So I’m not too sure what to do. Last night I and my boyfriend, were hanging out having a relaxing night we go to bed, I woke up in the middle of the night and he was on his phone threw it across the room wouldn’t let me see what he was looking at and then ran in the bathroom deleted whatever he was doing and said all he was watching was porn and didn’t want me to see. I don’t know if I should believe him or not
My boyfriend was on his phone in the middle of the night and then threw it when I woke up: Advice?
It may have been some freaky deaky porn you wouldnt approve of,
Trust your gut instincts. Sounds like he was doing something and got scared he was getting caught. If it was only porn as he said, then why throw the phone?
And that’s not problem enough …?
My partner said he would do the same thing. He was probably just surprised that you woke up and didn’t know what to do. He also could’ve been looking at some weird porn and was embarrassed. If he hasn’t given you any other reason to think he’s cheating, I would believe him.
If he was willing to say “it was just porn” he is lying. It’s something more
If it was only porn why would he throw his phone across the room? Either which way he is hiding something and doesn’t sound like he is being honest. There are some real red flags here.
Definitely red flag for me. Definitely watching something and getting caught.
Maybe some live stuff. Its shady. Not cool.
Oh he’s cheating cheating
Porn was the beginning of the end of my 30+ year marriage. Porn and sneakiness.
Tomorrow night invite 14 circus performers and a few farm animals into your bedroom, lock the door on them and let them wake him up while you grab your camera, that ought to straighten things up
Trust your gut. Seems sketchy to me.
Def talking to someone he doesn’t want you to know about
He threw his phone??? That reminds me of my one ex I took his phone into the bathroom he almost broke the door down. HE IS HIDING SOMETHING
Ugh stuff like this always gives me that heartbreak feeling in my stomach
Honestly I’d just leave. No shady shit.
Definitely shady. My boyfriend and I both trust each other enough that we can leave our phones with each other and not have to worry. If he can’t leave his phone with you, throws it, and has to take it to the bathroom to delete, then in my opinion, its very shady and I wouldn’t hang around.
Porn can seriously destroy a person and a relationship if it’s not an open thing in your relationship. I think you know he’s being dishonest.
I had an ex that did this to me but through the phone in water and guess what…he was cheating. Leave.
No hun. I’m sorry. He is probably cheating. Porn is nothing to throw your phone over. Hiding that your cheating is.
He’s just a boyfriend cut your losses They never stop lying once they start lying
It could be cheating or it could be porn. Like some guys can’t even admit they have a porn addiction to themselves let alone their partner.
Grow balls and leave
If he can lie about small things, then he will have no problem lying about big important things. Yeah he obviously was doing something worse. If it wasn’t anything bad, he wouldn’t have thrown his phone. I’d end the relationship there, don’t need BS cuz your not an idiot. People are obvious when they get caught.
So many scorned women here giving bad advice. This guy was caught off guard by you waking up so he tossed his porn and tried to act normal. Listen, I am that woman who doesn’t trust a soul. Give the guy a break, but have a conversation about his reaction and your feelings towards porn in general. This isn’t that big of a deal and can easily be solved with some communication.
Maybe hes not cheating maybe he was watching porn…gay porn maybe?? I mean now a days u don’t know what people get off on 🤷🏻♀
He is just telling you a shocking enough lie that you will take it for the truth.
Do not believe that please
Wait a week… check his phone…lol… he cheatin!
I would say “bye”
Before jumping to the cheating conclusion…
I’ve been your boyfriend in this situation.
I was actually watching porn, go tt startled by my partner waking up and not wanting him to see. Went and deleted my history because we had only been together a few months and he wasn’t ready to see that side of me yet
Usually women are disgusted by porn. Maybe he thought you would be angry and upset so tried to hide it (not smart I know)
If you’re not opposed to porn, may be start a conversation with him about what you’re both into:woman_shrugging:. Could also make the relationship better
He was watching a live
Example and person on live cam.
If he can’t be honest with you about that than your left feeling all sorts
Sort it together or time to end it sorry to say I’m a straight out person.
If he was cheating he wouldn’t have threw his fone:joy: maybe he threw it because u woke up and he couldn’t get enough time to stop the video but idk it could be anything, but if he was talking to another girl he wouldn’t have threw the fone away he would have basically put it
Return the favor, see how he likes it than ghost his ass.
But really he gots to go
Porn hunny, it might be very tasteless and just doesn’t want you to know his fetishes and fantasies cause they may be embarrassing so maybe give it a lil bit and then approach the subject of why he doesn’t want you to know what he was watching and if there is anything that he likes looking at that you can assist with in real life. Try to be open as much as possible. Exception is unless it’s pertaining to children or animals.
I think more information is needed honestly. Have you all had a conversation about porn before? Have you given him any issues about watching it in the past? How long have you been together? Is he normally hiding his phone or do you normally have access to it? It’s so hard to give advice on this one because a lot of information and background is missing.
This has red flags:triangular_flag_on_post:, flashing lights:oncoming_police_car:, and sirens blaring all over it.
If it was porn, whatever. But he chose to not only stop when you caught him, but then proceeded to delete the evidence and hide it even more AFTER the fact. Trust your gut! This doesn’t smell right and you are right to be cautious and suspicious. His behavior after is the most troubling.
Seen that before
Turns out he was cheating the whole relationship they don’t hid there phones and freak out just because of porn
Maybe it was porn, but maybe he’s into something a little less conventional and isn’t sure how you would react and he just freaked out. Honestly, it could be any number of things, but, it’s important you really talk to him. Only you can judge if you think he’s being honest.
I’d be packing my bags… or packing his.
If he was just watching porn and u r ok with that then why is he hiding it? I’m either way thats super suspicious.
That’s awful dramatic for it to be porn.
I’ve had an ex do this tbh it very well could be just porn
Regardless him acting like that would upset me. If u cant talk to me about it I’m not sure I’d be ok with that and acting like that, oh no.
Sounds like he was watching porn and panicked
He is probley cheating I’d it was just porn he should had showed u
Lol I believe him. Mine gets super embarrassed when he gets caught looking at porn. I think his sexual shyness is adorable.
Gay porn? Or maybe some only fans shit idk it could have just been porn and he panicked
Look on your phone bill.
Throwing his phone is a bit dramatic don’t you think ? Lol I think he’s hiding something
Honestly it sounds like he is embarrassed you caught him watching porn…
gay porn? beastlality porn? it might not be normal porn. or it’s live porn.
if my man woke up in the middle of the night and I was watching porn I’d be startled af but I would rather show it to him and be embarrassed than have him think I was cheating on him
My ex did that 2 times and it was gay men porn
It was probably weird porn. Or someone else
If you go looking for trouble you will find it. Be sure that’s what you want.
Believe him? I think NOT!!!
Probably just some off the wall porn… midget orgies or something
Believe him, but talk to him. A lot of guys get embarrassed when it comes to their SO finding out that they watch porn. It was probably a deer in headlights moment for him.
Why are you asking a question when you clearly know the answer… That douchebag was texting some other broad while laying next to you as you slept in bed… What an embarrassing, fucking loser he is.
Has he given you any other reason to believe that he might be cheating?
If not then he prob was watching porn.
Could be only fans … could be someone he knows
He actually threw the phone and ran???
What do you date, a toddler
Lol, um communication and trust is key. Seems like he lost some trust from you but thats were communication comes in. Sit down and talk abt it with him. Might be odd as all hell and embarrassing but if you guys can’t communicate abt these things, your in for a long rough road ahead, if it lasts. Good luck.
Ummm if it was porn why would he throw his phone lol… he was talkin to another girl and lookin at sexy pics and u know it… men dont throw theor phone over something like porn… girl leave his ass
Oh my god. I have never known anyone male or female to have the reaction to THROW THEIR PHONE because of porn. It was either really sick shit or he cheating. “Hello, Whole Man Disposal Service? Do you do same day pickups?”
What if he was just watching porn that’s embarrassing I mean look at porn category’s there’s some off the wall stuff.
Sounds like he might be embarrassed of what he’s watching
you have good reason to be suspicious, however it COULD very well be embarrassing porn or a fetish he is scared to tell you about.
Go on pornhub and just look at what’s popular these days
Maybe he was watching dudes even lmao . You never know.
Or maybe he was looking up pegging.
Or step mom porn. There’s all kinds of stuff on the hub and xhamster
Duh…tell him show you or bye bye
If he admitted it was porn after he ran and deleted it def was more then that (unless he was watching something you wouldn’t like) other wise jus using porn as a excuse like some guys do to cheat jus saying from my own experience
I mean if he was watching porn than he was most likely master bating also. If he was suddenly caught maybe it was just a reaction and he was embarrassed about getting caught lol.
Just throw the whole dude away. Get a new one
Definitely up to no good. Don’t even try to get proof, just go. Know your worth.
Run…just run and never look back.
It was obviously more than some porn if he threw his phone like that, dont even bother asking about it cause it’ll turn into a fight and possibly turn on you. Just leave while you can cause hes clearly playing some game.
Just leave, from experience it’s never anything good and the excuse he gave is just that
Maybe have a look on some dating apps and see if you can find him on there
leave . . dont feel bad. do not go back.
Some phone keep stuff in trash for 30 days
He’s lying. Don’t even waste anymore time
Girl he cheating & you know it
He’s hiding something hun. You have to leave him before you find out the hard way…
Wait now guys question do you get mad when he watches porn because if so maybe he was and just didn’t wanna hurt your feelings
He could possibly be into gay porn and not want you to know about it. You can look up his google activity
Don’t hate…yes it can be bad…or maybe he was looking up engagement rings? Just trying to find a positive. I’m sorry if it is bad though, maybe have a conversation with him and confront him. If he’s cheating pack and leave you deserve better, if not maybe it’s a good surprise??? Hope the best for you
Huge I might get embarrassed if I was ‘caught’ watching porn but that’s not the outcome of what a healthy reaction should be. Nor would I erase it. Guilty conscience is written all over this.
Maybe he has a weird porn fetish that he doesn’t want you to know about? Has he talked to you about it at all since last night?
This post should say “ex-boyfriend” lol byeeeeee
Oh he is definitely talking to Jake from State Farm!!!
Release him back to the streets.
if my husband did that the fight would be on regardless if he showed me or not. Him throwing the phone and running is a clear sign hes hiding something. Hes a boyfriend. Lose him. Life is roo short for bs
I had an ex do something extremely similar, he was cheating. If it raises a red flag address it right then and there. If the answer you’re given doesn’t feel right, bye. To me, that’s not a healthy reaction to being caught watching porn.
Leave or be the girl that ends up getting cheated on that is if he hasn’t done it already
Probably gay porn.
He will turn it around on you and make you feel like its all your fault… and then lie some more
How about you actually read what you posted? You should have it figured out by the last sentence.
He is fighting with his Side. Whatever fuck him go get your side then make him your main, push this guy “to the left”, he just down graded to your side… No shame in doing what ever the fuck makes you happy.
Some nights I wake up
For no reason and surf the net. If my hubby wakes up, he will ask me why I’m on my phone. I say,
No reason. Don’t just assume things until you know the facts.