You went through one divorce do you really want to put yourself into another? You can tell you are not happy and I do not blame you at all. He is who he is and if you want more and better you deserve it. Walk away he has shown you his colors and his priorities. Love yourself and treat yourself better than that
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Iām too old for all that, I canāt smh
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Sorry but sounds like it will not ever workā¦he acts like this now can u imagine after your marriedā¦divorce once againā¦my opinion it wont work
You should let that 
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Leaveā¦ people only treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you
Donāt walk ā¦Run out that door & donāt look backā¦
Heās clearly not going to change, most guys never do. He doesnāt sound like he supports you or your family. Itās his way or the highway. Iād pick the highway.
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Happy mother happy daughter 
leave for ur daughter ye deserve better
I wouldnātā¦what a dick.
Kick him out of the house! He is not worth it and he will never change, he is toxic and narcissistic.
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Life is too short, pull up your big girl panties and let him kick rocks
You know what you want to do. You donāt need validation from anyone but yourself. Go be happy
Oh you know that you donāt want to spend your life with him. Itās not gonna change unfortunately 
You have nothing tying you to himā¦no children between the two of you so get out before its too lateā¦
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Sounds like you know the answer.
Honestly I wouldnāt tolerate it. Life is short, most importantly time with your children is wildly short
The window to teach them what a healthy relationship looks like is gone in the blink of an eye. Know she sees and she is learning. That enough is a reason to leave but your happiness is up there as well.
Youāre beating a dead horseā¦ he wonāt change just leave so youāre not miserable
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If you both work and he doesnāt help out just wants to live separate lifeā¦let him do his own thing ALONE without his house mate.Wish him well . Youāll be happier after awhile and he can do his own thing.
Get out if he has not changed in 7 years he will not change!
Divorce to him seems No Problem u told him u are now divorce an he was in No way symphathatic towards u he was like OKAY!
If he is treating u this way now do u think he will change after Marriage Nope ā¦
U said the Answer to urself already do u really want to spend ur life with Someone like himā¦m
Leave him 
youāll find someone else who will love u and ur babyā¦
Leave. You deserve to be happy & loved by someone who cherishes you 
Then donāt. Youāre obviously on the right track.
Tell him to kick rocks he is taking you for granted
Then you need to leave!
Run. Far and fast. I know itās hard. I know you probably donāt want to but for your sakeā¦ for your childās sake leave. You deserve someone that truly cares about you and your child.
Youāve already wasted 7 years. Heās not changing. You have to decide if you want better or you wanna keep letting someone treat you like shit?
Get out asap heās not worth it
You know yourself youāre not being treated the way you deserve. Leave and donāt go back!
If you are unhappy, then you need go. You cant not change him, no matter how hard you try. He is Verbal abusing you.
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Tell him to suck your ass and kick rocks. What a dick
Um you know what to do!
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Heās narcissistic either you learn to live with it and stand your ground or leave
Iām really confused as to why this is even a question. Heās an ahole. You already know that so why are you asking what you should do? 
I mean hell, he doesnāt want to even be seen in public with you. 
See the problem is a too many women hold on to toxic a relationships so they wonāt be alone. Actually sometimes itās better to be alone and happy. You wasted 7 years on this 
when you couldāve found someone that makes you happy. I hope you donāt end up pregnant BEFORE you decide that youāve had enough
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Get away from him for good as fast a possible.
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Sounds like you need to leave. Why waste more of your time with an asshole that doesnāt care about you or your feelings?
If you have doubts or donāt have similar interests maybe you should.
On another note. My husband is the same. Itās been hard but I fell him at least be there for family. Make memories with those you love because they will not always be there. Thatās when he gives in. He knows Iām right. Yes, he rude to everyone. Even his own brothers. It blows my mind. But they are forgiving and try to encourage him to do stuff with them. My husband is about 10 yrs older than them. We canāt complain if we choose to love them and stay. Well. I donāt anyway. Er I try not to. 
. Let him know how you feel. Talk to him as if he were your best friend. Not a pain in your buttocks. . Tell him your feeling like your losing him. Ask him why heās so bitter about life. You might be surprised. Another thing is. Find a church. For you and your children if not for him as well. Iām sure he wonāt go but, try anyway. It was my saving grace. God bless. Oh and we have been together 29 yrs today. Iām shocked. .
Iām pretty sure you know what needs done
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Dont stay find someone who makes the time for you and your kids.
Stop wasting your time
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Wtf you mean, what should you do?? Dump his ass!!! Do better sis and find someone worth your time!!!
Thatās a huge red flag doesnt want to spend time with you and his family in public. Its time to move on sister
so you mean to tell me it took you 7 years to realize this man is rude? Itās about time you leave sis.Love yourself
If you gotta ask, you already know the answer. Good luck.
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Kick him to the curb
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If you donāt have any kids with him, break clean girl. Youāre not even married yet. Take it from me, once married itāll be harder to leave. Help your future self out and run!
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Pack your shit and go he is not worth the time.
get OUT there is NO future with a man who treats you like that believe me I am 90 and have lives through it all
Leave and donāt look back. He wonāt change, I know from experience. They all say they will change and may for a week or a month and they go right back. There is a reason you still arenāt married, run as fast as you can!
No way girl you deserve happy and healthy times with an actual partner! You do not have to feel alone with someone right next to you! It will hurt and be hard but you will spend many more years suffering putting off the inevitable. Youāre right you do NOT want to be with someone who does not show interest in you or the children. He should be happy and wanting that time.
The only thing I have to say is if you donāt want a person like that LEAVE you already gave him a chance to change and he showed you he wasnāt going to it jus doesnāt seem like he sees a future with you. He didnāt even give af that your divorce went through
Run it wonāt get better and by staying you are teaching your kids that itās normal and ok behavior !
Leave leave leave. If my fiance was like this he would be gone
You donāt deserve that. Say Bye! 
Get outā¦run donāt walk away!
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You don"t. End it today.
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Pack ya gear n go , more to life then be miserable
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I donāt know how you lasted this long. You need to just leave. That is toxic AF! If yall have no kids together then just dip. He donāt appreciate you and acts a total ass then leave him by himself. Bet he will try to act right.
Girl you know the answer already. He is not going to change only you can decide when you have had enough.
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Heās already shown you what kind of life he wants. You either want that or you donāt.
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Life is too short for that junk. Find you a real Man.
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Walk away. Just walk away tbh itās not going to get any better and he sounds like a total a$$
run and donāt look back
Leave now. You have no ties to that man
You donāt need to be disrespected and be in that environment not good with your children dump his ass. Everyone needs to be happy and loved.
Are you that hard up for a man ?
Go get a real man, you deserve to be happy too !
If itās not working now after promises to change itās not gonna. I think you know that or you wouldnāt be at your wits end.
Kinda sounds like some depression
Change begins with us. If you want to change the tone of the relationship only you can. Unfortunately men have been taught to follow woman in everything but deny they do. They always waiting for a woman to save theā¦
Why havenāt you left yet?..
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Time to leave. Men donāt change. After 7 years heās shown you time and time again who he is.
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He wonāt change. My granddaughter is with someone, who monitors everywhere she goes, knows who she calls and texts. He said he does that thru Google. They split up before, he said heād change and they got back together. They had a baby but then he started-up again going to her job to see if sheās there etc. They filed yo get divorced but pandemic divorce didnāt happen. They gave themselves another chance. Now back to the same problem. They donāt change.
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Jfc leave. Plain and simple. Heās trash.
Donāt walk away RUN!!!
Girlā¦. Please stop wasting your time and putting your child in the situation to think thatās how a woman should be treated . Get tf out of that relationship. Plenty of better men out there
Heās gaslighting you. He doesnāt want a partner. He wants a maid, child care provider & most importantly someone who makes him feel superior by making you feel bad. The worse you feel the better he feels about himself. RUN! Itās just going to get worse.
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Youāre asking for trouble!! You deserve better! RUN 
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Run!!! You deserve better & child
If you canāt leave him get help ā¦ sometimes is codependency and itās hard to leave.
And why are you engaged to that? Run and never look back!
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Girl,leave ,he sound miserableā¦ live your best life with your baby
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His disrespectful. You donāt need that in your life. You donāt deserve that either. Run!
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Sounds like you know what you need to do - it only gets worse hun. If heās not willing to actually put in the work to help yaālls relationship, then heās the one that failed it.
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Red flags everywhere. You do not want to spend the rest of your life with that.
Gather up your stuff and get your way out. You and your child deserve better than that. Damn, his kids deserve better too.
Get out of a losing battle and make your own way.
I wouldnāt want to spend the rest of my life with someone like that. You deserve better. I would just leave him.
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Sounds like a jerk tell him get with it or get lost
You donātā¦move on. Donāt let a rebound relationship make you more miserable then the one you left.
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Geesh. Really? Leave him.
Soā¦why exactly have you been with him for 7 years? He sounds absolutely awful. Period.
You just got out of your previous marriage which of course didnāt work thatās why you had a divorce, donāt put yourself in another mess this time. The reasons are just right in front of you and you are aware. Think of your child and yourself too. You deserved better. Good luck.
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Re-Read your post like it isnāt you that wrote it. What would your response be to this individual? You deserve to have all that your heart needs and wants.
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Iād have to walk away from him especially if heās acting like that he will probably only get worse.
Leave before itās to late and he destroys you as a person more then he has.
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There are WAY worse things than being single. 100 out of 100 people here say leave. Seems clear to everyone but you. Try marriage counseling if you think it could change anything, but he sounds awful.
Iām guessing āfiancĆ©ā is in quotes because he hasnāt asked you yet, whether heās awaiting your divorce to be finalized or just not into it. What is his vision for the future?
Please use time alone after you leave this one to get some therapy and do some self-reflection. Did you jump right into a new relationship the minute you left your soon-to-be ex? If so, why? What are you afraid of? How can you address those fears? What does having a man bring you? Sex? Stability? Rent money? Help with kids? The status of being āwith someone? Why did you pick this loser, or was he wonderful previously (or did you convince yourself he was wonderful because he was available?)? Explore how you think and behave before you wind up in another dead-end relationship with another divorce.
Good luck! Never be dependent on a man, so you can have freedom. A relationship should add to your already happy life.
Kick him to the curb
Why are you even THERE?? Heās proven by words and actions heās not into you. You deserve someone who IS there for you, loves you, and treats you with respect. Why are you settling for such a mean, hurtful person?
You do NOT want to constantly begging someone to be a FAMILY. If he hasnāt figured it out by now he never will.
Itās not with the time to waste
U got a divorce and u also need to leave ur bf
He doesnāt want the family life and knows heās back in his old ways and does nothing bout it
Heās not it
Run like the Devil is after you.
With all those qualities you should be careful who you tell about him, Iām sure you could auction off a prize like him on here, after all everyone on here wants a life sentence of being treated like that
Why in heavenās name are you still with this jerk???
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