My boyfriend takes the wifi cord with him to work: What can I do?

My boyfriend & I have been together for 3yrs. He works 3rd shift 6-7 days a week, 8-10hrs a day, so he’s EXTREMELY tired so I stay home with our 2yr old cause he dont want to pay for a babysitter. He wants me to work but dont really want to pay for a babysitter. I ABSOLUTELY WONT leave our child with him cause of how tired he is! Anyhow, since he’s the only one working, he’s the only one with money & paying for everything. But I feel it’s wrong of him what he does to me. Sometimes when he’s leaving for work, he’ll tell me not to watch the tv all night, or he’ll unplug the wifi or even hide the wifi cord or take it with him in his car! I know he’s the one paying for everything but I do everything else at home. I clean everything & take out trash, ect. He wants me to go do laundry & I cant even go do that till he gives me money to go do it. And I hardly go buy the groceries cause he won’t give me money to go get it. He’ll either go himself & buy something for that day or buy a few things for the week. And the other day when I was going to go to the store he told me to make sure to bring the receipt for him & I was like wow! I don’t even ask for money for myself when I need something like new clothes, which I really need right now, cause the last time I did he told me to go work. He wont let me see his credit card spending. And when I searched his location history I found some bars & casinos he’s been to but he says he swears he dont know why it shows that cause he hasn’t been there… how accurate is the gps location?? Is he wrong for doing this or am I wrong because he pays for everything?

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My boyfriend takes the wifi cord with him to work: What can I do?

Dump his sorry POS ass

Get out as fast as you can

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Run and don’t look back…

Get out before it get worse :pray::pray::pray:

That’s financial abuse… get out now. It only escalates.

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You’re wrong for staying. This man has total control over you. It’s sickening.

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Why are you still there? He’s only going to get worse.

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He’d controlling you, get out while you can

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GPS is 1000% accurate and tells you how long they were there. Don’t fall for that.

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Leave. This is toxic

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Girl if you can get out! Go live with a family member until you can get on your feet!

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That’s a narcissist to a T. Get the hell out

Just stay there, quit complaining, you got a man, a baby, a place to live with someone your not married to, what’s the problem?:thinking:

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Run and leave this is financial abuse and he’s making sure he can control everything you do. It will get worse, this isn’t even a go to therapy situation, just leave

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Definitely not right what he’s doing especially u doing everything around. The house and gps is pretty accurate sounds like he’s hiding stuff

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He’s controlling you in every aspect of life girl, get out now!

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That’s called abuse get out

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He is wrong… So so wrong… Leave him…

That’s abuse on many levels but we’ll start with financial abuse. Run and take that baby with you.

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Get a job at a daycare your kiddo can attend too. Start saving money to get out. If he asks to see your paystubs tell him it’s none of his buisness.

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100% financial Abuse!

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Run!! He is controlling you

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You need to leave. This is control and manipulation

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This man is making you completely dependent on him. Don’t walk RUN as fast & far as you can… this man will only get worse :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

Get away like now. I swear it sounds like you are dating my ex. Get away and never ever look back.

Totes wrong of him. It’s abuse.

Financial abuse! Throw the whole man away take your kid and file for CS

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That’s a huge red flag. Run

Please get yourself together and leave him. This is financial abuse and control!

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Run as fast as you can. The abuse will get worse

He’s abusing and controlling and manipulating you. It will only get worse. Take the baby and run!!!

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Get out…file child support. That is ridiculous :roll_eyes:

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Omg leave now!!! Controlling narc

Run as fast as u can before it’s to late!!

Me and my child would be long gone before he got home from work!!! He’s not the one for you!!!

Even my gps is wrong. That is no excuse for the controlling of your life at all. Get a job. And get out.

Gettttttttt outtttttttttttt. He shouldn’t control you and your life like that and you shouldn’t feel the need to check his location to validate your feelings! Go find happiness!!

Run. What he is doing is financial and emotional abuse. Get out as fast as you can and never look back. This is how it starts before turning physical. Get out before it’s too late.

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Wow I’m sorry but you need to leave being a stay at home mom is a really tough job and if he can’t see that then wow and when you’ve been together and have a kid and live together it’s usually our money meaning both of you and this environment is not ok for any child a lot of :triangular_flag_on_post: please leave

That sounds like prison.
And not normal behaviour!

Wow, he’s disgusting, please leave, this isn’t right. This is emotional and financial abuse. I can’t believe what I’m reading. Please leave and tell family or someone you love :heart:

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Yes controlling really bad. Get a job tKe your child to daycare you will be much happier

Get the hell out now

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He’s your boss not your husband! Leave now and hire a babysitter!

Can you say control freak

Start quietly looking for a safe place for you and your child to go. Reach out to friends/family if you can. Or seek help from a woman’s shelter. Very concerning

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That’s So messed up and very childish who does that !! Like what the actual heck !! I’d run run fast as you can he is way too controlling !!

It’s only going to get worse

He is financially abusing you. Start finding a way to get out. For your kids, and your own sake. Remember, kids are smarter than you think and learn from example. By staying, you are teaching your kids that what he is doing is ok, when it is blatantly not.

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What in the actual hell!? This is when you grow a pair and GTFO!!!

:running_woman:t2: for the hills!!!

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When he goes one way to work his 8-10hrs me and the baby would be gone the other way.

Youve gotta get strength and leave for you and baby sake this is not healthy

He is financially abusing and crippling you. You need to leave NOW.

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Live with a family member or a friend. That’s taking advantage of someone he’s lying your your face and plus he is probably cheating either way you don’t deserve him you are much more than he is. As soon as you get out get a job and taking care of that baby you will see the difference of what you can do when you put your mind to it

I would get a remote job that’ll allow you to be home with the baby or I’d put him in daycare And get a job. The one thing I would do 100% is leave that man. He’s not a partner that I’d want to have for life.

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That’s horrible please do yourself a favor and leave ! It might be hard but you can do it!

You need to leave he is controlling you if he doesn’t wanna pay a babysitter how does he expect you to work . If you are there taking care of the home and his child you are working so he should not be controlling you I’m going to tell you you need to get out before it gets worse you take your baby and run even if you have to go back home to mom and dad right now till u get on your feet no one needs to be controlled at all

First of all… RUN. But also the wifi bill (usually) is a flat rate, for the month. So him taking the cord won’t save money he’s just doing it to control you.

That is abuse. Financial abuse and he’s punishing you like you’re a child. Leave. He’s a narcissist.

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He’s abusive and psycho. You need to go.

Run, run as fast as you can away from him,

That’s financial abuse.

Get yourself and job & leave him.

Please plan a safe plan to leave! This is isolation and really unhealthy…

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Runnnnn!!! He’s controlling and manipulative!!

What’s making you stay? Sounds like you need to leave and start making your own income. Send your child to daycare or with family etc

Umm leave and don’t look back…

Girl… no one can live like that! You are going to have to make some hard choices and big changes for yourself and your child. I hope everything works out for the best!

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None of that is normal. Leave. Immediately.

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I mean, I pay for everything in my house. I gave limits on things, but what he’s doing is controlling.

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Pull those big girl panties up and get out

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Leave, now! It’s only going to get worse and will escalate. First it’s knocking someone down and alienating them from others and then comes the physical abuse.

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Can I direct you to the narcissistic groups. I’m in a few. It’ll be a real eye opener for you I think.

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You need to LEAVE!!! Like right now! He’s controlling on so many levels. If you don’t get out while you can things could get worse. You deserve better

You need to make a plan. He’s controlling you. He will not stop controlling you. Make plans so you can leave.

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I can see how this can be considered abuse but I also see where he’s coming from too. He’s the only one working and paying for literally everything it seems. Controlling? Very. Almost extremely.

Girl please don’t be no one’s doormat . Sounds like u need to start earning ur own money that’s horrible.and I definitely wouldn’t want to live that way . That’s ur boyfriend not ur husband u better seek some state assistance to pay for day care and become independent. Smh

Girl you need to find a real man. Yours is horrible! He should be taking you to dinner, shopping etc! Plus you should have a car and check card!!

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Sweety this is abuse

Yes open ur eyes he will get worse an u deserve better

You are a prisoner in your own life. :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

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Run, Run as fast as you can and as far as you can. That’s literally abuse. I’d say you are enduring financial and emotional abuse from him.

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Leave immediately and find a safe place to stay

He is cheating and using you. His tiredness around you is fake. He doesn’t care… He is not ready to settle down. Leave him now. Period! Please do yourself and your mental health a favor and GO!

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:triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post: leave him right where you found him give him back to his momma because he’s weird frfr

I get that he’s paying for everything, but that’s still a form of control !

Omg hun run as fast as you can it will not get better wtf takes the wifi cord so the other person can’t watch the TV. SMH you really need to get far away from him

Wow :exploding_head: He is selfish and he doesn’t deserve you. You’re worth so much more! Get away now, this is only going to get worse.

He is controlling girl get out of there

Financial abuse for now … it’ll get worse …

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Run… Like right now. Pack up the baby and get the fk out.

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That’s abuse. This is not healthy for you or your baby. RUN as fast as you can.

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That’s a type of abuse, get out of there!

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Find a Close daycare your child gets put in your class and it’s free since you work there. Save up and get out of there he is trying to control you and will bring you to an extremely mental state of mind which will make you more Vulnerable. 

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Get a replacement cord and hide it where u want.
Then use Google to find a new home.

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This is domestic violence. It is controlling and abusive (including financial abuse). It will escalate and it’s not your fault. You need support to leave this situation before it gets worse. Contact a local domestic violence organization for assistance.

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Honey…you need to reach out to a dv support service…