Put her in her place and tell your man if he doesn’t stick up for you then you’re out.
Yuck I hate mums like this. He will never be allowed to be happy because of her. All the people saying this is okay behaviour and that “it is what it is” yikes .
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He is a mummy’s boy 
just move on never going to change " unless you move away "far away from her "
That mum needs to be told straight by you.She does any snide remarks again,call her out
No you are not. But it’s not your job to check her, it’s your man’s, and if he doesn’t see any issues……girl there is not 
worth that headache. He is allowing blatant disrespect and sees it as normal, and you will have that disrespectful man and his family demanding you take it as normal. Leave
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She feels threatened by you. She may not be doing it on purpose. I’d kill her with kindness… she’s stupid
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Your gut instincts have kicked in, listen to them and get the hell away from both of these disrespectful people.
The dinner comment would’ve made me ask her to leave and take her crap with her 
but the other I probably would’ve been annoyed but let it go
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He needs to have that conversation with his mother about what is not acceptable and will not be tolerated. It would be best to come from him, imo, because mom may not like it, but may not stay mad forever if she plays like she doesn’t get it. On the other hand, if future daughter-in-law wants to remotely have some type of family tie with the mother-in-law, m-i-l can make their lives miserable if her son will not take it on. If he does not, may need to reconsider, or have that conversation herself and let if fall wherever.
Why isn’t your future husband sticking up for you? Can he not see the behaviour? He needs to have your back regardless if its family or friends, and your future Mil needs to understand shes not losing her son but gaining a daughter in law, she needs to be reminded of this,
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I’m an arsehole and would have said something- it usually helps the dust settle for good or bad quicker.
Like in the first instance something like- if you were worried about not being served good food, you could have brought something edible.’ Or in the second ‘ oh, my wrist hurts from all the handjobs he’s begging for, so I guess it’s your turn’ and see if she wants to start shit with you anymore… hint: she will stop because to call you out means her initiation of it gets brought into focus too.
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I had a mother in law issue and I asked my grown up son for advice. He said Mom… if anyone disrespected my mom she’d be gone. I had a good guy so I waited it out. She realized we were a team, good for each other and she is so respectful now. I couldn’t ask for better. Chat with your partner about it because it is part of the communication factor in your relationship that is so important. And later on if you have children and she wants to take over on Saturday night… YAY!!
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Thats so rude u should say something. Especially to say i cooked in case hers didnt live up to ur standards that is super disrespectful
You need to nip that in the bud fast. You are his mate, not her and I can say from experience waiting for her stop will be a long time coming. You do not want to marry a mamas boy! Talk to.your fiancee and tell him how you feel. If he doesnt take you seriously, I would leave fast.
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I tell ya you have a lot of patience because I would of created more than just drama if my mil made that statement at dinner .and shame on boyfriend not telling her to back
off
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I’d bring it up to your fiance and see if he can have his mom stop. If he refuses to do it or makes an excuse of why he can’t, you’ll know where your relationship with him stands
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Out of curiosity is this her only child? She may feel like she is loosing her son. Rather then her feeling threatened by you maybe ask her to show you things. Ask her for help in the kitchen. My mother in law was the same way. She felt that me stepping in her son wouldnt need her and it broke her heart. Her and I will spend time together and now I couldn’t imagine not having her there. We have been together for 15 years and the beat part is our anniversary is his mother’s birthday ha ha
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Ooo girl, he’s not off his mommas tit yet, either sit down and tell him to set boundaries or you need to move on.
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She’s just spraying her scent don’t entertain it.
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Nah ur not crazy dealt with that mess in my first marriage which ended a divorce…will not allow drama in my world…good thing im married to a man that don’t like that crap either…good luck 
Your partner has to step up and say something
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No you have a right to feel that way… this is why I hate mamas boys…
Keep your sanity babe …take all the help you get …mine is the best and always trying to help …love her
5 years??? Have a conversation with him. It may be time for you both to move on. Bring up ALL the things that bother you and LISTEN to ALL the things that bother him. Either you both correct them, live with them, or move on.
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This sounds like the movie monster in law. Good movie.
Hell no u stand up for urself
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I hate mother in law’s. Old women can’t just keep their mouth shut they want to get into every when my daughter got married I stayed out of it. They need to learn what marriage is about. She knows I’ll be there for them. If they ask. 
Is he an only child?
Bring it up to him calmly and do it now. I wish I had done it 11 years ago. It took my monster-in-law siding with her daughter and son-in-law after he threatened my other half her only son, for mine to realize how toxic she was and that it was killing our marriage. Now he barely talks to her and cut out his sister and brother-in-law completely. I wish you luck!!
The fiance needs to say something to her. She’s butting in where she shouldn’t.
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Don’t sweat the small stuff. She’s his mum. She will be petty. If she has dedicated her life to her kids. It’s some thing that will resolve on its own by u just doing what u do best. Loving your hubby.
Ugh annoying. So glad my MIL is in Canada. He doesn’t get along with her and she visited once and rubbed me the wrong way.
Perhaps find out how your boyfriend feels about the situation .If he isn’t supportive of you while his Mom does this type of thing - possibly you picked the wrong guy .
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pron strings, Its a bit much , Think i would just BE assetive comments . IF YOU WONT A HAPPY MARRIAGE AN WHAT ABOUT BABIES , nothing you do will be right , I DONT THINK ITS MEANT TO BE LIKE THAT THEY ARE MEANT TO WAIT TILL THEY ARE INVITED …GOOD LUCK
Oh hell no! Blatant disrespect in your home? Nope…. Would have told Linda my cooking is just fine. Take your shit on home! (Insert crossed arms emoji)
He sounds like a mamas boy nip it now or it will get worse
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Sounds like that reality show u love a mamas boy watch a clip of it on TLC
Not worth the battle…limit your time with her…talk to him about it And let him know how you feel…he should understand and be on your side…his mom shouldn’t make you feel bad…maybe pull her aside and have a private conversation. And let her know how you feel…watch her reaction. Have him talk to her and tell her it’s not appropriate if you are uncomfortable talking to her…
i feel that u should have a serious talk with your mother-in-law to be - like saying this to her - listen i understand u really want the best for your son - but there is a limit and you have gone over it - , i am not marring u - i’m marring your son . if we need your help we will ask u for it other wise please stay away . i’m not saying u can’t come over but not every time can u come over don’t feel hurt about this ! plus, when we have a big get together with our friends and u show up it really embrasses both of us mainly when u bring food over that u have made - enough is enough , u want to talk to your go ahead ,but i am just expressing how this makes me feel
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I think she’s afraid she will lose him to you!
It’s only going to get worse
Your MIL is being very rude. As for dropping in every day to tend to her son you need to tell her if she needs your help you will call her, but say it nicely. No one has the right to intrude on you ever and she needs to know that right off
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Proceed with caution to the alter and not until he stands up to his mother and tells her to stay in her lane. He needs to stand up to her when she is out of line.
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You are not overreacting. Your fiancé has to speak to his mother
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Poor baby… I’m talking about your fiance… ask him if he’s ready to cut the apron strings yet??
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Omg, sit back and let her do it!
Enjoy the extra free time!
As the saying goes, “It may be her game and her rules, but that doesn’t mean you have to play!”
Once she realizes you’re not interested in competing, she’ll either give up, or do even more. Either way, you win!
Enjoy!
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As your hubby to be he 100% should have said something 
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He needs to stand up for you
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Sounds like your boyfriend needs to step in and handle his mother. Never ever marry him until he learns to tell his mom whats up
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While this would equally get in my nerves. I would also have to evaluate why after 5 years she’s doing the most. My mind directly went to trying to find her place or purpose. Maybe she’s lonely and needs to feel involved. I would first try to find ways to involve her and let her do things for him. If she tries to use it as a way to belittle you then go petty Patty and say sarcastic humor to point out what she’s doing over her remarks. Like for the dinner expectations comment I would’ve said something like, yeah because who can live up to your expectations. LoL. And the take care of her baby comment I would probably be like yeah I don’t take care of adult babies so you should go ahead and do that. LoL.
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He’s a mommas boy…. RUN!!! It’s going to get way worse
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It gets progressively worse. So it is best to talk to him about it, see if he can make her come around to stop or just not do it so often. You are the queen bee now, so she better settle down before actually get married.
She’s jealous of you and my mil is the same way! Just stand your ground and set boundaries with her have a one on one talk with her bc it’s straight up disrespectful! And your husband should be defending you!!!
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That’s going to be a really hard family to marry into…either move away from her or find someone else. It’s going to be a shitty life, being part of that family. She has a toxic relationship with her son.
everybody loved raymond in REAL life run run or move far far away
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Girl I’d nip that in the bud before I married into that family!! You’ll have a busy body mother in law!!! You need to tell your fiancé how you feel!! He is a momma’s boy, the apron strings needs cut, she was wrong for her actions at the dinner, she was wrong to think she is the only one to take care of her baby!!! No you’ll have a miserable marriage it will always be something!!
Sadly only a mom can take care of her cub no matter how old her cub is
I wouldn’t say you were totally over acting
But maybe give her a little bit of liway, try approaching it in a way so she can realise you both can work together
Remember not are you only marrying him but his family as well and vise verser
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You aren’t over reacting. Shame on her. I am a boy mom and I love them fiercely, but if they find a person who loves them and is good I will back the f up and find my place. Maybe harass them for grandkids or something. I wouldn’t stand for that. Especially in my own home. I’d be nice but firm at first, but I would definitely be laying down a line. For her and him if he wanted to have a fit. You are to be his wife. That means you should now be the most important person in his world now. She needs to show respect that you give her and love you for loving her son.
Mine aggravated me until the day she died and she lived to be 86, and…I had a husband that wouldn’t stick up for me so I say RUN AND DON’T LOOK BACK!
Run. My ex husbands mother was clingy like this. She didn’t discipline him. He was the baby. A couple of months ago she had to sit at his 5 year sentencing to what he had done to my child 2 years ago. Mother’s like that are psycho. Just fucking run…
I would have put her food in the freezer and tell her it will come in handy when you are too busy to cook a basic meal.
Stand your ground and if he won’t stand beside you now he never truly will.
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You are not overreacting. Your fiancé is going to have to stop being a momma’s boy and speak to his mother. If he refuses, you have two choices: get used to what you are experiencing now as it will get worse later, or, leave and do not look back. Your life will be living hell with that woman.
I have no idea why some women are clueless and hold on to their adult children for dear life. You will never win (and it shouldn’t be a completion, ever anyway) if your fiancé does not stop her behavior now.
I hope your fiancé is a man who can see what’s going on.
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I’d pull her aside and let her know how you feel … she may not be consciously doing it or maybe she feels threatened that her baby boy no longer needs her.
Probably not
All mothers have a fear of being replaced 
Start couples therapy and lightly bring his mom up. Get this fixed now not later.
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What she said and how she went about it was extremely rude and disrespectful not only to you, but to her son since you have been dating 5 years now! I can understand her coming over to help after procedure, but every day for a week? That’s way overboard! You and hubby need to make ground rules for her visitation. Speaking up about disrespect isn’t “upsetting your fiancé or creating drama on the family” it is you being honest with your future husband and family. She is the one creating drama. No one in their right mind would make such a comment at dinner in someone’s home they were a guest in.
You are not overreacting! You have got to speak to your fiance. It is his responsibility to ensure his Mom 1. Does not treat you this way and 2. Sets boundaries with her.
Otherwise you’ll be marrying both of them.
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You better let him go now.Mommas boy comes with momma and he’s going to take her side.
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Have you seen the programme “I love a mammas boy”? You need to address this issue sooner rather than later otherwise you two will be on the next series! You’re not causing drama by addressing it - just having an honest relationship- by standing up and saying that at a family meal just made herself look bad - not you.
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You are not over reacting
His he the only son or the only child because her fear is of losing him
If he has siblings how do you get along with them
It seems like she was just fine with the relationship because in her mind she thought it might never last eve vwhen you lived together
but once you got engaged then she realuzed he was serious about you and the tables turned
By all means do not take her aside she will become bitter and resentful and then the problems will really start
You need to talk with your bf and discuss what is going on
Most guys dont pay attention to what is going on around them
If your bf sides completely with his mommy and refuses to stand up for you what do you think will happen once you get married
She will turn 100% worse and hubby and you will fight because mommy will constantly be whinning to him about you…and she wants you to fight because she wants the relationship or marriage to end
Can you imagine if you have children…she will belittle you constantly saying you cant do anything right and hubby will say you should be listening to her because she knows best
My advice DO NOT MARRY HIM…
Unless he starts standing up for you do not marry him
When he or anyone asks when are you getting married you say i am definitely not in a rush…
And to him unless things change
she will also try to be involved and may even try to sabotage your wedding
Suggestion of how to act around mommy dearest…is to ignor her and walk away
when she comments about your cooking just look straight at your bf and say yes thats a very good idea that you brought food to …RIGHT HONEY…
When he had his procedure how did he react to you of her being there alllll day looking after him…most guys it would drive them nutty…but a momnas boy would love it and lap it up
If I would have come home to seeing his mommy still there and if she wasnt leaving even after i got home and still there on your days off too staying all day …i would have packed some things in a suitcase and when he says what are you doing
My response would be in a low enough tone that only he hears…well you know the motto twos company but threes a crowd …since you want your mommy here what do you need me for …but call me when you decide you actually want me here instead of her…and leave to a friends for a few days and dont respond to his calls for a day…tell his mom on the way out that you have a friend that really needs you and you are so happy that he has her to look after him so you can go …dont have too much fun…and leave…
You will find out in a flash exactly where you stand
Gad a friend that went through this and this is what she did…he turned compketely around realizing he was going to lose the love of his life
But talk with your bf and get the air cleared and find out if he is on your side or his mommas
You know that show mommas boy where she tries to come on the honeymoon …toxic and scary
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I’d strongly suggest you talk to your fiance about this and that you need him to stand up for you. He’s got to have your back. If he doesn’t have it now, he won’t start when you’re married. Hugs to you!
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Pack up and go. You don’t need that
You are not overreacting!
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I wouldn’t let it bother you to much. With the engagement she is probably feeling like she is being replaced and will not be needed anymore, cooking and taking care of her boy. It is probably not to one up you but to feel like people need her still. If it gets to overwhelming you may need to do a lunch or coffee and explain how you feel and that she will always be important in her son’s life and that she doesn’t need to try so hard and do things as she will always be his mom no matter what and to enjoy this time to herself and know all is good and she raised a great boy into an outstanding young man
Take a step back… It isn’t a competition… you know that…
If your man doesn’t have your back… find a new man… Marriage is only for life
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Your boyfriend should be able to step up to the plate and handle his Mamma. Good luck.
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Stop competing with his mother then. Get past convincing yourself the dynamic exists and stop being obsessed with other people
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I go threw the same shit with my mother-in-law but we live on the same compound. I can never get away
I think you are over-thinking things. She probably just has that personality. Just ignore it. I’m sure she doesn’t mean anything towards you.
Tell Momma to get her own life! If that upsets her or your Fiance, move on!
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Take the help while it last it will all be on you one day.
Eek…mama situation isn’t gonna get better. He needs to know so he’s aware and either defends you or not. Kill her with kindness.
No, you aren’t overreacting. Get out while you can. She will only get worse.
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Your fiance should be man enough to talk to mama.Sounds like she’s having issues of letting go and cutting apron strings.
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You need to speak to your fiancé and you both take it from there
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You aren’t overreacting. I had that MIL. Don’t marry him.
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You actually ARE marrying the whole family when you marry. Run away–as fast as you can from this one. Your boyfriend will never see anything wrong with her behavior, and she won’t change.
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He needs to stand with you. This is your home and your house rules. If not then send him home to Mama.
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It won’t change. I had a mil like that. Her son was an (abusive) angel 
If he isn’t standing up for you now it most likely will not change no matter how much you beg.
There are men out there that would defend you without your asking. Men that would correct their mother or set clear boundaries. You deserve the best!
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Sounds like emotional incest
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Her relationship with her son is abnormal and it is up to the fiancé to step in to place boundaries. I have always believed this is the first test of a man’s ability to protect his wife. If he can’t stand up to his Mother, then I don’t want him.
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No. That mom is wrong.
the mom is wrong. make him make that conversation w her
No Mom needs to butt out and if she doesn’t run like hell
It gives me lifetime movie vibes. I would definitely try to set boundaries if it makes you uncomfortable.
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I always like to say to anyone who asks this question, regardless of others opinions, YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID. Some might see it as an overreaction, some might see it as so bad you need to leave now.
But the fact at the end of the day, is its something that is upsetting to you, and therefore needs to be addressed.
You don’t need to go off at MIL, or demand anything from your partner, but it’s completely OK & important in the longevity of your relationship, to let him know that it’s upset you in some way & why.
His reaction to you making him aware of your feelings will be more of a tell than whether or not others think you’re overreacting or not.
For reference what she did just at the dinner alone would piss me off too so 
I would be long gone
Talk to fiance about the issues and then m in l
Learn to work together
Send her home.Gotta go
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Your heart is telling u the right answer, explain how you feel to his mom, and your fiancé, people should be open about their feelings because there r no Wrong feelings.
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She sounds like a very bold, disrespectful, degrading POS — could most definitely be an overt narcissist.
My ex’s mom and sister were very much like her…actually worse. 
These people will never change.
Sit down with your fiancé and set your boundaries. If he can’t get his mom to respect his fiancée, hurry and bolt; it’ll only get worse with time.
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