time why are you with someone who treats you less than. Be strong and show your child that no one should be treated that way. Iâm a single parent and If I were to go into a relationship I would make sure it would be someone who treated me right and gave importance to the relationship. You deserve better.
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I struggle as a man sometimes but I also understand my role as the man of the house is one of not only protection and strength. But also compassion and love. And the love should be more prevelant. I am no angel tho.
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Trust me, you do not. Past/current behavior is the biggest indicator of future behavior or worse. Donât waste your time.
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Would you want a man to treat your daughter the way he treats you? Think about that??? If you continue to stay with him, you are showing your daughter what she will end up withâŚ(leading by example) do better for yourself so your daughter will do better
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Iâm a guy and Iâm telling you straight up, heâs not worth you. Iâm 52 and if my daughter was old enough to be with a guy line that, Iâd run him out! You deserve to be treated better, but I think you know that anyway, or you wouldnât be asking this question (and I think you know the answer anyway). Take your kids and make a better life. If you do find another guy, youâll know if itâs working because you wonât need to ask these questions. Be good to yourself. You and your kids deserve that. Good luck.
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It sounds to me like u already know the answer to ur own question. Now itâs time to take action and move on. You and your child deserve better than that. Donât stick around because you feel bad and he manipulates you into it. It will only get worse!
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Youâd have to be crazy to stay with him. You and daughter would have an extremely unhappy life.
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RUN!!! To be in a relationship and parent means giving up things one likes to do sometimes. Doing things with the family and for the family. He should not marry or be in a serious relationship. Then he can do what ever he wants when he wants. That is fine. He definitely should live alone. Pack your bags grab your children and never look back. He uses his put downs and rudeness to control you.
You will be terribly lonely and wounded in a relationship with him. There are good quality men out there. Men who will appreciate your efforts to make a home and family.
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Get out now he sounds selfish and why do you want to be with someone who does not respect you ! He totally sounds like a narcissist and Iâm sure you deserve better.
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Life is too short to live like that if he hasnât changed in 7 years heâs not going to
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In my opinion, l wouldnât stay with this man. First of all, being a âfiancĂŠ â for seven years is way too long, but you have been together long enough to know him well. He doesnât seem like a pleasant person. Marriage is hard enough without his complaining all the time, you want some positivity and happiness. Good luck!
RUN!!! This is the definition of a toxic relationship!! You deserve better and he isnât going to change!!! Think of your child, is this the model of a healthy relationship you want him/her to see?? Run now!!!
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Iâll help - no you do not want to spend the rest of your life with him. He is showing you who he really is - believe him. Get out now. I know being a single mom is not easy but think of your own daughter before anything else.
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Sounds like he is a self centered narcissist who only cares about himself and what he wants out of life. What you want out of life and what is important to you doesnât matter to him because he only thinks of himself. I doubt he will change. He might be there because it is convenient for him. There is a reason the mothers of his children arenât with him.
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Just ask is it worth your happiness, because it sounds like heâs not doing a good job making you happy or the kids If he hasnât changed by now he never will. Itâs hard to start over but your worth more than that and deserve someone who will love spending time with you and his kids
Drop the low life there was a reason why you left your ex. Dont think you canât do it on your own. Lifes to short to spend it with someone again thats not going to respect you
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Not mixing words with you! 7 yrs is 6 yrs, 3 months too long with someone who will never marry you, What does it take for you be a better example to your child. You are a Convenience not a fiancĂŠ. Did he ask you to marry him? If not youâre using the term wrong. Your daughter is watching, she will take her cues from you. Get up, walk out that door and do not look back. If you are being harmed walk to the police dept. for help. You should never make yourself a door mat. I hope you can do this for you sake.
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If heâs acting like that now,and knows it,then he isnât committed to you,the family or relationship. He has a free babysitter,housekeeper and sex when he wants it. Do yourself a favor and leave. Be the example your child deserves.
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You already know the answer. You just donât want to admit it. You and the kids deserve better.
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Run girl run far away as possible you deserve to be treated better than this us itâs not good for your daughter either you donât want her growing up thinking this treatment is normal itâs not itâs out right disrespect to everyone I lived this too believe me it causes life time damage so run girl run
Donât let the door hit you on the butt on the way out! You do not want to expose your child to seeing a man treat a woman that way. You are worth respect and love. Go out and find it. He is not demonstrating any kind of love for you, just the contempt he has for himself. Donât be a whipping post!
Does it sound like he wants to spend the rest of his life with you and I donât know why in the world would want to stay with him. Bail while you still can
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Seem like you gave him 7yrs to many. You will find and deserve a man who puts yours and the childrenâs needs 1st, he will build you up, not knock you downâŚbe brave and do what your heart and mind feels what is bestâŚ
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Your first responsibility is your child. Leave, heâs already proved he wonât change from what you say. It wonât only be you being unhappy and miserable but also your child.
There are good men out there.
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Then donât. He will keep at until even you start to believe youâre not good enough. Get out now. There is someone out there just waiting for a woman just like you. Go look for him.
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Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesnât care. I can see that youâre not happy. You and your child deserve much more than this. He will never change and your will be very unhappy. Move on and find someone who will care and make you happy!
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Get out now. I promise it will NOT get better, only worst. I have lived that. They may promise thw world to you, but it only gets worse
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You have to ask whether you should stay with him or not? Donât walk away - RUN and donât look back. This non-keeper should have been gone 6 years ago. Enjoy your life with your daughter. Maybe someone better will come along later, but donât build your life around that.
Life is short, leave!! Donât waste good years and your childâs mental health. Im beyond blessed and thank god every day for the real man that I have.
Donât spend the rest of you life with that dirt bag. There are SO much better men out there! Granted they may have issues, bit they will treat you like a human being instead of like crap!
I think you should know what to do, you been going through this for 7 yrs.and nothing has changed the change should be in âYou.â Your cituation is going nowhere, think of your children ? You need to have a made up mind of what you want to do. Good luck.
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OMG, you Are so much better on your own. You deserve the best in life,MOVE ON,MOVE OUT DONT LOOK BACK. You are setting an example to your daughterâŚ
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RunâŚ. Run fast and far and figure out why you chose someone who doesnât respect you or your family so your next relationship will be based on mutual respect.
Leave ! What is making you stay .life is way to short to be treated like that .there is nothing more to say. leave and keep safe
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It is time to make a change and let God help you find the right person in your life. God made you a promise that He would never leave you or for sake you so dust your feet and walk away.â
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Then LEAVE. You are the only thing making you stay. He doesnât want what you want, so since youâre not happy leave him.
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Better off alone with your child. Be able to take care of yourself financially Donât get into another relationship so quick. You might still have his children to care for as that seems the reason he is with you. A good relationship takes two with the same goals.
The fact that you have to question it tells you all that you need to know. Then again itâs easier to quit than to fight for what you want. If what you say is accurate, RESPECT seems to be gone if it was ever there. How does he treat your child from your previous marriage vs his children again may tell you all you need to know. Donât wait for the physical abuse to start now that mental abuse is starting to take hold. There should be two sides of the story so is there a communication breakdown? Again itâs all you need to know. Just thoughts of questions be well and true to yourself and your children
He needs to go and GROW UP SOMEWHERE. Your child doesnât need to learn what a relationship is by watching the way he treats you. There are far better out there. I should knowâŚâŚI have one. He takes the kids swimming, to the Trampoline Park on the weekends and makes them waffles on Saturday and Sunday mornings. There are men out there who WANT to be a part of the family. I would cut this negativity loose.
I was married for 17 years to someone just like this. I finally deceived myself and my daughters deserved better. We left and never looked back. He is a good dad now but was not then. Trust me when you decide to leave it takes time but you will be stronger and your child will not believe this is a normal.
Run run like the wind⌠he is not worth it. If it is this bad now just imagine how bad it could get.
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You donât need someone who isnât worthy of you n this man certainly isnât .give yourself some time on your own with your daughter .and have more confidence in yourself and self esteem.you donât need a selfish baggage of a man like this get out now
You answered your own question with that last statement.
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How about finding someone who respects you.
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U and your daughter deserve better. Run fast. Being single is better than being with someone whoâs not there. Physically or emotionally.
You need to get out and be happy life is to short if he donât work with you on the relationship donât wast your time his lost find some one to love you and work on the relationship better to be alone and happy then in a relationship and be hurt
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We/I think that you know deep down that he IS Not the one for you. He doesnât sound like heâs any better than your ex.
You already know the answer, we are just a sounding board. This is your life forever if you stay, he has no need to change, he already has what he wants. 7 years did you say? Thatâs a life time of misery and more to come. Good luck!
We need to raise our daughters to be independent whole people. A successful marriage is the coming together of two âwhole people.â We donât need a spouse to be the other half of us. Choose mates that have your same value system.