I think personal space is good and all, and we never check each other’s phones without the other one knowing, but we do answer calls for each other and our finger prints are in each other’s phones at all times. If he ever yelled at me for answering a call or something we will have problems. Who is calling u that I can’t know about? It better be Jared jewelry store talking about my engagement ring if its thaaat secret. Lol
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If they aren’t comfortable with you seeing what’s on their phone then they are doing something behind your back, period, I don’t care what anybody says 
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The fact that you’re not even wanting to go through it and that you’re just not “allowed” to know it is weird. My husband and i know HOW to get in each other’s phones but we don’t do it. If his phone is elsewhere and he needs to look something up real fast he does, and vice versa. We don’t even ask 
Idk. Kinda strange to me but maybe we’re just different. Well actually Come to think of it, our phones aren’t even locked so whatever. 
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I think you should tell him exactly what you wrote, is our relationship ending worth it? Let me look through your phone or we’re done. If you have doubts which you do, there’s lack of trust and nothing lasts with out strong trust and open communication. I’m sorry but honestly with you having a child together it’s better to end things early then later
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Only reason to have a password, IMO, is if the phone is at risk of butt dial. However, a SO should have the password in this case. He’s hiding something. No doubt.
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I looked through mine a lomg time ago and he had pictures he took of other women and videos he took wothout tem knowing. I ended up kicking him out. I bypassed his password and was able to look through all his files and backed up photos. Youtube shiwed me how to do without factory resetting his phone.
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Be concerned…and runnnnnnnnn
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I know my husbands password and he knows mine. But we dont snoop. He wants on me phone okay. I want on his, okay. But we have nothing to hide.
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But on another note… I have never asked for my boyfriends phone, I trust him completely and honestly I think it would hurt his heart if I demanded to look through his phone. I trust him with my life and I don’t see any reason to go through his phone.
Every time I read anything on here everybody’s all “leave him”; grow up people. One issue and “leave him”. What about communication. So people, I’ll admit it; I’m old. I don’t even know how to put a password on my phone and my husband wouldn’t know how to unlock it, either. Lol. But why would you want to look on your significant other’s phone? Sounds childish and like a trust issue. Everyone deserves privacy. Maybe he vents to buddy or mom about issues he’s having with you, maybe he’s purchasing things he doesn’t want you to know about, maybe, maybe, I dont know. But it isn’t new why worry about it now?
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Yep, change your password and don’t say anything. He’s definitely hiding something. If it means that much you should probably end it, men like that are shit, by just come up with new ways to hide it. Liking a picture of his exes while your pregnant, that would have done it for me.
I haven’t even read any other replies but yes he does have something to hide if he’s doing that my husband does the same thing to me and yes he’s cheated on me more times than I know. It may not be actively cheating but he’s calling or texting b otches that he shouldn’t be. And in my opinion he is cheating 
The double standard is RIDICULOUS. This man is hiding shit, or at the very least he’s immature. He wants all the control. I’m sure this isn’t the only thing in the relationship like this that he does
If you were to own a business with a partner what would happen if you allow them to keep secrets from you? You’re business would fail, okay your relationship isn’t any different.
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I would try to continue to communicate the issues you have with this and why it is a legit concern and if he understands and cares I feel like he will fix this issue for you. If not id ve done
I’m sorry… are you 12?
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If He has Nothing to Hide, there Should Not be a Problem! XO!
My husband and i keep ours unlocked. We use eachothers phones frequantly. We have been together 10 years. Secrets are not good in a relationship.
TRUST is the most important thing in a relationship! Sounds like he is hiding something or wants to make you think he is hiding something. I’d say bye bye.
Follow Your Head! XO!
I’d be concerned but I’d also change my password and same rules apply. Give him a chance to see how it feels. You have to do what’s best for you and no one else. Living with that feeling isn’t healthy 
Best of luck
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If you hold the screen at an angle in light you can see the smudge from a finger swipe pattern hopefully it’s a pattern good luck
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Lets just say, i have plenty of experience with this so I wish I could respond anonymously but cannot! If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me though!
Honestly, if hes got nothing to hide… I know my husband’s passwords and him mine. We dont search each others phones but we dont hide anything
Honestly if there is no trust or openness between you two then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. My husband and I have no secrets. We can use each others phones no problem and have nothing to hide we know each others passwords to everything. Do we make it a habit to go through each others phones? No, because we trust each other and respect one another privacy as well. Now days people are so uptight about their damn phones, epecially in relationships. Its fucking ridiculous. I feel if your SO doesnt want you to borrow or even know the code to their phone then they are hiding something. My hubby was only like that once and it was when he had emails and pics of my engagement ring lol which I understand him not wanting me to find. Y’all need to have a talk and start trusting each other or end it🤷♀️
Yea it’s weird! I mean I dont see a problem with each other having passwords or using each others phone… that instills trust. But just holding it and he gets weird is a big red flag. I wouldn’t say end your relationship but I think I’d make myself heard about how weird it is and how you feel on it. If he is willing to show you then it’s clear he just needs a little privacy maybe his own space in a way,but if he is hell bent on you not being allowed on it…hes obviously hiding something. I’d be flustered but that’s only cause there’s been issues in my marriage. But with you its definitely different you have a right to feel how you feel and so does he. But ultimately if he isnt willing to extend an olive branch to keep the trust then I say you do what you gotta do.
My husband and I use the same passwords to our phones, there shouldn’t be any reason you can have his passcode unless he’s hiding something.
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Why do u feel u need to know his password? Having trust issue? There’s no need for you to know his password. If u feel he’s cheating on u, then it’s time to walk away.
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grow up. Change yours and don’t let him have it, go on with life. If you’re willing to take your child’s father from them full time bc you can’t look in his phone then you should really see someone for some help bc that’s hormones or crazy, one or the other
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I went through this same issue in a previous relationship and I found out he was cheating the whole time. People can say you are immature but it is a HUGE red flag in today’s world.
Too many STDs shared around to not pay attention to things like this.
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You’re gonna end your relationship over a phone…think about it for a while. A phone. A fucking cell phone. If you really want it to work, maybe sit down and talk about that. Realize that what seems like the biggest problem in your relationship is a phone. Social media has really ruined trust, loyalty, and relationships nowadays and it’s sad. If he’s gonna cheat he’s gonna cheat and I guarantee you it isn’t only on his phone.
Change your password. Since he has a history of making inappropriate comments on another woman’s page, you do have some cause for concern.
However if you can’t trust him, then there’s really no point in being with him.
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He hiding something otherwise there shouldn’t be a problem me and my husband have each others passwords if there is trust issues and he cheating maybe time to walk away
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Well it’s his phone and you guys are not married why should he give you his password. You sound kind of kind of childish.
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If you don’t like it, leave. 
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Either you trust him or you don’t. Be fully in and trust him or get out. if you’re suspicious hire a private investigator to follow him for a week to see if he is actually doing anything dodgy. Or just get out
I think it’s a huge red flag. My husband and I have known each others password since we were in a relationship for only like 5 months lol. Honestly I’d change my phone password too and tell him same rule now applies to him. Also, hes probably hiding something imo
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Obviously some people live in lala land. YESS, u should be concerned that he acts like this with u about his phone. Especially if u have communicated it bothers you. Its a normal feeling & 85% of the women on the thread have rocked thru their mans phone b4. 
lets be real.
If ur stomach says him acten like this aint right. It probably isnt… All things considered, its probably time to move on, NOT because he doesnt want u to have the password, id be more concerned he has one in the 1st place. Jmo
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If your feeling the need to go through his phone then you already have your answer
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Just a lock on your phone and call it a day.
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I’m actually going through this right now. But I know the passwords and found out everything on my own. I don’t like having to log into his accounts, but that was the only way I was going to get the truth. It wasnt a fun thing to find out everything, but we are working on things and its getting better.
Honestly, I refuse to give out my password even though I have nothing to hide. I don’t expect that out of my boyfriend either. Relationships are built on trust & I feel like it’s just disrespectful & an invasion of privacy to demand it. Maybe he feels this way too? I’d go with your gut if you’re truly concerned. If there aren’t other red flags, I wouldn’t worry about it at all.
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Run 
leave that situation he sounds controlling and if your questioning this you already know that! You are strong you can do it on your own.
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I mean I definitely find it sketchy but it’s also not a good sign that you feel like you have to even check it
Sounds like he is hiding something from you could be that he made a new account to fb and Twitter and inter gram now go change your password to your phone 
and don’t let him have it not even touch it change your fb account and anything else that he knows computer password change that to
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I’m sorry but I see all these post and it’s just so childish. Why do you feel like you are entitled to his password. Its his phone and if he doesnt want to give it up that’s his choice. Maybe he is hiding something but maybe not at the same time. Sounds to me like you need to grow up & gain some trust. Who cares if he commented on some girls picture while you were pregnant. So he is never supposed to have a life or do anything without your permission. Come on now! Hes not your child he is your partner, treat his as such!
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Red flag 
there seems to be no trust on either side for both of you. I had this problem with all of my ex’s and my boyfriend now has full access to mine and I have full access to his, not that we ever go through each others phone anyway. If this is such a problem that you’re coming to a Facebook group to ask, then it’s a problem and should be dealt with ASAP.
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Am I the only one that thinks it’s wrong to ask for a password I would never ask that of my significant other
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You’re being an insecure woman. Just because he is your man, does not mean he owes you anything. He does not have to give you his password. I understand it hurt to see him like his ex’s photo before but you’re grown, get over it. He chose to be with you, not her. You are the mother of his child and he loves you. If you keep smothering him you might lose him. And I think it’s foolish to leave a man bc you don’t know his password. I’ve been with my husband 5 yrs and I’m only 20, he is 24. We’ve been through damn near everything you can think of. Decide if you can suck it up and stay with him or not. Change your password if it bugs you !!! But don’t demand something out of your man. You do not own him. And he most likely isn’t doing anything wrong!
I know my fiance’s and he knows mine. I don’t go through his unless I’m looking for something specific (like my mom in his messages cuz I’m too lazy to go get my phone ) but I’ll steal it to search the weather and stuff. All his bank stuff is private. Idk if he goes through mine or not. Wouldn’t be worth his time honestly. I am a boring ass person.
I agree with the ladies saying he’s hiding something. Trust is built on transparency, and you’ve already been hurt and had that trust violated. My husband and I have full disclosure on all of our electronics and social media accounts. We trust each other Because any time either of us felt something was off we were able to see if it was real or just paranoia (we both have trust issues from past relation-shits). One thing to consider, does he accuse you of infidelity? Not being trustworthy? If he does that is a clear sign that he has something going on. Guilty party is almost always the first to accuse. Good luck. You deserve to be in a relationship where you don’t have to wonder.
If you feel the need to investigate, there’s your answer. I’m not staying with someone I feel the need to keep tabs on.
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Why the hell do you need, must be insecure.
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If his phone is locked and he absolutely refuses to give you the password or even let you touch it, hes hiding something. Pack your bags and keep them out of sight. Keep baby with you. Ask him again, if he refuses, ask him what hes hiding, and if he gets mad and defensive tell him, ‘Ok, i gave you one more chance. Obviously you are hiding something. Im not about secrets.’ Get up, grab your bags and walk out. Im sure he will follow you, but tell him if he refuses to be open, you can no longer be in the relationship.
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It isn’t a matter of, “he won’t give me his password,” but that YOU dont trust him. Why don’t you trust him? Just because he liked and commented on a picture? Has he ever stepped out on you? If not, then why are you so insecure?
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Why do you need access to his phone anyways? We’ve been together almost 6 years and we don’t touch each others phones. There’s no need to. 🤷
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This defiantly isn’t the best advice but “what’s fair for the goose is fair for the gander” he has ur password u should have his. Let my s/o refuse to give me his password he wouldn’t have a phone to worry about bc I’d bust it real quick. And vice versa. Last thing… WHAT U ALLOW WILL CONTINUE!!!
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yes ^ you have to confront this situation head on.
If he had nothing to hide why put a lock on his phone? Why refuse to let you touch it?
I understand exactly where this girl is coming from. Yes. My insecurity has led me to believe I am not good enough so easily another girl could come in and take him. My man used to panic when his phone was in my hands. But turns out that stems from being a teenager and having your phone taken from you and feeling cut off from the world without it. After my ultimatum and going through his phone I realized he wasn’t hiding anything besides some risky porn searches he thought would upset me and the feeling of panic came from having his phone taken as a teen. Communication and confronting this head on is going to get you results and less worry and assumptions.
Men always start doing shady shit when their women are pregnant for some reason. Leave and don’t look back. If he won’t give you the password there is a reason. If there wasn’t a reason he would let you look at his phone. Do you even wanna be with someone where you have to worry about this crap?
The fact that he refuses to give you his password or even let you use his phone is a red flag. I get it’s his phone and he isn’t entitled to give you his password. But. What if something happened to the baby and your phone was dead and he was in another room but left his phone behind? It could be life or death for your child. My question is, if you had a problem with him not letting you use his phone, why would you even have a child with him? If he won’t let you use his phone then change the password on yours and don’t tell him until he tries to use it and can’t get in. If he asks why then just tell him straight up that if you can’t use his why can he use yours?
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Definitely hiding something.
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Neither my hubby or I have passwords on our phones. We both leave our phones laying around, when we shower or whatever… if I have to use his to call someone or text for whatever reason it’s not an issue, they’re always plugged into by our night stand. We dont feel the need to hide them away or password protect. So honestly I dont feel the need to check his phone. Trust your gut. This is about more than just a password by the sound of things.
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He’s hiding something from you! There should be no secrets in a committed relationship. You obviously want to trust him, but he’s giving you a red flag and it’s normal for you to feel insecure! You need to tell him that you want to be allowed to pick his phone up when u please or you gonna find someone else who will trust you with THEIR secrets.
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Ruuuuun:running_woman:t2:
Why does he have yours? That’s weird. I can get into my mans phone and he can get into mine but it’s not like we go through each other’s shit, if you pick up his phone and he freaks out- duh. He’s cheating or doing something shady either way.
Been married for 20 years. Never asked for a password to any of his shit
Why is that so important that you have his password everyone is entitled to their privacy. You look for trouble you’ll find it.
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He could be hiding things or he could just want one piece of his life to stay private. You need more than just the phone to say he is up to something and don’t throw your family away just over this one thing
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Y dont you just change ur password and even out the cards?
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Listen to your instincts because chances are they’re probably right, I was with my ex for 10 years and it wasn’t till near the end with the last few years that he pulled the same with his phone. And he had a lot to hide as I found out later on. No one hides stuff unless there is something to hide.
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I dont know my husband’s password , nor do I care to .
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Wow. Aren’t you nosey.
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First you should try changing your password on your phone and see how he reacts. Second don’t use your baby life or death defense as an excuse for needing the password because you can call 911 from a locked phone. Third I can understand that he wants his privacy just like you want yours. And fourth, He is definitely hiding something. He may not be actually cheating but something definitely seems fishy.
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My question to you is why? Why do you want his password so badly? If you are questioning him or suspicious than you already have bigger issues.
I think it’s a person’s right to privacy. You don’t have to know everything thing is every second of every day of each other’s lives. You are still individual people. Just my opinion but if this bothers you that much then maybe reevaluate your relationship altogether. It seems like you have trust issues. Just my opinion everyone has one.
I would say it’s too early in the relationship for this crap, but if y’all are living together and have a baby together, then perhaps it’s time for some self reflection, since you’re willing to up and leave him all for a phone and a picture like. Decisions like that will have a huge impact on the child’s upbringing, which doesn’t seem to be a priority to you at the moment.
As for the phone ordeal, it’s less important than you think. If you can’t sit down with your boyfriend and have a serious, honest conversation about each other’s social activities, then there’s a general trust and commitment jssue between the two of you. My wife and I have each other’s passwords, but we neither use it nor check each other’s phones. If we want to know something, we speak up. That’s how a life partnership works. If you don’t have that with him, then move towards it. If you don’t want that, then definitely reconsider your decision to be in a relationship with another person.
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Defiantly cheating.
There are so many other apps besides facebook and insta too.
I always leave my phone everywhere. Most of the time it’s my husband’s pockets when we are out and about. We have the same passwords to unlock our phones as well
Do I go through his phone? No. But if I need to use his phone when I cant use mine then I just do that.
There shouldn’t be any sneaky shit going on. If he is so wierd about his phone it’s because there is something on it that he doesn’t want you to know about.
Either make him show you on the spot. Not later on after he deleted everything and made sure no one would be messaging either. Or leave. Because fuck that
I dont put a password on my phone but my bf of 9 years also has no reason to use it… I’d be furious if he went through my stuff just shows there is no trust. Just like I respect him and dont go through his phone. Cant have a relationship without trust and privacy
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My advice communication is key, I think you need to sit him down and speak before making any hasty decision while feeling this way
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Don’t care what all these ladies have to say. Hubby did this shit to me, and was hiding things from me. Don’t think you need to have a damn password on your phone, however shouldn’t ever feel the need to go through it. My hubby got always super protective if I wanted to use his phone at all. Like I wasn’t allowed to even touch it. He even slept with it tucked under him. Sooo. Go with your gut.
I would flip out. If he has nothing to hide, then he wouldnt be acting like the phone guardian! Im sorry, but i can’t tell you how to act re this…but it really hurts when this happens. I know. You have to talk to him about it or leave. Dont let anybody downplay this. It IS a big deal, in my opinion. We went on and on about this and it ended _the secret password thing etc) and our relationship bounded back from the brink of destruction. Good luck to you!!
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Ditch him he is hiding something
Dont let him on your phone. And if he gets mad or upset after you not letting him have yours then leave. There is something he is hiding.
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Quit letting him look at yours. A relationship is 50/50.
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If you don’t have trust you have nothing.
Lock your phone he clearly has stuff to hide. If you werent concerned you wouldnt be asking a bunch of strangers if you should be concerned
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We know how to unlock each other’s phones and have free access to the others phone but don’t really worry about it
Go with your gut… usually it’s right! Or just play his game. If he wants to like and comment on innapropriate stuff then you like and comment on whatever you want also. Shouldn’t be no reason he wouldn’t let you even use his phone.
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You sound like Angela in Why Did I Get Married Too
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There is no reason to lock you out unless here is something to hide. Period.
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If you cant trust him why you with him Personally I have nothing to hide but I dont want people going through my phone. Sounds like you are insecure
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You are child. Grow up it’s a phone. A comment and a like.
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Def hiding something! Me n my husband can go into each other’s phone or use whenever we want! I feel if u don’t or can’t do that then there is a problem
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Why would you need the password to his phone? I have my child’s password because he’s a child. No way I would willingly be in a relationship with someone I have to watch like a teenager. You trust him or you don’t.
My fiance doesn’t know my password and doesn’t even want to look in my phone. Sounds like trust issues to me.
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I wouldn’t really wanna stay with someone who constantly hounded me for my passcode. It’s an invasion of privacy.
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I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is hiding something
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You need to grow up, it is his phone and you have no rights to it. Is there anything else that would make you feel this way other then he commented and liked a post? Or are you just insecure about yourself like it sounds? From this post I bet you nag him about it all the time and you are the one who starts those fights, and then blames it on him lol and you want to end a relationship in which you have a child over something so small and trivial without any other reason to suspect he is doing something wrong, or at least you didn’t give another reason. People wonder why the divorce rate it so high and it’s because of childish BS like this from childish people like you!
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Don’t allow him access to yours, change your security! Curiosity kill the cat! Yep he’s being an arse 
definitely hiding something
Honesty if you don’t trust him. Then why be with him. If you don’t trust him. Sooner or later ur relationship will end. Besides him liking or comments on something. Don’t mean there anything going on. But if u believe in ur gut, head and heart that something is wrong then I understand or if he has ever gave u a reason to suspect him. Yes me n my husband knows all passwords to all of each other’s account as well as our phones. We keep them locked for one we have children who loves getting on our phones plus if our phones gets lost no one can use them. But that his personal space. Coummcation is the key in any relationship.