Teach your children better, they do not need that example.
Been 7 years with him and just now getting divorcedā¦. You both sound like winners to me
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The first step out and away is the hardest.
get out while you can
Do yourself and your daughter a favour and leave If he has been like this for 7 yrs itās not rocket science he aināt changing
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āScrape him off Claireā¦.ā and run for the hills as far away as possible!
Better to find out now cuz a divorce is expensive
You ever think maybe you should stop marrying or agreeing to marry everybodyā¦
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My advise to anyone is you know when itās right, it fitsā¦ā¦ā¦the fact that you see all this and question it, is your answer. You know what to do. End it
Best of luck to you
Run he sounds like a narcissist and could possibly become abusive after marriage
How much more of a red flag do you need? Walk girl for your own peace
Leave he will never change you deserve better xx
The only answer is take thr kids and leave its as simple as that. Tbf you answered your own question tbh x
You donāt want to spend your life with him. He is not going to change. He needs to learn to respect and adore you for you and you do not need to have a manās approval.
The problem is youāre asking for peopleās advice in what you should do. Without sounding harsh I bet for one minute you will NEVER leaveā¦ whatās the betting 
Sounds narcissist like mine aha look up signs n see if same then youl know what to do
You donāt, a leopard doesnāt change his spots. Take you little one and RUN
Why donāt you know whether you want to spent the rest of your life with someone like that? I know I wouldnāt be confused about it. Iād have got well away from him by now. X
Not one person is going to tell you to stayā¦ā¦ do you have children with this man noā¦. Only thing you have to ask yourself - are you truly happyā¦ā¦ NO!!! Weāll get out thenā¦ā¦
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Leave while you can others wise all you will experience is been hurt
Why would you want to? Doesnāt seem like he wants to put in any effort. I would leave. Both sets of kids deserve a better example of what a healthy relationship should look like.
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Get out as soon as you can he definitely sound like a narcissists not worth it and donāt believe a word he says they only care about themselves I know. Good luck!!!
Get the hell out of that mess
Itās over. You know what to do, you just want to hear it from somebody else.
Narcissistic behaviour and it will get worse, end it, dont listen to his false promises and bullshit, I know itās not easy, I did it and believe me 2 years later and I love my life without him
Do it girl,
Leave. Its that simple.
He doesnāt respect you
He doesnāt care about you
And the longer you stay, the less you are respecting and caring about yourself also.
I donāt know why this is even a question if you treat you like that why is this a question get the hell out
He sounds like a peachā¦ NOT
Iād exit most definitely, he brings nothing to a family unit
Kick him to the curb!
Girl. U have every reason to leave. Uve been in the wrong relationship once. Lol y do another? Know what? Focus om you. Focus on how to be happy without that kind of manā¦ or any man.
And im really hoping u didnt just ask us then do the same shyit. When u asked us, u do listen and ponder. Not ask usk, then still do this kind of shyit. K? Tough love for yah peace out,
Youāre gut is trying to tell you something! Listen!
Sounds like an idiot you got no ties together Iād bin him off go find yourself someone that treats you the way you deserve xx
Easy, dump his loser ass and find someone whoās proud to call you his partner and whoāll want to be with you and do things with you, whoāll show you love and show you affection, someone who will make you happy and comfort you when times are hard
Why are you with him?
What took you so longā¦get goin.
Sounds like if thereās anything he needs you for is a bed mate and servant/nanny
If thatās what you like stay if not move on and donāt look back.
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He is making your life miserable now why seal that with paper. He doesnt give a fuck why do you. Run girl run far and fast.
Youāve answered your own question.
Its over, if you need it telling again.
You saw what you needed to do with your ex, and did it.
Time you do it again, at least no divorce this time!
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Leave, seriously donāt mess your self up trying to save something thatās not working
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Leave him, he would have been gone long ago if it was me
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Time to say bye bye 
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Youāve already answered your own question. Why are you wasting time on something that sounds like it was over a long time ago? I know there are kids involved but never settle for less than you deserve. I would leave.
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You just got out of one bad relationship, get out of this one before its too late
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Go go go for your childrenās sake as well as yours.
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Get away from him xx
You are his live-in babysitter
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Time to leave 
youve given it 7 years and he hasnāt changed. I wouldnt spend my life with someone whoās abusive and disrespectful. If you leave heāll have to change as noone will put up with that. This is abuse the way he speaks to you and doesnt want to do any fun things with youā¦how boring a life would that be. No thanks. Leaveā¦please. you have 1 lifeā¦live it to the full.
Run!!! Fast and hard! You are wasting precious years and thatās not the role model you want for your daughter.
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Get out, heās not worth it. You deserve better
Put on your running shoes girl and run as fast as you can away from this dickhead. Why are you putting up with it??
Omg I couldnāt spend a week with someone like that ! Please you are worth so much more thereās so many more people out there
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He apparently was your fiancĆ© before you were divorced. Whatās wrong with living on your own? Itās confusing for the kids with people coming in and out of their lives. Heās treating you like your marriage to him is already on the rocks and youāre not even married. If you get married with these issues, you do know they will continue. Maybe you both have baggage from failed relationships? I donāt know. Do you really want someone to continue treating you in a way that you donāt like? Unless you are tired of settling with Mr. Rebound, move on.
Get out ASAP. Donāt waste your time on someone like that
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Red flagā¦ Take your child and run in the opposite direction x
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You donāt want someone like that in your life.
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Hes not going to change if he does it will last a wk and then boom hes back to normal get fwr away as possible.
If you arenāt happy leave itās that simple. But 7 years is a long time. Do it now while you have kids with him. A clear clean break no BS. Do what you need to do to make you happy.
Gaslighting at itās finest. You really need to get out of this toxic relationship. It wonāt get better.
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He wonāt change! Heās showing you who he is! Run!
Is this for real?? You know what the answer is. 
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I think you just answered your own question
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Ok what do you want. Really truly want.
Donāt settle for less than what you want or deserve.
There is no advice in the world can change things for you until you decide what your worth is.
I think your worth a shit ton more more than what your getting. Just sayin.
You donāt have an easy decision to make. However what your child sees you accept for your worth is a lesson in what they expect themselves to be treated by others.
Your child deserves more too.
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Youāve answered your own question, I would genuinely split up with him as thatās abuse xx
GET OUT NOW. Thatās it. Why would you want your child around someone like him? Why would you want to be with someone like him? Marrying him will not make this better.
I donāt even know why you would even have to question this. Get out now!
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Youāre a strong woman and donāt need to rely on any disrespecting Male. Itās up to you to make that change. Yes, itāll be hard, for seven years is seven yearsā¦ Look in the mirror and ask yourself all the questions you have for your self. Heāll never be as empathetic as you want him to be. Heās his own person. Youāll be alright.
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Nope please donāt spend of your life with someone like that
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If you catch yourself begging someone for human decency. A response. Time together. Clarity. Respect. Compassion or even some kindness. You need to take a step back and realize that youāre begging someone for the bare minimum
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You deserve something better
If itās like this now what will it be like if you marry him. You deserve better
Iād deff leave for a bit and see if that has a effect on him. If not then ya know
All the bad points are there, and why he have not become EX instead?
Just dump him in the dumpster and move on with your lifeā¦
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Just give him baby number 3ā¦
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Get rid of him! Why would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that?
Time to leave heās showing you who he really is and heāll never change
Get out now, he wonāt change.
RUN very fast and very quick
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Lifeās to short if nit happy do something about it . Get out!
First of all it doesnāt take 7 years for a man to realize your his forever. Please donāt take this wrong: If he was a dead beat father to his own children what makes you think heās father material! You shouldnāt be with any man that doesnāt take care of his children and his baby mama/ex wifeā¦ Heās not into his children or yours and he shouldnāt be to yours because he doesnāt give a damn about his on. And your saying your not sure about you spending the rest of your life with him, Hell he has NO INTENTION OF MAKING YOU HIS FOREVER! JUST MOVE ON!!! Heās a narcissist and you should ask his ex why she donāt want him. trust me thereās truth from the other woman always! Be Blessed prayers going up.
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Leave his assā¦ know your worth and your childās worth.
Quit waisting your time. MOVE ON!
GET OUT WHILST U STILL CAN specially now Ur divorcedxxx
He wonāt change
Men get very upset when treated the same way they treated uā¦. That tells u a lot about his love!!!
Life is too short to waste it in something youāre not happy with, get out and enjoy it!
Dump himā¦life is to short
If your questioning it now youāll question it later
Get out while you can you deserve soo much better xxx
Past behaviour is a sure sign of future behaviour. Move on, you deserve better.
Kick him to the curb
How would you feel about your daughter being treated by someone like that.
Move onā¦ 
Your daughter deserves better than that shit aswellā¦ Hes a straight up 
Dump him sweetheart your not married to him
Run! Run far and fast!
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Definitely get out and run far away from him
You deserve much better get out quick and start to enjoy your life as you find your happiness. Good luck 
Hes a doosh, RUN AWAY FOREVER
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If you have doubts then you know yourself what to do. Life is short and you should be enjoying every day with your daughter. Donāt look back on your past look to the future and your happiness.
When it hurts more to stay then it does to leave, its time to go. So if youāre more unhappy around him then you are without him, again time to go.
Everyone including yourself and your man deserves to be happy and if you love someone youāll want that for yourself and them. Even if being happy means not being with them.
Anything else is just being selfish.
Without them I meant. Sorry.
If you were just needing confirmation, then im pretty sure you got it
For your sanity, leave. Quickly. You deserve love. Not that.
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