My boyfriend spent the day with his ex on Mother's Day

So its mothers day and my man chooses to spend it with his ex baby momma. He did that yesterday and brought there son to the zoo. Well all of a sudden today early this morning he felt the need to go back over there. Im pregnant with his daughter and he left me in an hotel room?? What are your thoughts

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My boyfriend spent the day with his ex on Mother's Day

I wouldn’t worry about it… but that’s just me I never worry about things I can’t control

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Get as far away from him as possible!!!

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Leave him asap! He’s still in love with her it he would stay with you … period!

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Leave him! Big red flag

She is the mother of his kid so spending time together with their kid isnt a bad thing. Unless there’s more to the story though I would leave.

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Please listen to the comments and run

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Why are you there at the hotel waiting!!!

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Put his bags :school_satchel: outside hotel door and ignore

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I think u already know the answer!! :running_woman: :running_woman::running_woman::running_woman::running_woman:

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Talk to the other mother maybe

Wait? Why does he have you in a hotel? Are you vacationing?

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The only thing he should’ve done is helped his son pick out a gift for his mom to give to her on Mother’s Day.

Anything other than that shows that he’s up to no good. Idc what his excuse is.

That’s DISGUSTING behavior.

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Just WOW! I’d grab my shit and leave! It’s obvious that his focus wasn’t on you and your unborn baby. Especially, when he felt the need to go back over there today. Cut your losses now, it’s apparent that you aren’t his top priority.

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What are you doing with yourself?? How are you feeling?? Why are you still there?? Get up and leave!! You are going to be fighting g with him if you don’t stop it now. It’ll be a constant fight with you too. He will say he does it for his son. Then he can stay with his ex. You will be just his rebound that got pregnant.

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Get the hell out of that relationship. He still wants to be with her. He has no respect for you now, pregnant with his child. Imagine how he will treat you after the baby comes.

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It’s hard to judge when there’s many details missing like did he ask you to go? Do you get along with her? Who has custody? So so many questions.

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Thoughts; why put up with that ?

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Did y’all go out of town for him to see his child? Is that why you’re in a hotel room? If so then it makes sense that he would use the time there spent with them. I don’t see why you wouldn’t be able to also tag along though.

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Girl, I think you know the answer to this… :grimacing: you don’t need the internet telling you what your gut is already telling you.

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It will always be about her, she comes first by the sounds of it.

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Talk to him about it rather than post it here :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Hotel room? Why did he say he was going back today? So many holes in this story.

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Please leave now before the baby arrives and you get false hopes. That was beyond disrespectful and he obviously sees nothing wrong with it, which means he won’t see anything wrong with any other form of disrespect.

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Something is going on

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Girl bye! If it’s not a big deal and it’s “family” time then you should have been invited.

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I’d be pretty upset if I was pregnant with a man’s child and he left me in a hotel room for his ex and didn’t even invite me?? I’d leave now before dealing with that love triangle

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They have a kid together girl if they wanted to be together they would be

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Like to hear to rest of the story

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If they co parent well they may just want to have a day where his kid is with them both. Did he invite you? Plus he didn’t JUST spend time with her, he took his son to the zoo… I’m not sure on a bunch of details so I’m not just gonna say he’s being unfaithful and leave him I’d need more details personally.

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I’d have been so out of there. So. Long. Gone!!! She can have his ass!!!

Yep not he’s trash he should never had not invited you he’s definitely sleeping with baby momma

Are you listening to yourself?? BYE BOY!!!

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leave his sorry butt and hit him with ALL you can get for child support.

Sorry but I’m going to be brutally honest…

If you weren’t the side chick, he would respect you and you would have had a say in his actions.

Do I need to say more? Hope this helps!

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I’d be upset. He should have invited you. Talk to him and let him know how it made you feel. You’ll know what to do based on his response and how it make you feel.

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Why are you in a hotel? Do you guys live away from his son? If you don’t live in the same place as his son and he doesn’t see his son a lot I wouldn’t think this is a red flag because obviously he would want to spend time with his son while he can before you go back home

Also is there bad blood between you and his ex? Has his son met you? There’s more to this story that you aren’t saying

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Yeah I would leave before it gets worse and he leaves or cheat

He is showing you who comes first. I hope things work out for you.

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What a POS!!! He obviously still has feelings for her. Why don’t you talk to her? And then talk to him? Why don’t you tell him, there is no reason you can’t go with him when he goes. Y’all are a couple right? Then that’s the right thing to do. That is old school cheating. When are people going to learn.

So, if you are in a hotel room, I’m assuming you are in her town visiting his child? And they went to the zoo? I would be upset that I had to stay behind, but did you tell him that before hand?

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Any communication with her should only be about the child. Not her and the child. He left her and moved on. Step up or move on. He’s showing you where you stand. Definitely not where you should.

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They bumping g and grinding don’t let them fool u he could have and should have Invited u

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His child with her is here. His with you is not. My guess is that you two do not get along. He spent the day at the zoo with his child, she was there. She’s ALWAYS going to be around, she had his kid. Decide if you can deal with that.

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So my husband and my bonus daughters mom always went to her soccer games together and other events , ( co parenting) I was always invited, and we actually became friends and hung out many times without the kids!

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As he should :skull::woman_shrugging:t2:** seeing that you’re pregnant as well by him he should’ve planned a shared day, could’ve been as simple as a brunch for his ex and kids and you.

It’s not necessarily even about the ex but showing his kids that he still celebrates the mom on that day. For the kids not for her even.

I’m not with my ex, and I have a child with a new partner. Father’s Day? You better BET we show up with gifts for Father’s Day, Christmas and birthday. Why? Because that’s my kids dad and I’m setting healthy boundaries and showing my daughters that their dad is still loved and important. Never would I ever stick my nose up at their father. Do I love him romantically? No. But I have all of the love and respect for him as my girl father. Never ever would I put them in the middle or cause drama

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Ok so I love everything except the fact you weren’t a part of it that is NOT ok!!!

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Damn…I didn’t even get a half hearted Happy Mother’s Day from my ex lol. But no, that’s not cool at all to leave you behind.

Please leave him now . If he had nothing to hide you would of been invited with them for the day . Definitely not right him leaving u out of the mothers day outing . When your pregnant with his child so wrong on so many levels and now running over to see his x this morning REALLY

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Were you invited on this outing & refused to go? She is his ex but will always be the mother of his child. It makes sense that they would spend time together. I know couples who go out for dinner with the shared child once a week, spend holidays together, sometimes even go on vacations together, no SOs. It’s the child’s time with their parents. Some people can remain friends after they break up. If you’re thinking there’s more to it than 2 parents taking their child to the zoo there’s trust issues wether it’s true or not. Since you can’t trust him you need to end it.

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Men are like that take from 85yr old pro

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You have every right to be mad. He should have spent it with you or at least given you some time as well. Hes with you now and you deserve to be the priority

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Did you say you wanted him to stay with you for Mother’s Day? Lol likeeee? Idk…

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Erm. I don’t see the problem really. My man spent time with his baby mama and his daughter on mother’s day. As he should! He even got her some gifts :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: A man should always treat the mother of his child with respect. Most men don’t do that and its honestly sad! My sons father did nothing, even when we were together, I never even got a happy mothers day from him. My man now, tells me happy mothers day and we don’t even have a child together. I have no issues with this. Only thing is, do you and the mother not get along? If you don’t, then that’s probably why you weren’t invited.

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Send him packing ASAP!!! He wouldn’t have come back to me Mothers Day!!!

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I’d be upset he didn’t bring me tbh but I don’t think it’s wrong he took his son to celebrate Mother’s Day

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I mean… I see no issue for mothers day… but u are pregnant and he should have done that with u… so make it a coparent thing… him leaving u in hotel was not cool at all. All yall go out tg

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I would be upset at the fact I was left in the hotel by myself with no invite but you need to understand that he also has another child that deserves just as much of his time as your child would.

If you can’t handle the fact that she’ll be around and spending time with them both at times without you then maybe you shouldn’t be with him… have you even expressed your feelings about this to him?

If not then I suggest you do and just explain how not getting invited made you feel. Because you can’t stop him from being around her… they have a child together so you need to learn to deal with that. But he also needs to be making sure you don’t feel left out either! COMMUNICATION is the main thing you need in a relationship. So communicate!

So express your feelings.

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Fuck that, leave that dude. Hell no. If you can’t come along then he’s definitely up to something and I speak from experience

Good-bye. See you in Court.

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All of you saying “he should be allowed to see her on mother’s day” seem to have missed the part where she said, and THE NEXT DAY… They’re bangin…:woman_shrugging:t2: sorry

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The father of my kids always made mothers day and my birthday special even years after we split up. Bought me gifts, cooked me breakfast and everything. No sexual advances or talk of getting back together or anything. The last year he even had a girlfriend at the time he was over the moon about. He’s no longer with us unfortunately and I am just so glad he set that example for our boys and that they got to have memories of us together and getting along as a family even though me and their dad were no longer a couple. I wouldn’t be to pressed about the situation honestly, unless other things have happened that would lead you to believe something fishys going on.

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Not cool !!! It’s time for a serious conversation AND councilor time

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While I think it is a great example to set for his child with ex, you are also his baby mother and he should of done something for you. I have no problem with him setting a good example for his child but I find a lot of :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post: that he left you behind 2 days and didn’t celebrate you. Maybe couples therapy?

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Mother’s Day isn’t spend the day with your ex you can take your child to buy mommy something but you don’t spend the day with her UNLESS there is more going on. If he is being disrespectful now it’s not going to get better.

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I have a perfectly cordial relationship with my kids father. He text me HMD. And that was that. There’s a level of respect required for the current female your with especially if she is carrying your child. Now I’m all for inviting everyone to the party. That’s healthy for the kids. But if the baby mama didn’t want you to join, that’s where it’s no longer respecting you.

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As long as it is innocent and he makes sure to do his part to show you he is respectful and there is healthy communication, it should be alright. Both the man and woman have a responsibility to makes sure our partner feels safe. I think it’s nice and admirable they have a healthy friendship for their child. But if your gut is feeling off, your intuition, and the fact that he left you alone and out from celebrating you as well as the mother of his child you are carrying, makes him wrong for that. I didn’t read anything of you being selfish, i read you was left out and left alone and that’s not right.

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Dump his ass he’s cheating

She’s his ex NOT his ex baby mama
Maybe it’s a tradition thing for them
Did he do anything at all for you?
If not there are a lot of people that forget we become mothers the second we decide to keep our pregnancy

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His ex should of had her son and did something on her own. You be honest he’s probably cheating.

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As the baby mama, my ex and I spent years fighting, and finally get along great. We make it a point to spend time with our daughter, the 3 of us, to show her good co-parenting and healthy communication. His ex had an issue with that, she’s an ex for a reason. There is absolutely nothing between us anymore, it is strictly co-parenting for our daughter. To me, this sounds immature on your part. Be happy they get along and are doing things together for their son. A lot of parents and kids don’t get that.

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Mmmmm that’s not your boyfriend girl that’s somebody else’s husband/baby dadd. Just be glad you found out before the baby was brought into the world, check out of that room in the morning :high_heel: :high_heel:

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:face_vomiting::face_vomiting::face_vomiting::rage::rage::rage: red flag :triangular_flag_on_post: leave him where he is at

There’s got to be more to the story. Was the pregnant girlfriend invited and chose not to go? Was she not invited? There’s parts missing

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Ya sorry but no. There is a difference between coparenting and whatever this crap is.

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Girl… that don’t sound like his ex lol somethings fishy, it was Mother’s Day, not family day… somethings going on you don’t know about

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He spent the day with his kid so I think you just need to chill the fuck out

I mean … are you sure you’re not the side piece :sweat_smile::sweat_smile::sweat_smile:

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Yeah I was in your exact shoes. They had been together for 7years abd split up… their daughter was a little over a year when I met him and I got pregnant quickly. He would go over there to spend time with his daughter just the 3 of them and they were still having sex… so idk :woozy_face: but that’s not everyone’s experience I’m sure… there are a lot of other factors to consider… how long have you been together? Is she cordial with you? Do you guys get along? Is he trustworthy? Do you guys have a good relationship? Etc

Lord jesus…if he’s my daughter’s ex he has 5 kids with 3 different baby mommas already…:rofl::rofl:

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“You didn’t see the red flags? :triangular_flag_on_post:” “I- I thought it was the circus” :clown_face: :circus_tent: :tickets:

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I’d definitely end that relationship unless you’re okay with him having you and his ex girlfriend

Stay and take it ir leave

Clearly you should have been his priority and should have been invited to go along and be included, the fact you weren’t shows his intentions and priorities are not with you or his unborn child. Sorry, you deserve better.

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My thoughts are he needs to be your X lol

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And you let him treat you like that
That’s the worse thing
Be self caring
It won’t get any better

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Not every relationship end in bad terms, sometimes you can’t be together as a couple but you can be really good friends . When you decide to date and gets into a serious relationship with someone with kids you should be prepared to deal with their ex , for the good or for the bad , if you can’t handle the fact that they might have to spend time together with and without you , stay away from that and date someone without kids .

     You are insecure and jealous of their relationship and you will feel worst when your baby arrive because you will not have all his attention
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Contraception. Why does no one use it?? That’s not his ex it was while they fell out then he got with u and they got back together while you fell pregnant. Just leave while you can

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Sounds like you need to become his ex to get better treatment :woman_shrugging:t2:

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I’m done would be my opinion :heart: best wishes to you and your baby girl.

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So why are you allowing that? That’s the question!?

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You allow what you allow!

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My oldest daughter’s dad and i still do things with her together and shes 11. We have been coparenting for 11 years. Ive been with my husband the last 9. If money wasn’t an issue, I would be going a cruise with my ex and our daughter in june whike my husband stayed home with our own two mutual children. On the other side, my husband and ex have done weekends with my daughter while i stayed home with the kids. His ex isn’t going anywhere. You’re about to have his baby. You are going to have to figure out a way to co parent peacefully with his ex. And i will tell you right now, if my husband had tried at all to come between my relationship with my daughters dad, i would have kicked him to the curb. You let someone get you pregnant who already had another child. Your new child doesn’t replace that responsibility he still has to his existing child. You need to learn to coexist peacefully with his ex and thier relationship or leave him and worry about coparenting only your child with him.

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Sounds like you’re the side chick the other girl might not know run girl and don’t look back… I know it’s hard being pregnant but trust me you and your baby deserve better

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Kick his Areers to the curb.

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I’m going to be the one out here and say I agree w the dad. Sounds like he’s co parenting and being a good father and respecting the mother of his child and taking the child out to do family things because they are still a family because they have a child together. I’d rather see that then a man spending mother’s day bitching about the mother of his child and being bitter and nasty. You said you are pregnant and sounds like you are jealous because he went to go see his child. When your baby comes I’m sure he will make time for both the mothers of his children on mother’s day and take all the kids out. I wouldn’t be mad until that doesn’t happen.

It’s called good parenting me and my ex do stuff together all the time doesn’t mean anything‘s happening… you have a right to be mad though it was Mother’s Day I would let him know about it 

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Sounds like he left you in a motel room….

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It’s ok that he is trying to keep a family dynamic for his child. The family still matters to the kids and while they can understand parents are separated it’s just so cool to be able to coparent and do things like this together even when separated.
Could you ask if you can go along?
Can you put your foot down and say this is a serious boundary and I WILL leave if you continue to cross it?
You can’t stop a man from being a father, why would you want to? it’s important that child sees him treat his mother good regardless of the fact they aren’t together. Good luck with your pregnancy.

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