My boyfriend was on his phone in the middle of the night and then threw it when I woke up: Advice?

Might be innocent but weird…

However, he’s already broken trust by being secretive. Depends on where this takes you… Might start be the start of troubles to come so I guess just keep an eye for now and see how you feel over time and what your gut tells you x…

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Maybe it was GAY porn. :joy:

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People need to stop hating on women who question suspicious behavior, It’s not always insecurities, you have no idea what they have lived through.

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Hiding something. I had the same issue with my ex, the day I left is the day he moved his “new” girlfriend in.

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Nooooo… you don’t go through someone’s phone! People deserve privacy! If he’s cheating you’ll find out sooner or later. Eyes open, mouth shut. Eventually he’ll tell on his self. :woman_shrugging:

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He got caught, obviously you guys have trust issues because if it were pron he would not have had issues he may have been embarrassed but he would not have thrown the phone risking breaking it over porn. That was a way over reaction but then having to go to the bathroom to delete it. I would not get serious until you know 100% you can trust him fact his behavior says you can’t.

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Oh geez… give him the benefit of the doubt he was looking at porn, and could very well be embarrassed you caught him, and maybe just maybe he likes stuff that’s not what you like… but asking random strangers on Facebook isn’t always the best option. Go with your gut!!

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Ask for his phone and look into his deleted photos. You will see things there. Also if you go to well on my phone to safari or and hit that little square at the bottom you will see things he’s looked up recently.

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Oh sweet thing… Dump and run. Just do it. You will save yourself a whole lot of hurt in the future.
There are real men out there who won’t do that. There are. Don’t waste anymore of your time or your energy or your heart on this one. RUN!!!

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If you have to ask “should I believe him or not” I’d say you don’t believe him and something is telling you not to … Trust your instincts and start a convo with him about it

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Either he’s cheating or you have an issue with porn that he knows about (and you possibly forgot to mention in this post) or he’s got some weird kink he truly is embarrassed about👀 I’m leaning towards the first and I agree with PP.

Ask for the phone. Check his recent calls. Check his contacts list. Check his browser history and recent tabs. Check his recently deleted pics in his phone. Check his hidden gallery. Check what kinds of texting apps he may have and look at them. Check his snap and see if he has any recents. Check the times of any snaps sent to and from and check dates on ALL APPS!!

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Did he close his eyes and pretend you weren’t there :joy: Typical childish behaviour. He reacted like that because he was up to something shifty. Something maybe you wouldn’t agree with, as it crosses boundaries. Get more info from him then go from there. Must admit his reaction was a little extreme for pxxn.

Because I hate going full left, I’m just going to say accept the “porn” explanation this time around. However, if it happens again, tell him “WELL LETS WATCH IT TOGETHER”, and then watch his reaction then… Hey🤷🏾‍♀️

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Ask to see…if hes hiding porn he could be hiding other things or might be later down the road…HONESTY!

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Who cares what he was looking at. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who cared so little about my feelings.

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Girl bye a whole lie…just to prove you wrong he would’ve showed you it was porn

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Do you usually argue about porn? Or is porn considered ok in your relationship? If porn is ok - he wouldn’t have been that dramatic and I would assume something worse going on. If porn is a topic that has started arguments or is considered infidelity to some degree in your relationship… then he may be telling the truth.

Either way that is extremely sketchy

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Talk to him. It probably wasn’t porn. But don’t communicate with Facebook. Communicate with your boyfriend.

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Probably was some dodgy porn I wouldn’t worry, just keep half an eye on it :woman_shrugging:

He actually threw the phone?? :flushed: Naw that’s totally not suspicious at all🤦:joy::joy:

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Don’t think just run!

No. If you’re feeling insecure of his actions now (absolutely justified) it’s absolutely not a relationship to be in.

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If you have to question it, you already have your answer. Leave him and his secrets.

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He probably was watching porn.

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Leave, it doesnt change

Throw the whole man out. Start over

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If it was just porn there was no need to throw it obviously it was something else leave him

I read this to my man for a male point of view and he said it sounds like he’s lying.

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Maybe he was watching porn. :woman_shrugging:t2: it’s not something you wanna broadcast lol

Read what you wrote back to yourself as though someone else was saying it to you and take your own advice. We always have our own answers. Obviously you gotta’ dump him. Giving him the benefit of the doubt will just prolong the inevitable.

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Throw him an phone out

My bf said if its porn why didn’t he use the incognito tag that all you gotta do is click it to kill it so there wouldn’t be a reason to run to bathroom… my bf says either gay porn, on a dating app/website he shouldn’t be on or watching only fans

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If he was going to ‘admit’ to it being porn then why run into the bathroom to hide? Sounds dodgy to me.

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I’m sure your intuition is off the chain right now

That is not normal behavior, of course you should not believe.

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Sounds like a lie to me

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Could be gay porn :man_shrugging:t2:

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You don’t need him. Leave

Maybe he was watching some real nasty shit like fisting bumholes and was embarrassed lmao
My hubby knows porn is okay we usually watch it together, but he’s also the type to be embarrassed if I catch him watching alone :rofl:

He’s cheating hun leave him

Somebody take me out this damn group lbs yall so damn soft in here

B.S. dump him.
Find a better man

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He is either cheating OR has like sick shit like gay porn or little kids on there. RUN.

Maybe he was embarrassed.

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No… he is cheating on you. Men don’t throw their phone and delete everything over porn.

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If it was only porn… In his words, whys he deleting it and running away. Sounds like a bit of an over reaction. All guys watch it. Girls who think they don’t need a wake up. But I’d say this is more than that. Keep an eye on him. X

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Girl, fight him :roll_eyes::clap:t4::clap:t4:

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Hes a grown man? :joy: I only say that cause ive caught my teenager watching porn and even he doesnt throw his phone and runs like that. So either it wasnt porn and he was texting some chick asking for pictures or just sexting with the chick. But a normal man wouldnt throw their phone run to bathroom after picking it up then deleting their browsing history if it was porn :woman_shrugging:.

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Smh! Not the type of relationship I would ever want again! No trust. No relationship!

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It’s way too easy to just switch to a private browser to watch porn and not have to worry about deleting browser history. His actions seem very sketchy. Nothing wrong with watching porn so he shouldn’t have anything to hide🤷🏻‍♀️ likkkke he threw his phone across the room…was he trying to break it? If he has an Android, I would just log into his gmail account and pull up his web and app activity and see exactly what he was doing. If he refuses to let you then I’d just end the relationship because he’s not respecting the anxiety he’s caused you and that’s major red flags. He could have been doing something completely innocent, he could have been cheating, he could have been planning to murder you, he could have been sharing child porn etc. you deserve answers. (I know, I know…I watch too much true crime, and allow my anxiety and invasive thoughts to make me worry too much about all of the different possibilities.)

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Either hes watching some really freaky porn or hes doing something he has to hide.

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Even if he was watching porn, that’s not great. #pornkillslove

If that’s really what he was doing, would you want him to be open and honest or hide it from you?

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Nah it was more then that…

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Fuck sakes he’s not a man he’s a boy let him go back home to his mommy’s

Nope I would be reevaluating the relationship and not over the fact of pornography the fact that he’s hiding something from you…fuck that noise…he talking to another female…

It definitely wasn’t porn, if he threw the phone, then deleted whatever he was doing.

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RED FLAG! :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:
Wouldn’t be my bf anymore that’s for sure

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Suspicious AF! Girl you know exactly what he was doing.

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Nope… he wasn’t watching porn, he was pissed off that you were there and the girl he was talking to couldn’t come over or she dissed him because you were there. :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

If thats not a red flag I don’t know what it is also the red means STOP

He might have been watching someone, but he definitely is seeing her or him on the side,as well. Kick him to the curb. There is more than chatting and watching going on.

He’s talking to a hookup girl. Get rid of him.

If he has an iPhone and you want to see if he was actually online go to settings: safari: advanced
It’ll show the websites and the data

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Boyfriend… he could have been looking at engagement rings :woman_shrugging:

Lol my husband would have strait showed me his phone I don’t think your man was just watching porn

Lier cheating on you

Yea that’s not a normal reaction run girl run he is bad news nothing good will come of this and not knowing will eat you alive and ultimately be the cause of many fights to come just walk now and save yourself

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Wait did he actually throw it or did he like jump thrown it because I have walked in on an ex watching porn and scared the crap out of them and their phone went flying across the room when they jumped

My ex did something similar once. I woke up in the middle of the night and went through the house for a drink and he was on our desktop in the livingroom. When he heard me walk in the room, he instantly turned the computer off (manually by button, not shutting it down per normal) and jumped up and started trying to “play fight/wrestle” with me. I had a gut feeling so when I got up the next morning, I got on his messenger account and set his conversations to automatically save to the computer. I discovered that when I went to bed of the night, he was online talking to many different women in an inappropriate way and asking for nudes as well as making plans to meet up. Some of these women were females that lived in our county and some were from chat sites. I stayed for 9 1/2 years… he cheated for 9 1/2 years. Your gut is telling you he’s being shady; people lie, your gut does not.

He told you porn because that’s probably better than what he was really doing

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Just end it! It’s only going to end badly for you.

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Don’t assume the worst. It really could be nothing. He could have been planning something for you, job search, anything.

Ew, that kind of trust issue is a dead giveaway. Like why throw your phone? You’re a grown man? You can’t answer for your own actions and have to cower in fear in the bathroom and delete everything? That not a man.

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How long have you been together? Could he have been looking at rings?? Didn’t want you to see the surprise

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I think I’d believe him, he was clearly embarrassed lol

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Just ask him he will either tell you straight up whether it was something wrong nor not, or he wont tell you and you can now move on!

No honey I’m so sorry but that is guilt and obviously major guilt he clearly knows he was doing something wrong or he wouldn’t have acted with a guilty conscience

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Nope. You’re done. Slash his tires and move on.

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Let it go,this time.

If he automatically ran and deleted everything from his phone that made him mad I would def be suspicious! Why wouldn’t he let you see it if it was just porn? Something else is def going on. I would ask him straight up what is going on and to not give me some lame ass excuse of it was porn! If he can’t give you enough respect to tell you the truth then I would def just leave at that time but that’s just me. 🤷🤷 I don’t care how long I’ve been with someone or how much I love them. I’m not about to stay with someone who lies.

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Why is this even a question? It doesn’t matter what the answer is, his behavior is ridiculous. Move on. And learn not to need to ask questions like this good grief value yourself.

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Probably jacking off

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Hahaha, sorry but that reaction has me laughing. I think he was doing a little more than just watching and his ridiculous reaction was from being surprised/embarrassed. Understandable, even tho he’s the one who picked the dumb location to do that. I think he’s telling you the truth and it’s up to you if you’re comfortable with porn being in your relationship. If you’re ok with it, tell him to do his shit somewhere else next time. If this is a form of cheating to you, you might want to get out

maybe he found out he likes gay porn ?

It really could have just been porn and hes embarrassed by what he was watching…

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Obviously sounds odd! He got caught doing something alright, you just may never know exactly what. Maybe it was porn, maybe a fetish, maybe communicating with someone, who knows?! If he panicked and threw the phone, then ran and deleted any evidence, it more than likely was NOT just porn. Your gut is telling you somethings not right for a reason. Proceed with caution for sure. I’d check the bill to see the numbers he’s calling, texting at those odd hours. Don’t dismiss what your gut might be trying to tell you. He’s not going to fess up and be completely honest, because if he was, he would’ve immediately told you and showed you the phone. It may not be a huge deal if he was watching porn, but the bigger deal is obviously his reaction to getting caught doing something! Don’t waste your time trying to visualize and worry about what he’s done/doing. You either accept what he said and continue on, or you don’t. If you don’t, then you better figure out what you want for the future in your relationship. Have you both had (at least until now) what you truly believe is a trusting & respectful relationship? Id think about all other aspects of your relationship to see if your looking at things with rose colored glasses on, or are things between you both a bit off? Your gut feeling is usually what you should trust.

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tik tok has a bunch of iphone hacks to catch a cheating spouse lol check it out! i just recently joined tik tok :flushed: wow

Obviously something thst would upset you. Time to go. .

Idk it’s possible the porn thing if he really feels ashamed… could be that or texting a girl who knows. :confused: give him a chance to explain and see where it goes

You’re not giving him what he needs so he’s getting it somewhere else. I’d say try a little harder to keep him from going astray or move on because you can’t handle him.

If he was watching porn, it was two men :woozy_face:

Being sneaky as hell

Dump him. Move on. If he thinks he has to hide it, he knows it is wrong.

Every time my man acted like this he was lying to me. Always go with your gut. You know the answer. He was up to no good. To whoever he was talking to at 3am can help him pick his stuff up at 3pm. Done.

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I can’t stop laughing at how he threw his phone like a little toddler :joy::joy::joy:

Mabe he was watching porn? Idk, throwing a phone across the room is more deliberate then reflex of an accidental drop from fright… yall need to talk. Have a straight up conversation with full honesty. Tell him how you saw it, how it made you feel and see whats up. He was clearly doing something he didn’t want you to see, now you just need to know why. You can either let it go, or talk it out. It’s kinda hard to give good advice. Is the rest of the relationship good? Sex life good? Any issues like this before? Do you have any reason to suspect cheating? He really could have been awkwardly ‘caught’ and freaked out, but why would he do whatever it was next to you instead of going elsewhere with privacy. I’m not sure, but if he was doing something wrong, you’ll know in time anyway. Go with your gut is the best I can say. You know you, him, and your relationship. If there’s trouble in paradise it’s up to you what happens next.

I’d just ask, porn videos why!?

You caught him, thats for sure. It wasnt porn. Just get rid of him asap.

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My first thought was he was watching porn & it Embarrassed him. I would never ask to go through another persons phone. If you don’t trust him you shouldn’t be together